Endless Curiosity

[Azuldrgon]

I understand the "need" to post, but when most of the posts consist of "yes/no" questions, there is only so many ways to say "no" as a newbie. Not to mention with an over proportion of responders being male it's difficult to have that friendly flirty banter. And if one is able to magically reply to a female or have a female reply to them - the banter is still usually in the negative.

I never said it was easy.
It all depends on how you present yourself and what you choose to share.
To be real, the ladies on Lit are very intelligent and just having a cock doesn't cut it really.
There has to be substance.
It looks more difficult than it really is.

 

[ThirdShift]

I never said it was easy.
It all depends on how you present yourself and what you choose to share.
To be real, the ladies on Lit are very intelligent and just having a cock doesn't cut it really.
There has to be substance.
It looks more difficult than it really is.

And I suppose that is the rub (no pun intended).

While I personally am not expecting easy, nor do I expect having a cock grants me any privilege, I also didn't expect it to be on par with Sisyphus either.

 

[Azuldrgon]

And I suppose that is the rub (no pun intended).

While I personally am not expecting easy, nor do I expect having a cock grants me any privilege, I also didn't expect it to be on par with Sisyphus either.

What's a Sisyphus?

 

[ydahecnot]

The guy who could never get the rock up the hill. Anyhoo, this stuff takes time, dude. Build your case, and you could be the one getting the initial PMs

 

[Azuldrgon]

The guy who could never get the rock up the hill. Anyhoo, this stuff takes time, dude. Build your case, and you could be the one getting the initial PMs

I salute you....I didn't want to google it.

There's a guy who gets the initial pm's? lol

 

[MedicalMuse]

I salute you....I didn't want to google it.

There's a guy who gets the initial pm's? lol

Well, yes. I've messaged dudes first before. Usually because they're cool or I enjoy bantering on a thread with them.

And Y knows damn near everything.

 

[ydahecnot]

I still have no idea of the wingspan of an unladen African swallow

 

[MedicalMuse]

I still have no idea of the wingspan of an unladen African swallow

Neither do I. Never got that far. Lol

 

[MessierObject]

The bunny always got me...

 

[Azuldrgon]

The bunny always got me...

wasn't it the bridge?

 

[MessierObject]

wasn't it the bridge?

I never made it that far

 

[ThirdShift]

I still have no idea of the wingspan of an unladen African swallow

But do you know your favorite (favourite for authenticity) colo(u)r?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I still have no idea of the wingspan of an unladen African swallow

me, either, but I heard once that Who's on first and What's​ on second, so the velocity of an African swallow, unladened of course, must be somewhere along the lines of halfway between a bridge and Humpty Dumpty's arse...

I guess.
Not sure.

 

[ViciousTease]

In answer to yesterday's initial question, send a PM. If you see someone that interests you, send it. Let the conversation flow naturally. If it dies out, and you're still interested, pick a topic and start again.

I reached out to Sickie first. We chatted a bit. The conversation ran it's course. I did it again. I don't think he'd have ever noticed me otherwise. No, we never had one of those hot Lit love affairs that lead to all of the cute Dear Litster posts and private jokes scattered across the boards. We did have a friendship that I cherish and it started because I sent a random PM or twelve to a complete stranger. I miss him. My time here will never be what it was, because I can't send that random PM to him anymore. Because I will never get his smart, sarcastic, yet sexy as hell replies. I miss him. But I got to know him, because I took a chance and sent that first message.

 

[ViciousTease]

Do you remember who the first person was to PM you on Lit? Are they still on the board?

Bonus Question: Do you remember the reason for the PM?

 

[Trekka]

I don't remember who PMed me first - but I PMed 1sb first! It was my first ever "sent" PM. What a pick, eh?

*thingle tingle tingle*
*throb throb throb*



Whoever PMed me first was a random lurker looking for instant mutual virtual masturbation, I'm sure. ....or it was Troubledone hahahaha

 

[Endless_Night]

You are both so brave. I found Sickie faaaaaaaar too intimidating to approach. He terrified and titillated all at the same time. If he hadn't PMed me our friendship wound never have gotten off the ground. He made me laugh, and shiver, and wiggle in my chair. He provided my entire first year of AVs because I was clueless what to choose.

Some of his out-of-the-blue PMs! *pow*

I do miss him so.

 

[Endless_Night]

As to the question:

If I recall correctly, I was inundated with predatory messages my first week or so. After that, nothing, for at least…six months? No idea whether any of them are still on the board.

I do remember my first “real” PM. It was from DeepGreenEyes (on the BDSM board). I had related a traumatizing incident about accidentally walking into the male dressing room at my gym. I was doing my usual in-my-head la la thing and didn’t realize until *boom* I found myself staring at one of the instructor’s bare backsides. He - and I will never forget this - turned his head, saw me, and raised an eyebrow.

D.E.A.R. L.O.R.D.



I nearly killed myself trying to get out of the room. Falling over stuff and running into walls did nothing to decrease the mortification factor….

Anyhoo. DGE messaged and talked me out of changing gyms. Sweet guy.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I did not interact at all with 1SB off the boards, but I found him to be "my kind of guy" as in "my kind of sarcastic" (I could totally see us sitting on a porch together throwing rocks at the dum-dum-Doms that walked by)

My first ever pm was from some guy who had a list of writing scenarios that he thought would be good role plays. Being the total noob that I was, I thought he ACTUALLY meant writing prompts for stories.

I responded and when he finally got back with me and it dawned on me that writing had nothing to do with his interests...

Of course, I didn't understand online sex rooms, "chatting" as it's defined here, or cyber.....I was totally clueless. At first it seemed kinda new and fun-ish? But it didn't take long for me to settle into my grumpy piss and vinegar self

And the rest is history.

 

[Trekka]

My first ever pm was from some guy who had a list of writing scenarios that he thought would be good role plays. Being the total noob that I was, I thought he ACTUALLY meant writing prompts for stories.

Classic. It happens to the best of us. StFornicate, if you're reading this, I'm talkin bout you!

Funny thing was that we wound up writing some sizzling stuff together. And it did turn into play. I recall him being a part of one of my more epic evenings of online antics.

It just amuses me that I didn't realize off the bat that he had interest in things other than literary skills. Facepalm.

But it did get my [creative writing] juices flowing.

 

[Endless_Night]

I want to go on record as the only woman on Lit Troubledone hasn't PMed. I also want to go on record as saying my SRP partner had only literary interest in mind.



There must be something wrong with me.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Classic. It happens to the best of us. StFornicate, if you're reading this, I'm talkin bout you!

Funny thing was that we wound up writing some sizzling stuff together. And it did turn into play. I recall him being a part of one of my more epic evenings of online antics.

It just amuses me that I didn't realize off the bat that he had interest in things other than literary skills. Facepalm.

But it did get my [creative writing] juices flowing.

lol..
I had delusions of actually writing, though.
I don't have the social skills to deal with real people contacting me to tell me something I wrote got them all hard and shit..

Same with pictures...
A simple "thank you for posting" is sufficient. When you start saying stupid​ shit like "OMG! What I would do with those tits! That ass!
I would bury my tongue in and devour your ass and pussy!"

I'm thinking... Dude.
Get a fucking life.
Get out of your mom's basement.
Crawl into bed with your wife and fuck HER ass with your tongue.

I do not need you burrowing anything of yours into anything of mine.


*Ickies*

Now I feel like I need an exterminator....

 

[ydahecnot]

I make no pretense of SRP. Too much work!

 

[ThirdShift]

I remember my first two PM's.. from the same person. Hannah something or other. They were both exactly the same message different titles. And well, she couldn't wait for me to swipe right or something or other. Ahh... that were the days, granted that was just yesterday.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I want to go on record as the only woman on Lit Troubledone hasn't PMed. I also want to go on record as saying my SRP partner had only literary interest in mind.



There must be something wrong with me.

consider yourself lucky and blessed..
I went a round (singular, as in once) with Troubledone...

The fact that I did not go back for seconds should say something.

In his defense, I suck at cyber. But certain levels of aggression are unattractive regardless of your kink.