Discreet Bi Women...

[SassySuzie]

Thanks for sharing your story SS. It's good to hear other peoples stories because it helps in decision making! I think you're right on the "Had I not, I believe I would still be longing for the experience." I'm in that situation right now. I guess time will tell...

...and if only we had more patience. It's not one of my virtues....

 

[Minouners]

...and if only we had more patience. It's not one of my virtues....

It's not one of mine either.... thought I've tried time and time again...

sigh... what is a girl to do?

 

[Minouners]

So I had a weird dream last night and maybe you guys can help me figure out what it means. Before I say my dream I must let you know that lately I've had a lesbian friend keep hitting on me and hinting to leave my bf on a daily basis. Keep in mind she is not my type at all...

The setting was in a basement of a house. My lesbian friend was there. She pulled me to a secluded room and took off her pj pants. I told her that I've never been with a woman before and she said it's ok.

I started pulling my pants down as well and as soon as we kissed, I put my pants back on and said sorry I can't do this. But then... as I walked out of the room, I thought to myself, stop being such a big baby and giver. So I went in, pushed her on the bed, pulled down her pants and started playing with her clit. I told her that I wasn't sure if it was feeling good or not but she said, don't worry, I'll let you know if it's not.

So little time passed and she ejaculated a big amount of liquid. As she finished she said, yeah, it's been a while....

And that's that... I woke up feeling pretty uhmmm confused I guess is the word. Anyone think this has any meaning or that I shouldn't have had Indian food the night before?

 

[dizzylia]

So I had a weird dream last night and maybe you guys can help me figure out what it means. Before I say my dream I must let you know that lately I've had a lesbian friend keep hitting on me and hinting to leave my bf on a daily basis. Keep in mind she is not my type at all...

The setting was in a basement of a house. My lesbian friend was there. She pulled me to a secluded room and took off her pj pants. I told her that I've never been with a woman before and she said it's ok.

I started pulling my pants down as well and as soon as we kissed, I put my pants back on and said sorry I can't do this. But then... as I walked out of the room, I thought to myself, stop being such a big baby and giver. So I went in, pushed her on the bed, pulled down her pants and started playing with her clit. I told her that I wasn't sure if it was feeling good or not but she said, don't worry, I'll let you know if it's not.

So little time passed and she ejaculated a big amount of liquid. As she finished she said, yeah, it's been a while....

And that's that... I woke up feeling pretty uhmmm confused I guess is the word. Anyone think this has any meaning or that I shouldn't have had Indian food the night before?

I think your subconscious is curious as hell as to what it would really be like, so it's trying to make something up in the meantime.

 

[Minouners]

I think your subconscious is curious as hell as to what it would really be like, so it's trying to make something up in the meantime.

That makes sense. Thanks for your input!

 

[dizzylia]

That makes sense. Thanks for your input!

And it would make sense that it incorporated your lesbian friend to do so, as she's already mentioned there could be possibilities there.

 

[aussie_ella]

Interesting dream!

So I had a weird dream last night and maybe you guys can help me figure out what it means. Before I say my dream I must let you know that lately I've had a lesbian friend keep hitting on me and hinting to leave my bf on a daily basis. Keep in mind she is not my type at all...

The setting was in a basement of a house. My lesbian friend was there. She pulled me to a secluded room and took off her pj pants. I told her that I've never been with a woman before and she said it's ok.

I started pulling my pants down as well and as soon as we kissed, I put my pants back on and said sorry I can't do this. But then... as I walked out of the room, I thought to myself, stop being such a big baby and giver. So I went in, pushed her on the bed, pulled down her pants and started playing with her clit. I told her that I wasn't sure if it was feeling good or not but she said, don't worry, I'll let you know if it's not.

So little time passed and she ejaculated a big amount of liquid. As she finished she said, yeah, it's been a while....

And that's that... I woke up feeling pretty uhmmm confused I guess is the word. Anyone think this has any meaning or that I shouldn't have had Indian food the night before?

What an amazing dream Minouners! Very intriguing that she ejaculated....like a guy would. It doesn't sound like it felt very sexy to you, more like a fear that needed to be faced, or a task you must accomplish in your life path. Maybe you're building this up to be far bigger in your life than it deserves to be?
I mean, if this thing, this experience that you seek, is becoming such a big part of your psyche and your daily mental time, you really need to take some steps to satisfy it. Perhaps the time has come to save up some cash and go and see an escort? I don't say that lightly, but it appears your need to experience being with a woman is far outdoing all the underlying concerns about relationships, feelings, fears and what ifs. I don't know if this is making any sense, but maybe the experience of being with a woman has become like bungy jumping, swimming with sharks, hiking the Himalayas....something you want to do before you die?

Which simplifies it all somewhat.

BTW, this thread truly rocks.

 

[Minouners]

What an amazing dream Minouners! Very intriguing that she ejaculated....like a guy would. It doesn't sound like it felt very sexy to you, more like a fear that needed to be faced, or a task you must accomplish in your life path. Maybe you're building this up to be far bigger in your life than it deserves to be?
I mean, if this thing, this experience that you seek, is becoming such a big part of your psyche and your daily mental time, you really need to take some steps to satisfy it. Perhaps the time has come to save up some cash and go and see an escort? I don't say that lightly, but it appears your need to experience being with a woman is far outdoing all the underlying concerns about relationships, feelings, fears and what ifs. I don't know if this is making any sense, but maybe the experience of being with a woman has become like bungy jumping, swimming with sharks, hiking the Himalayas....something you want to do before you die?

Which simplifies it all somewhat.

BTW, this thread truly rocks.

I think it is taking up more of my daily mental time then it really should. It could be the fact that I've been sick and at home with nothing to occupy my mind or just the fact, like you mentioned, that I really want to satisfy.

I think that I'm just being a big loser to think so much of it and you're right, it is weird that she ejaculated like a man... so to speak. I also think that it wasn't very sexy because I am not physically attracted to this lesbian friend of mine. Like I mean, she really doesn't. Her cousin though, that's a different story!

I guess what I need to do is obvious but I just need the courage to go through with it. If I didn't have a bf, this wouldn't be an issue at all. But, I am in a relationship and do love him so that complicates it a whole heck of a lot!

It's really annoying to be honest.... Oh well, that's life sometimes.

And you're right, this thread does rock!

 

[dizzylia]

I think it is taking up more of my daily mental time then it really should. It could be the fact that I've been sick and at home with nothing to occupy my mind or just the fact, like you mentioned, that I really want to satisfy.

I think that I'm just being a big loser to think so much of it and you're right, it is weird that she ejaculated like a man... so to speak. I also think that it wasn't very sexy because I am not physically attracted to this lesbian friend of mine. Like I mean, she really doesn't. Her cousin though, that's a different story!

I guess what I need to do is obvious but I just need the courage to go through with it. If I didn't have a bf, this wouldn't be an issue at all. But, I am in a relationship and do love him so that complicates it a whole heck of a lot!

It's really annoying to be honest.... Oh well, that's life sometimes.

And you're right, this thread does rock!

If you explained to him that it is important to you to explore this fascination, do you think he would allow that? Or would he freak out?

Before I got married, I told my fiance about my attraction to women. He basically laughed at the thought and discarded it, though he said it was just a part of what made me "me". I didn't think much of it at the time.

After the marriage, I once made a very vague comment about an actress in a movie we'd just seen, and he flipped out. I hadn't realized how insecure it made him feel. And I think he believed that after we were married, I would be "fixed" or something.

After that point, whenever I was out of the house with anyone, whether it was a group of friends or a study group, he got all paranoid and possessive. It was basically a trust issue. It became more and more apparent that he didn't trust me with anyone anymore, since I was still attracted to women after experiencing his amazing (yeah, right) lovemaking. I never cheated on him, but he'd already decided I was.

... Sorry, I'm probably not making much sense. I just wanted to share to show how important it is to both discover and to communication your thoughts and feelings. Especially if you think you may end up marrying your man. If there are issues now, it's better to start working on them early, because a pair of rings and vows won't fix it.


-dizzy

 

[SassySuzie]

... Sorry, I'm probably not making much sense. I just wanted to share to show how important it is to both discover and to communication your thoughts and feelings. Especially if you think you may end up marrying your man. If there are issues now, it's better to start working on them early, because a pair of rings and vows won't fix it.


-dizzy

This is so very true. If you can't share who you really are, prior to marriage, that will not change afterward. I'm in the midst of a whole "getting a new life experience," and believe me...if I date someone in the real world who I can't imagine sharing my bi-curious story, or my fantasies with, I don't date them again. It's so much better when you are able to be who you really are. And so very cool (and hot) when they are accepting of all of you, just as you are...

 

[Minouners]

If you explained to him that it is important to you to explore this fascination, do you think he would allow that? Or would he freak out?

Before I got married, I told my fiance about my attraction to women. He basically laughed at the thought and discarded it, though he said it was just a part of what made me "me". I didn't think much of it at the time.

After the marriage, I once made a very vague comment about an actress in a movie we'd just seen, and he flipped out. I hadn't realized how insecure it made him feel. And I think he believed that after we were married, I would be "fixed" or something.

After that point, whenever I was out of the house with anyone, whether it was a group of friends or a study group, he got all paranoid and possessive. It was basically a trust issue. It became more and more apparent that he didn't trust me with anyone anymore, since I was still attracted to women after experiencing his amazing (yeah, right) lovemaking. I never cheated on him, but he'd already decided I was.

... Sorry, I'm probably not making much sense. I just wanted to share to show how important it is to both discover and to communication your thoughts and feelings. Especially if you think you may end up marrying your man. If there are issues now, it's better to start working on them early, because a pair of rings and vows won't fix it.


-dizzy

I must start by saying that me and my bf do have a good communication but sometimes I do tend to keep little things out to spare his feelings. I had discussed about exploring my fascination and like I've said before, he doesn't want me to do it alone, he has to be present.

I know marriage won't fix anything and I won't jump into it unless I'm 100% certain this is what I want. Don't worry, marriage won't be for another 3 to 4 years for me. Still to young to do otherwise.

Thank you for sharing your story with me. It gives me courage to face it even more and try to rectify this asap.

Minouners

 

[Minouners]

This is so very true. If you can't share who you really are, prior to marriage, that will not change afterward. I'm in the midst of a whole "getting a new life experience," and believe me...if I date someone in the real world who I can't imagine sharing my bi-curious story, or my fantasies with, I don't date them again. It's so much better when you are able to be who you really are. And so very cool (and hot) when they are accepting of all of you, just as you are...

That is very true SS. He does love me for who I am at least. There's always that! lol

 

[Minouners]

Since we're still on the subject... Had another dream last night, yes another one!!

This time, my lesbian friend was not in the dream! lol

I had nightmares prior to this so this dream was a fresh change.... I was with a woman that I think was the lead singer of the pussycat dolls... yes... yummy!

There were a lot of people around and again, she got naked in a room alone with me but she ended up on a couch where some other person was sitting but she told me to come and lie down with her. So I did. And again, as I went to touch her, I could feel how wet she was. Now... there was a blanket on top of us so no one could tell... well that I could see. And so I continued to "play" with her.

During this time, my bf walked into the room, looked at me and asked me questions, I probably looked guilty but he just walked away as I keep touching this "woman".

I would like to say that there's more to this dream but I woke up...

Can you say sexually frustrated??? lol

 

[aussie_ella]

Since we're still on the subject... Had another dream last night, yes another one!!

This time, my lesbian friend was not in the dream! lol

I had nightmares prior to this so this dream was a fresh change.... I was with a woman that I think was the lead singer of the pussycat dolls... yes... yummy!

There were a lot of people around and again, she got naked in a room alone with me but she ended up on a couch where some other person was sitting but she told me to come and lie down with her. So I did. And again, as I went to touch her, I could feel how wet she was. Now... there was a blanket on top of us so no one could tell... well that I could see. And so I continued to "play" with her.

During this time, my bf walked into the room, looked at me and asked me questions, I probably looked guilty but he just walked away as I keep touching this "woman".

I would like to say that there's more to this dream but I woke up...

Can you say sexually frustrated??? lol

Can you say HOT?? lol

 

[Minouners]

Can you say HOT?? lol

HOT!

 

[Minouners]

Geeze... it just got quiet in here... was it something I said??

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Geeze... it just got quiet in here... was it something I said??

Yes its taken time for everybodies blood pressure to drop back down to normal, your dreams were having an effect on people

 

[Minouners]

Yes its taken time for everybodies blood pressure to drop back down to normal, your dreams were having an effect on people

Hahahaha you silly!

I also had another dream... but this one was not sexual... You see... I live in a house where the basement is rented out to the landlord's daughter... She's 17 so that makes her 6 years younger then me and not even legal.

And well, she doesn't look or act 17. She has a boyfriend but he doesn't treat her well. I think he's the type that's very possessive and I just love talking with her (of course, when he's not around). I think she is beautiful and of course, wouldn't mind doing more then just talking.

So the dream was about her. You see, I sometimes get tongue tied around her and feel like a complete ass. But my dream was that we were sitting on my couch and out of nowhere she held my hand and wouldn't let it go. I felt so much relief when she did this and figured everything would be ok. I know that we exchanged words but I couldn't hear them and woke up soon after.

Why oh why do they have to only be dreams!!!

 

[naughtyinsilk]

So the dream was about her. You see, I sometimes get tongue tied around her and feel like a complete ass. But my dream was that we were sitting on my couch and out of nowhere she held my hand and wouldn't let it go. I felt so much relief when she did this and figured everything would be ok. I know that we exchanged words but I couldn't hear them and woke up soon after.

Why oh why do they have to only be dreams!!!

It maybe not as straight forward (if you forgive the pun), she as the younger girl could represent, the little girl within yourself, by holding your hand aand not letting it go, it could be your subconcious, telling your conscious mind that you will be ok and that you do have the inner strength to work through your feelings.

I would suggest you try reading Carl Jungs writing on dreams.

 

[SouthernGaGal]

Hey everyone. I'm not new to the boards, just to the thread and wanted to say hi =)

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Hey everyone. I'm not new to the boards, just to the thread and wanted to say hi =)

And a big friendly Hi back to you

 

[SouthernGaGal]

How are you today? =)

 

[naughtyinsilk]

How are you today? =)

Feeling trapped, strong wids have brought down trees at both ends of our lane today, so we are currently inaccessible, and the power keeps cutting out. Apart from that feeeling good & happy
So whats the day been for you?

 

[SouthernGaGal]

it's been a long day.. i'm trapped also..at work

 

[Minouners]

It maybe not as straight forward (if you forgive the pun), she as the younger girl could represent, the little girl within yourself, by holding your hand aand not letting it go, it could be your subconcious, telling your conscious mind that you will be ok and that you do have the inner strength to work through your feelings.

I would suggest you try reading Carl Jungs writing on dreams.

That could be it... I'll try to find that book and keep you posted! Thanks for the tip hot stuff!