Daddy Doms and the girls who love them

[Guest]

What is it to me to be a Daddy Dom?

While I sit back and think about things in this lifestyle, I marvel at its diversity. There are so many different personalities and paths that each and every one of us take, and how we make it our own. There are people that find release and sanctuary in being beaten, whipped, and humiliated. There are people that find pleasure in posing nude, or being video taped or watched on web-cams. There are people that crave tying someone up, exploring other's bodies with floggers, knives, whips and crops. There are people that can only express themselves by gender crossing... dressing as someone of the opposite sex. While these are only the surface of the many different aspects of people in the BDSM lifestyle, it does show that we are all different. There is an energy, a passion, that is felt when it is true to someone's nature. This is who I am, I do not play at this, it is just a part of me.

I am a Daddy Dom. When some people first hear this, they instantly cringe and fear for their children's safety. First and foremost, age play has nothing to do with children. While my baby girl and I may role-play as her being quite younger than she actually is, there is no desire or "want" to be with someone who is twelve years old. In me there is a deep desire to comfort and protect her, to teach and guide her in life. My pleasure is best described in my want to bring out the best in her, that which I see every day that I look at her. I see what is deep, down inside of her and I work to bring that out in her, so that know her, can enjoy the fullest potential of what she has to give. I have children, as does she. I have no desires that include children, nor does she have any desires to be with her "father". She does call me Daddy, but in no way, shape, or form am I her Father. I will reward her when she has done well, and I will punish her when she has not. I, as a Daddy Dom, find my pleasure in the nurturing aspect of who I am. I feel the desire to teach and protect her. I get pleasure from seeing her accomplish things that she did not know she could do.

There are times that we engage in age-play, but on the day to day, she and I are both adults, and act as such. When she is upset, I hold and comfort her. When I touch her, she smiles at me with an innocence that warms my heart. When I have to punish her, I do so with an undersanding that sometimes it is required to teach her and remind her of the things that she needs to do. I love my baby girl with all my heart. I will protect and provide for her. I will teach her and punish her. I will love and cherish her, for she is mine.

original post from this page http://www.masterbane.com/daddy.html

Yes, this I like. I kind of flirt around here becasue while I definitely enjoy aspects of the BDSM lifestyle, I don't enjoy many aspects as well - specifically the ouchy part. Not do I necessarily get into the titles and formality with gear and such. However, one thing I have found is an enormous amount of trust in some of the very good relationships, and power exchange/offering - this goes along with the idea of "Daddy". I trust him, he teaches me, and the love is unconditional.

 

[sweetlouise]

Age play is more common than you might think. Or maybe not. I've never gone looking for it. But I do find it to be a common theme in many of the womenI've gotten comfortable enough to reach the phone sex level with.

It shouldn't be a surprise since the incest stories probably have more reads than all the other categories combined. Still, I've never been quite comfortable with this kind of play. It works in fantasy, but somehow "Fuck me harder, Daddy" isn't that inspiring in real time.

Well, i just love the older man, far more experienced and giving. Better at keeping me in line also. i say older man over someone my own age anyday.

 

[secrets_within]

Well, i just love the older man, far more experienced and giving. Better at keeping me in line also. i say older man over someone my own age anyday.

I've always appreciated the distinguished older gentlemen versus the younger ones. They have all been older then I till I met my current Daddy. He is four yrs my junior and in many ways a much better Daddy for me then some of the others

 

[secrets_within]

Weekend bump

Hope everyone has a great weekend and gets in some R and R too.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Well, i just love the older man, far more experienced and giving. Better at keeping me in line also. i say older man over someone my own age anyday.

Same here, i prefer older experienced men as well. More knowledge, experiences, understanding and so on. Don't think i could submit to men of my age, i am not intrested in men of my age or younger.

My man is 6 years older than me, maybe if he was a bit older he might even know how to keep me in line.

(I am thankful my Master does know how to do that. )

 

[Thane1234]

The existence of popular videos and other D/g related material on mainstream media such as youtube leads me to believe that the D/g fantasy is alive and well whether most people are willing to admit it or not.

Here is an example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rF27yiZ9Nw&mode=related&search=

On a personal note the D/g relationship (particularly the trust element and raw animal attraction that can occur between D and g during a punishment regardless of societal norms or mores) has begun to intrigue me lately.

I do not think I would desire a relationship based solely upon that dynamic however a healthy dose of D/g sprinkled in the mix might make the dish interesting indeed. In a similar vein, I would not want to season my food only with cumin despite the fact that I love cumin.

*thinks I should really go back to work*

 

[subkitty72]

The existence of popular videos and other D/g related material on mainstream media such as youtube leads me to believe that the D/g fantasy is alive and well whether most people are willing to admit it or not.

Here is an example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rF27yiZ9Nw&mode=related&search=

On a personal note the D/g relationship (particularly the trust element and raw animal attraction that can occur between D and g during a punishment regardless of societal norms or mores) has begun to intrigue me lately.

I do not think I would desire a relationship based solely upon that dynamic however a healthy dose of D/g sprinkled in the mix might make the dish interesting indeed. In a similar vein, I would not want to season my food only with cumin despite the fact that I love cumin.

*thinks I should really go back to work*

Cumin? C'mon now, Thane.

LMAO

 

[Thane1234]

Cumin? C'mon now, Thane.

LMAO

Well to be honest I like many different spices but cumin came to mind because I am craving fajitas. What is wrong with cumin?

 

[subkitty72]

Well to be honest I like many different spices but cumin cam to mind because I am craving fajitas. What is wrong with cumin?

Sorry. I read that wrong... mind is misbehaving.

 

[Mo_gradh]

Oh my that was funny. Guess we don't all think alike *giggles*

 

[Stegral]

question for the lil girls/gurls

I was wondering...
does one slip naturally into this type of relationship?
does it come "naturally" or can one "learn" this role?
I seem to be ok being called "baby girl/gurl" & "lil one"...
"daddy" just doesn't roll easily off my lips & throws me off a bit ...
I am not comfy sitting on "Daddys" lap (I am 5ft10 & 220 pounds)...
*Mind you "Daddy" isn't small either.. he is 6 ft 4 & almost 300 pounds*

I guess what I am asking is:
If you can learn to "Be" a "lil"
from those that learned it I would LOVE to hear how you did...
on here or in a PM if you care to share...

Thanks

 

[Mo_gradh]

I was wondering...
does one slip naturally into this type of relationship?
does it come "naturally" or can one "learn" this role?
I seem to be ok being called "baby girl/gurl" & "lil one"...
"daddy" just doesn't roll easily off my lips & throws me off a bit ...
I am not comfy sitting on "Daddys" lap (I am 5ft10 & 220 pounds)...
*Mind you "Daddy" isn't small either.. he is 6 ft 4 & almost 300 pounds*

I guess what I am asking is:
If you can learn to "Be" a "lil"
from those that learned it I would LOVE to hear how you did...
on here or in a PM if you care to share...

Thanks

I'd have to say there's always been a part of me that was a little girl. I volunteered for years with kids, in the local schools, girl guides etc, so that always allowed that side of me to be present .

When I started out in D/s, I didn't know anything about D/d relationships I just knew that for me something was missing in the "standard" Dom/sub relationship. I was introduced to D/g by a mentor friend and have to say it's been great. The word Daddy didn't always roll off my tongue to well in the begining. It's something that became more comfy as time rolled on. I think for some it's the taboo associated with calling One, Daddy that makes them a tad squimish.

Being a lil is so much more than just sitting on a Daddy's lap (tho I do enjoy that) Have you read much on Daddy/lil girls? Or talked with any Daddy/lil girls?

Feel free to pm me if you wish. We can talk more.

*hugs her*

 

[SLUT13]

well...i wasnt going to reply to this post, cuz i seem to be one of few into this kind of thing..but me and my current partner are into the "daddy-lil girl" roleplay...i love it. I love being "humiliated" in bed, such as name calling, and having names called to me and adding the lil girl image to it..really gets me off...im not weird, im waaaay past that i kno...but i love the daddy game. i call him daddy all the time.. and ironicly, he calls me princess...and it gets me off everytime...especially in a rape fantasy... ya...so now maybe its my turn to go run n hide. *shrugs*

 

[Stegral]

Being a lil is so much more than just sitting on a Daddy's lap (tho I do enjoy that) Have you read much on Daddy/lil girls? Or talked with any Daddy/lil girls?

Feel free to pm me if you wish. We can talk more.

*hugs her*

I have read for days all the sites I could find..
a few on angelfire were awesome...
I still go back to the ones I favorited...
Haven't actually "spoke to" any lil's yet one on one... just on-line
I was sent a few links to different threads that I read over...
I guess it will be something to work on if He & I decide to continue.
we have severly conflicting schedules it seems so we don't see each other enough to really solidify anything.
maybe it is Fate's way of telling me "not now"
or "keep looking, He is for another"
I don't know.. I keep putting time in where I shouldn't.
keep picking the wrong fellas to hand over my emotions to...

 

[Jack_Slade]

I'm very happy to have found this thread

I have a great on-line relationship with a "daughter" in the UK that has been going for a few months now. The only real problem is the time zone differences, she's 6 hours ahead of me, but we manage. I'd love to find someone "local" to me to do this in real life, though.

 

[Harmony_1985]

I'm very happy to have found this thread

I have a great on-line relationship with a "daughter" in the UK that has been going for a few months now. The only real problem is the time zone differences, she's 6 hours ahead of me, but we manage. I'd love to find someone "local" to me to do this in real life, though.

Love you too Daddy!

 

[ataxia.girl]

i spended 3 whole nights with my Daddy last week. We did lots of stuff. Sometimes was owie but he said it had to be done. i got a doll and a teddy bear and i was supposed to get a chocolate milkshake for sucking on his thing but the ice cream place closed.

He is big and i am little

 

[Essene]

I'd have to say there's always been a part of me that was a little girl. I volunteered for years with kids, in the local schools, girl guides etc, so that always allowed that side of me to be present .

When I started out in D/s, I didn't know anything about D/d relationships I just knew that for me something was missing in the "standard" Dom/sub relationship. I was introduced to D/g by a mentor friend and have to say it's been great. The word Daddy didn't always roll off my tongue to well in the begining. It's something that became more comfy as time rolled on. I think for some it's the taboo associated with calling One, Daddy that makes them a tad squimish.

Being a lil is so much more than just sitting on a Daddy's lap (tho I do enjoy that) Have you read much on Daddy/lil girls? Or talked with any Daddy/lil girls?


*hugs her*

You know, there is a - I don't want to say taboo, per se, about it, but I think there is such a mystery as to how and why these sorts of relationships happen. Sometimes I listen to what I hear about it, and I think it sounds almost sort of appealing, and other times I'm like "That would be far to farcical, and weird for me. I could never call anyone other than my father "daddy".

But still, I'm curious. Could you expand upon the differences that you've noticed between your D/s relationshps as compared to your D/d relationships?

 

[ataxia.girl]

But still, I'm curious. Could you expand upon the differences that you've noticed between your D/s relationshps as compared to your D/d relationships?

A few things being a little is to me:

i am allowed to think i could and would do absolutely anything to please him even if i couldn't. i am encouraged to believe it in fact. i do not have to worry about whether i could stay nailed in a box with a metronome for 3 days, i can just believe i could do it and he will take care of me by never asking for anything i couldn't handle.

i am allowed to expect things, want things and ask for things. i do not have to try to be super sub. i can want and need and pout and ask questions. As a little girl simple explanations are best. Rewards too are easier to accept as a little girl. Children do not grapple with big questions about whether or not they deserve something. If Daddy gives me a present my deserving it is taken for granted. Bribery can be really fun.

i am not a failure if i don't get turned on but still want to be used. Its okay not to like it. This is HUGE for me. i absolutely have to be used to be content and peaceful but i often don't really get turned on during an encounter or even really like it. A lot of the time it feels more like an endurance test. As a little girl i have no preconceived ideas that i should like it so i just feel it however i feel it and do as i am told. He is big enough to accept me as i am and use me just the same.

 

[Zoots_owner]

You know, there is a - I don't want to say taboo, per se, about it, but I think there is such a mystery as to how and why these sorts of relationships happen.

I find is surprising that they aren't more common.

While everyone has a different take on D/s, I think that a couple of traits are very common in subs:
(1) Like/want/need to be used, and to make others feel good
(2) Don't want to be burdened with worries and responsibility all the time, want to be taken care of

For those who are very into (2), a Daddy type might be perfect.

I totally understand how people squick at the incestuous thing, but a lot of the time that's completely absent. I think of it more like my G-G-grandparents. They had an age gap of somewhere around 25 years. There was nothing unusual about it then, and age gaps like that had been common for many centuries. I remember reading this book which was written by a wealthy Parisian merchant in the late middle ages, telling his wife, who was maybe 15 or 16 (he was closer to 50) how to handle the day-to-day running of his household. The mentorship in the relationship, and his patient, protective attitude were really quite sweet, I thought. Many relationships have components of male protectiveness incorporated into them, but in relationships like that one it's at a whole different level. I can easily see the appeal.

Then again, my girl's young enough that she could be my daughter, so you have to expect a little bias.

 

[cherokee_dove]

First off, to makes things clear; i am not putting you down. i am just confused, and want to ask an honest question.

I've always appreciated the distinguished older gentlemen versus the younger ones. They have all been older then I till I met my current Daddy. He is four yrs my junior and in many ways a much better Daddy for me then some of the others

See, this is the part that gets me. Yes, i can see a Daddy Dom (which mine was, way back when) as being an older Gentleman.

Teaching and disciplining, and the comfort He gave; was what originally drew me into BDSM.

But He was 10 years older than me, and had been involved with BDSM for quite some time. So He knew where His mindset was, as far as the difference between me (His sub), and His real life daughter; who was just a year or so younger than me.

We had talked about if she was the reason behind Him wanting a D/g relationship. And He had said no, that he had been raised never to do incest.

Which to me, i respected that; because that is how i was raised.

The point being, He was older than me.

My question is, how can a Daddy Dom be younger than His girl; and there not be a sense of confusion involved?

Cause right now, even thinking of this situation; i am confused as to how that could work. With him being younger?

 

[ryanslavemaster]

I'm keeping my mouth shut, but the imagination is running wild.

came here BBD

 

[purrrrrrr]

First off, to makes things clear; i am not putting you down. i am just confused, and want to ask an honest question.



See, this is the part that gets me. Yes, i can see a Daddy Dom (which mine was, way back when) as being an older Gentleman.

Teaching and disciplining, and the comfort He gave; was what originally drew me into BDSM.

But He was 10 years older than me, and had been involved with BDSM for quite some time. So He knew where His mindset was, as far as the difference between me (His sub), and His real life daughter; who was just a year or so younger than me.

We had talked about if she was the reason behind Him wanting a D/g relationship. And He had said no, that he had been raised never to do incest.

Which to me, i respected that; because that is how i was raised.

The point being, He was older than me.

My question is, how can a Daddy Dom be younger than His girl; and there not be a sense of confusion involved?

Cause right now, even thinking of this situation; i am confused as to how that could work. With him being younger?

But to me its nothing to do with age its to do with someone nurturing someone who needs nurturing .

I've been with men who have been younger than me but not only looked older but quite often acted older and wanted to protect me .


Sorry if this came out as garbled gobble de gook but I'm in a bit of a rush and it made sense to me .

 

[Daddyslilpet]

My question is, how can a Daddy Dom be younger than His girl; and there not be a sense of confusion involved?

Cause right now, even thinking of this situation; i am confused as to how that could work. With him being younger?

It is all in the mindset. My Daddy Dom is a year younger than me but age isn't a factor for us. What matters is that he's the Dom and I'm his girl that he nutures and protects. It is the most natural thing to us no confusion at all.

 

[SexiSky]

As a teenager i have been abused by my daddy and i did not like it but got used to it