❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Paul_Chance]

07.11.23

Day 2 of sexy questions - voyeurism/exhibitionism

Would you consider yourself more of an exhibitionist or a voyeur or neither? How do you express that "label"?
Do you like watching? Who and what do you like to watch? Do you like the person you're watching to be turned on by the fact that you're watching and put on a little show? Do you like to watch in secret (please understand I mean consensually - this isn't a peeping tom situation) or anonymously, in the case of content posted online?
Do you like to be watched or seen? Does someone eyes on you turn you on or make things feel heightened? Do you like showing off publicly? If so, is there something in the anonymity of the people seeing you that does something for you?
Did I leave anything out?

I'd say I land more on the voyeuristic side of this particular binary, but not enough that I would consider it to kink or fetish level. I prefer to make love with some degree of light, so I can watch my partner. In multiple partner sex settings, I like to watch my partners.

I certainly enjoy watching my partners pleasure themselves (and will return that pleasure). I've never watched in secret, or anonymously. In the many years I've owned this townhouse (arranged around a courtyard), I've had the pleasure of having three exhibitionist neighbors - and I've watched - and they've known I watched.

Oddly enough, I am far more aroused by listening (hot summer nights, windows wide open, neighbors putting on a show), which I guess is a form of auditory voyeurism.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.13.23 (submitted)

Objects

What is the one item of clothing or object you want your partner to bring into the bedroom? Does it have to be stockings? Does a whip make you tremble? Will you do anything for a man with a belt? When she brings out the anal probe do you whimper and beg her to be gentle? What is the object of your affection?

 

[Whiskeyjack]

07.13.23 (submitted)

Objects

What is the one item of clothing or object you want your partner to bring into the bedroom? Does it have to be stockings? Does a whip make you tremble? Will you do anything for a man with a belt? When she brings out the anal probe do you whimper and beg her to be gentle? What is the object of your affection?

Yup. It's stockings. Nailed it in one! But you knew that already.

 

[deft]

07.13.23 (submitted)

Objects

What is the one item of clothing or object you want your partner to bring into the bedroom? Does it have to be stockings? Does a whip make you tremble? Will you do anything for a man with a belt? When she brings out the anal probe do you whimper and beg her to be gentle? What is the object of your affection?

I think it's mainly mood-dependent... and the type of play we're having...

However, the one item that will always - always - get me going, no matter what the roles are at the time, is glasses.

A woman who knows how to use a pair of spectacles as a sexy, mischievous prop will never go without

 

[lakesailer_mi]

07.13.23 (submitted)

Objects

What is the one item of clothing or object you want your partner to bring into the bedroom? Does it have to be stockings? Does a whip make you tremble? Will you do anything for a man with a belt? When she brings out the anal probe do you whimper and beg her to be gentle? What is the object of your affection?

So...honestly, I can't think of one thing. At home...fuck...anything would be a nice change.
On Lit...anything she wants is fun...

 

[hotwords229_A]

07.13.23 (submitted)

Objects

What is the one item of clothing or object you want your partner to bring into the bedroom?

Birthday suit.

Does it have to be stockings?

Stockings never did anything for me. I like bare skin.

Does a whip make you tremble?

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Will you do anything for a man with a belt?

Thank him for holding up his pants?

When she brings out the anal probe do you whimper and beg her to be gentle?

Her discretion.

What is the object of your affection?

A naked woman ready and willing.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

07.13.23 (submitted)

Objects

What is the one item of clothing or object you want your partner to bring into the bedroom? Does it have to be stockings? Does a whip make you tremble? Will you do anything for a man with a belt? When she brings out the anal probe do you whimper and beg her to be gentle? What is the object of your affection?

I've been curating a collection of various things to be used in the bedroom. Cuffs, blindfold, rope etc
All I need now is someone with the skill to use them properly

 

[Mei5ter]

I've been curating a collection of various things to be used in the bedroom. Cuffs, blindfold, rope etc
All I need now is someone with the skill to use them properly

You forgot the custard.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

07.13.23 (submitted)

Objects

What is the one item of clothing or object you want your partner to bring into the bedroom? Does it have to be stockings? Does a whip make you tremble? Will you do anything for a man with a belt? When she brings out the anal probe do you whimper and beg her to be gentle? What is the object of your affection?

Clothing... A well fitting and worn in pair of jeans, preferably button fly, and absolutely nothing else. So damn sexy.

Object... A fairly wide leather belt with a weighty buckle. Versatile.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

07.10.23

It's sexy question week! Every day, I'll be probing you with the most titillating questions.

CUM
Does male/female cum squick you out or do you love it? Somewhere in between?

Love, love, love it.

Men, does your own cum interest your senses (taste, touch, etc) or do you like a quick clean up? What about another man's cum?
Ladies, what about your cum and juices? Does it interest you or leave you nonplussed? Does the sound of your own wetness turn you or your partner on?

It doesn't do much for me, I guess. I'll taste it and play with it.. but my cum itself just doesn't do much for me. Mainly it just turns me on for him to see me cum.

Do you think spitting or swallowing is better? Do you like to watch the act of ejaculating? Have you ever tried any tricks to influence the taste or amount of cum you produce? Cream pies? Facials? Have I missed any cum subjects?

I can't recall ever spitting, so swallowing it is!

One of my favorite things tho? For him to eat me out after he cums inside me.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

My favourite PM conversations involve lots of questions and answers from both of us. I am quite curious and can sometimes take over by asking lots of questions and I've tried to stop doing that lately as I felt like I was just interviewing people. They were answering my questions but not asking any back which made me feel like they were humouring me out of politeness. However I also know I'm having a bit of a mental health dip so might not actually be seeing situations as they actually are.
If I feel that the conversation is going well and I've clicked with someone I will try to reply as quickly as I can - even if it's to apologise for not being able to write a proper reply at that time.

 

[hotwords229_A]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes?

I lay back and take it like a man.

Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey?

I’ll ask anything. It’s my inbox after all.

What signals if the conversation will be good or not?

Sometimes the title of the pm. Also if there are nude pics attached.

Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it?

I feel compelled to answer asap.

Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

I‘m generally not a big pm guy. I’d much rather air my dirty laundry out in the open. It’s more fun that way. However, I’m also interested in hearing what everyone has to say, so feel free to pm me anytime.

I think I’m probably less flirtatious in a pm (with one exception ). Although, it’s anybody’s guess how I may behave at any given moment—even I don’t know!

What I really like is PMs that feature multiple people. A gathering a sexaholics, if you will.

 

[Dribble]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

I carry the conversation for the most part. I don't ask questions per say...but I open the door for them to say more because of what and how I share. However it doesn't take me long to realize if they are incapable of sharing for whatever reason. That is not a criticism. Just how it is.

It is simple...if I invested enough time to tell stories about what was and is with me...several paragraphs...and all I get back is a sentence or two that took 30 seconds to write...we won't get very far. That's ok...because I am sure they will find whatever they are looking for with time.

If I get a pm...I answer usually the same day...or next morning. That is being respectful.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

My favourite PM conversations involve lots of questions and answers from both of us. I am quite curious and can sometimes take over by asking lots of questions and I've tried to stop doing that lately as I felt like I was just interviewing people. They were answering my questions but not asking any back which made me feel like they were humouring me out of politeness. However I also know I'm having a bit of a mental health dip so might not actually be seeing situations as they actually are.
If I feel that the conversation is going well and I've clicked with someone I will try to reply as quickly as I can - even if it's to apologise for not being able to write a proper reply at that time.

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[AlpineFresco]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

If I'm carrying the load, it's not really a conversation. Nothing is ever fully 50/50, but there has to be two-way traffic.

As for questions... surely the only answer here is 'it depends'? I rarely feel fully free to just ask anything, but often I have a sense of what is appropriate in the conversation. And, if I'm not sure, I will ask if I may inquire about something personal, and fully understand if the other person says no.

What signals if the conversation will be good? Chemistry. And I don't just mean sexual - some people are just really good to talk with. And some people seem really good to talk with but then I try and clearly this person and I have no conversational chemistry. It happens, no problem.

Availability? I'm a busy guy, working stupidly long hours. But, I try to be punctual for interesting conversations. That said, I have taken a week or more to get back to my friends when things have been extremely busy.

PMs? They're... how we privately message on Lit? They're fine. It's nice to chat with new people, but I'll admit I haven't sent an introductory PM to a someone new in really quite some time, since most of what I want to say I can say or discuss on the boards. But, PMs are nice to have if something is better off-board.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes?

It depends on the topic. I can get very overly verbose, or very basic, and everything in between. It depends on how I feel about the topic.

Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey?

I am fully out with my nosiness and wave that flag proudly.

What signals if the conversation will be good or not?

I have found many early indicators that things will not go well, but not so many that things will go well. I guess the good sign is early and frequent humor and informal word choices and phrasing.

Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it?

I answer when I feel like it. I like being mysterious, plus a delay in answering is a quick and easy way to identify things were going to go south.

Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

truthfully, kind of stressful.

 

[Xerxes82]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

If I have to carry the load, it's probably not going well. Maybe for short stretches at a time. If they are carrying the load, they are probably bored out of their minds with me. The goldilocks zone is ideal.

I'm a questioner. Often times those questions are shameless, forward, and nosy AF. I'm not really good at the whole small talk thing, so let's get right into it, you know? But I will hesitate if a topic feels like it belongs to a different kind of conversation. For example, if we've been having a fun chat about hobbies, or all the places you've traveled, I'm probably not going to drop some kind of super invasive question about your sex life on you. Save those for when the conversation turns or we know each other well enough you get where I'm coming from.

If I had any notion of how to read whether a conversation was going well or not I wouldn't be me. I don't know how to judge those kinds of things, I'm always wrong when I try, and frankly it's just led to embarrassing situations better not spoken of further. LOL.

The availability conversation depends. If we're having an ongoing, steady, back and forth conversation in the moment and I know I have to pause to leave or work or sleep or whatever, I usually try to let the other party know. So they aren't hanging on a reply that isn't coming. Obviously though, stuff happens on it's own schedule and that isn't always possible. Other times it's more of a fire and forget type thing, where I know they'll get back to me when they get a chance and that I'll do the same, but there maybe isn't a sense of serious urgency. I know you're busy, you know I'm busy, and you know I won't freak out if it takes you a day or two or whatever.

It's the difference between talking on the phone and mailing a letter, more or less. I try to treat each like what it is, and flow between the two as it happens

 

[TomTeacher19]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

I haven't had too many PM conversations so I probably am doing it wrong. I certainly enjoy it when it's more equal but I think when you start it you feel extra pressure to work harder to make it go. I usually try to ask questions but again, perhaps I am being nosey and that's why they die out. I know I love when the questions go back and forth. I think that's a good sign. More like a conversation than an interview. I do try to answer PMs as soon as I see them. I don't get that many and sometimes can be inconsistent with time on here so I want to make them a priority when I am here.

 

[Cindy027]

I haven't really had ground breaking conversations in PM's mostly its guys mistakenly wondering in with some or other preconceptions about me. I find the PM's great for sending and forgetting and then getting a reply from someone is a bonus. That said, sometimes I find it difficult to respond to some people and need them to pry stuff out of me. I do find the PM's on the live chat are a lot easier and sometimes a lot more fun (not sexual although if that's what you want it's available) as the conversation gets a flow to it and it's immediate. The downside of it is you can't take two days to think of a snappy comeback.

Sometimes I think I may be too judgmental and not give some people time to warm to me or I may just ghost them if they don't put the effort in, what I hate, loathe and detest are one sentence replies, that just makes me want to evaluate my own worthiness. I tend to write long winded and according to me, absolutely fascinating PM's about stuff as long as I get the same feeling of interaction from the other person it will continue.

As for letting people know my availability, no. I respond to all out of the blue PM's that are of a civil nature but I make no promises that it will be a riveting back and forth. Actually to be honest I think I bore the crap out of most people and they lose interest in the conversation way before I've even warmed up. I do try and answer PM's as soon as I see them, also I live in a different time zone so it could take weeks.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

There's times I feel like I carry the load, and in those cases I tend to back off a bit. Not necessarily stop the conversation, but engaging less so that I don't feel like it's all one sided. I'm a very nosey bitch and will ask loads of questions if I'm interested in getting to know someone better. But to be honest, I put a lot less effort into PMs and getting to know people now than I did a few months ago when I really didn't have a whole lot of friends here.

 

[gearhead73]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

I totally dig PMs. I like getting them, I like sending them. Unfortunately most of the time I feel like I have to carry the conversation. I get it, not everyone is as willing to share as I am, but it is disappointing sometimes because all I was after was some conversation.
I do ask a lot of questions and maybe that is part of the problem, it how else can I ever get to know someone if I don’t find out about them?
Length and timing of the response is a pretty good clue about how things are going to go. I have found if people are genuinely busy or unable to talk at the time they will be up front about it. RL happens, I get it. I try to answer as quickly as I can, but if I’m going to be away or tied up, I tell them just in case they are interested.

 

[Pantyboy74]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

I think PMs can be something that can both make and break a friendship.

The words you say can be misconstrued and taken out of context, causing offence or upset without you meaning to.

I dont get any PMs now as in my previous visits here, before my break away, i may have... allowed my mental health issues of the time to affect my judgement.

 

[Dribble]

I think PMs can be something that can both make and break a friendship.

The words you say can be misconstrued and taken out of context, causing offence or upset without you meaning to.

I dont get any PMs now as in my previous visits here, before my break away, i may have... allowed my mental health issues of the time to affect my judgement.

I don't get pms like I used to. Just saying. Don't blame something that probably had nothing to do with the present.

I have seen several ladies say they reply...write them.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

07.18.23
(inspired by a conversation)

When having a PM exchange with someone, do you feel like you carry the conversational load, it's equal, or you lay back and take it as it comes? Do you feel free to ask questions or do you resist coming off as nosey? What signals if the conversation will be good or not? Do you let people know your availability or just answer whenever you feel like it? Tell me your thoughts about PMs.

You know, it's really like any other conversation. I'm pretty good in many conversations with some balence. Not perfect, I may - especially in person - tend to dominate (I talk a lot, I'm loud, and I'm not shy). I think in some ways I'm better in PM's as I tend to have more time to think and reply.
Sometimes the conversation quickly one sided, which I take as, "ok, they don't want to participate." Sometimes it's glorious.

I'll ask questions. It totally depends on the person how nosey I am. For people I know, I'll be nosy. For others, it just depends on their vibe from the threads.

I try to answer PM's as soon as possible. But sometimes I can't get to them, even if I'm "on."