❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

I'm sensitive. Soft-hearted. I care too much. I give too much. I'm a lot. I'm not bragging here. These are things that I don't like about myself. Every day these are the things that hurt me. I wish I could be less.
Oh lovely
I think all those qualities you listed are really special and they make you special too.
We don't really know each other but I see how much your friends here adore you because of your softness and your big heart.
It's horrible when caring too much gives room to be hurt but that absolutely does not mean we are wrong to do it, especially when the world around us is so uncertain.
I hope you don't change ❤️
 
Oh lovely
I think all those qualities you listed are really special and they make you special too.
We don't really know each other but I see how much your friends here adore you because of your softness and your big heart.
It's horrible when caring too much gives room to be hurt but that absolutely does not mean we are wrong to do it, especially when the world around us is so uncertain.
I hope you don't change ❤️
Thanks Rose 🌹
 
01.18.25

How important is it to you to be liked by others?
I prefer being liked over not being liked but I can’t be anything other than my authentic self so I am not everyone’s cup of tea and that is ok.
Do you consider yourself generally likeable?
I do think I’m likable. I’m usually honest, positive, and supportive and I think that helps.
What's more important that being liked?
Being my authentic self. I’ve tried to tone myself down or agree with people to not cause issues and it never ends up working out.
Does it bother you when you sense someone doesn't like you?
It can. Especially if the person has formed their opinion on another persons experience.
Do you strive to change their mind?
Not usually. I do like to know why someone feels a certain way but if they don’t like me and it’s not due to an interaction between us then I don’t care.
Does how your likability matters change depending on the person (i.e. do you want one type of person to like you more than another)?
I don’t think I want any one type of person to like me.
How have your feelings on this changed as you've gotten older?
It is important to me that my friends like me but I will not sacrifice myself for them. If a person doesn’t accept me and like who I am at my core I will not try to make them. This is what has changed over time. When I was younger if a friendship was changing I would try to be who I thought they wanted me to be to try and fix it. Now I let it go-even though it can take longer than I’d like sometimes-if I’m not what someone wants or needs as a friend it’s ok. I value myself and don’t need to change for others.
 
I prefer being liked over not being liked but I can’t be anything other than my authentic self so I am not everyone’s cup of tea and that is ok.

I do think I’m likable. I’m usually honest, positive, and supportive and I think that helps.

Being my authentic self. I’ve tried to tone myself down or agree with people to not cause issues and it never ends up working out.

It can. Especially if the person has formed their opinion on another persons experience.

Not usually. I do like to know why someone feels a certain way but if they don’t like me and it’s not due to an interaction between us then I don’t care.

I don’t think I want any one type of person to like me.

It is important to me that my friends like me but I will not sacrifice myself for them. If a person doesn’t accept me and like who I am at my core I will not try to make them. This is what has changed over time. When I was younger if a friendship was changing I would try to be who I thought they wanted me to be to try and fix it. Now I let it go-even though it can take longer than I’d like sometimes-if I’m not what someone wants or needs as a friend it’s ok. I value myself and don’t need to change for others.
You’re very likable and my cup of tea
 
01.25.25

What is one thing that has remained unchanged about you since you were a child? We all learn and grow and change but what has stayed with you throughout all the years?
I think, by nature, I'm a life long procrastinator, not that it's ever bothered me or been a problem.
To illustrate this, one day when I was a teenager, my mother, obviously exasperated at my inability to make a decision, said. " Fuck me, you'll never commit suicide."
Obviously a bit shocked and taken aback, I asked what she was on about and what she meant.
"Well you'll never commit suicide, you change your mind to bloody much."
This was her answer and very typical of my lovely mum. 🥰😂😂
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
 
It certainly would make it easier to figure out how to budget for retirement. But I don't know if I would want to know.
On one hand, I could make sure I saw all my loved ones beforehand. On the other hand, living each day with that countdown in your head could be crushing.
Hey PLP. Hope you are well.
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
Assuming I can't change it, I wouldn't want to know when and how I'll die. As someone who found out some negative future me issues, its hard knowing the information without any ability to change it. I think emotionally, it would be much easier to just let it be a question. But in that case, I chose to know because I could do something for my kid. I don't think knowing about my death details would really help me or my family live a better life now so I wouldn't open that envelope.
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
Don't want to know. It's bad enough to know it's coming eventually. I really don't want the specifics.
I don't know how I'd be able to enjoy anything in life knowing what my exact expiration date is. It's all too morbid.
Besides, I'm not so much interested in when/how I die. But what happens after. Is there more? Or do we just become worm food? It'll either be heckin' interesting to find out, or I won't be around to care.
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?

I’m in the minority here and would want to know.

First, I’m curious about everything and that’s just not something I could resist knowing. Second, knowing would help me plan better and not waste time on irrelevant things that don’t apply to my future or won’t serve me or my loved ones. Third, I already know I’m going to die, so I don’t think it would make me think about it more. It might actually be less stressful because I don’t have to wonder.
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
While I don't wish for a painful, terminal illness, having lost two parents in very different situations, I would like to possibly know that I am going to die a month ahead of time, but a week would suffice. I would just want enough time to talk to those I love again, revisit a lifetime of wonderful memories in my head, and finally hire an amazing hooker, to send me out with a bang.
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
I would want to know. As @LadyLascivious1 said, I know I’m going to die. I don’t currently dwell on it-it’s just part of living. I had a big health scare and have ongoing health issues now so my mortality is already staring me in my face. Knowing how or when I would die would just let me plan my time better.
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information?
No, I can't walk around in fear, my life is full of confrontation and I couldn't do it worrying of consequences.



What would you do with it if you knew?
Protect my loved ones and tell everyone I care for, that I love them.



If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
If I didn't know, it couldn't change anything. If I knew, it could change how I live, maybe.
 
It certainly would make it easier to figure out how to budget for retirement.
Hey PLP. Hope you are well.
Hey BB!! I'm well and I hope you are even better.
I love the practicality of planning for retirement and it's so true.
As someone who found out some negative future me issues ---
Sending all the good vibes and thank you for sharing 🫶
Besides, I'm not so much interested in when/how I die. But what happens after. Is there more? Or do we just become worm food? It'll either be heckin' interesting to find out, or I won't be around to care.
You just had to make it eternal :p
I’m in the minority here and would want to know.

First, I’m curious about everything and that’s just not something I could resist knowing. Second, knowing would help me plan better and not waste time on irrelevant things that don’t apply to my future or won’t serve me or my loved ones. Third, I already know I’m going to die, so I don’t think it would make me think about it more. It might actually be less stressful because I don’t have to wonder.
I totally agree!
..... finally hire an amazing hooker, to send me out with a bang.
Someone had to do it. This is Lit after all.
I would want to know. As @LadyLascivious1 said, I know I’m going to die. I don’t currently dwell on it-it’s just part of living. I had a big health scare and have ongoing health issues now so my mortality is already staring me in my face. Knowing how or when I would die would just let me plan my time better.
Totally agree! And sending all the healthy vibes your way.
If I didn't know, it couldn't change anything. If I knew, it could change how I live, maybe.
I think this is really the point of it all!


My answer:

Without being morbid, we are all actively dying right now (sorry it's true) and having lost quite a few suddenly and without any warning - I would want to know. I don't want to waste my remaining time (be it months or years) on dumb, petty bullshit. Fuck work drama, fuck misunderstandings, fuck avoiding things you want. Kiss the girl! Fuck the guy! Eat the chocolate! Take the class! Confess your love!
The discordance comes when, because we don't know when exactly the end is nigh, we live like we have forever. We waste our time on worries and people and jobs and inconsequential things that don't serve to make us or our loved ones happier or leave us with greater peace. (TL;DR - Live like you're dying yada yada yada)

<puts random Friday night soapbox away>
 
Hey BB!! I'm well and I hope you are even better.
I love the practicality of planning for retirement and it's so true.

Sending all the good vibes and thank you for sharing 🫶

You just had to make it eternal :p

I totally agree!

Someone had to do it. This is Lit after all.

Totally agree! And sending all the healthy vibes your way.

I think this is really the point of it all!


My answer:

Without being morbid, we are all actively dying right now (sorry it's true) and having lost quite a few suddenly and without any warning - I would want to know. I don't want to waste my remaining time (be it months or years) on dumb, petty bullshit. Fuck work drama, fuck misunderstandings, fuck avoiding things you want. Kiss the girl! Fuck the guy! Eat the chocolate! Take the class! Confess your love!
The discordance comes when, because we don't know when exactly the end is nigh, we live like we have forever. We waste our time on worries and people and jobs and inconsequential things that don't serve to make us or our loved ones happier or leave us with greater peace. (TL;DR - Live like you're dying yada yada yada)

<puts random Friday night soapbox away>
That's how I try to live my life, I have forgave everyone I need to, apologized to everyone I wronged, I don't hold back love.


The only thing I don't do is eat the chocolate, I want my years to be healthy years.



I do hear you and get where you coming from
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
I have enough issues with death, I do not need to know the exact moment of impending doom. If I choose not to know, I keep living as I do know, so eat good food, travel when I can and share memes
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
I don't know. I'm glad it's don't have that choice to make. I doubt I'd be able to resist if the information was available. But then what if you found out someone else's. You fall for them, but then find out they are going to be gone in 6 weeks. Via a hideous means.

You'd get relationship leper. Noone would get on that plane. That train. That bus.

Does it allow for accidents?

Murder?

I have too many questions.

🤯
 
01.31.25

If you could know how and when you would die, would you want to know that information? What would you do with it if you knew? If you chose not to know, would it change anything about your life moving forward?
Nope. If you want to change something about your life before you die, you don't need to know when that will be. If you want blow your savings before you go, then do it. If you want to go for something, then go for it. If you want to tell your Lit crush you like them, then go for it. I think knowing would actually increase depression and negative responses. Nope, I'll choose to live with no idea when it ends and if I ever get the balls to tell Wand3rlust, then so be it. 😍😉
 
02.03.25

If you had to boil it down, what are your three least favorite ways to feel?


(Speakig of emotions and feelings here - I don't mean stepping on a Lego - even though that's the worst)
 
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