Daddy Doms and the girls who love them

[DystopiaNoir]

I know that in my own (very limited) experience, having a "Daddy" is very much a turn on. It doesn't even have anything to do with incest, or shock, or anything like that. For me, "Daddy" conjures an image of a strong, mature, responsible partner who can comfort me when I'm sad, punish me when I'm bad, and love me for who I am.

Is it really so unnatural? Studies have shown that if we have a good relationship with our fathers we wind up trying to find mates that resemble that person. It's not much of a leap that we try to replicate those same emotions of comfort and security with someone else.

Maybe it's just a manifestation of my own insecurities, wanting to be with someone who is older, more experienced, confident. I guess that to some degree, "Daddy" is more of a loving figure than "boyfriend" or "Dom" or what have you. I guess it's the feeling that even if you've done something wrong Daddy will always love you and take care of you.

I have a so-far-online Daddy/Dom and he makes me feel very much loved while at the same time scaring me half to death, lol. Oh, the things he's gonna do to me....

 

[HottieMama]

I guess it's the feeling that even if you've done something wrong Daddy will always love you and take care of you.

Exactly...Daddys "love" their little ones no matter what.

 

[Softouch911]

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Maybe it's just a manifestation of my own insecurities, wanting to be with someone who is older, more experienced, confident. I guess that to some degree, "Daddy" is more of a loving figure than "boyfriend" or "Dom" or what have you.

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I'm not too sure what you mean by this, but as stated we'll have to part ways here. I'm Daddy, but I'm very much the dominant and while I can be a "loving figure" quite often, that's not what I have to offer .... Last night, Daddy offered a 30" rattan cane with bites followed by warm fuzzies. We both like it all.

I guess some are all about warm fuzzies, and sometimes that is needed, but lots of time that's just spoiling her. It's D/s and it's all about me. Sorry, but

Respectfully, ST

 

[secrets_within]

mid afternoon bump

Hi everyone!

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

When i've first heard about daddy/little girl relationships i thought it was about incest etc and i couldnt imagine i could ever call my Dom like that, but after i have read this i changed my mind. I really love this explanation of who Daddy Dom's are, it made me love my Master more and cherish what we have


What is it to me to be a Daddy Dom?

While I sit back and think about things in this lifestyle, I marvel at its diversity. There are so many different personalities and paths that each and every one of us take, and how we make it our own. There are people that find release and sanctuary in being beaten, whipped, and humiliated. There are people that find pleasure in posing nude, or being video taped or watched on web-cams. There are people that crave tying someone up, exploring other's bodies with floggers, knives, whips and crops. There are people that can only express themselves by gender crossing... dressing as someone of the opposite sex. While these are only the surface of the many different aspects of people in the BDSM lifestyle, it does show that we are all different. There is an energy, a passion, that is felt when it is true to someone's nature. This is who I am, I do not play at this, it is just a part of me.

I am a Daddy Dom. When some people first hear this, they instantly cringe and fear for their children's safety. First and foremost, age play has nothing to do with children. While my baby girl and I may role-play as her being quite younger than she actually is, there is no desire or "want" to be with someone who is twelve years old. In me there is a deep desire to comfort and protect her, to teach and guide her in life. My pleasure is best described in my want to bring out the best in her, that which I see every day that I look at her. I see what is deep, down inside of her and I work to bring that out in her, so that know her, can enjoy the fullest potential of what she has to give. I have children, as does she. I have no desires that include children, nor does she have any desires to be with her "father". She does call me Daddy, but in no way, shape, or form am I her Father. I will reward her when she has done well, and I will punish her when she has not. I, as a Daddy Dom, find my pleasure in the nurturing aspect of who I am. I feel the desire to teach and protect her. I get pleasure from seeing her accomplish things that she did not know she could do.

There are times that we engage in age-play, but on the day to day, she and I are both adults, and act as such. When she is upset, I hold and comfort her. When I touch her, she smiles at me with an innocence that warms my heart. When I have to punish her, I do so with an undersanding that sometimes it is required to teach her and remind her of the things that she needs to do. I love my baby girl with all my heart. I will protect and provide for her. I will teach her and punish her. I will love and cherish her, for she is mine.

original post from this page http://www.masterbane.com/daddy.html

 

[Daddyslilpet]

There tends to be a common misconception that Daddy/girl relationships are about incest for some reason I don't understand.

Someone in another thread stated that because they have children that was the reason the D/g dynamic "squicked" them out. Again that just totally baffles me. Why would having children of your own matter? I mean it isn't like we are going to bring our children into our sex life. They have nothing to do with this (and yes I have 3 children). My children never enter into my thinking when I am intimate with my Husband/Daddy and I know they don't enter into His thinking either. At those times it is all about US, not them.

I just don't understand why so many people inside the BDSM community are so judgmental of each other's kinks. I guess I'll never understand that.

 

[Netzach]

Being squicked by something is not judgemental. I am squicked by penile cuttings and I don't even have a dick. I am squicked by anyone who reminds me of my mother playing with me - it's not because I'm fixated on her sexually, it's because the association is going to trip my brain in a negative direction. There are guys who find my mom incredibly hot, good for them. I'm not in the habit of going "ew me no way, gross" I just figured with four threads simultaneously holding up the super greatness of one relational style if I'm one of like 3 people in the SM world it just doesn't do much for.

 

[secrets_within]

I just don't understand why so many people inside the BDSM community are so judgmental of each other's kinks. I guess I'll never understand that.

One of my very first post when I came into the lifestyle and then later discovered I'm a Daddys lil girl was all about what you just mentioned.

That many in the lifestyle are the first to scream when vanilla's talk about us (the BDSM lifestyle) in the most degrading fashions or how abnormal we are yet they are the same people who do the very same things to others whose kinks may not fall quite inside what they consider BDSM-D/s normality.

All I can say if it's very sad when even inside the BDSM world we have such prejudices amongst those that hate the same things done/said about them.

*Those that live in glass houses should not throw stones, methinks

 

[BiBunny]

One of my very first post when I came into the lifestyle and then later discovered I'm a Daddys lil girl was all about what you just mentioned.

That many in the lifestyle are the first to scream when vanilla's talk about us (the BDSM lifestyle) in the most degrading fashions or how abnormal we are yet they are the same people who do the very same things to others whose kinks may not fall quite inside what they consider BDSM-D/s normality.

All I can say if it's very sad when even inside the BDSM world we have such prejudices amongst those that hate the same things done/said about them.

*Those that live in glass houses should not throw stones, methinks

Disliking something is not being judgmental. I love ageplay, personally, but the D/g thing annoys the living shit out of me. "Prejudices" is a damned strong word for something I just find irritating as hell.

 

[HottieMama]

Disliking something is not being judgmental. I love ageplay, personally, but the D/g thing annoys the living shit out of me. "Prejudices" is a damned strong word for something I just find irritating as hell.

And it is totally your right to find it irritating. i find Gors irritating. That's not a prejudice..it's an opinion based on my likes/dislikes.

FTR, i think this forum of Lit is one of the most accepting i have ever encountered.

 

[BiBunny]

And it is totally your right to find it irritating. i find Gors irritating. That's not a prejudice..it's an opinion based on my likes/dislikes.

FTR, i think this forum of Lit is one of the most accepting i have ever encountered.

On the irritating scale of 1-10, D/g is maybe a 4 or a 5, while Gor is probably, like, a 13 or something.

And I think you made my point better than I did. Do I like the D/g thing? No. Am I a horrible, judgmental person because I don't care for it? Nope. To each his or her own. It's just not my cup of tea.

I'm involved in what's probably best described as Master/pet or Owner/pet. Some people find this incredibly annoying, too. Amongst those engaged deeply in the Master/slave dynamic, I'm most likely viewed as a spoiled brat, and B.'s viewed as an overly indulgent Master at best and a spineless wimp at worst. It's just our flavor, though. He'd rather me sit around and talk to him or spend time in bed with him than clean his house while he watches TV. (Pets are supposed to be entertaining, y'know?) I do find myself cleaning the house for him when he's not around, though.

Still, though, even if my Master/pet dynamic annoys someone, and even if that person thinks I'm *gasp* not a real sub because of it, I'm not going to go out on a limb and say that person is prejudiced against my dynamic. Um, is persecution the new black nowadays?

 

[subkitty72]

And it is totally your right to find it irritating. i find Gors irritating. That's not a prejudice..it's an opinion based on my likes/dislikes.

FTR, i think this forum of Lit is one of the most accepting i have ever encountered.

What is a Gor?

 

[BiBunny]

What is a Gor?

I won't give my personal opinions about it. I'll just leave you a Wiki link.

 

[secrets_within]

FTR, i think this forum of Lit is one of the most accepting i have ever encountered.

I agree with you Lit is very open and accepting.

I said one of my first post, I never said it was here (it was on msn communities actually)

I also have personal dislikes as do we all. There are those for whom it is a matter of much more however and that is the sad part.

 

[CutieMouse]

What is a Gor?

A flavor of BDSM based on a series of sci-fi novels from the 60s. All men are superior, all women are slaves, and there's lots of formality stuff in it. If you look at the Gorean forums at collarme.com, you'll see women speak of themselves in third person, etc.

 

[secrets_within]

On the irritating scale of 1-10, D/g is maybe a 4 or a 5, while Gor is probably, like, a 13 or something.

And I think you made my point better than I did. Do I like the D/g thing? No. Am I a horrible, judgmental person because I don't care for it? Nope. To each his or her own. It's just not my cup of tea.

I'm involved in what's probably best described as Master/pet or Owner/pet. Some people find this incredibly annoying, too. Amongst those engaged deeply in the Master/slave dynamic, I'm most likely viewed as a spoiled brat, and B.'s viewed as an overly indulgent Master at best and a spineless wimp at worst. It's just our flavor, though. He'd rather me sit around and talk to him or spend time in bed with him than clean his house while he watches TV. (Pets are supposed to be entertaining, y'know?) I do find myself cleaning the house for him when he's not around, though.

Still, though, even if my Master/pet dynamic annoys someone, and even if that person thinks I'm *gasp* not a real sub because of it, I'm not going to go out on a limb and say that person is prejudiced against my dynamic. Um, is persecution the new black nowadays?

Brats are kinda kewl *giggles hard*

Yeps pets can be most entertaining

 

[HottieMama]

On the irritating scale of 1-10, D/g is maybe a 4 or a 5, while Gor is probably, like, a 13 or something.

And I think you made my point better than I did. Do I like the D/g thing? No. Am I a horrible, judgmental person because I don't care for it? Nope. To each his or her own. It's just not my cup of tea.

I'm involved in what's probably best described as Master/pet or Owner/pet. Some people find this incredibly annoying, too. Amongst those engaged deeply in the Master/slave dynamic, I'm most likely viewed as a spoiled brat, and B.'s viewed as an overly indulgent Master at best and a spineless wimp at worst. It's just our flavor, though. He'd rather me sit around and talk to him or spend time in bed with him than clean his house while he watches TV. (Pets are supposed to be entertaining, y'know?) I do find myself cleaning the house for him when he's not around, though.

Still, though, even if my Master/pet dynamic annoys someone, and even if that person thinks I'm *gasp* not a real sub because of it, I'm not going to go out on a limb and say that person is prejudiced against my dynamic. Um, is persecution the new black nowadays?

ROFL...at the Gor comments. Thank god this isn't CollarMe or i would have been stoned by now. Everyone has to do what works for them in their relationship. i used to be in a Yahoo group for D/g relationships. Got a ton of judgment from them because LC and i aren't exclusively D/g, and there is no elements of sexual ageplay in our relationship. Went so far as to tell me i couldn't possibly identify as his little one if i wasn't **insert child age here** when we were "intimate." Ummm...who is ANYONE to tell me how i must act in my own fucking relationship other than the person i am involved with. i'm happy..He's happy...fuck everyone else...


We will now return to acceptable Daddy/girl fluffiness.

 

[secrets_within]

A flavor of BDSM based on a series of sci-fi novels from the 60s. All men are superior, all women are slaves, and there's lots of formality stuff in it. If you look at the Gorean forums at collarme.com, you'll see women speak of themselves in third person, etc.

Yes, there lots on collarme, tho i don't see many here *hmmm*

 

[BiBunny]

A flavor of BDSM based on a series of sci-fi novels from the 60s. All men are superior, all women are slaves, and there's lots of formality stuff in it. If you look at the Gorean forums at collarme.com, you'll see women speak of themselves in third person, etc.

*Cough, "Overbearing, pompous, self-absorbed jackasses" *cough*

I wouldn't last ten seconds in a Gorean household.

 

[HottieMama]

A flavor of BDSM based on a series of sci-fi novels from the 60s. All men are superior, all women are slaves, and there's lots of formality stuff in it. If you look at the Gorean forums at collarme.com, you'll see women speak of themselves in third person, etc.

Yep, "slave speech" based on life on the FICTIONAL planet Gor.

Today is the completely wrong day for me to make any further comments on the issue of slave speech.

 

[secrets_within]

ROFL...at the Gor comments. Thank god this isn't CollarMe or i would have been stoned by now. Everyone has to do what works for them in their relationship. i used to be in a Yahoo group for D/g relationships. Got a ton of judgment from them because LC and i aren't exclusively D/g, and there is no elements of sexual ageplay in our relationship. Went so far as to tell me i couldn't possibly identify as his little one if i wasn't **insert child age here** when we were "intimate." Ummm...who is ANYONE to tell me how i must act in my own fucking relationship other than the person i am involved with. i'm happy..He's happy...fuck everyone else...


We will now return to acceptable Daddy/girl fluffiness.

Dont you just go grrrr at that you aren't sub if............ statement omg, i think that the one i dislike most.


*looks around for fluff*

 

[subkitty72]

*Cough, "Overbearing, pompous, self-absorbed jackasses" *cough*

I wouldn't last ten seconds in a Gorean household.

Don't hold back, Bunny. Tell me how you really feel about it...

Thanks for all the information! Sheesh, y'all are making me so smart about this BDSM stuff...

 

[secrets_within]

*Cough, "Overbearing, pompous, self-absorbed jackasses" *cough*

I wouldn't last ten seconds in a Gorean household.

*hands her a cough drop and a kleenex*

I wouldn't either, lol

 

[HottieMama]

Dont you just go grrrr at that you aren't sub if............ statement omg, i think that the one i dislike most.


*looks around for fluff*

i go grrrrr....when anyone tries to tell me how to live my life. i've been called everything from not a sub, to a liar, to a whore, player, etc... i've learned to let it roll off my back....

Now where the fuck is that fluff???

 

[secrets_within]

Now where the fuck is that fluff???

I think i might have some left in the dryer, will that do? Cuz i didn't see any others around the room. Anyone got any Marshmallow Fluff maybe?