Do you consider yourself a "typical" PYL/pyl?

[Evil_Geoff]

Who'd have thought chicklet as being loaded and biased. *sigh*

Thought chicklet was loaded? Don't know...

_WISH_ chicklet was loaded? Oh yeah!

 

[Chicklet]

My friends, so far, 80% of us don't consider ourselves typical.

There must be something wrong with those numbers.

This is pretty much exactly the result I was expecting.

Now, my friends, would you acknowledge that it is typical of us to consider ourselves atypical?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

In all honesty I don't consider myself a typical anything but perhaps that's because I haven't been shown my place in a long time.

 

[minx1]

Actually compared to many of my lit peers I would say I was very typical.

Typical in being a unique person, with good and bad traits, issues and idiosyncracies
Typical in being a well rounded human being for whom submission is only one aspect
Typical in wanting to serve someone, whether they are a Master, Daddydom or other PYL
Typical in that I relate to being a submissive and 'fit' somewhere within the spectrum.
Typical in having good days and bad days in my submission.
Typical in that we are always learning and sometimes that process is frightening and sometimes its exhilerating and exciting.

Sorry I hope I don't offend anyone...its just I think we are all typical in that respect. I guess we are _all_ typically different .

 

[rida]

Actually compared to many of my lit peers I would say I was very typical.

Typical in being a unique person, with good and bad traits, issues and idiosyncracies
Typical in being a well rounded human being for whom submission is only one aspect
Typical in wanting to serve someone, whether they are a Master, Daddydom or other PYL
Typical in having good days and bad days in my submission.
Typical in that we are always learning and sometimes that process is frightening and sometimes its exhilerating and exciting.

Sorry I hope I don't offend anyone...its just I think we are all typical in that respect. I guess we are _all_ typically different .

I like your post a lot! and the part I bolded ... I think sums it up perfectly

 

[intothewoods]

I voted no. I always knew from a very young age ( pre birth perhaps ) that I was destined to be very unique, dare I say it ......... special.







I knew, that one day I would look up, and I would be an Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissive .


It was destined.

: humble stuff :

Puhlease just imagine an 'almost' preceding 'middle aged' and do a 'girl' a favor would you

I bow in the presence of genius!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I voted atypical.

Master isn't well at the moment and has been depressed. This means that the 'thou shalt not nag thy Master' commandment of my TPE dynamic has been temporarily put on hold. He's getting the love, support and care he needs even if he's liable to drop kick my ass into next week once he regains his equilibrium.

We still use safewords, which is not typical of a TPE ownership arrangement (I don't think) but that's because I have medical issues that mean, on occasion, I have to halt everything without question. Not often, but it happens.

We make decisions mostly together because he wants to be sure he doesn't ride roughshod over my wishes and needs. It's all done within the bounds of the power exchange and I never force my point or try to manipulate him but I do feel that, in reality, we take equal responsibility for whatever decisions he makes. If that makes sense?

TPE is very much a new thing for us and we're still feeling our way into it and affirming what we're happy with. It's unfortunate that 3 months into handing him ownership of me, Master's depression (which has been there for years) has reared its head. I don't want him to feel that I am a burden or that his responsibility for me is a weight round his neck. I want to be as useful to him as possible and see my gentle worrying and offering advice/support as an important part of my service.

I suppose we are all different. There is no such thing as a typical dynamic, it's all to highly personal and subjective for that.

 

[intothewoods]

I voted yes, mostly because the question's diction was so heavily weighted towards the opposite answer that I couldn't resist the irony of being atypical by claiming to be average.

Did I over-explain there? I'll put the superfluous text in red, there we go.

I think of myself as a fairly typical dominant man, but atypical of doms who find themselves through the bdsm community.

I don't know, I'm just a horny dude, you know? Like if you boil it all down that's pretty much all there is to it. That seems pretty typical.

That's what my man says too. Typical small "d" dominant man who likes sex on the rougher side.

I'm the one who feels like there is something different about it. Maybe I just want to be special. Ha.

As for typical for the bdsm community, I dunno, I usually feel out of place because my libido isn't always through the roof, I'm not bi and not poly.

 

[midwestyankee]

What's a typical bagel? Is it plain or whole wheat, onion or asiago cheese flavored? In a society such as ours "typical" is meaningless.

 

[twysted73]

Oh I'm definitely un-lableable

(if the current president can make up words, so can I)

And being so has it's own rewards and freedoms. No restriction or obligation to remain within any boundries.

If I'm going to be tied up, I want it to be fun.

 

[nh23]

Hell no, I wasn't even allowed to keep my Decoder ring.

 

[Netzach]

plain

Yes

whole wheat

No.

onion

Yes.

asiago cheese flavored

Fuck no.

In a society such as ours "typical" is meaningless.

Almost.

 

[Netzach]

People around me may be bi and poly in the SM community but I feel like a total outsider.

I did read and see Lord of the Rings. That is about the extent of my sci fi interest, unless you count Goddard's Alphaville.

Ren Faires make me kind of itch like department store Santas.

Bi does not mean for me "I like to flirt with every girl I meet but I could *never* fall in love with a woman" and poly for me does not mean "let's all have a big household somewhere the bunch of us." The label for that is "insanity."

 

[Marquis]

I voted atypical.

Master isn't well at the moment and has been depressed. This means that the 'thou shalt not nag thy Master' commandment of my TPE dynamic has been temporarily put on hold. He's getting the love, support and care he needs even if he's liable to drop kick my ass into next week once he regains his equilibrium.

We still use safewords, which is not typical of a TPE ownership arrangement (I don't think) but that's because I have medical issues that mean, on occasion, I have to halt everything without question. Not often, but it happens.

We make decisions mostly together because he wants to be sure he doesn't ride roughshod over my wishes and needs. It's all done within the bounds of the power exchange and I never force my point or try to manipulate him but I do feel that, in reality, we take equal responsibility for whatever decisions he makes. If that makes sense?

TPE is very much a new thing for us and we're still feeling our way into it and affirming what we're happy with. It's unfortunate that 3 months into handing him ownership of me, Master's depression (which has been there for years) has reared its head. I don't want him to feel that I am a burden or that his responsibility for me is a weight round his neck. I want to be as useful to him as possible and see my gentle worrying and offering advice/support as an important part of my service.

I suppose we are all different. There is no such thing as a typical dynamic, it's all to highly personal and subjective for that.

Sounds to me like you guys are adjusting towards TPE well. Like sane people who want to make it work.

Kudos on everything you're doing.

 

[graceanne]

This is pretty much exactly the result I was expecting.

Now, my friends, would you acknowledge that it is typical of us to consider ourselves atypical?

NO I ADMIT NOTHING! NOTHING AT ALL! AHAHAHA

Seriously, didn't I say that, though?

 

[Chicklet]

What's a typical bagel? Is it plain or whole wheat, onion or asiago cheese flavored? In a society such as ours "typical" is meaningless.

I have a former Jewish Chef boss who would be happy to tell you what a typical bagel should be!

 

[Chicklet]

NO I ADMIT NOTHING! NOTHING AT ALL! AHAHAHA

Seriously, didn't I say that, though?

shrug, I just skim posts

People will usually quote the important stuff for me.





I'm dealing with a break-up here! Cut me some slack!

 

[graceanne]

shrug, I just skim posts

People will usually quote the important stuff for me.





I'm dealing with a break-up here! Cut me some slack!

*sigh* I SUPPOSE!

 

[marieR19]

Bi does not mean for me "I like to flirt with every girl I meet but I could *never* fall in love with a woman" and poly for me does not mean "let's all have a big household somewhere the bunch of us."

Exactly how I feel.

I chose atypical because I have never felt like a "typical" sub, never felt like i fit in with the "typical" bdsm crowd. Am I a sub at all if my only experience has been playing around with spanking with my ex? I've never truly submitted to anyone in my life. That doesn't mean I don't want to, or that I wouldn't, but I haven't.

I label myself bi when I must choose a label, or some days I ignore the bi part of me and say I'm a lesbian, but labels suck. I am only bi in the fact that I might one day consider a male Dom if it felt right... I will never be in a romantic relationship with a male, and in that way I am a lesbian.

I don't consider myself typical in any way, except maybe "typically" fucked-up.


Heather

 

[madetotakeit]

I truthfully couldn't tell you if I am a typical or atypical pyl. I think the PYL would have better insight into that. I answered atypical simply because my journey is my own, my yearnings and experiences are my own. As such, I don't view them as typical to anyone but myself.

 

[snowy ciara]

I knew, that one day I would look up, and I would be an Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissive .

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives
Heroes in some high heels!
Mutant Power!

Um, I don't know what the hell a "typical" submissive is, so I don't know if I'm her. But there wasn't an option for "WTF do I know?"

 

[graceanne]

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives
Heroes in some high heels!
Mutant Power!

Um, I don't know what the hell a "typical" submissive is, so I don't know if I'm her. But there wasn't an option for "WTF do I know?"

You're not a typical anything, girlfriend. It's what I like about you.

 

[madetotakeit]

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives

Almost Middleaged Mutant Ninja Submissives
Heroes in some high heels!
Mutant Power!

Damn you Snowy...you put that song there now get it out of my head!

 

[snowy ciara]

Thanks Gracie! Now no-one else read the next part unless you've got the ninja turtles song stuck in your head.

Damn you Snowy...you put that song there now get it out of my head!

This is the song that never ends;
It just goes on and on my friend!
Somebody started singing it
not knowing what it was!
And they'll continue singing it FOREVER just because
This is the song that never ends;
It just goes on and on my friend!
Somebody started singing it
not knowing what it was!
And they'll continue singing it FOREVER just because
This is the song that never ends;
It just goes on and on my friend!
Somebody started singing it
not knowing what it was!
And they'll continue singing it FOREVER just because
This is the song that never ends;

 

[madetotakeit]

Okay, that did it, but unfortunately the cadence threw into my brain the movie In Dreams where Robert Downey Jr says over and over, "My daddy was a dollar. I wrote it on a fence. My daddy was a dollar. Not worth a hundred cents."
My brain needs professional help tonight.