❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Paul_Chance]

One good thing I learned from porn is that stepmothers are a whole lot less evil than Disney makes them out to be.

Hahaha - this is great line and made me laugh out loud. Too funny!

 

[Paul_Chance]

06.27.23

Let's lighten it up a little.

Over the years, what's something you learned about from porn? What's something you learned from porn that ended up being wrong?

Bonus question that's barely related - is there a niche of porn that you like but of which there isn't a lot of content?

I can't say I learned anything from porn. But, that is because of my age. I was probably into my 20's before I ever saw a porn movie (and I wasn't impressed). By the time I saw any significant amount of porn, the birth of good high-speed internet, I was well into my thirties. I learned way more from erotic books, in terms of things to try, how to do certain things, etc., and for erotic images, I much prefer stills.

I'm very much character/story driven, so most of the porn that fills the internet doesn't really do it for me. I'm with Hotwords in that, if you look at porn, a lot of it just doesn't work. They're not in comfortable positions. The positions are all about camera angles and the close up. In ninety percent of them, their facial expressions are...boredom, or concentration (trying to hold the unnatural positions). If you're setting your expectations on porn, LOL, you're going to be really disappointed. (Which is why porn addiction is a real thing and why sociologists decry the negative impact on society, especially younger people who have far easier access to it on their formative years.)

No particular niche areas come to mind.

 

[Orchidea73]

06.24.23

How do you feel like life's rejections have shaped you as a person? Have you taken them to heart and made changes? Do you assume that what rejecting you just wasn't right and you keep being you?
Do you feel like you've experienced very little rejection in your life? How has that shaped you?

I do not feel like I've experienced a lot of rejection in my life. If I have to think about it, it probably isn't in my top 5. To give you a perspective, I have experience hunger more than I have experience rejection. So, it isn't something that I think it has shaped me. But, it's not like I've been immune to it, or haven't experience it either.

When it comes to rejection, the one I care the most is in my professional life. I want to know the reason behind it because if there is something I'm lacking and can improve, I will do it. I realise that I can not do everything and I am not good at everything, and I'm fine with that. But if there is something I can do to improve my skills, I make an effort.

If we're talking about the personal life. Well, it's a bit tricky. It sure does sting, at first. I mean, wtf does want to be "rejected"? It has a negative connotation and it presumes that there is something lacking. But whenever I feel that way, I reverse the roles. I put myself in their shoes. I have certainly rejected people. And not because they were not "good enough", or had bad qualities. I just didn't like them. Or I thought they were not my type, and viceversa.

There is a Neapolitan saying, which goes: "Ogni scarrafone è bello a mamma soja" (Lit. every cockroach is beautiful to his mother.) Now, this is about motherly love. But I think it serves well for people in general too. Just because I do not like/or want someone, it doesn't mean that it isn't beautiful and great for someone else. So, no, I do not dwell on it much.

Good question, PLP. Funny enough, because I'm reading ASOIAF series at the moment, your question made me think something which I have always found curious and amusing about Tyrion. He is someone who has been shaped by rejection. At the highest level, I would say. Yet, when he meet a dwarf girl like him, who is a very good person and loves Tyrion, he rejects her because he doesn't like her in that way. I find that ironic but perfectly human.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Good question, PLP. Funny enough, because I'm reading ASOIAF series at the moment, your question made me think something which I have always found curious and amusing about Tyrion. He is someone who has been shaped by rejection. At the highest level, I would say. Yet, when he meet a dwarf girl like him, who is a very good person and loves Tyrion, he rejects her because he doesn't like her in that way. I find that ironic but perfectly human.

He internalized that hatred and that's how rejection shaped him. Sadly.

But you've made me want to reread those books. So good.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

06.27.23

Let's lighten it up a little.

Over the years, what's something you learned about from porn? What's something you learned from porn that ended up being wrong?

Bonus question that's barely related - is there a niche of porn that you like but of which there isn't a lot of content?

Hmmm. I can't think of anything good that I've learned from porn. It's just so, so fake. I guess I can say the one wrong thing I learned was hope to have unreasonable expectations as far as my body image was concerned.

One thing I'd like to see more of is chubby girls. Like real chubby girls, not just someone that has curves.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

06.27.23

Let's lighten it up a little.

OH thank god! A light one.

Over the years, what's something you learned about from porn?

I guess I would say that I learned about some positions and activities that I'd never considered, or maybe even knew about. I would say, for example, using sex toys (vibrators) within partner play. Pretty sure I first saw that in porn and it made me go...OH? (a long time ago). I'd also say that it may have made me aware that I am aroused by some bondage and D/s type stuff.

What's something you learned from porn that ended up being wrong?

That you can just stick in her ass and she'll love it. LOL (Not really, but....sorta?)

06.27.23
Bonus question that's barely related - is there a niche of porn that you like but of which there isn't a lot of content?

Snickering at "barely"....lol
Yes, softer D/s play. Kind of more sensual and loving even? Not the "heavy dark Dom/Domme" of porn. Perhaps especially in Femdom. Geeze....

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

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[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.30.23
(inspired by a conversation with a friend)

If your peak sexuality was a plant, what are the perfect conditions for it to grow and blossom?

Just to give an example:
An actual plant may need -
▪︎ rich soil
▪︎ plenty of water
▪︎ occasional sunlight
▪︎ three drops of a magic potion
▪︎ a dignified plant name

Someone's peak sexuality may need -
▪︎ nightly bedtime stories
▪︎ plenty of foreplay
▪︎ trust and communication
▪︎ level 3 kink
▪︎ monogamy

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

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I fell off the bed recently during sex and do not recommend

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

06.30.23
(inspired by a conversation with a friend)

If your peak sexuality was a plant, what are the perfect conditions for it to grow and blossom?

1. Trust - So I can be vulnerable with you
2. Desire - make me feel wanted!


Of course there's other things, like foreplay, privacy, dirty talk, being open to new ideas, taking the lead, setting the mood, etc. But I feel like if there's trust and desire, everything else will fall into place.

 

[PandemicReader8]

"Make no mistake, she longs to speak to the animal ypu hide."
~ JmStorm

But did she? Really?

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Missing from this poster is “Massive hamstring cramp,” which happened to me recently.

*offers you a banana*

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

06.30.23
(inspired by a conversation with a friend)

If your peak sexuality was a plant, what are the perfect conditions for it to grow and blossom?

Just to give an example:
An actual plant may need -
▪︎ rich soil
▪︎ plenty of water
▪︎ occasional sunlight
▪︎ three drops of a magic potion
▪︎ a dignified plant name

Someone's peak sexuality may need -
▪︎ nightly bedtime stories
▪︎ plenty of foreplay
▪︎ trust and communication
▪︎ level 3 kink
▪︎ monogamy

I think I’d be a Cacao Tree - because coffee and chocolate.

I’d need, sunshine (attention), water (genuine care for my mental and physical health), proper spacing between plants (independence and room for me to have my own interests), and time to grow - that’s self explanatory.

“Cacao Tree (Theobroma cacao)​

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“The Coco Nut Tree” from A Curious Herbal by Elizabeth Blackwell (1739)
Chocolate is the food of choice for lovebirds for a reason: its combination of rich, complex flavors, aromas, and melting textures has a definite sensual quality, and the caffeine and other chemicals present in sweets with high cacao contents can perk up a variety of activities.
Despite cacao’s long standing reputation as an aphrodisiac - likely first discovered by the Aztecs, who would sometimes use it to fuel romantic endeavors - modern studies have revealed no firm link between the bean and sexual arousal. That’s not saying that consuming cacao products won’t make you feel good: the plant does contain small amounts of tryptophan and phenylethylamine, chemicals which are associated with feelings of happiness and falling in love.
While there is no scientific evidence that cacao has any biological aphrodisiac qualities, its cultural association with love and sex - to say nothing of the fact that it’s delicious - can still help to put you in the mood, so don’t skimp on the chocolates this Valentines Day.”

 

[hotwords229_A]

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Somewhere that’s green.

 

[hotcpu]

Missing from this poster is “Massive hamstring cramp,” which happened to me recently.

I agree ... the charleyhorse just as the orgasm is about to cum

 

[hotcpu]

*offers you a banana*

They don't call Gatorade a sports drink for nothing

 

[hotcpu]

06.30.23
(inspired by a conversation with a friend)

If your peak sexuality was a plant, what are the perfect conditions for it to grow and blossom?

Just to give an example:
An actual plant may need -
▪︎ rich soil
▪︎ plenty of water
▪︎ occasional sunlight
▪︎ three drops of a magic potion
▪︎ a dignified plant name

Someone's peak sexuality may need -
▪︎ nightly bedtime stories
▪︎ plenty of foreplay
▪︎ trust and communication
▪︎ level 3 kink
▪︎ monogamy

I would say the kind of plant that has a voice whispering how much it is desired and wanting to be held. The look in a lover's eyes of passion and yearning to be together is what makes my sexuality peak.

Coming from the long marriage of total indifference to touch and want of a physical side of the marriage has my soil always ready for that mix of special fertilizer.

 

[Mei5ter]

06.27.23

Let's lighten it up a little.

Over the years, what's something you learned about from porn? What's something you learned from porn that ended up being wrong?

Bonus question that's barely related - is there a niche of porn that you like but of which there isn't a lot of content?

I have learned that the simile "as thin as a cheerleader's panties" is misleading. Cheerleaders, as extensive study of porn makes explicit, clearly never wear panties in the first place.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

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I saw this in my Tumblr feed yesterday and thought it was brilliant. So good. Really needs to be sent around to younger people, I worry about their views of sex because they can get SO MUCH PORN.

06.30.23
(inspired by a conversation with a friend)

If your peak sexuality was a plant, what are the perfect conditions for it to grow and blossom?

Just to give an example:
An actual plant may need -
▪︎ rich soil
▪︎ plenty of water
▪︎ occasional sunlight
▪︎ three drops of a magic potion
▪︎ a dignified plant name

Someone's peak sexuality may need -
▪︎ nightly bedtime stories
▪︎ plenty of foreplay
▪︎ trust and communication
▪︎ level 3 kink
▪︎ monogamy

I'm not sure I'm going to get this right but.
(1) Trust
(2) Communication
(3) A real connection, not just physical but mental, emotional, everything.
(4) a commitment
(5) willingness to be adventurous
(6) Understanding and compassion.

I might be a slightly difficult plant.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.30.23
(inspired by a conversation with a friend)

If your peak sexuality was a plant, what are the perfect conditions for it to grow and blossom?

Just to give an example:
An actual plant may need -
▪︎ rich soil
▪︎ plenty of water
▪︎ occasional sunlight
▪︎ three drops of a magic potion
▪︎ a dignified plant name

Someone's peak sexuality may need -
▪︎ nightly bedtime stories
▪︎ plenty of foreplay
▪︎ trust and communication
▪︎ level 3 kink
▪︎ monogamy

As the person who asked the question it was much harder than anticipated.

For BEST peek sexuality results that will leave you with a bloom that will ruin you for other blooms
▪︎ Good soil - undeniable, natural chemistry
▪︎ A pleasing pot - attraction mentally and physically (and someone who likes my pot too)
▪︎ Just the right amount of sunlight - attention and quality time, enough to feel warm but not enough to singe me
▪︎ Fertilizer - a curious and open mind that's full of filth and kink
▪︎ Water - humor and cleverness and introspection, honesty and trust
▪︎ Garden gnomes - words, those good words that stick in my brain and ruin my panties
▪︎ Frequent trimming - let's talk about what works, what doesn't, and what we want to try

 

[Orchidea73]

06.30.23
(inspired by a conversation with a friend)

If your peak sexuality was a plant, what are the perfect conditions for it to grow and blossom?

Just to give an example:
An actual plant may need -
▪︎ rich soil
▪︎ plenty of water
▪︎ occasional sunlight
▪︎ three drops of a magic potion
▪︎ a dignified plant name

Someone's peak sexuality may need -
▪︎ nightly bedtime stories
▪︎ plenty of foreplay
▪︎ trust and communication
▪︎ level 3 kink
▪︎ monogamy

Chemistry and attraction, both physical and intellectual. The latter is not a must, if we're talking about sexuality, only, but it would enhance it. So, I don't know what plant I would be. I'm afraid it doesn't answer your question, completely, but that's all I've got.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.03.23

Compliments

Do you like receiving compliments? Are you used to receiving them? Are there certain compliments that mean more to you than others? Do you need lots of words of affirmation to know where you are with someone and make you feel safe? Are you a gracious acceptor or do you deflect?
Are you good at giving compliments? Do you like to shower others with praise or only use them to make a real impact?
What's one of the best compliments you ever received?

 

[RosewoodTulip]

07.03.23

Compliments

Do you like receiving compliments? Are you used to receiving them? Are there certain compliments that mean more to you than others? Do you need lots of words of affirmation to know where you are with someone and make you feel safe? Are you a gracious acceptor or do you deflect?
Are you good at giving compliments? Do you like to shower others with praise or only use them to make a real impact?
What's one of the best compliments you ever received?

So general compliments make me uncomfortable. I question them constantly. My New Years Resolution was to accept a compliment without questioning its motivation.. Are they just saying this because XYZ... Do they actually mean it? I'm having mixed results if I'm honest.
Saying all of this makes it funny to admit I actually have a massive praise kink but that only works from certain people. I need to hear good things - that I'm ok, wanted, worthy, appreciated - to feel valued and without them I feel really unsure of myself.
I do try and share the love as much as I can with complimenting others. I try and really make it specific so that they hopefully know I mean it. I've very much enjoyed your task these last few days as its given me a chance to reach out to people and let them know I appreciate them for whichever reason.

Favourite compliments?
Ok years ago I was working with a woman around the time the first season of Dexter was out and she told me I really reminded her of him (personality wise I promise!)

 

[EndCreditsPart2]

I'm okay at giving and bad at receiving compliments. I'm a pretty lousy flirt, haha. The most validating compliments for me are ones where I feel like I did an exceptional job at something. I don't like feeling complimented for doing the minimum. I'm trying to be better about accepting compliments and not deflecting.

I have been told I have a praise kink. But in that circumstance, showering with praise without receiving something in return isn't very fulfilling.

A former fwb once told me it was hot that I could eat a big cheeseburger in one sitting. That was a fun compliment.

 

[BadAmy]

I like compliments when genuine. I respond with one phrase, which is enough.

"Thank you".

I like criticism that helps.

Unless it's a weapon to project the giver's own personal issues onto me.

When complimentary or critical words are used as a means to influence me and stem from an ulterior motive or belittle me and there is no consent on my part,
Well...

consent.
it's a helluvah thing.


ok Edited to answer the rest of the fucking questions!


Are you used to receiving them?

Yes I am, it happen in my line of work.

Are there certain compliments that mean more to you than others?

see above- the genuine ones.

Do you need lots of words of affirmation to know where you are with someone and make you feel safe?

this should be a question al its own, I need more time on that little gem.

Are you a gracious acceptor or do you deflect?

see above

Are you good at giving compliments?

Absolutely. Gotta mean it.

Do you like to shower others with praise or only use them to make a real impact?

Only when warranted.

What's one of the best compliments you ever received?
I was told, "Ethereal, you made everyone cry." If you know what I do, you'd get it.