❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Mei5ter]

Well I know the meaning of cancumming too. It just doesn't really save any syllables from other terms. Though, I guess it is more fun to say.

You misspelled CanCunning. Which is when a woman receives oral sex in a Mexian resort.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

 

[SirConradPeckereye]

Where did you get this actual picture of me?

Then I guess I better not post this beauty... View attachment 2239717

 

[Booboobear84]

Sixty-nine 2023

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Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up

Real life exes, no. My first girlfriend found me on Facebook and that was nice. I don't have a lot of exes. I dated to get married, found the one and it's 33 years this month.

Lit exes, I Skype with one regularly, and the other I see in the threads (she has a great guy on here so I'm really happy). I'm lucky that the women I have met here have been sane and nice people.

 

[SirConradPeckereye]

Sixty-nine 2023

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Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

Ok guess I'm gonna be pretty lame here... no to any of the exes questions, they are exes for a reason, though I do wish them well I am not going to stalk them. As far as on lit, no ex-lit-lovers, and if there were I would not block them, hopefully we would still at least be courteous to eachother, if that was not possible then yes probably block them. And no haven't found out an ex has looked me up.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

So, I don't have a lot of "exes" in real life or at Lit.

I am actually Facebook friends with one of my exes from HS (so, um....erm...I guess 33% of said exes?). I'm Facebook friends with the sister of another (and learned about 10 years ago, that perhaps I dated the wrong sister.... ), and so occasionally get updates on the ex's life through the sister. In all cases, we are basically at least "friendly" now and have been for some time (oddly enough, through pure chance, the first person I told that I got engaged was the ex above that I'm Facebook friends with...so.... )

Lit exes. I suppose it depends on how you define things. In this, I'm going with people I had some kind of longer term "litationship" (let's say at least two months of regular activity?) with that had some kind of "definite" end (even if it was a ghosting or a "clear" fade) where that activity ended (again the number is pretty small, even though I've spent a decade on Lit). I would contend that I have remained something of friends with all but one (although her and I have not been on Lit at the same time since it ended). I have never blocked anyone. I admit, at times, to post stalking some of my Lit exes. It was usually stupid of me. Indeed, I remember one day, doing that, and it just hurt so bad to see some things. I've kind of learned "stay the fuck away from things that make you feel bad." So, not really much? Indeed, at least at first, I think I do the opposite of post stalking....post retreating? (I had to look up antonyms of stalking, LOL). If I see their posts, I avoid that thread mostly? At least at first.

Ex-friends? I'm not really sure I have anyone like that. I guess, there's a colleague (now former) who I think would be the closest to an "ex-friend" I can think of? We are "cordial" but used to be quite close. We had a falling out. And really, never recovered. But I sat with her (and her husband) at a dinner just...a couple months back, and had a fine chat? And we are Facebook friends actually?

Exes who have looked me up. Not that I know of.

EDIT: what do I hope to see if I find them. At this point, with really all my exes, I hope to find them happy and feeling fulfilled in life or Lit. Successful in however they define that. I can tell you that even the one I mentioned above (the "all but one"), I hope she's OK. I hope she's well. I hope she has found what she needs. It's difficult, in some cases, especially when it's recent, to set aside my ego and my emotions. In particular, the idea that they could be happy without me is tough at first (I know thats fucking narcissistic , but really, that's it, right? We wanted to be that "special" person that they wanted too, that fulfilled some special place in their lives. No matter how it ended, the fact that I didn't make that cut somehow is painful. So, seeing someone else fill it, even if the choice was mine, is tough sometimes). But time heals all wounds. And really, in all cases, I want happiness for them. I mean, to be honest, the ones I'm thinking of, I loved them. In some way, shape or form, I was in love. And that part never really changes for me, I still have some kind of love for them. And if you love someone, you can't help but want them to be happy.

 

[Dribble]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

Not typically. But being a parent sometimes means I have to walk a higher road. I don't dig....but I do need to keep touch. If that makes sense. I would much rather just break free and never talk with her again. But my daughter deserves better and I try to give that to her

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Sixty-nine 2023

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Do you ever check up on your exes?

The majority of my exes have already friended me on Facebook, so I already know.

Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them?

sometimes, when something triggered me to think of them.

What do you hope to see?

I hope to see they are doing well. I like to see what changed and what stayed the same too.

Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving?

neither, they are facebook friends like everyone else. I don't stalk or block, just see what they post if it shows on my feed.

What about ex-friends?

same

Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

I only know they were looking when they friend me, message me, or start deep liking photos.

I will admit that sometimes I don't actually remember who they are until they message me. Hey, there are a lot of Mikes and Joshes in the world, and I am old. Like one Mike I didn't remember initially, then he messaged "I took my kids to Playland at McDonald’s on X street yesterday. It reminded me of you. There’s no ball pit anymore though " and Oh Damn....Mike, yeah I remember you, you were fun. If they could all lead with whatever weird place we banged, that would be great. In my experience, there is a specific trigger that caused someone to look, such as Mike above going to a spot from 25 years prior. Even once friends, I may go years without a message. Then something prompts one. Often breakups....I think they are considering recycling rather than trying to meet new people. I have also had the just released from prison ex. Then there is the drunk messaging. Apparently I am the ex people message at 3am drunk as a skunk.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

It's been a while, but of course I've checked on them. Most of them I'm friends with (at least on social media - we don't hang out or anything), so it's easy. There's one I used to check to see if she'd got hit by a train yet, but by now it's been long enough that I don't wish her any particular ill will. Still... this post reminded me to stalk her and see if that train's got her yet. I don't really have a lot of ex-friends or ex-lit-lovers. Sure there are people I don't talk to as much, but I'm not in the habit of burning bridges. I don't know nor much care if exes look me up. I'm easy enough for most of them to find. I hope they're living their best lives and I like to think they'd hope the same for me.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I check on all of my exes everyday.
They are the secret to growing very nice tomatoes.
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[Deleted member 6592667]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

I wish I could say no to this but...I've totally looked exes up on social media. Mainly just to see how they're doing. Hopefully bad. (Jk )

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

Not really. The only ex I keep in touch with is my ex-husband, and that's mainly because we have a daughter together. My Lit exes are no longer on here, so that's not an issue either. I only stalk the people I'm actively interested in

 

[beachbaby179]

I am friendly with the majority of my exes. Very good friends with a few of them.

One ghosted and blocked me everywhere but the rest I'm in touch with, even if it's a little bit.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

I've been known to do an occasional check in on FB. Mostly out of sheer curiosity which will surprise no one. I like knowing they are doing well and thriving. I learned not to peek in on ex Lit boos until the sting is gone. Friends that have faded are harder.... yeah that's complicated snd depends on the person. Usually I avoid.
I've had exes reach out on FB just to say hello and, hell one Lit ex created a whole alt just to get in my panties again. Too bad his voice was distinctive. Can't wait to see who he comes back as next.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Too bad his voice was distinctive. Can't wait to see who he comes back as next.

I think Gilbert Gottfried died... you might be safe.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I learned not to peek in on ex Lit boos until the sting is gone.

I mention this above. It's a lesson that unfortunately, I've had to learn more than once.
I'd also say that "sting is gone" is not a linear progression. Sometimes the sting feels gone one day, but comes back the next, and you don't always know how you'll feel.

 

[Photog1rl]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

So I married my first post high school person so my exes are now just friends. I don’t stalk them becauae we either actively hang out as married couples or I see them on social media because we follow each other.
None of them ended badly or bad enough to not follow each other.
On Lit I do not have a ton of exes there are two people that I check on. (I'm not 100% sure what constitutes stalking)
One of them I actively want to avoid and one lurks in the shadows and I find it kind of hilarious.
I am much more likely to put time and or energy into someone new I'm getting to know or a new person acting shady.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

The majority of my exes have already friended me on Facebook, so I already know.

sometimes, when something triggered me to think of them.

I hope to see they are doing well. I like to see what changed and what stayed the same too.

neither, they are facebook friends like everyone else. I don't stalk or block, just see what they post if it shows on my feed.

same

I only know they were looking when they friend me, message me, or start deep liking photos.

I will admit that sometimes I don't actually remember who they are until they message me. Hey, there are a lot of Mikes and Joshes in the world, and I am old. Like one Mike I didn't remember initially, then he messaged "I took my kids to Playland at McDonald’s on X street yesterday. It reminded me of you. There’s no ball pit anymore though " and Oh Damn....Mike, yeah I remember you, you were fun. If they could all lead with whatever weird place we banged, that would be great. In my experience, there is a specific trigger that caused someone to look, such as Mike above going to a spot from 25 years prior. Even once friends, I may go years without a message. Then something prompts one. Often breakups....I think they are considering recycling rather than trying to meet new people. I have also had the just released from prison ex. Then there is the drunk messaging. Apparently I am the ex people message at 3am drunk as a skunk.

Only when the wall tower guards aren’t totally being dicks. They control our cell phone time here in D-block
Then we group stalk our ampic queen

 

[AmberLGreen]

Sixty-nine 2023

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Do you ever check up on your exes?

My first ex-husband I have never checked up on. The second ex-husband and I have a semi-dependent child together so we do check in on each other

Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them?

I don’t have either of them on Facebook and not really interested in what their life is like now.

I have one ex-boyfriend from school who will sometimes message me on Facebook for a catch up

What do you hope to see?

If I was to stalk them, I would hope that they are having a happy life

Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving?

I don’t have any ex-Lit-lovers

What about ex-friends?

My best friend from school has been in a relationship with my first ex-husband for over 20 years. We haven’t kept in touch but I hope they are doing well.

I don’t keep in touch with ex-friends and don’t really care how their lives are.

I have a couple of ex-friends on Lit. I stay away from them and they stay away from me. I think that works well.

Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

The ex-boyfriend that messages me on Facebook

 

[Dribble]

States have made it so much easier....if I can remember their name...enter it into the state criminal website...boom. Tells me if the are in jail...parole...released....not active. God....why do I like bad girls?

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

I only had one "ex" boyfriend. We were friends until he passed away.

I only have one Lit ex. At first I was very bitter about getting dumped but time has taught me that we weren't meant to be and then I found someone so incredibly special in the process of healing. Probably wouldn't ever have a conversation with the ex again and we weren't really friends before getting involved, so I mostly feel indifferent now.

Ex friends are ex for a reason. It takes a lot for me to walk away from a friendship, so not in the best interest of my mental/emotional health to go back to one. I'm still bffs with my friend from 4th grade if that tells you anything. lol

 

[AlpineFresco]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

So I only really have 2 exes. 1 I am in regular contact with anyway, we've been platonic friends for quite some years now and she's a genuinely lovely person, the other I just kind of found I didn't have much in common with anymore after a few years apart, so the occasional coffee catch-ups we had just kind of faded away. I don't check up, I don't need to, it's long in the past and I hope she's doing well! Has she ever looked me up? I have absolutely no idea, but I'd say it's unlikely.
As for former friends? I've tried to look up a few schoolmates to see what they're up to nowadays, but generally again I don't feel the need to. I have plenty of good friends now.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Sixty-nine 2023

(submitted question)

Do you ever check up on your exes? Do you do an occasional Facebook stalk to see how life is treating them? What do you hope to see? Do you post stalk your ex-Lit-lovers or block them and keep it moving? What about ex-friends? Have you ever found out an ex has looked you up?

Most of my exes are friends, so they're still in my life. For the two that aren't, no, I never check up on them. (As someone else said, there is a reason they're an ex.). I don't post stalk Lit Exes, nor do I block them. I just keep moviing forward. I don't have any ex-friends. Once you become my friend - you will never escape mwahahaha. Just kidding. Yes, I have heard from people I haven't heard from in a long time due to social media. It's kinda cool.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.20.23

How similar is your public Lit self/persona to your actual, day to day self? Is there a difference between your public Lit self and your private Lit self? Has Lit affected your personality or thought process in your day to day life? Have you found that folks on Lit are as they appear?

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

I think I'm exactly the same with my friends here as I am with my core group of friends offline. I'm silly, flirty, make inappropriate comments, and handsy However, outside of those that I'm close with, I do think I'm more extroverted and outgoing in the public places here than I am in person. I tend to be the quiet girl that sits back to watch and listen rather than participate until I get really comfortable with a group of people. Lit has definitely affected my sexual appetite and I find myself thinking about my tribe here all throughout the day.