Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[adrina]

I've met two men on this site I've had very real feelings for. I can't say I regret either. I am not happy with the outcomes but I don't regret the experiences. Yes the endings hurt. But that's just the way it is.

Online relationships, connections can be just as intense, and perhaps more so in some ways, as in the flesh relationships. It is very much so a mind to mind connection.

I have a couple of very close female friends I have met here. I cherish those friendships. They don't have the opposite sex emotional element - I'm not bi - but I am grateful for their presence in my life.

It is all about the connection to me. I don't do random well so if I interact with someone, I bring my whole self to the equation. And once you're in, well, you're in.

 

[adrina]

Very well said

Thank you.

 

[Girly_girl]

I did at one time

 

[SassySheDevil]

I've met two men on this site I've had very real feelings for. I can't say I regret either. I am not happy with the outcomes but I don't regret the experiences. Yes the endings hurt. But that's just the way it is.

Online relationships, connections can be just as intense, and perhaps more so in some ways, as in the flesh relationships. It is very much so a mind to mind connection.

I have a couple of very close female friends I have met here. I cherish those friendships. They don't have the opposite sex emotional element - I'm not bi - but I am grateful for their presence in my life.

It is all about the connection to me. I don't do random well so if I interact with someone, I bring my whole self to the equation. And once you're in, well, you're in.

I love this.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

I had typed up a whole big speech on feelings and emotionally connections from my time on lit a decade-plus ago but I deleted it after I realized I was rambling. (as I tend to do)

So I will simply say yes the emotional connection I can make here with people is in a way stronger than a real-life connection. Written words to me have always had a strong impact on me, I also find it a lot easier to get to know people through words and text over face to face. I'm not a conventional woman and I put strict boundaries in place with real-life friends that I find easier to overlook here even if I have been hurt in the past.

 

[michael2956]

Once. I with I'd met this person at a different point in life...
The road not taken......

 

[AudreyMarie]

I have real feelings for characters in books, too.

Feelings are as real as you make them.

 

[WiserSoutherner]

I have real feelings for characters in books, too.

Feelings are as real as you make them.

I respect what you are saying, but I don't see it the same way. Even with anonymity this is a two way street. Relationships depend on action, reaction and interaction.
Characters in a book are static and don't offer a response.

I've gotten close a couple of times and it was because I not only felt something, but I believed that there was a reciprocation. Creating a positive response in someone else is one of the reasons I keep coming back and searching.

 

[Megreg]

*

*****

 

[Shi_One81]

Absolutely

 

[Mshoneyky]

Oops I’ll do it again

I fell in love with someone when I was on this site the first time, 2003ish. It ended but only because of distance and other trivial things, I wish we had tried to make it work.
So 17 years later here I am again hoping he comes here to find me. I read back over our old thread and it was fun and happy, and just delightfully wicked.

 

[jaysonfrommars_del]

Absolutely, some good friends, some more, a few I loathe.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I have, yes. Both to my delight and dismay.

 

[chame1eon]

Almost.

 

[lanceGibs]

I do
The emotions are mostly about people who are no more and whom I should have treated with more sensitivity and respect when they were around.

 

[ReaperW]

Real emotions, yes, but never love or anything close. I can't imagine falling as deep as that for someone not met in person (though I did in my teenage years) because I'd not trust it. I'd want to see the person interact with others, both casual encounters with strangers and private moments with close friends. These things tell me much about a how a person is outside of the bubble we operate in, and is more difficult to fake longer term. Still, it's a risk intake everytime i connect on here, and I feel that having my eyes open to that means I have a better chance of cutting ties before I fall too deep.

I think what wiser southerner says about reciprocation is true for me as well. Although perhaps what Audrey Marie says is more an appropriate way to think about it. After all, we build ourselves as characters here (not necessarily in a deceptive way) and who's to say we're any more factual than the people in a storybook.

 

[_me_]

Yep.

 

[JerseyJade]

There are a few people on here that I truly love and care about... and there are 1 or 2 people on here that I truly fucking hate.. so my answer is, yes.

 

[Jaws82]

I've crushed on people here

 

[lanceGibs]

They know.

 

[7inchglory]

I've had 3 people I felt real emotions for on here.

For me, the criteria for that is a long time talking and consistency. If I'm talking with you for long periods of time, then I like you quite a bit - given that I don't have a lot of time and value that.

I generally fall for smart and genuinely kind people, so when we moved past the forums and onto chat or voice and someone conveys that... then my guard starts to drop.

 

[Misanthrope4Life]

When I first joined, I just wanted to cyber and phone fuck most of the women, with no strings attached
But
With all the talking and Cumming and talking and Cumming

You start to catch feelings

 

[chame1eon]

When I first joined, I just wanted to cyber and phone fuck most of the women, with no strings attached
But
With all the talking and Cumming and talking and Cumming

You start to catch feelings

You get something. Wouldn't call it feelings exactly personally.

 

[Misanthrope4Life]

You get something. Wouldn't call it feelings exactly personally.

What would you call it ?

 

[chame1eon]

What would you call it ?

Some kind of primal bond I suppose.