Blowjobs: A scarce commodity?

[SubKekiLee]

A community of dirty kinky pervs is probably not the most representative demographic for my question, but are blowjobs such a rare occurence?

From reading escort review boards and talking with clients, I get the impression that in the non-kinky world, there aren't a lot of girls who give head for free. WTF?

In my days of fucking men without pay, it never occured to me to NOT give them head. And I would send them packing if giving me head was not an option.

What's your take on this? From conversation with non-kinky friends and colleagues, or just from your own experience, are blowjobs such a scarce commodity???

Well personally I love to do this if when I was in a "nilla" relationship as long as my partner was into it, If my partner isnt into it meaning he is laying there like a cold dead fish of some sort that makes me uninspired to do it.

Oh yes. That's another thing that has me wonder.

Every single client I see can't stop talking about my 'skills' about sucking cock. I know I give good head, but I thought that what I was doing was fairly standards. So it leaves me wondering what it is that other women do (or don't do) to make my blowjobs stand out that much.

I mean, it's not that difficult to figure out how to give head, is it? Watch some porn, use your hands as well as your mouth/tongue, be attentive to your parter's reaction, give him dirty sexy eyes when sucking his cock, vary the sensations, and if you can, learn to DT. How hard can this be???

DB I agree with you learning a new skill or going the extra mile I belive is important for the person you love, Ive aquired new skills to pleasure Sir like DT and Swallowing cause he loves it and I love what it does to him the reaction I get from him when I do either..

AND Shank.. I must DISAGREE With you... MEN do not DO it better than WOMEN..

 

[EmpressFi]

AND Shank.. I must DISAGREE With you... MEN do not DO it better than WOMEN..

Some do. Or at least that was what a few of my patients used to say (they where male, bi-sexual, cross-dressing, prostitutes...)

 

[SubKekiLee]

Some do. Or at least that was what a few of my patients used to say (they where male, bi-sexual, cross-dressing, prostitutes...)

I guess thats a matter of personal opinion.. I dont belive so.. but thats my opinion and my opinion only.. So who knows ..

 

[snowbyte]

Head doesn't generally work for me. I've been on psych meds for too many years. Some women I've been with have been very enthusiastic about and occasionally it works, but in my BDSM relationships it been more of a psychological thing. And I do enjoy it much more in that context.

 

[twysted73]

*shields eyes from the light of a foreign topic*

What are these things called.."blow jobs"?

Can you imagine going 5 years in a marriage and she only did it twice?

Yeah....I'm jaded. So what.

And no, that's not the ONLY reason we divorced.

*laughs*

 

[Bandit58]

*shields eyes from the light of a foreign topic*

What are these things called.."blow jobs"?

Can you imagine going 5 years in a marriage and she only did it twice?

Yeah....I'm jaded. So what.

And no, that's not the ONLY reason we divorced.

*laughs*

My ex husband never got a blowjob from me, and we were married 23 years

I was very sexually inexperienced when we married and I thought the whole idea was gross http://www.tvaus.com.au/images/smiles/db_icon_oak.gif By the time my mind became a bit more open to the idea I didn't like him enough to want to do it, so it just never happened.

I gave my first bj when I was 43. I swallowed the first time I did it - lol I figured if I was going to do this I was going to go all the way To me it feels more intimate than intercourse. I had intercourse with my ex and hated it, but he never got a bj

With Sir it is very special. In fact the other day I had a small orgasm when He came in my mouth. I do get aroused and very wet from doing it, and when He uses the crop for "encouragement purposes" I get little pleasure shocks. I love when He grabs my hair and face fucks me....gee I wonder what my ex would think if he knew! *evil grin*

 

[Xelebes]

1-3% women who are uninterested in sex.
2-5% women who dislike having sex with men
2-5% women who are in relationships with other women, but don't mind having sex with men.

That means, there are 5-13% of women who are unavailable for blowjobs.

Then there is what we shall call "ramping asexuality" of women - women who's sexual desire declines as time goes by. This is a significant deviation from the mid point, which we'll call "middling sexuality".

Of those who are experiencing middling sexuality, you'll get a 50-50 chance of any sexual exploration, including blowjobs.

Then there are the ramping sexuality and high sexuality demographics, where sexual exploration is fair game.

And that is the dissection, so yeah, it is 50-50 chance that the women will cringe at the thought of a blowjob.

 

[sexikyttn]

Wow. Never thought of myself as that far deviant.

Yea, I love doing it, and I love it when the guy loves it.

 

[caela]

Like a lot of other folk have said I think (at least in America anyway) it's pretty rare among Vanilla women. Most of them that I know either won't do it at all or will only 'deign' to do it now and then and won't let the guy orgasm in their mouths. Of the second group my question would be why would the guy even want to bother getting head from them, they're unenthusiastic and they cut off before the finish. Seems like a waste of time for both parties to me.

Personally I love giving head. I definitely don't think I'm fantastic at it (not enough practice sadly) but I've had more than one guy tell me I while my technique might not be the best they've had my willingness to experiment and find out what they like and my enthusiasm pretty much made up for what I might lack in skill.

I'll keep giving them as long as the men I give them to keep enjoying them.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Blowjobs are foreplay for me. Very rarely do the men I am with orgasm during a BJ.

One thing I have learned from all the BJs I have given in my life is that every man is really really different in what they want and how they want the BJ.

Some prefer no-hands, some insist on a BJ/NJ combo
Some want their balls sucks, some absolutely hate any ball attention
Some like deep throat, some prefer most attention to their head
etc, etc..

I really appreciate when a man kindly guides me, or suggests how he wants his BJ.

As far as vanilla women not doing BJs, I think it is more a generational thing. I have found women over say 50 or so are much, much less likely to have ever given a BJ then women in their 30's.

 

[WriterDom]

I know this lawyer. He was one of my brother's best friends. Anyway, he comes home from work and asks his wife for a blow job.

He cums, and puts his cock away. Says, "Oh by the way, I'm divorcing you."

I wonder what effect the Bill/Monica much publicized blow job had on the kids?

 

[twysted73]

My ex husband never got a blowjob from me, and we were married 23 years

I was very sexually inexperienced when we married and I thought the whole idea was gross http://www.tvaus.com.au/images/smiles/db_icon_oak.gif By the time my mind became a bit more open to the idea I didn't like him enough to want to do it, so it just never happened.

I gave my first bj when I was 43. I swallowed the first time I did it - lol I figured if I was going to do this I was going to go all the way To me it feels more intimate than intercourse. I had intercourse with my ex and hated it, but he never got a bj

With Sir it is very special. In fact the other day I had a small orgasm when He came in my mouth. I do get aroused and very wet from doing it, and when He uses the crop for "encouragement purposes" I get little pleasure shocks. I love when He grabs my hair and face fucks me....gee I wonder what my ex would think if he knew! *evil grin*

I wish I could blame it on her being inexperienced.
Then I'd be able to understand.

No....she was a "taker" personality. Not a giver.

 

[Netzach]

I like to do it in a regular vanilla, so the fuck what, do me I do you kind of relationship. I really do. I've heard men complain about wives and it always struck me as sad and weird, obviously there's not trying to inspire head there if they just whine to her about it, but I chalk it up to my being wired sexually differently from most women I've ever talked to anyway.

I find myself doing it less often, with different intent, etc. than I used to simply because there's more power/gender stuff going on and I have so many MORE sexual options on the table than I did in my last serious relationship that it's just one of 800 great things to do.

BJ's rank lower these days than him taping up his parts, putting on panties and leaving a hole in the tape job kind of strategically so I can go down on him in this more feminine fashion - the similarity to pussy is very striking if the taping does the right stuff to his nuts and his cockhead.

TMI maybe, but that really *really* turns me on. Sucking cock is fun, but that's funner for all involved, despite the tape residue on his ass later.

I think completion in mouth is overrated, and it's more foreplay than main event for me, also. It's ok, I'm not a cum crazed maniac nor phobic about the stuff with my fluid-bonded partner (M only) I'm less interested in it than I was in my younger days. I didn't have great options like "fuck me and lick it out" at my fingertips or lick it off my tits or anything really good.

Oh as for men versus women, I have lovers who are bi and xdressers and such, and word on the street is that the best head is given by people of either gender who really really really love giving head. It's not a favor or a present or a gift for the person they're going down on, it's that person doing their most favorite thing in the universe. Usually it's guys that have this attitude, but it's not exclusive to them. "fun with cock" being the attitude.

If I wanted a cocksucking lesson I sure would watch GAY porn for it, not straight. I mean for a visual sense. I'd also ask someone who's capable of telling me about the best head he ever had and what was so great about it anyhow. Having the equipment you are working on gives a person an advantage sort of. The best head I've ever gotten has been from other women and from guys who were very into pussy at the same time as realizing that structurally we're not that weirdly different - treating the prospect like a foreign car not a space ship.

 

[DeservingBitch]

BJ's rank lower these days than him taping up his parts, putting on panties and leaving a hole in the tape job kind of strategically so I can go down on him in this more feminine fashion - the similarity to pussy is very striking if the taping does the right stuff to his nuts and his cockhead.

TMI maybe, but that really *really* turns me on. Sucking cock is fun, but that's funner for all involved, despite the tape residue on his ass later.

OK. This is officially hot. I want this. You think I should coax one of my client into taping his bits?

I think completion in mouth is overrated, and it's more foreplay than main event for me, also. It's ok, I'm not a cum crazed maniac nor phobic about the stuff with my fluid-bonded partner (M only) I'm less interested in it than I was in my younger days. I didn't have great options like "fuck me and lick it out" at my fingertips or lick it off my tits or anything really good.

Completion in mouth is certainly overrated, although I understand the sentiment from the receiver end. But in a vanilla setting, BJs for me are more than mere foreplay. Probably because I don't get much out of being penetrated.

Oh as for men versus women, I have lovers who are bi and xdressers and such, and word on the street is that the best head is given by people of either gender who really really really love giving head. It's not a favor or a present or a gift for the person they're going down on, it's that person doing their most favorite thing in the universe. Usually it's guys that have this attitude, but it's not exclusive to them. "fun with cock" being the attitude.

If I wanted a cocksucking lesson I sure would watch GAY porn for it, not straight. I mean for a visual sense. I'd also ask someone who's capable of telling me about the best head he ever had and what was so great about it anyhow. Having the equipment you are working on gives a person an advantage sort of. The best head I've ever gotten has been from other women and from guys who were very into pussy at the same time as realizing that structurally we're not that weirdly different - treating the prospect like a foreign car not a space ship.

Yes.

 

[HottieMama]

i have always given blow-jobs, even in vanilla relationships. It is just something i enjoy and my partners usually enjoy. i don't consider it kinky in the least.

As for men sucking dick better than women...That's the same as saying women eat better pussy than men. i believe in a lot of cases both are true because they posses the same genitals and are more familiar with the sensation. i will NEVER know what flicking my tongue on the head of his cock feels like..but another man would.

 

[EmpressFi]

i have always given blow-jobs, even in vanilla relationships. It is just something i enjoy and my partners usually enjoy. i don't consider it kinky in the least.

As for men sucking dick better than women...That's the same as saying women eat better pussy than men. i believe in a lot of cases both are true because they posses the same genitals and are more familiar with the sensation. i will NEVER know what flicking my tongue on the head of his cock feels like..but another man would.

This is so true. I'm always curious about what that feels like.. what orgasm feels like for them

 

[intothewoods]

I know this lawyer. He was one of my brother's best friends. Anyway, he comes home from work and asks his wife for a blow job.

He cums, and puts his cock away. Says, "Oh by the way, I'm divorcing you."

I wonder what effect the Bill/Monica much publicized blow job had on the kids?

I totally don't get this. Is it a joke? I'm confused...

 

[WriterDom]

Nope, not a joke. I guess the guy decided he wanted a divorce but chose to inform her after she gave him a blow job. Just out of meanness.

 

[Netzach]

i have always given blow-jobs, even in vanilla relationships. It is just something i enjoy and my partners usually enjoy. i don't consider it kinky in the least.

As for men sucking dick better than women...That's the same as saying women eat better pussy than men. i believe in a lot of cases both are true because they posses the same genitals and are more familiar with the sensation. i will NEVER know what flicking my tongue on the head of his cock feels like..but another man would.

I've always been of the opinion it must be like having someone flicking their tongue against my clit with the hood pulled upward. IE pretty good. Experimentation has confirmed this to be the case.

 

[naxalite0906]

I have never been with someone who I knew really enjoyed it. Yes, I got head, and I enjoyed giving it, but in both instances my partners didnt enjoy giving or receiving head.

Hopefully this will change soon. The thought of having a partner who is turned on by giving head really turns me on too. It is something I cannot wait to experience.

 

[simply_subbie]

I love giving head. Its the best when a man pulls me down and grabs ahold of my hair to direct me to the speed and depth that pleases him most.
Although I enjoy being dominated anyway, being ordered to suck cock will get me sopping wet in an instant.

I do think that blow jobs are more intimate than intercourse.

 

[FurryFury]

Guys always wanted to give me head.

I thought it was dirty and nasty but hey, if that's what they wanted to do, okay.

LOL!

Then I'd feel like I should reciprocate. I'm big into reciprocation.

That was when I didn't fuck though. Cause I was saving myself and all that shit.

Ugh.

Any hoo, giving head is normal from my POV, up to the point my ex ruined me on receiving and my current doesn't like receiving much either. That slowed the head action down round these parts quite a bit. Yep, that slowed it but didn't stop it. Never, ever stop it!

 

[faeriefire]

I don't know that this is much about categorizing people. Whether someone is kinky or not doesn't necessarily determine whether they like giving head. On some level there's appeal because of the potential for pleasing a partner, maybe the control. On the other there's a lot of social and especially religious stigma surrounding anything sexual.

I know with my initial experience I was much more concerned about still being respected after sex than I was about the particular things we tried. Because we both gave head it was ok, equal footing sorta. We did it I believe both as a trade (you do, then I do) lol and as a means of showing how much we cared and wanted to give pleasure. I honestly loved the experience.

That said it didn't negate my fear of admitting it because it had been drummed into my head that 'good girls don't like sex' and bj's were definately presented to me growing up as whorish and disgusting. Given the reassurance that it was ok, that this was something to experience together...then it wasn't about stigma or judgement, just about how much pleasure we could both experience.

I would think wanting/not wanting to give or receive a blowjob would be very dependent on how openminded people are to trying in the first place and then how the experience is received. Perspective really can make a huge difference and positive encouragement really can help someone take that first step. Now if someone's using it or trying to barter...methinks there are other issues there that go beyond one's like or dislike of giving/receiving bj's...

 

[sunshinelvr2]

My most recent vanilla relationship was with a guy who wanted blowjobs constantly, almost more than regular sex, which was annoying. The most recent D/s relationship was with someone who admitted he didn't like receiving blowjobs at all. Personally, I wouldn't say I enjoy it but sometimes giving one can be fun.

I think nowadays people are growing up more sexually conservative... being taught in school such things that oral sex is bad, germs germs germs, etc. Being in my 20's I can't say I've seen the transition at all but just from hearing stories from older friends and family, this seems to be the case.

 

[YourCaptor]

I think nowadays people are growing up more sexually conservative... being taught in school such things that oral sex is bad, germs germs germs, etc. Being in my 20's I can't say I've seen the transition at all but just from hearing stories from older friends and family, this seems to be the case.

Very true, I hear so many crazy story's about the 70's, it makes even me go

I think that was pre STDs