Blowjobs: A scarce commodity?

[DeservingBitch]

Do you use a condom with clients? Just a thought. As to why they gush, there could be a variety of reasons. One could be that no, they do not usually get it free and that is why they are paying for it and why they think it is so outstanding. One could be they think it makes you feel good to get such a compliment for doing that for them and getting paid as opposed to doing it because you share a relationship. Now, if they choose to come back again and again, and if you are unavailable decide to wait until you are available instead of hiring someone else, IME they probably do find something special in the way you do it or you.


Catalina

Yes, I always use a condom. Which is another reason why I'm so baffled about this.

And yes, definitely, for most of them, they do not get blowjobs without paying for it. Which is where my questioning is coming from in the first place. From my experience in the vanilla straight world (when I was younger, and living in Quebec), blowjobs weren't such an outstanding activity. But from my recent re-immersion in the vanilla straight (and paying) world, they are.
So, I'm wondering if this demographic is representative of a larger non-paying demographic. After all, it's not as if guys who pay for sex are such a small demographic.

 

[cherokee_dove]

Friends of mine in the "vanilla" world seem to be a little bit more turned off by giving head unless they are more "open" to change.

After seeing this thread, i asked a "vanilla friend" what her thoughts about giving them were. She said, and these are her words; "I am a lady, that is beneath me."

My jaw dropped. i was totally shocked by her answer.

i said "xxxx" {no name mentioned for her sake} if you were a lady, you would swallow, and just not spit. Because a lady does not spit.

To me, giving a blowjob is a major arrousal. Major foreplay time, and nothing wrong with getting my desert before He does...lol

 

[EmpressFi]

Friends of mine in the "vanilla" world seem to be a little bit more turned off by giving head unless they are more "open" to change.

After seeing this thread, i asked a "vanilla friend" what her thoughts about giving them were. She said, and these are her words; "I am a lady, that is beneath me."

My jaw dropped. i was totally shocked by her answer.

i said "xxxx" {no name mentioned for her sake} if you were a lady, you would swallow, and just not spit. Because a lady does not spit.

To me, giving a blowjob is a major arrousal. Major foreplay time, and nothing wrong with getting my desert before He does...lol

I can kind of see where she'd think that way. I know my mom used to lecture me that ladies didnt french kiss because it was gross to let a man eat your face.. and oral sex was "disgusting"

 

[cherokee_dove]

I can kind of see where she'd think that way. I know my mom used to lecture me that ladies didnt french kiss because it was gross to let a man eat your face.. and oral sex was "disgusting"

lol...aren't you glad we are past that?

 

[DeservingBitch]

i said "xxxx" {no name mentioned for her sake} if you were a lady, you would swallow, and just not spit. Because a lady does not spit.

Hahaha. I have to remember that one.

 

[intothewoods]

I believe all guys say that to any girl that gives them head in order to get a repeat performance.

Mine does the opposite, because he knows how competitive I am. Well, baby, that was pretty good. You should really keep practicing...

 

[Shankara20]

Giving head though, I enjoy. It's my show, I control the action, I like getting the reaction I'm looking for, I like the teasing, I like the slobber mess and the sounds of it, etc....

Me as well - for the time I'm playing with a cock it belongs to me regardless of the person actually connected to the thing, more so if I'm going after it with my mouth.

 

[EmpressFi]

lol...aren't you glad we are past that?

yeah.. I never had the heart to tell her she was wrong.. on both counts...

 

[catalina_francisco]

One reason could be that they don't have a relationship, and/or do not have a history of having relationships, hence why they pay for it...in that case they are not likely to be getting a BJ often and regular without paying or having to put in a lot more effort and perhaps compromise in other areas they don't want to. As you said yourself, you are in the habit of insisting they return the favour at least in a regular relationship...some do not want to feel it is done as part of a bargain or compromise, so when they can just pay for it without strings attached, naturally it is going to feel so much better if they are not feeling particularly like dealing with anything other than getting their needs met.

Catalina

 

[cherokee_dove]

Hahaha. I have to remember that one.

Well, i am proud to call myself a lady. i give blowjobs and love them. i just don't spit afterwards. i savor the flavor.

 

[EmpressFi]

Well, i am proud to call myself a lady. i give blowjobs and love them. i just don't spit afterwards. i savor the flavor.

Spitters are quitters

 

[cherokee_dove]

Spitters are quitters

You got that right.

 

[celticsunspiral]

There was a special about teenagers and sex sometime in the last 3 years that discussed teen and there view about sex. They took 20 teens from 12 - 18 from all over the U.S. and they panel discussed current views on sex. At that time the main answer was, "I want to be a virgin when I marry so if a guy/girl wants I will go down on them but no penetration sex." My daughter was 14 at the time and I asked her about it. She said that she knew alot of kids who would do that at her school.

As an adult I have found that I really enjoy giving a bowjob, but when I was younger I hated it and I don't think very many of my friends did it either. My current SO had never really had a blowjob when we got together, basically straight vanilla (missionary), it took me years to get him not to blush when I would go down on him. I think he thought someone who gave blowjobs was a whore and did not want to treat me that way. What really turned him around though was me telling him how much I enjoyed it (almost had to beg) and feeling how wet it got me. There is just something about the textures of cock and balls.

Since I have been in monogamous relationships for the past 20 years it is hard for me to know what current trends are, but I just wanted to put my .02 worth in.

 

[DeservingBitch]

One reason could be that they don't have a relationship, and/or do not have a history of having relationships, hence why they pay for it...in that case they are not likely to be getting a BJ often and regular without paying or having to put in a lot more effort and perhaps compromise in other areas they don't want to. As you said yourself, you are in the habit of insisting they return the favour at least in a regular relationship...some do not want to feel it is done as part of a bargain or compromise, so when they can just pay for it without strings attached, naturally it is going to feel so much better if they are not feeling particularly like dealing with anything other than getting their needs met.

Catalina

Oh my. You wouldn't believe how many guys will NOT see a SP if she doesn't allow them to go down on her.

Apparently, women out there are as reluctant at giving head than at receiving head.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Oh my. You wouldn't believe how many guys will NOT see a SP if she doesn't allow them to go down on her.

Apparently, women out there are as reluctant at giving head than at receiving head.

LOL, I know a lot more about it than you think.

Catalina

 

[DeservingBitch]

LOL, I know a lot more about it than you think.

Catalina

Oh. I know that.

I was just reacting to your comment about guys maybe not wanting to 'reciprocate'. From my experience, it is far from being common, and most consider it a significant part of the GFE, like kissing.

That was something that actually surprised me when I got into this business. I didn't realize that eating pussy was so high on straight guys' list of 'must-do'.

 

[unpredictablebijou]

In my 40+ years of sexual activity I have experienced them a rare event indeed in each and every male/female relationship I have had including the BDSM partners

In my male/male play partners in is another story all together

I have found my female partners reluctant and not very skilled at bj's. Once again, male partners have been enthusiastic and talented. I do believe, INHO, that males give better head then females.

*sigh*

Sri Shankara-ji, with all due respect, 'round here, as you know, we would say them's fightin' words.

Or I could say the same thing in another way:

Oh yeah? C'mere.

BJ

 

[graceanne]

I don't enjoy giving blow jobs. That said, I still do them and K says I'm the best at giving head he's ever had (and he's had a LOT). *shrugs*

I know of women who consider BJ's 'kinky'. It's all I can do not to tell them what's really kinky. But all my friends (none of who are gay or kinky) consider blow jobs to be just part of sex. We all give head and even discuss technique and stuff.

 

[malinborn]

Spitters are quitters

http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d14/malinborn/Spitters_001-1.jpg

 

[cherokee_dove]

http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d14/malinborn/Spitters_001-1.jpg

OMG i want that shirt!

 

[TenJed69]

Can't say I've ever had a girl refuse to give head. I do agree, however, that girls generally suck at it (pun intended!). There seem to be two kinds of cocksucker: the girl who hardly puts it in her mouth and insists on licking it the whole time, and the type who just goes up and down on it/lets you face-fuck her. The latter is better tbh, licking is ok to start off with and get me going, but after that I need a proper suckjob. But going up and down is just BORING. You need to... I dunno, move around and stuff. Alter the sensation. And do something with your hands! Touch yourself, or rub my chest or grab my ass or something, don't just leave them hovering somewhere And for goodness sake it's not called SUCKing cock for nothing, you have to SUCK, not just put it in your mouth and move about.

Luckily, baby girl is learning

Definitely agree that enthusiasm is the key. Blowjobs are the one time I don't mind a girl faking it - moan, rub yourself, get into it, beg for my cum! And yep, she's got to swallow. And take it on the face. 50/50 split.

 

[DeservingBitch]

And take it on the face.

No, no, no.

I don't put 5$/ml cream on my face and invest some of my precious time to apply make-up to have it ruined by boy juice. To say nothing of the risk of some of it getting in my hair and ruining my hair-do on top of it.

Absolutely no fucking way.

 

[rida]

Could be cultural indeed.

It seems that American Vanilla's have much more hang ups on sex than their European counterpart. As for Asian, my only sample is Japanese, and they don't seem to me to be vanilla at all ... but than again my only sample is limited to sexually liberated folks, and don't have gf close enough to discuss such things.

Personally, since the time I came by giving a bj (pre-kinky days), I just love to give head. I know that I am not that good as I cannot DT (unless I'm very very aroused, and even so barely). Hubby was very pleased that I love it as bj were not part of his previous marriage (well, sex was not much part at all).

Now the fastest way to make me feel totally submissive and send me in sub-space is putting clamps on my breasts and making me suck on a dick. mmmmm

 

[TenJed69]

No, no, no.

I don't put 5$/ml cream on my face and invest some of my precious time to apply make-up to have it ruined by boy juice. To say nothing of the risk of some of it getting in my hair and ruining my hair-do on top of it.

Absolutely no fucking way.

See, the make up and hair is to convince me that you deserve my cum on your face. After I've put it there for you it's no longer required!

 

[satindesire]

See, the make up and hair is to convince me that you deserve my cum on your face. After I've put it there for you it's no longer required!

Except when make up and hair is part of her job. Then it's a big no no to mess with it.

Honestly, makeup is expensive. If Sir ruins it, I don't care if he's the Dom of All Doms, I'll STILL be pissed.