PrettyLilPussy19
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How important is it to you to be liked by others? Do you consider yourself generally likeable? What's more important that being liked? What's less important? Does it bother you when you sense someone doesn't like you? Do you strive to change their mind? Does how your likability matters change depending on the person (i.e. do you want one type of person to like you more than another)? How have your feelings on this changed as you've gotten older?
Hello question inspired by therapy
I think I'm a pretty likable person when I want to be (and that's the key). I supposed I prefer people to like me vs not but the effort I've put into making people like me has waned as I've gotten older. I like people who are just themselves and why wouldn't I want to be liked for just being myself?
I can also admit that I'm not for everyone. I'm silly. I always play devil's advocate. I talk too much and think too much and am rarely happy to settle instead of grow or change. I think the only time someone not liking me bothers me is when their opinion of me is based on one side of a story or what they heard about me instead of their own interactions but then do I want to be liked by someone who does that? Maybe. That's a thinker.
I'd prefer someone to respect me or be kind to me more than like me. (It's like the old debate of would you rather be around someone kind or someone "nice" or "sweet" because one certainly doesn't equal the other.) What's less important than being liked? Hmm

I'd prefer the people I respect and like to like and respect me. Is there any better compliment than someone who you think is really smart telling you that they think YOU'RE smart! What! Yes! That's the absolute best feeling.
