Do you have a fuck buddy?????

[Guest]

To me personally, a fb relationship, and yes, it is a relationship, is one of mutual respect and satisfaction. It allows for a sexual relationship and a friend both.

well - depending on how you look at it - everything is a relationship - every person I know I have SOME sort of "relationship" with - but - in these terms - we are (or at least I am) talking a relationship as a boyfriend/girlfriend - type of thing.

What I WOULDN"T want in a F/B situation is emotions - attachment - jealousy. A f/b situation should be about fun and satisfaction - and nothing overly serious. I don't want to be the person they cry to - or that they control - or anything like that - it's just sex - that simple. Exploring one another - having fun.

Anything more then that - and you are looking for a boyfriend - and that is very diffrent then a fuck buddy

 

[Missingmeds]

All sex has emotions to it, be they good, bad, or indifferent.

What it all boils down to is being able to separate lust from love. That I can do with no problem.

I don't think that control is something that should be at issue. Noone is forcing anyone to do anything in a good fb relationship. It is just the mutual pleasure that is involved.

I also think that most people have a different definition of what a fb is. What I would require in an fb might be totally different than what you want. That is why it is good to know a little bit about the fb before even starting that sort of relationship.

Having been divorced for 2 years now, I know that I don't want a boyfriend or a husband.

 

[Guest]

All sex has emotions to it, be they good, bad, or indifferent.

What it all boils down to is being able to separate lust from love. That I can do with no problem.

I don't think that control is something that should be at issue. Noone is forcing anyone to do anything in a good fb relationship. It is just the mutual pleasure that is involved.

I also think that most people have a different definition of what a fb is. What I would require in an fb might be totally different than what you want. That is why it is good to know a little bit about the fb before even starting that sort of relationship.

Having been divorced for 2 years now, I know that I don't want a boyfriend or a husband.

ahhh - see - I think we disagree on a fundamental level - not all sex has emotions - at least not for me - it is a purely physical act.

But - if you want anything more then sex - (ie - emotions and such) doesn't that make it more than a fb? Would you go out to dinner with a fb? Would you go away for a weekend? Bring them to a wedding with you? All of those things to me - make it a boyfriend/girlfriend thing.


And you are correct in everyone wants somthing diffrent in a f/b - which is why I wrote EXACTLY what I was looking for - but - you seemed to disagree with what I had to say about what I was looking for. I simply asked for people to be honest - and say what they wanted in a fuck buddy. Then - you can see who you agree with - and therefore may want to fuck

 

[Missingmeds]

ahhh - see - I think we disagree on a fundamental level - not all sex has emotions - at least not for me - it is a purely physical act.

But - if you want anything more then sex - (ie - emotions and such) doesn't that make it more than a fb? Would you go out to dinner with a fb? Would you go away for a weekend? Bring them to a wedding with you? All of those things to me - make it a boyfriend/girlfriend thing.


And you are correct in everyone wants somthing diffrent in a f/b - which is why I wrote EXACTLY what I was looking for - but - you seemed to disagree with what I had to say about what I was looking for. I simply asked for people to be honest - and say what they wanted in a fuck buddy. Then - you can see who you agree with - and therefore may want to fuck

No, and if it is a purely physical act with you, then you get no pleasure from it? Because pleasure is an emotion.

Have I gone out to dinner with a fb? Yes. Have I gone away for a weekend with a fb? Yes. I don't do weddings, so the answer to that one is no. That doesn't make it a boyfriend/girlfriend thing to me. It makes it a situation where we both get what we need at the time.

 

[Guest]

No, and if it is a purely physical act with you, then you get no pleasure from it? Because pleasure is an emotion.

Have I gone out to dinner with a fb? Yes. Have I gone away for a weekend with a fb? Yes. I don't do weddings, so the answer to that one is no. That doesn't make it a boyfriend/girlfriend thing to me. It makes it a situation where we both get what we need at the time.

no - physcial pleasure is about nerves - it's about physical reactions - there doesn't have to be any emotions in it. If you stab yourself does it hurt? - yes - that's not an emotion - it's a physical symptom - if you rub your clit - does it feel good - yes - again - physical symptom - caused by how certain nerves are touched. Some people can touch them better then others

BUT - this is why it's good to say up front what you want in a fuck buddy - you and I obviously wouldn't make a good pair (even if we were of opposite sex) - because I would be afraid of hurting your feelings all the time - somthing I don't want to have to think about. But - if you want emotions along with your sex - as long as you and the fuck buddy agree - all is good

 

[Missingmeds]

We just have to agree to disagree.

Again it is all in the person's definition of what a fb is.

 

[Guest]

We just have to agree to disagree.

Again it is all in the person's definition of what a fb is.

exactly

 

[Warmslide]

Good to see a healthy debate!

Come to successful conclusion... As long as you get what you want...an FB is what you wish an FB to be...

Good God..not exactly wisdom....LOL

 

[Darby_]

the beauty of a FB is the relationship can be what ever you and the FB want it to be..

in my case.. its very casual and occasional.. but deliciously intense

Darby

 

[Warmslide]

the beauty of a FB is the relationship can be what ever you and the FB want it to be..

in my case.. its very casual and occasional.. but deliciously intense

Darby

Sounds like a wonderful thing you have going..... And I agree with you...the relationship can be whatever you want it to be...as long as both agree

 

[Guest]

Sounds like a wonderful thing you have going..... And I agree with you...the relationship can be whatever you want it to be...as long as both agree

hmpf...

 

[Warmslide]

hmpf...

LOL...is that hmpf.....HUMPF

 

[Guest]

LOL...is that hmpf.....HUMPF

no - just a very quite - hmpf... - no U in my grunts

 

[Darby_]

Sounds like a wonderful thing you have going..... And I agree with you...the relationship can be whatever you want it to be...as long as both agree

thank you.. and yes.. agreement is essential

 

[Darby_]

no - just a very quite - hmpf... - no U in my grunts

 

[Warmslide]

no - just a very quite - hmpf... - no U in my grunts

No U in your grunts....HMMMMMM

 

[Warmslide]

No U in your grunts....HMMMMMM

I am pretty sure my grunts have one or two U's in them..... maybe even a yowl or two, the odd scream....loud moaning (oooh another U)

 

[Missingmeds]

Vocal not verbal here and I don't usually grunt....moans, groans, the occasional scream.....

 

[Guest]

No U in your grunts....HMMMMMM

care to find out for yourself?

 

[Guest]

Vocal not verbal here and I don't usually grunt....moans, groans, the occasional scream.....

well - my hmpf's usually aren't good sounds - grunts usually aren't in general though

 

[Warmslide]

care to find out for yourself?

HMMMMM

 

[Guest]

HMMMMM

hmmm???

hmpf

 

[badmatt]

the beauty of a FB is the relationship can be what ever you and the FB want it to be..

in my case.. its very casual and occasional.. but deliciously intense

Darby

I have to thoroughly agree!

I have a few...and it's always evolving...but you need structure
it's not that rules should be set out at the beginning...but expectations should definitely be aired...for the sake of all concerned, don't you think?

 

[Guest]

I have to thoroughly agree!

I have a few...and it's always evolving...but you need structure
it's not that rules should be set out at the beginning...but expectations should definitely be aired...for the sake of all concerned, don't you think?

I kinda like rules personally - but yes - at the very least expectations should be talked about from the very begining - and if somthing changes along the way (ie - feelings start to develop) they should be talked about right away - that way a mutual decision can be made on what to do about it. (for example - maybe the other person is feeling the same way - best to find out all this stuff

 

[flywater]

I must say that I agree, although, the biggest problem I find is that people cannot be honest with themselves first, which has inhibited my search in finding a fb. I would just appreciate honesty, in desires AND excpectations!