Do women actually enjoy wearing high heels?

[OffNSFW]

I'm a guy with a fairly gender-bent fashion sense. As such, I own a fair number of boots with heels. I wouldn't wear them for hiking or anything, but, if it's a properly fitted shoe, you get used to it and it stops being so awkward to wear. Some boots don't look right without a heel and those are usually the boots for me.

Re. dating someone taller: I had a short-lived (haha) relationship with a partner who was a few inches taller. They loved having sex standing up, and our height difference was perfect for the angle of my cock and their pussy. People who think the man (or masc) should be the taller one ought to think on that.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

My wife hates heels and has not a single pair. She doesn't see the point (no pun there). She's tall...ish - 5'8" vs. my 5'10". She's good (great, IMO!) with low-heel boots. She has what I guess could be described as a lanky but curvy figure (long-waisted) and shapely legs with good proportions. IMO heels would knock the look out of balance, and apparently she agrees. When it comes to sexy, it's sandals. She has attractive feet which I appreciate, tho' I wouldn't exactly call myself a foot guy.

Then again, it is mostly about comfort with her. Think "SAS" shoes - super practical, the kind of shoes that don't make a fashion statement but are frequently the choice of women in professions such as nursing who are on their feet all day.

Now what I don't get is heels in video porn. The female can be stark naked otherwise, but is having the deed done to her on the bed or whatever while wearing stiletto heels. Yeah, I guess it's a fetish needing to be serviced, but it's the pragmatist in me that immediately goes, "Somebody's going to get hurt when they change positions."



My wife solves this with long dresses that hug curves and go great with sandals. Let's just say that the scowls she gets from the other ladies are not due to lack of elevating footwear.

Or heels while wearing a bikini... always looks ridiculous.

 

[MrPixel]

Or heels while wearing a bikini... always looks ridiculous.

Beauty pageants' swimsuit competitions. Gag me with a spoon.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Three- or four-inch heels are fine, but over that, I really get calf aches fast. Also, cheap shoes with a sharp angle are dreadful. Get shoes that have flat support for your heel and the ball of your foot. I like good boots more than shoes and wear them more often. I need a little help to appear a bit taller. Being four feet ten and a half inches means I'm short.

 

[intim8]

Or heels while wearing a bikini... always looks ridiculous.

I had to google this, because you know it's out there. Probably a stunt, but still...

https://s2.r29static.com/bin/public/a3d/x,80/1472344/image.jpg

 

[Cernunnos69]

Lol yeah, that's an interesting dynamic

There are guys who get off on being with taller women. Even MUCH taller women. Usually short guys.

And there are guys who are very uncomfortable with women as tall or taller. Usually tall guys.

People are weird.

Being 6'4" I've never been with a woman who was taller than me wearing heels, so yes, it would be weird!! Could be fun though!!

 

[intim8]

Being 6'4" I've never been with a woman who was taller than me wearing heels, so yes, it would be weird!! Could be fun though!!

Same here. I'm 6'2", and the tallest girl I've been with was 5'10". We were a good fit.

 

[nice90sguy]

Going down on a woman while she's wearing heels is super hot for me. I'm nine inches taller than my wife, and kind of tower over her. She seems to me more powerful in heels, and I have a thing for powerful women. She tells me she herself feels more powerful in heels, and likes that feeling.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Dad is five feet eight or nine, according to his second wife; he dated a woman who was six feet two. According to her, his ex, the woman, and he looked like Mutt and Jeff but got along great and apparently had good sex if the tall gal's statements were true. Dad's second said, "He's never had a problem with sex. He knows what to do, when to do it, and does it with much gusto." My sis turned beat red and said, "Mother," in that don't embarrass me tone she has.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I've never been able to wear high-heeled shoes, not that I particularly wanted to. I'm the kind of girl who wore DM boots with a ball gown. I figured no-one would notice and I didn't care if they did (only two girls ever noticed, both who drunkenly told me what a fucking good idea it was)

I have some low-heeled boots I wear a lot, and some high-heeled boots I do love wearing, because they make me look elegant even though my body no longer is. Block heels are my friend.

I also appreciate others in heeled boots, especially men throwing off gender norms and wearing them anyway. Eddie Izzard in the Definite Article video is exceptionally distracting.

 

[ChloeTzang]

I like them but only for things like formal events and going out to expensive restaurants. Otherwise no, and they are dangerous for back seat sex. I put stiletto heels thru the roof of my boyfriend's dad's truck once and don't ask how. LOL. And a tip - don't ever jump on a trampoline wearing stiletto's, they are very hard to remove. (I was a little drunk, it was a wedding, there was a trampoline....guess the rest)

 

[pink_silk_glove]

I put stiletto heels thru the roof of my boyfriend's dad's truck once and don't ask how.

:0 (fans self)

 

[joy_of_cooking]

I've never been able to wear high-heeled shoes,

some high-heeled boots I do love wearing

Are boots not a subset of shoes for you?

Maybe you are saying high heeled shoes to mean what Americans call pumps and what Brits call courts?

 

[Cagivagurl]

I know they're usually uncomfortable, but sometimes people wear less than comfortable clothes for their own enjoyment of how they look, how they make them feel. Is that the case for women and heels, or is it mostly that they wear them only because they are expected to in certain situations?

The closest I can relate to is wearing a tie. I absolutely despise it, but I have had to in some situations, and I do get how it makes me feel different. It's a little bit nice, but so not worth it.

I like what heels do to a woman's posture and ass, but to me, the heels themselves look silly, often out of place, and cringingly uncomfortable. The silliness goes over the top in photo shoots where a naked woman is strolling around in stilletto heels in the back yard, on a deck with spaces between the boards, through the woods, or even on a beach.

If it was up to me, I would do away with them entirely.

Why do women wear them???
Because men like them. It is etched into our psyche from the moment we are old enough to read or watch whatever form of media we are exposed to....
Men think they're sexy. So women wear them...
They should be considered torture . Heels are worse than uncomfortable... They are actually painful to wear.
Women of today are thankfully becoming aware of the dangers to their health.
Cagivagurl

 

[ElectricBlue]

As an observational thing, many women who wear heels shouldn't, because they don't know how to walk in them. Those who do know how to walk in heels can render men stupid (stupider than we are already), just by being there.

 

[intim8]

Because men like them.

That's the core of what I am asking about. From the answers I've gotten, it looks like that sentiment is not universal, unless you want to go into psychological speculation about conditioning, but I'm sure it is common for it to be explicitlly so for a lot of women.

Women of today are thankfully becoming aware of the dangers to their health.

And I think men are coming around a bit too. We've probably also been conditioned to like them, a vicious circle. As much as I enjoy the sexy look, that attraction feels shallow to me. The attraction I have to a woman with a natural posture and bearing seems deeper.

EDIT: also, do you notice that women in nude photo shoots, even if they are not wearing any shoes, tend to stand on their toes, and even while sitting, to point their toes to lift their heels? I mean, sure, those are aimed at men, but some of us, like I said above, like a natural posture.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

do you notice that women in nude photo shoots, even if they are not wearing any shoes, tend to stand on their toes, and even while sitting, to point their toes to lift their heels?

Models are trained to do that, and photographers are trained to ask models to do that. It makes the legs look longer and also for many men feet are a turn off so to avoid risking putting off a percentage of viewers they point the toe to make the foot look prettier, or at least hide anything to do with the bottom of the foot. It's an industry thing.

 

[lovecraft68]

r and also for many men feet are a turn off so to avoid risking putting off a percentage of viewers they point the toe to make the foot look prettier, or at least hide anything to do with the bottom of the foot.

What's wrong with those guys? Bunch of losers.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

My wife has some issues with her sciatic nerve so low heels are all she can wear to work or being out for awhile. So these days all her higher and outright "fuck me" shoes are worn just for recreation.

What's wrong with those guys? Bunch of losers.

Not that I watch 'reality' TV but I happened to see an episode of some next top model show and they were shooting traditional moroccan dress and the one girl had an ankle length dress and a jewelled sandal flat on the ground just beneath the hem in the foreground as she sat. The one judge saw the photo and was absolutely disgusted with her foot, told the model to her face how horrible she was for having an ugly foot and she got voted out. There was nothing ugly about any of these girls. Ironically, the only unattractive person in the entire episode was that judge.

 

[enbiji]

As an observational thing, many women who wear heels shouldn't, because they don't know how to walk in them. Those who do know how to walk in heels can render men stupid (stupider than we are already), just by being there.

Oh REALLY.

Well, thank god you're here to mansplain it for us. Precisely how SHOULD I be walking in my heels?

No reason why women with DECADES of experience actually walking in heels should be trusted to figure it out on their own.

 

[lovecraft68]

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[intim8]

Oh Lawdy, here we go...

 

[lovecraft68]

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[enbiji]

Oh Lawdy, here we go...

Oh dear. Should I not be going there? Gosh.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

As to why women wear them, at this point I think it's more of an Emperor's new clothes thing.
Most women don't like them.
Most men don't actually care.
Yet the charade goes on...