❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Orchidea73]

And people always assume they are bothering me when they PM because I must "get so many". Never a bother and it's rarely popping off in my inbox.

I've had 5 or 6 people (I'm ref. to men only) that when they PMed me said; either I intimidated them smh, that I must be inundated with messages, and/or I must have someone here. The last two are not true. I can do nothing about the intimidation thing. That's a perception they have. And frankly speaking, I'm okay with that too because it's a good filter. If you feel that intimidated by me, chances are that you're not my type of person.

 

[Justabaldguy70]

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

That I shave my head…….I have alopecia so I am bald …naturally

 

[Whiskeyjack]

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

That I'm pretentious or snobby. I hope to God I'm not. But I can see how I might give off that vibe.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I've had 5 or 6 people (I'm ref. to men only) that when they PMed me said; either I intimidated them smh, that I must be inundated with messages, and/or I must have someone here. The last two are not true. I can do nothing about the intimidation thing. That's a perception they have. And frankly speaking, I'm okay with that too because it's a good filter. If you feel that intimidated by me, chances are that you're not my type of person.

You are a little bit intimidating at first. But that's not gonna stop me from talking to you.

 

[BadAmy]

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

I honestly don't know what people assume about me. Maybe it's more what we assume people assume?
I guess from the random pms I get ...rarely on occasion...that I am looking for nooky.
Nah, not so. I like chatting in PMs...because it's quieter to me in my head, but 99.9% it's just fun stuff.. not sexy time. I like my dirty out in the open!
But I am sort of disappointed I don't get dick pics.
And nooooooo my box isn't going to blow up...
I've made this announcement several times with no blip on the radar.
Sad really.
I like looking at dicks.
https://media4.giphy.com/media/l1IY0xj8EYE3ubavK/giphy.webp?cid=82a1493be8u0o5nmt3suddn76zpdngce2w0f8wqxbkufry4g&rid=giphy.webp&ct=g

 

[AveryElle]

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

That I care.
That I don’t care.
That I’m Italian.
That I’m ‘Latin’.
That because my husband and I aren’t monogamous, I must fuck around all the time.

 

[Orchidea73]

You are a little bit intimidating at first. But that's not gonna stop me from talking to you.

I expect no less from you. After all, you're a man of faith and cultured too.

 

[Karabare]

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

That I have a nice bum? It's not that nice. I really have no idea, I'd like to find out though.

 

[ydahecnot]

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

That when I say, “I like where this is going,” I am just joking about wanting to see Sapphic action.

 

[Acktion]

That I’m tough.

Marshmallow.

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

Most things.

***shrug*** It's been my experience that most people assume they know when they really don't and can't be bothered to find out different.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.27.21

How much do you believe the actions and choices of your friends/family/partner should reflect on you? Do they each hold a different significance (i.e. partner's actions vs. family member's actions)?

 

[Paul_Chance]

07.23.21

What's something most people assume about you that just isn't true?

For the most part, what you see is what you get with me. Yes, I really am a kind, generous, and compassionate person who does his best to lead a drama free life and is mindful of his karma.

07.27.21

How much do you believe the actions and choices of your friends/family/partner should reflect on you? Do they each hold a different significance (i.e. partner's actions vs. family member's actions)?

Only where I played a role in those actions/choices. Otherwise, it's all them. (For example if I gave someone bad advice and they followed it.) It's the same significance across the board. I don't differentiate by role. From the most casual stranger to my deepest love, I try and treat everyone the same. I don't hold them to differing standards or hold my conduct to differing standards. My karma adheres to my actions/inactions. Their karma holds to their actions/inactions.

 

[Dribble]

07.27.21

How much do you believe the actions and choices of your friends/family/partner should reflect on you? Do they each hold a different significance (i.e. partner's actions vs. family member's actions)?

100%. There is always that line in the sand. Just as there is with my choices on them. No...I don't think the standard i expect is different for different people.

 

[Orchidea73]

07.27.21

How much do you believe the actions and choices of your friends/family/partner should reflect on you?

None whatsoever. Unless I played a role in those actions and choices, as Paul mentioned.

Do they each hold a different significance (i.e. partner's actions vs. family member's actions)?

Yes, generally they do. Though it often depends on the type of action and/or context.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

07.27.21
How much do you believe the actions and choices of your friends/family/partner should reflect on you? Do they each hold a different significance (i.e. partner's actions vs. family member's actions)?

I don’t believe that their actions and choices should reflect on me. How I respond to those actions and choices is the criteria upon which I should be evaluated. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. People will often assume one is guilty by association.

I think that close friends and partners have more significance as they are people that you choose to have in your life. You can’t choose your relatives.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

08.06.21

Are you a sentimental person? If so, what are you sentimental over?

 

[Orchidea73]

08.06.21

Are you a sentimental person? If so, what are you sentimental over?

I get sentimental over stories, real or fiction. Especially epic stories.

 

[Dribble]

I still have love letters from high school...45 years ago. Is that sentimental?

 

[Orchidea73]

I still have love letters from high school...45 years ago. Is that sentimental?

I think so.
Come to think of letters, I still have my dad's letters from high school.

 

[AveryElle]

08.06.21

Are you a sentimental person? If so, what are you sentimental over?

To a degree. I have hard copy letters from my husband he sent each time he was deployed. Photographs mean a lot to me. But generally ‘stuff’ isn’t for me. I find ‘stuff’ stifling much of the time. Actions and events make me sentimental.

But if I have a falling out, I easily drop it all.

 

[Mei5ter]

08.06.21

Are you a sentimental person? If so, what are you sentimental over?

Sentimental is a word which somehow conjures up hearts-and-flowers Victorian melodrama, with sunsets, packets of letters tied up with ribbon, and girls fainting onto divans at unexpected moments. I only really do two of those three.

I do keep some things for sentiment's sake, but I have become much more selective over the years. With time, some memories and people become less important, and it no longer feels right to keep an entire box full of things relating to that part of my past - just a couple of really special things is enough. I know it's a particular issue for parents, because there comes a point where you just can't treasure every single paint daub your third child made when they were eighteen months old. Even the largest refrigerator has only so much space for artwork, and there is a reason why the Guggenheim is, on balance, better suited for displaying a large-scale art collection than, say, a Miele fridge. So there comes a point where you either buy a new fridge or decide it's time to start a reserve collection of your kids' artwork in the attic...where it then lives undisturbed for a few decades until someone decides it's time to do the Marie Kondo thing.

There's a famous William Morris quote about only having things in your home which you know to be useful or believe to be beautiful. Things kept for sentiment's sake aren't necessarily either, but I like having them around me so that the people and feelings they represent can be part of my life (at least where they're the kind of object that lends itself to being on public display). And, by the same token, I really *don't* like having decorative objects in my home which have no other associations or meaning or significance of any kind. I used to live next to a family whose entire home was decorated with pictures, ornaments and other stuff all bought from IKEA, and all chosen with absolutely no other desire than to fill a bare wall or an empty surface. Rightly or wrongly, that gave me the impression of people whose lives were so utterly devoid of personality, happy memories, joy or interest that they had to buy pre-made matching blandness to hide the emptiness in their souls.

I can only hope that this was in fact all a front, and that they were in fact Russian spies trying to hide their true identities behind a screen of impenetrable tedium. Does IKEA sell Novichok?

 

[Paul_Chance]

08.06.21

Are you a sentimental person? If so, what are you sentimental over?

No. I'm not sure I was ever a sentimental person. I am empathetic and compassionate, but I have a relationship with the past that is basically - Shit happened, good shit, bad shit, but it's over and done with. It makes for some amusing stories, but all in all the past is the past and has only the impact on the present that you give it. The future is an imaginary place. Focus as much as you can on today.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

08.20.21

Are you a "forgive and forget" type of person? Or do you hold grudges? Some mixture of the two?

 

[AlpineFresco]

08.20.21

Are you a "forgive and forget" type of person? Or do you hold grudges? Some mixture of the two?

Little point holding grudges, I don't have the energy for it.
I'm a forgive-but-probably-just-avoid-you-in-the-future type person.

 

[GallantWriter]

08.20.21

Are you a "forgive and forget" type of person? Or do you hold grudges? Some mixture of the two?

I do try to forgive most, if not all, but forgetting I can't do completely for my mental health. It did happen and even if they change that wrongdoing was part of them at some point.