❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

05.24.23

Just the Facts, Ma’am

So @OrdinaryPerson wants to talk about play/eboning/cybering/camcumming etc. So let’s do that and damnit! Invite your friends to this one. I need to compare these results to the survey from last year. For the sake of brevity, I will refer to it as play but you can use any word you like to describe your techsex.

Do you play at all? If no, why not?
yes, I do
Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?
Litsters. lol. I have a rule to not out anyone. I don't personally mind at all, but I try to be a decent friend. I acknowledge that public knowledge of their activities might hurt their chances with other women, so unless they say something, I say nothing. I have friends. Whether those friendships involve their dick or not, is not my place to speak on.
How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?
A variety of ways, but I really do like being able to actually talk to them. Sometimes it is clips, sometimes calls, sometimes just voice calls, sometimes video calls
When do you find the time?
generally weekdays between 9am to 1pm, or weekends 1am to 5am
Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?
yes, even I have to book a meeting on my work calendar for any weekday calls 🤣 Scheduling is a problem for most people. People have busy lives with family and work.
What makes for a good play partner?
Well it starts with listening to me. I also really like having commonalities. Oh and them having a sense of humor.
Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?
naturally, though scheduled.
Whose online activities are you curious about the most?
Well I'd say Amber, but she says the image is not the reality. I will answer this once more people have answered and come up with a name that probably has some really entertaining background play. I want to eavesdrop on someone active, unique, but yet not too crazy.
What makes it good?
getting along well and things just flow easily
What makes it bad?
Well nothing is bad. I just do tend to start getting bored when things shift to everything being more about them than me.
How do you make it happen, if you want to?
I have no idea. I am not sure I do anything. I guess adding them on skype if they send their account details, or answering with mine if they ask. Sometimes I talk with people a really long before anything gets sexual too. I honestly don't think I am the one who makes anything happen though. It may be more of an if I chose to follow thing.
 
Do you play at all? If no, why not?

Yes.

Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?


I'm going with deliberately vague here. I play with people I am interested in and who are interested in me.

How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?

My preference is text (either PM or if a person wants another instant messaging platform - Skype and Kik are what I have installed, but I can add a partners favorite in a few minutes.) I also like audio play - for direct play, a phone call (either cell or VOIP platform), but I also love exchanging stories and erotic related audio, which is sort of an indirect play. I don't cam and don't expect or like cam. First, I find it risky and second, it's just awkward.

When do you find the time? Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?

Yeah, schedules can get complicated, especially between two people who have full lives. You just do the best you can and take advantage of openings when they occur. Being on the west coast, time zones can be problematic, but I'm generally flexible, since I'm retired now.

What makes for a good play partner?

Imaginative, Creative, and Articulate.

Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?

About 50/50. Sometimes it arises spontaneously and organically, other times it's more deliberate and directed.

Whose online activities are you curious about the most?

I love when people tell me stories of their play adventures, and I am naturally a curious person, but I consider it kind of rude to question people without an existing relationship, so I keep my curiosity contained.

What makes it good? What makes it bad?

Imagination and Creativity make it good. I've only had two or three bad play sessions/partners and those were the result of either sudden, dramatic mood swings mid-play, or because the person took more than they gave.

How do you make it happen, if you want to?

Usually it arises naturally from conversation and interaction, but for a small amount it's been just straight up asking. The straight up asking is more in chat, and more organic encounters arise from the threads.
 
05.24.23

Just the Facts, Ma’am

So @OrdinaryPerson wants to talk about play/eboning/cybering/camcumming etc. So let’s do that and damnit! Invite your friends to this one. I need to compare these results to the survey from last year. For the sake of brevity, I will refer to it as play but you can use any word you like to describe your techsex.

Do you play at all? If no, why not?
Yes
Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)? People who I connect with, which is a rare occurrence
How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both? Text to start, Skype if it heats up, cam is reserved for very special people
When do you find the time? Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right? Negotiate it. I say I'd like to play, they let me know when is good. Yeah we miss a bunch but then we don't.
What makes for a good play partner? Someone who listens and remembers. There's a spark that's needed and if that's missing there's no point in forcing it.
Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally? Bit of both.
Whose online activities are you curious about the most? No one's and all my friends 😉
What makes it good? What makes it bad?
Communication and spark for good, lack of respect makes it bad
How do you make it happen, if you want to? Ask for it and see what happens
My answers in blue (on mobile 🙄)
 
A little out of my comfort zone but I'll respond since Im the nosey person. :ROFLMAO:
05.24.23

Just the Facts, Ma’am

So @OrdinaryPerson wants to talk about play/eboning/cybering/camcumming etc. So let’s do that and damnit! Invite your friends to this one. I need to compare these results to the survey from last year. For the sake of brevity, I will refer to it as play but you can use any word you like to describe your techsex.
"camcumming" :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO: I'm dead.
Do you play at all? If no, why not?
Lately, yes.
Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?
It really depends on how "play" is defined. I will flirt with anyone on the threads. But there's one person I actually feel attracted to and comfortable enough to just do almost whatever with whenever and then a few people in between there where things might get a little sexy sometimes to different levels.

How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?
I had a stay in PM rule to stay out of trouble. But then I broke it. I like when I get audio. Video clips are nice too. Remote toy with audio... A written out fantasy. Just depends on the day.

When do you find the time? Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?
Working from home alone without a lot of meetings has its advantages for me. His schedule prevents sexy time sometimes, but I get more actual work day so Id say it actually works out for both of us.

What makes for a good play partner?
Someone I trust is the biggest thing. How comfortable I am with them- which is usually a combination of somebody with a similar sense of humor and/or interests. Then add some sort of chemistry that makes them sexually attractive.

Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?
I like falling into it naturally unless its a game. I do enjoy toying with guys sometimes.
Whose online activities are you curious about the most?
People who live cam. For people who do it, how do they logistically do it? Do they show their face and body at the same time? Do they use a phone, how does it holding it work? Do they set up their computer somehow?

How concerned are people with privacy/ safety when exchanging pictures, videos, live cam etc?

What makes it good? What makes it bad?
Good is some sort of magic chemistry that happens. Im not sure how to explain it in an online context and I'm pretty new to experiencing virtually so I can't explain it.

Bad... hm I dont engage in, or continue to engage in, things that feel bad so I'm not sure. But things that can make feel immediately not interested in someone include if they are talking to so many people that they are confusing conversations or accidently sending the wrong message to the wrong person. Feeling like not a real person to someone after showing them some vulnerability. People who take things very seriously and don't understand that most of what I say are just for shits and giggles.

How do you make it happen, if you want to?
Uh hm. Stop joke flirting?
 
How concerned are people with privacy/ safety when exchanging pictures, videos, live cam etc?
I don’t know if we’re allowed to respond to folks answers but this!!

This is why I love Snapchat. It automatically deletes everything! If someone takes a screen shot/recording it tells you. Folks can’t save anything off the app. It’s perfect. Cause I’m not tryna have my bits and pieces out for the world to see 😂😂
 
People who live cam. For people who do it, how do they logistically do it? Do they show their face and body at the same time? Do they use a phone, how does it holding it work? Do they set up their computer somehow?

How concerned are people with privacy/ safety when exchanging pictures, videos, live cam etc?
I will answer your questions for myself. Usually I use a laptop if going on live cam. often with a headset, sometime with a speaker. If not at home (I have some hiding places at work lol ) I may use my cell instead. I may hold it, or I may prop it on a shelf or mount or something. No I don't try to crop out my face or body, just the cases of pasta and such 🤣

Privacy, I honestly don't focus on privacy too much, especially once we make it to live camming. However I may be different than many. I've being hang out with people here almost 6 years now. I don't hide Lit. My husband knows. I have told friends about adult activities. Not sure if they think I am joking or not. Anyone who really knows me and has for a long time wouldn't be surprised. Even my mother would just eyeroll and sigh. My employment contracts for technology and social media include things like competitive clauses and ITAR. It is much more serious if I write any programming code versus show my tits. No one cares that I am one of the 70% of people who go on to internet porn sites. No one cares that I am part of the 80% of women who have have taken a nude selfie. I am not famous or important. Even if someone somehow identifies me, I am not all Rumpelstiltskin over here where guessing my name weakens my power. A few people do know exactly who I am, where I am, etc. no one has misused it. A litster has no more power over me than anyone else in my life like my gas station clerk. I just haven't showed the gas station clerk my tits, yet. Maybe I will get there some day. 🤣
 
I will answer your questions for myself. Usually I use a laptop if going on live cam. often with a headset, sometime with a speaker. If not at home (I have some hiding places at work lol ) I may use my cell instead. I may hold it, or I may prop it on a shelf or mount or something. No I don't try to crop out my face or body, just the cases of pasta and such 🤣

Privacy, I honestly don't focus on privacy too much, especially once we make it to live camming. However I may be different than many. I've being hang out with people here almost 6 years now. I don't hide Lit. My husband knows. I have told friends about adult activities. Not sure if they think I am joking or not. Anyone who really knows me and has for a long time wouldn't be surprised. Even my mother would just eyeroll and sigh. My employment contracts for technology and social media include things like competitive clauses and ITAR. It is much more serious if I write any programming code versus show my tits. No one cares that I am one of the 70% of people who go on to internet porn sites. No one cares that I am part of the 80% of women who have have taken a nude selfie. I am not famous or important. Even if someone somehow identifies me, I am not all Rumpelstiltskin over here where guessing my name weakens my power. A few people do know exactly who I am, where I am, etc. no one has misused it. A litster has no more power over me than anyone else in my life like my gas station clerk. I just haven't showed the gas station clerk my tits, yet. Maybe I will get there some day. 🤣

🤣

Work hiding places! Youre like a sex superhero.

I know youre very comfortable showing your face. What about your partners? Do the men cam with face and body?
 
05.24.23

Just the Facts, Ma’am

So @OrdinaryPerson wants to talk about play/eboning/cybering/camcumming etc. So let’s do that and damnit! Invite your friends to this one. I need to compare these results to the survey from last year. For the sake of brevity, I will refer to it as play but you can use any word you like to describe your techsex.
Thank you for giving us the option to use terminology other than "e-boning." I hate that phrase with a passion.

Do you play at all? If no, why not?
I never used to. Now I do. Things change.

Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?
A small handful of people who I've been friends with for years.

How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?
Usually text chat over Skype or sometimes PM, depending on who it is. I've sent and received occasional audio clips, but never called. No camming at all.

When do you find the time? Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?
Schedules are a constant nightmare. Usually the most reliable times are late at night. But I have an irregular work schedule, and most people are busy. So there's rarely an ideal time. Sometimes the stars align. Sometimes they don't.

What makes for a good play partner?
Trust. Connection. Enthusiasm. Imagination. Good grammar.

Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?
Usually let it come naturally. Usually I'll probe boundaries early on to see where the limits are and see if we're compatible (although around here, degenerate perverts seems to be plentiful. But it's not always a given). But there's usually less intentional push to define the boundaries as we become more comfortable with each other. But if by "negotiate" you mean, sit down with them beforehand and go over our checklists together, no I've never done that. :)

Whose online activities are you curious about the most?
There are some Litsters I'm friends with who play together F/F and I'd love to just be a fly on the wall and watch them... what was the word? Camcum together? :LOL:

What makes it good? What makes it bad?
For good, see the above about what makes a good partner.
For bad... the opposite of that. Especially bad spelling/grammar.

How do you make it happen, if you want to?
Well, I just send out the same form letter to everyone and see what comes back in with the tide.
 
🤣

Work hiding places! Youre like a sex superhero.

I know youre very comfortable showing your face. What about your partners? Do the men cam with face and body?
yeah, we have a shower room off both our men's and women's restrooms for emergencies. most people think the are closest. I think I am the only woman who has gone into the shower room in well over 10 years. 🤣

And to answer about partners, how comfortable camcumming would you be with someone who doesn't trust you? I actually do "getting to know you" video chats with people very earlier. Not dirty or anything. Declining that, without proposing a different time or day, is a flag that we probably won't be compatible. Why would I trust you when you don't trust me? I have not had many men decline a live call.
 
Do you play at all? If no, why not?
Technically I do. Ya know, when the stars align. ;)
Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?
I've played with the following people...

Just kidding. Various people from around who happen to come my way.

How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?
When it happens PMs or Skype is how I roll. I'm into exchanging pics, vids, audio, etc. Cam can be fun too.
When do you find the time? Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?
Timing is absolutely the big factor for anything. I think a lot of times for me it's by chance.
What makes for a good play partner?
Open-mindedness, a sense of adventure and humor.
Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?
All natch all the time. I generally roll with what my partner is into. Although I may have ideas sometimes. ;)
Whose online activities are you curious about the most?
I'm curious about the following people...

just kidding. :p

What makes it good? What makes it bad?
How do you make it happen, if you want to?
Detail makes it good. Lack of attention kinda makes it not as fun. I'm flirty as fuck so it may happen from there. ;)
 
And to answer about partners, how comfortable camcumming would you be with someone who doesn't trust you? I actually do "getting to know you" video chats with people very earlier. Not dirty or anything. Declining that, without proposing a different time or day, is a flag that we probably won't be compatible. Why would I trust you when you don't trust me? I have not had many men decline a live call.
I remember this! I remember my front cam was being weird so I tried to position a mirror so you'd see me. 😜🤣 You were a blast and we vibed. ❤️
 
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Do you play at all? If no, why not?
Mmhmm.
Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?
Right now? Just one person. But there's been a few others over the years.
How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?
I don't like to play via text because then I can't use my hands, silly. But audio clips, phone calls, videos, and video calls? Yes please.
When do you find the time? Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?
I work from home, so it's easy to find the time for the most part! Scheduling can be an issue, but if there's a will there's a way.
What makes for a good play partner?
Excellent aural skills and mutual attraction. Someone who knows what buttons of mine to push and takes the lead.
Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?
I think it's only ever come naturally for me.
Whose online activities are you curious about the most?
Everybodies. I'm a nosey bitch like that!
What makes it good? What makes it bad?
When someone puts the same amount of time and effort into me as I do to them, that makes it good.

The only bad experiences I can think of were those that I didn't have a connection with. Oh, and there was that one Canadian guy who came like a girl.

How do you make it happen, if you want to?
Get to know them. I like a slow burn...start with some flirty messages, add in some innuendo and pics, and then go for it when the time is right and the feeling is mutual.
 
No. Have a few times in the past but not anymore.



It gets boring. Nothing that a good erotic story, and/or my imagination couldn't satisfy. But more importantly, there is a big risk of desensitization, and I do not want that.
This couldn't be said better.

Plus...I trust very few on this website. Someone may say it is OK...but it isn't OK with their husband who doesn't know.
 
05.24.23

Just the Facts, Ma’am

So @OrdinaryPerson wants to talk about play/eboning/cybering/camcumming etc. So let’s do that and damnit! Invite your friends to this one. I need to compare these results to the survey from last year. For the sake of brevity, I will refer to it as play but you can use any word you like to describe your techsex.
There was a survey? I want to see the results!

Do you play at all? If no, why not?
I do 😊

Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?
I have a regular Lit partner in crime for the majority of my play. On occasion I play with others if the timing and situation is just right.

How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?
I really only play with people I know pretty well and have strong connections with and PMs are great for the getting to know you and becoming friends stages. At some point it moves to Skype, but that doesn’t mean anything salacious is going on. I have plenty of platonic Lit friends, although I prefer to keep my Skype list short and focus on the deeper friendships and relationships.

I really don’t enjoy camming for play. It makes me feel awkward and that’s not conducive to letting go and enjoying myself. I have cammed or exchanged face videos with friends though. I prefer written words, pictures, video and audio clips for play. I’m also cool with phone calls. I have rather significant exhibitionist and voyeuristic tendencies so I love sharing with the people I trust. And audio…makes me come undone.

When do you find the time?
I work from home and have a lot of flexibility, so the daytime generally works well. I also usually have at least one or two nights to myself without any responsibilities.

Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?
On occasion. It can also mean the build up and anticipation are off the charts, so it’s not necessarily a bad thing. I think if both people are really interested, they find or make the time.

What makes for a good play partner?
Chemistry, trust, enthusiasm, imagination, sense of adventure and humor.

Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?
Almost always naturally unless we’re dealing with unusual schedules.

Whose online activities are you curious about the most?
Everyone’s! I will never ask nor repeat anything I hear, but I’m curious about everything. Sex is just a fun subject.

What makes it good?
Same as above.

What makes it bad?
Not respecting boundaries or being pushy. Anything that seems too one sided in any aspect. Feeling interchangeable will prevent it from going that far because I know that doesn’t work for me.

How do you make it happen, if you want to?
Nothing in particular. I think the vibe is there when two people are into it. One person usually escalates things and the other person either follows or doesn’t.
 
Plus...I trust very few on this website.

Ditto. Although, I don't know if we share the same reasons.
Someone may say it is OK...but it isn't OK with their husband who doesn't know.

I don't know whether it's OK or not. I can see both sides of the argument. However, I don't ill judge the person for being here (or "play",) without their spouse/partner knowing. There can be all sorts of reason for it, which I'm not privy to, and I don't need to be. Unless I'm interested in you for a real relationship offline (which I am not, for all sorts of reasons) then it makes no difference to me whether you are married or not, or are here with your spouse/partner's permission.

And, yes, I do speak as If I were in their (partner's) shoes, and I have been there, because If all my hopes and faith about my husband/partner's honesty relies on some other women on internet (a total stranger) policing him, then, I better give up.
 
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05.24.23

Just the Facts, Ma’am

So @OrdinaryPerson wants to talk about play/eboning/cybering/camcumming etc. So let’s do that and damnit! Invite your friends to this one. I need to compare these results to the survey from last year. For the sake of brevity, I will refer to it as play but you can use any word you like to describe your techsex.
Cancumming may be my greatest contribution to Lit.
Do you play at all? If no, why not?
I do indeed.
Who do you play with (be as vague or as detailed as you’d like)?
Well primarily with my person. He is thr person who can match my fikth levels and make me sage exploring. But I have had a play partner here and there but nothing matches the sheer volume of my first few slutty months here.
How do you prefer to play? If text, do you keep it in PMs or move onto something like Skype? If audio, do you call or send audio clips? If cam, do you like to watch, be watched or both?
I like text, especially as a starting point. I prefer audio over all bc sounds are the things that turn me on the most. I cam with one person and that's the most fun but it's definitely not something I enjoy with everyone. I don't care how hot you are, visuals are way less important to me than thoughts and sounds.
When do you find the time? Does someone’s schedule prevent them from playing with you even though you’d both be happy to get down if the time was right?
Time is the greatest enemy.
What makes for a good play partner?
Someone who is an open and clear communicator. I like discussing the thoughts behind sex just as much as the sex itself. I agree with those who've said someone responsive.
Do you negotiate the play or just fall into it naturally?
A little of both. I think a natural attraction meets the - what do you/don't you like? What do you like to be called etc. There's a little more groundwork on my end bc I need to know we are on the same expectations page.
Whose online activities are you curious about the most?
Oh everyone. Sorry I'm curious. I echo LL when I say - Open Doors, Closed Mouth.
but I'm also not naive and I like people here are way more innocent than they make out to be in public. Well... most people.

What makes it good? What makes it bad?
Good - listen, lead, respond, ask for what you want, be blunt, be dirty

Bad - boring, persistence after a 'no', not being present
There's also a thing when your sexy talking and I'm like -" I do xyz" and then they change the flow and say "no you do abd". Like dude, this is Improv - Yes. And.


How do you make it happen, if you want to?
If its a new person, I flirt and see how the chemistry feels. I'll mention when I free and see how that goes.
If it's an existing partner, I just tell them I'm in bed and horny and usually that works 😂
 
Camcumming may be my greatest contribution to Lit.

Not your greatest contribution, but the word does need to be utilized. The beauty is in the efficiency. Like "hey, do you want to camcum with me?" or "yeah, I missed it, Sorry, I was off camcumming" There is no confusion on purpose. There is no misinterpretation. The is nothing vague. It is short, and sweet, and to the point. Plus camcum is really fun to say. It is now staying a part of my Lictionary and shall be used.
 
Cancumming may be my greatest contribution to Lit.

I do indeed.

Well primarily with my person. He is thr person who can match my fikth levels and make me sage exploring. But I have had a play partner here and there but nothing matches the sheer volume of my first few slutty months here.

I like text, especially as a starting point. I prefer audio over all bc sounds are the things that turn me on the most. I cam with one person and that's the most fun but it's definitely not something I enjoy with everyone. I don't care how hot you are, visuals are way less important to me than thoughts and sounds.

Time is the greatest enemy.

Someone who is an open and clear communicator. I like discussing the thoughts behind sex just as much as the sex itself. I agree with those who've said someone responsive.

A little of both. I think a natural attraction meets the - what do you/don't you like? What do you like to be called etc. There's a little more groundwork on my end bc I need to know we are on the same expectations page.

Oh everyone. Sorry I'm curious. I echo LL when I say - Open Doors, Closed Mouth.
but I'm also not naive and I like people here are way more innocent than they make out to be in public. Well... most people.

Good - listen, lead, respond, ask for what you want, be blunt, be dirty

Bad - boring, persistence after a 'no', not being present
There's also a thing when your sexy talking and I'm like -" I do xyz" and then they change the flow and say "no you do abd". Like dude, this is Improv - Yes. And.



If its a new person, I flirt and see how the chemistry feels. I'll mention when I free and see how that goes.
If it's an existing partner, I just tell them I'm in bed and horny and usually that works 😂
You had me with CanCumming, I fell over with the typo 😂
 
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