Very relatable. I think the idea that I'm just being humored or tolerated is one I constantly struggle with. But honestly, if we talk everyday and you're just tolerating me? Work on those boundaries
Lol are we the same person? Being an empath is the pits sometimes.
That's a fair point actually. If people regularly show up for me then I shouldn't need to question why should I?
Being liked isn't something I really give much thought to. I feel as though it's ok for not everyone or anyone in particular to like me - as being myself is far more important. Rather than being liked, I strive to be authentic, accountable, and trusted. If someone believes that I am not one of those 3 things it hurts far more than just not being liked. That being said, I do appreciate when someone finds me favorable - namely a partner or a employer
The above answer is something that has been true for me for as long as I can recall. Besides that, my sarcasm, bluntness, and lip-biting when nervous have stood the test of time.
Great question, because I am almost completely different now. I'd say in 3 ways:
I was a terrible procrastinator as a kid.
I think at my core I'm still the same. Just with more existential dread
• I've loved a good mystery from the start - thanks Nancy Drew!
I’m a good sleeper.
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I try to be kind and encouraging and to treat other people the way I want to be treated. I try to acknowledge and apologize when I fail. I try to bring humor to my interactions. However, I'm introverted and a bit socially anxious, which can come off to others as being aloof. But generally, yes.
I think that being true to myself and those I care about is more important than being liked.
Holding on to petty grudges. Needing to be right all the time. Needing to point out mistakes or inaccuracies.
It all depends on the person. If it's someone I like and respect, whose opinions matter to me, then yes. If I dislike and/or don't respect the person, I couldn't care less.
If it's someone I like, I might look at our past interactions to try and figure out why they don't like me. If I think there was a miscommunication or misunderstanding, I might reach out and try to correct it. Otherwise, no.
The type of people I want to really like me are the ones with whom I feel like a real friendship could develop, more than just interacting on the boards or in the office. The kind of people I consider kindred spirits.
My feelings on this have remained pretty consistent throughout my life.
There are both positive and negative things that have remained unchanged about me.
Truthfully I don't give it that much thought really. You like me or you don't.
Yes. Also fuckable.
Being loved by the people that are important.
popularity contests.
Depends on who it is. But usually no.
Nah.
The facsist element I usually don't get along with. I'm perfectly okay with that.
As I get older I care a lot less about this kind if stuff.
There's an inherent goodness that I got from watching PBS shows and reading Superman comics growing up that left a positive impression on me that has lasted into my adult years. I talk a mean game about "I don't care if people like me" but if you're in my orbit and truly one of my people you're in good hands.
I see crying too easily as a negative, because I've usually received negative feedback about it throughout my life. The crying can be prompted by sadness, empathy, frustration, disappointment, and embarrassment. The negative feedback comes primarily when the crying is due to one of the last three reasons. Then the crying itself can lead to further frustration, disappointment in myself, and embarrassment.
I'm pretty shy and mostly quiet.
Curiosity and love of reading
That I hate public speaking.
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I'm sensitive. Soft-hearted. I care too much. I give too much. I'm a lot. I'm not bragging here. These are things that I don't like about myself. Every day these are the things that hurt me. I wish I could be less.
This is beautiful. Never lose it!
This is actually a really good one and speaks to affable unpretentiousness that I love about you.
I know what you mean by this Ang and I hate crying too. I feel like I've done more of it since 2020 that I did in the whole rest of my life. The angry tears are the worst.
This surprises me!
OMG I am the same way! I am the only person I want to be better than. Luckily the sports bug missed me bc I can see how that would have made me a little obsessive.
Me too girly. Too much. But don't make yourself less or smaller. Settling for less never made anyone happier just more boring
Me too. I don't care what someone else's best, I'm competing for my personal best. Truly competitive, sportsing-type folks never understand this!
And what makes Muscles angry?I am generally good humored. (But don’t make me angry, you wouldn’t like me when I’m angry
I pretty much only cry when I’m extremely angry or frustrated and it’s the worst. It’s the opposite of the emotion I want to express…which just makes me embarrassed, angrier, and more frustrated…and therefore more tearful. It’s a vicious cycle.
Yes! I don’t get into the sportsing either and the zero fucks I give when someone tries to compete with me in almost any way just confuses people
My ability to chameleon. I can fit in with almost anyone, anywhere. I always have. I can make friends easily. And that sounds like it could be insincere. But it isn't.
That a Hulk from a 1970’s tv show looks a million times better than the cartoon ones in movies today.And what makes Muscles angry?
Oh lovely
Thanks RoseOh lovely
I think all those qualities you listed are really special and they make you special too.
We don't really know each other but I see how much your friends here adore you because of your softness and your big heart.
It's horrible when caring too much gives room to be hurt but that absolutely does not mean we are wrong to do it, especially when the world around us is so uncertain.
I hope you don't change
I prefer being liked over not being liked but I can’t be anything other than my authentic self so I am not everyone’s cup of tea and that is ok.
I do think I’m likable. I’m usually honest, positive, and supportive and I think that helps.
Being my authentic self. I’ve tried to tone myself down or agree with people to not cause issues and it never ends up working out.
It can. Especially if the person has formed their opinion on another persons experience.
Not usually. I do like to know why someone feels a certain way but if they don’t like me and it’s not due to an interaction between us then I don’t care.
I don’t think I want any one type of person to like me.
It is important to me that my friends like me but I will not sacrifice myself for them. If a person doesn’t accept me and like who I am at my core I will not try to make them. This is what has changed over time. When I was younger if a friendship was changing I would try to be who I thought they wanted me to be to try and fix it. Now I let it go-even though it can take longer than I’d like sometimes-if I’m not what someone wants or needs as a friend it’s ok. I value myself and don’t need to change for others.
