Female ejaculation, is it a myth?
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BigGuyinBigEasy
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I did experience female ejaculation once. This happened about twenty-five years ago. I was having a affair with a friend's wife. (I know, I'm bad.) We had gotten together several times and the sex was good. This one day, the lady had a tremendous orgasm. After sex, she got up to go into the bathroom and I spotted a very large wet spot in the middle of the bed. I thought that she was so hot that she had peed on the bed during her orgasm. I smelled the sheet, the smell was good and it wasn't piss. I smelled several times to make sure. It was a different oder, sexual but it didn't smell like pussy or piss. It just smelled sexual, I just can't explain it. But, I will tell you that it was a very bid wet spot, at least a couple of feet across. I don't remember feeling anything special during her orgasm but she usually got very wet during sex anyway. We screwed quite a few times after that and I never saw a wet spot that big again. I wish I had known what it was at the time, it would have been more fun. But, I will say it is real. It does seem to be a bit rare but it does occur.
Yup, sher 'nuff!
Just another note of confirmation as to the "myth" of female ejaculation. I've experienced it a few times with different female lovers and it's usually wonderful! I was dating a woman about 10 years my junior two years ago and she was a gusher! She had never experienced that with another lover (or herself) and was embarrassed. I assured her that it was perfectly natural and that it was, actually, a great turn-on for me. She wasn't easily consoled as she had just left a wet spot under me at least 2 1/2 feet wide! I managed to convince her of the beauty of it, though, and in subsiquent encounters convinced her to sit on my face while she orgasmed. It was marvelous!
Just another note of confirmation as to the "myth" of female ejaculation. I've experienced it a few times with different female lovers and it's usually wonderful! I was dating a woman about 10 years my junior two years ago and she was a gusher! She had never experienced that with another lover (or herself) and was embarrassed. I assured her that it was perfectly natural and that it was, actually, a great turn-on for me. She wasn't easily consoled as she had just left a wet spot under me at least 2 1/2 feet wide! I managed to convince her of the beauty of it, though, and in subsiquent encounters convinced her to sit on my face while she orgasmed. It was marvelous!
A side note
By the way, WetKitten, I would not be against seeing a vid of you ejaculating. If you can find it in your heart to send a copy to me, I'd be very appraciative.
RMiddlepath@AOL.com
Thanx dear
By the way, WetKitten, I would not be against seeing a vid of you ejaculating. If you can find it in your heart to send a copy to me, I'd be very appraciative.
RMiddlepath@AOL.com
Thanx dear
litsam
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I recently saw this picture of a woman ejaculating, and it's not what I expected, it was a thick stream that shot about 2feet away, and then there were more just oozing out. A lot more than I thought, and it was this white liquid, it really looked yummy!!
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I haven't even had a g-spot orgasm before.........i need help on this one. I've enjoyed very many pleasurable clitoral, and vaginal orgasms, but never a g-spot......somebody help me out here.
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Try this...
Here are some tips for you to try. Make yourself aroused as you normaly do, or read one of my stories;-) now get in a position so you can insert two of your fingers deep into your vagina so your fingertips are pointed at the top wall. Now 'beckon' with them, search around until you feel a spot that feels good ~ differently good that is. You may get a sensation in your bladder like you want to pee ~ that's it! keep rubbing there and see what happens. If you need to 'pee' let it go as it might well not be pee as you come all over the place. Try dildos or 'bent' vibrators if your fingers don't work but you might feel a 'spot' with a different texture to the rest of your vagina with your fingertips. getting REALLY excited also does it for some so arouse yourself for a long time without coming if you have the dicipline! Keep exploring until you find your g-spot. Be sure to tell me how you get on - in detail please. That goes for all the other female lurkers reading this.
wildtiger60 said:
Here are some tips for you to try. Make yourself aroused as you normaly do, or read one of my stories;-) now get in a position so you can insert two of your fingers deep into your vagina so your fingertips are pointed at the top wall. Now 'beckon' with them, search around until you feel a spot that feels good ~ differently good that is. You may get a sensation in your bladder like you want to pee ~ that's it! keep rubbing there and see what happens. If you need to 'pee' let it go as it might well not be pee as you come all over the place. Try dildos or 'bent' vibrators if your fingers don't work but you might feel a 'spot' with a different texture to the rest of your vagina with your fingertips. getting REALLY excited also does it for some so arouse yourself for a long time without coming if you have the dicipline! Keep exploring until you find your g-spot. Be sure to tell me how you get on - in detail please. That goes for all the other female lurkers reading this.
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I seem to remember a website by or called Krystal Waters (I think) going to search.............
http://www.krystalwaters.com/ try here for some info
http://www.krystalwaters.com/ try here for some info
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Helpful Welshman....
I'd be glad to know I helped even one Lit. lady to find an aspect of herself she hadn't met until now
http://www.pce.net/merlin/gspot/gspot.html
I'd be glad to know I helped even one Lit. lady to find an aspect of herself she hadn't met until now
http://www.pce.net/merlin/gspot/gspot.html
Great G-Spot/Crest Article
Here's a great (long) article I found a couple a years ago whilst researching the....da da da dummmm......G-spot.
Cheers~ and happy cumming ~ fey
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THE G-"CREST" AND FEMALE EJACULATION (c)1997
by
Gary Schubach, Ed.D.
The question of the sexual phenomenon known as female
ejaculation and whether there exists a female erogenous zone
popularly known as the "G spot" have been major areas of
continued controversy and debate among sex researchers,
gynecologists and sex therapists. Perhaps no two sexual issues,
including the question of clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms, have
created so much public interest.
These subjects are continuing to attract the attention
of the public, particularly of women, as well as the so-called
experts in human sexuality, because they are biological issues
that have significant social ramifications. What would be the
potential impact on our collective sexual belief systems (and
actual behaviors/activities) if female ejaculation and the
existence of the G spot achieved widespread legitimacy?
Since the 1920's the conventional medical establishment
has dismissed "female ejaculation" as actually being a condition
known as urinary stress incontinence. This condition is
considered to be an undesirable bodily dysfunction in which urine
is involuntarily expelled from the urethras of women due to
physical straining such as might also occur with coughing or
sneezing as well as sexual arousal or orgasm. Women have
generally considered such expulsions to be a source of personal
shame or embarrassment that also frequently elicited disapproval
from their sexual partners. Physicians usually attempt to
correct the condition, either by the use of Kegel exercises or
by surgery.
Furthermore, noted experts in the field of human
sexuality such as Alfred Kinsey and Masters and Johnson dismissed
female ejaculation as being an "erroneous but widespread
concept." (I) Masters and Johnson also argued against the
existence of the erogenous zone known as the "G-spot" and stood
steadfastly for the premise that the clitoris alone was
responsible for triggering female orgasm.
However, if it should turn out that these experts had
underestimated the sexual capabilities of women's bodies by
portraying pleasurable sexual activities like female ejaculation
as abnormal and/or imagined, it could have a significant effect
on women's views of their sexuality. If the new evidence about
these expulsions demonstrated that they are natural sexual bodily
functions then many women could be free of guilt and shame about
expelling fluid during sex.
Other benefits of a public recognition of female
ejaculation as a natural event (and the so-called G spot as an
erogenous zone, capable of producing orgasm in a woman) could be
the creation of additional sexual activities that might not just
be a prelude to intercourse but an end unto themselves. It could
lead to a broadening of peoples' sensual experiences and their
sexual repertoire. New pleasurable behaviors, with no goal other
than pleasure from those activities, could be learned with the
added benefits that they have very low risk in terms of AIDS,
STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
All of these social issues become a backdrop for new
evidence I discovered during my doctoral research project that,
as a result of advanced and heightened states of sensual/sexual
arousal, some women do expel fluid. In the past, the assumption
has been that the expulsions originated either in the bladder or
from the urethral glands and ducts. My study indicated that both
may be the case in that a small amount of fluid may be released
from the urethral glands and ducts in some instances and mixed
in the urethra with a clear fluid that originates in the bladder.
The Nature of Female Orgasm
For the last 50 years, modern science has generally
accepted first Kinsey's and then Masters and Johnson's premise
that the clitoris alone was responsible for triggering female
orgasm. They saw the creation of an "orgasmic platform" that
underwent a build-up of muscle tension and sexual energy that
was then released during orgasm. (II)
However, in 1981, Perry and Whipple, two of the
co-authors of the book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries
About Human Sexuality, presented a theory of a second form of
orgasm. This "uterine" orgasm "included the Gräfenberg Spot
(presumed to be the female prostate) as its major source of
stimulation . . ." (III)
Singer and Singer then went on, in 1978, to describe a
blended orgasm which "combines elements of the previous two kinds
. . . characterized by contractions of the orgasmic platform,
but the orgasm is subjectively regarded as deeper than a vulval
orgasm." (IV)
Now there is new evidence from urology textbooks that
heightened stimulation during sensual arousal can indeed create
an involuntary opening of the bladder sphincter. This
involuntary opening can occur from stimulation of either the
clitoris, or from stimulation of the pelvic nerve through the
upper wall of the vagina, or from both simultaneously. (V)
Stimulation of the urethral glands can be accomplished either by
manual stimulation or intercourse, utilizing a correct angle of
penetration. Stimulation of the G Crest of some women can also
be produced by pressing downward from the outside of the body,
slightly above the pubic bone. Other studies indicated that
"stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall is clearly not a
prerequisite to ejaculation, although the data suggest it may be
facilitated by this type of stimulation." (VI)
All of this highlights how subjective and personal a
woman's experience of orgasm can be. There is much yet to learn
about the intricacies of female orgasm, including the emotional
and intellectual components. The experience of orgasm for many
women is a continuum of experience, not one way or another,
correct or incorrect. There can be a blending of different types
of orgasmic experiences that are unique to the individual. (VII)
This point was made over and over in the comments of the female
subjects in my study. One woman participant indicated that she
had categorized and kept notes on 126 different types of orgasm
to date and she is constantly finding new and more subtle
variations.
Historical References To Female Ejaculation
Throughout time there have been reports of the expulsion
of fluid from the vagina by women during sexual arousal and/or
orgasm. There were references to this by historic scientific
figures such as Aristotle and Galen, discussing and identifying
vaginal expulsions which did not seem to have the appearance or
smell of urine and did not stain bed sheets.
There were also many references to vaginal expulsions in
classical literature. However, it is impossible to determine
whether these passages are simple reporting of what the writer
actually saw or a dramatization of popular male sexual fantasies
of the times. (VIII)
The first modern description both of female genitalia and
the question of vaginal expulsions came from the 17th century
Dutch physician, Regnier De Graaf. He stated: "The urethra is
lined internally by a thin membrane. In the lower part, near the
outlet of the urinary passage, this membrane is pierced by large
ducts, or lacunae, through which pituito-serous matter
occasionally discharges in considerable quantities. Between this
very thin membrane and the fleshy fibres we have just described
there is, along the whole duct of the urethra, a whitish,
membranous substance about one finger-breadth thick which
completely surrounds the urethral canal . . . the substance could
be called quite aptly the female prostatae or corpus glandulosum,
'glandulous body.'" (IX)
De Graaf's description of the "prostate" in women in
reference to the glands surrounding the female urethra
represented conventional medical thought for almost 200 years.
In 1880, Dr. Alexander Skene, professor of gynecology in the
Long Island College Hospital in Brooklyn, New York, wrote a paper
describing and diagramming various glands and ducts surrounding
the female urethra. Modern science then began to refer to them
as Skene's glands, a term that is still in use today.
In 1953, Dr. Samuel Berkow, a urologist, came to the
conclusion that the tissue of Skene's glands was erectile when
stimulated. However, Berkow's primary interest was in urination
and he believed that the function of the "erectile tissue" was to
pinch off the urethra in order to control urination. He never
explored the question of whether it could become erect during
sexual activity. (X)
In 1950, the German obstetrician, Ernst Gräfenberg, wrote
of observing the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during
sexual arousal. "If there is the opportunity to observe the
orgasm of such women, one can see that large quantities of a
clear, transparent fluid (that) are expelled not from the vulva,
but out of the urethra in gushes. At first, I thought that the
bladder sphincter has become defective by the intensity of the
orgasm. Involuntary expulsion of urine is reported in sex
literature. In the cases observed by us, the fluid was examined
and it had no urinary character. I am inclined to believe that
'urine' reported to be expelled during female orgasm is not
urine, but only secretions of the intraurethral glands correlated
with the erotogenic zone along the urethra in the anterior
vaginal wall. Moreover, the profuse secretions coming out with
the orgasm have no lubricating significance, otherwise they would
be produced at the beginning of intercourse and not at the peak
of orgasm." (XI)
At the same time, the medical and scientific
establishment was highly resistant to considering evidence of a
cause for female ejaculation other than urinary stress
incontinence. Again, they (and presumably their female patients)
tended to consider ejaculation as an undesirable bodily
dysfunction, generally resulting in the women experiencing guilt
and shame. There have also been frequent reports of disapproval
and recriminations from sexual partners of women who "ejaculate"
that have often led to painful relationship issues and even
dissolution of marriages.
At this point, it should be noted that doctors, who may
be very knowledgeable in the areas of urology and reproductive
biology, have had little training or experience in human
sexuality. If a woman patient were to have evidence of an
expulsion of fluid during sensual/sexual activity, a doctor would
be unlikely to check for sensitivity through the anterior wall of
the vagina. Even if the physician were to suspect a possible
expulsion from Skene's glands, ethics would prevent most doctors
from engaging in an Ob/Gyn exam in which the patients was
sexually aroused so as to duplicate the conditions of the
expulsions.
In the early 1980's, there were several studies that
concluded that what had been called Skene's glands and/or
paraurethral ducts and glands were, in fact, not a vestigial
homologue of the male prostate but, instead, a "small, functional
organ that produces female prostatic secretion and possesses
cells with neuroendocrine function, comparable to the male
prostate." (XII)
The G "Crest"
The so called G "Spot" is perhaps the most misunderstood
area of three seemingly interconnected subjects: female
ejaculation, the urethral glands and ducts, and the G "spot."
This term was first introduced to the public at large in the
book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human
Sexuality. It referred to the previously mentioned 1950 article
in the International Journal of Sexology in which Gräfenberg also
wrote about erotic sensitivity along the anterior vaginal wall.
Gräfenberg clearly stated that it was his opinion that what he
felt through the anterior vaginal wall was erectile tissue.
He stated that during sexual arousal "the female urethra
begins to enlarge and can be felt easily. It swells out greatly
at the end of orgasm. The most stimulating part is located at
the posterior urethra where it arises from the neck of the
bladder." (XIII) Others have noted that the size and development
of these tissues will vary greatly from woman to woman and may
change during arousal.
The area on the upper wall of the vagina has been
popularly but erroneously called the G spot and would be better
labeled as the G Crest. It is the popular media that has
promulgated the notion of a "spot" on the anterior wall of the
vagina itself. The search for a "spot" on the anterior wall of
the vagina, as opposed to searching for the urethral glands
through the anterior wall may be contributing to the difficulty
of finding the G "spot" and the controversy as to whether it
exists at all.
There is great potential value in renaming the G "spot"
as the G "Crest." In that terminology, the "G" would be
retained, as reference to and as credit to the important work of
Gräfenberg. The word 'Crest' is also more useful as a
description than "spot" because the swollen female urethral
glands feel more like a protruding ridge than a spot (thus
enabling her partner to locate the area more readily with less
confusion) thus lessening some of the confusion there seems to be
in finding it. Furthermore, the word 'Crest' also invokes an
image of rising sensual/sexual pleasure.
There have been studies that have indicated that the
stimulation of the 'G Crest' by itself may induce an orgasm that
feels very pleasurable, although different than a clitoral
orgasm. As Gräfenberg previously observed, this may induce an
expulsion of fluid through the urethra at orgasm. In 1988, Milan
Zaviacic, M. D., Ph.D., head of the Institute of Pathology of the
Comenius University in Bratislava, Slovakia, examined and
stimulated the 'G Crests' of 27 women patients who volunteered
for his study. Ten of the 27 women (37%) were induced to have
urethral expulsions, with a wide variation in the amount of
stimulation required before the expulsion. (XIV)
The Experiment
I became interested in the controversy about the source
and cause of female ejaculation during the course of my doctoral
studies. My doctoral research project was an exploratory
experiment designed to provide information about some of the key
issues in this controversy by collecting precise data during a
medical procedure. The procedure I chose involved placing a
Foley catheter through the urethra and into the bladder of seven
women who reported that they regularly expelled fluid during
sensual and/or sexual arousal. The purpose of the catheter was
to effectively segregate the bladder from the urethra and collect
vaginal expulsions in a controlled, medically supervised
environment.
It was an interesting experiment that had been conceived
previously by researchers but never actually performed. I was
moved to do this research mainly because I was intrigued by the
fact that it had never been done before and fortunately I was
acquainted with women ejaculators who were potential and willing
subjects. Following a considerable amount of time screening and
preparing the applicants, I assembled and managed the necessary
research team, including medical personnel, and we created a
relaxed and comfortable environment that was conducive to the
experiment.
After urine specimens were collected from each of the
female subjects, they were aroused for a period of at least an
hour in whatever manner was preferable to them before the actual
insertion of the catheter. The stimulation choices that were
utilized were manual self-stimulation, manual stimulation by a
partner and/or use of a non-mechanical acrylic device known as a
Crystal or G spot wand.
After the subjects indicated that they felt properly
stimulated and ready for the ejaculatory demonstration part of
the experiment, the catheter was inserted. Their bladders were
drained and the collection bag was changed. The bag with the
drained fluid was saved for later analysis (of levels of urea
and creatinine, the two main ingredients of urine).
Then, with the catheter in place, the subjects were
asked to resume their stimulation of choice and achieved what
they (and the medical team) considered to be an ejaculatory
orgasm. Any method that the woman preferred was acceptable,
although intercourse was not possible, due to the presence of
the catheter tube. The primary conclusion from the experiment
was that, at least for these seven women, all knowledgeable and
experienced ejaculators, the vast majority of the fluid expelled
unquestionably came from their bladders. Even though their
bladders were drained by the catheter, they still expelled from
50 ml to 900 ml of fluid post-drained through the tube and into
the catheter bag, the only reasonable conclusion for which seemed
to be that the liquid came from a combination of fluid from the
walls of the bladder and from new kidney output.
We also noted a consistency of results between our study
and the earlier studies that also showed a greatly reduced
concentration of urea and creatinine (the primary components of
urine). The clear inference was that the expelled fluid is an
altered form of urine, meaning that there appears to be a process
that goes on during sensual or sexual stimulation and excitement
that effects the chemical composition of urine.
Conclusions
The evidence of this experiment is clear and
groundbreaking that the vast majority of the fluid expelled by
women during sexual arousal originates in the bladder.
Furthermore, that fluid, which passes through the urethra, may
be "deurinized" liquid from the bladder. Additionally, in some
women and at some times, a small discharge may be added from the
female equivalent of the prostate gland, medically known as
Skene's glands and long thought to be dormant and no longer
functional, and which may be neither.
It has not yet been proven whether women can expel at least a
small amount of fluid from their urethral (prostate) glands,
during a very deep and intense orgasm, but I sense that it is
very close to being proven. Past research has indicated that
most women have urethral glands and ducts about a third the size
of the prostate gland of the average man, so the amount of fluid
that might be emitted would naturally be likely to be less.
In my study, having segregated the urethra from the bladder, we
observed, at least for our seven subjects, that more than 95% of
the fluid expelled during sexual arousal originated in the
bladder. However, that fluid contained an average of only 25%
of the amounts of urea and creatinine found in the subjects'
baseline urine samples. We theorized that it may lose the
appearance and smell of urine due to the secretion of the hormone
aldosterone during sensual/sexual arousal, causing the
re-absorption of sodium and the excretion of potassium by the
kidneys. (XV) Furthermore, I found research material indicating
that an involuntary opening of the bladder sphincter can be
triggered with stimulation of either the G Crest or the clitoris
or both simultaneously. (XVI)
Moreover, on five occasions we observed a small milky
discharge from the urethra which may mix in the urethra with the
fluid from the bladder. So, it is possible that the ejaculatory
fluid originates not from either the bladder or the urethral
glands, but from both.
For the scientific community to keep saying that the
fluid originating in the bladder is solely the result of urinary
stress incontinence is a vast oversimplification. The same
muscles, nerves, sphincters and reflexes may be involved in
female ejaculation as in urinary stress incontinence but this
is not urination and we do not want to leave women nor their
partners with the impression that they are inappropriately
urinating during sexual arousal. It should also be noted that,
at least in American culture, there are strong negative
associations with urination and defecation even though urine,
of course, is sterile and not all cultures have the same biases
regarding it.
However, if female ejaculation is viewed as natural and
pleasurable, then a woman can feel good about her body as well
as all fluids that come out of it. She can then experience these
expulsions during sexual arousal more positively than in a
situation in which these expulsions are considered "dirty", or a
malfunction of the bladder, urogenital system or any of its
components.
Desmond Heath, a New York psychiatrist, offered an
interesting hypothesis on the question of whether all women can
ejaculate and, if so, why don't they? Basically, it is his
premise that little girls often become excited in their lives
and this may result in their dribbling a few drops of urine.
He theorizes that this is probably followed by some form of
displeasure by their parents or other adults, along with an
admonition that this is bad and wrong, possibly accompanied by
feelings of shame on the part of the child. Often punishment
follows. Subsequently, women learn to keep their pubococcygeal
muscles contracted and don't allow the pelvic floor to relax.
Later on, when they become sexually active, it is natural that
most women find it difficult to feel emotionally safe enough to
allow themselves to become aroused sufficiently to
ejaculate.(XVII)
For women, relaxation and emotional safety are crucial
in order to become aroused and stimulated enough so that at
orgasm they can ejaculate. At such moments a woman might expel
voluminous amounts of fluid from a nearly empty bladder, the
fluid having only a tinge of the odor, smell or appearance of
normal urine. However, for this to happen to women naturally
and normally, our society will have to abandon its puritanical
ancestry and celebrate this event as a symbol of a woman fully
enjoying bodily pleasure.
A New Possiblity for Mutual Pleasure
Despite the fact that scientists and sexologists have
underestimated the capabilities of women's bodies to experience
pleasure, female ejaculation is now beginning to be accepted as
a natural and very pleasurable activity. With stimulation of the
G Crest, there is another source of pleasure and orgasm available
for women. In light of this potentiality, what current sexual
activities may need to be reconsidered? Sensual activities such
as oral or manual stimulation of the genitals and/or simple
caressing (which are now regarded as pleasurable but are
relegated to being just "foreplay" or a prelude to intercourse
or "real" sex) may provide an orgasm that is easier to
facilitate, more intense and more gratifying than is possible
with intercourse itself.
In many modern relationships both partners work at full
time jobs. By the time they get home from work and take care of
family needs, it is often unrealistic to expect that they will
have the time or energy for mutually satisfying intercourse.
However, their emotional and physical needs might be served by
sensual and/or sexual contact that is not simply a precursor to
intercourse but is rather a pleasurable end unto itself.
It's a cliché in our society that men are primarily
focused on sexual intimacy, while women principally seek
emotional intimacy. My experience is that both men and women
find sex and sensuality to be pleasurable physical, emotional
and even spiritual expressions of their love and caring for each
other. Because of male conditioning in our society and the
hypersensitivity of the adolescent penis, it has been easier for
men to give themselves permission to be sexually aroused.
However, for a woman to feel safe enough to become fully aroused,
she must feel that she is emotionally as well as physically safe.
Once she feels that safety -- along with emotional closeness --
she is more willing to explore sexual expressions of intimacy.
So where is the common ground? How can men and women be
together in ways where men can enjoy physical contact and women
can feel safe and comfortable? One new sexual activity that
couples could experience might be referred to as a focalized
pleasure ceremony. This ritual could be pleasurable and, at the
same time, an expression of love and caring between loving
partners. It would not necessarily have to be enormously time
consuming, nor terribly strenuous, so it can be done even when
one or both parties are somewhat tired. The activity would not
necessarily be a prelude to intercourse, but it is possible that
intercourse might follow if that were a mutual decision. This is
how the ceremony might proceed . . .
The male partner could learn to gently explore different
areas of the vagina to see where the woman has a strong response.
He could then make short excursions away from that area to give
it a chance to rest, then return to it for further stimulation.
The woman could give him positive feedback on what makes her feel
the best as they proceed slowly from one degree of pressure to
the next, from one area to another. In this way, the man would
know where the woman is most sensitive and discover how best to
pleasure her.
Each time the partners engage in a pleasure ceremony,
it's important to discover what is really appealing to the woman
at that moment. Women are all different in wondrously unique and
varied ways. The same woman may even have different sensitivities
within the same lovemaking session. It is important to know how
her sensitivities are changing and shifting in small and subtle
ways during a period of time.
Men, being achievement and results-oriented, tend to want
to find a formula that works and then stay with it. They feel
good when they achieve results. Thus, equipped with the
knowledge about the G Crest, men will achieve far better results
in lovemaking and sex play if they realize that there are times
when women want direct hands-on stimulation more than they want
intercourse, just as men themselves sometimes prefer to be
orally or manually stimulated to orgasm.
If the man is familiar with several methods of
stimulation and several areas in the woman's body where she
often feels pleasure then he can go to one of those areas,
manually stimulate it and see if it's sensitive at the moment.
If it is not, he can go to each of the other areas that were
really pleasurable or orgasmic for her in the past until he
finds the one that is pleasurable today, right now. Or he can
ask her to let him know what area she wants touched and in what
way. That way a man can always feel that he has several
alternatives to stimulate a woman and to make her feel wonderful.
The woman feels appreciated because the man is not focused on
only one spot or method while ignoring the others, thinking that
exactly the same thing is going to work all the time, based on
the erroneous assumption that she always "feels" in the same way.
A full understanding of the potential of female
ejaculation and the nature of the G Crest can create a wide range
of sensual opportunities, as long as there is no pressure on the
woman to perform in any particular way. Not all women ejaculate
and even women who are capable of it will not ejaculate every
time. The best perspective for a man to hold is "it's all right
if you do or don't . . . I just want to give you whatever
pleasure you desire." Most of all, it is valuable for the male,
as her lover, to look for the different approaches to pleasuring
her and the different ways to excite her, so as to express love
and caring.
(c)1997 by Dr. Gary Schubach
REFERENCES
(I) Masters, W. and Johnson, V Human Sexual Response.
Boston: Little, Brown, 1966. pg. 135.
(II) Whipple, Beverly, Komisaruk, Barry. "The G spot, orgasm
and female ejaculation: Are they related?" The First
International Conference on Orgasm presentation, February 1991,
pg. 230..
(III) Perry, John D., and Whipple, Beverly. "Pelvic muscle
strength of female ejaculation", Journal of Sex Research, 17",
1981, pg. 32.
(IV) Singer, Josephine and Singer, Irving. "Types of female
orgasm," in LoPiccolo, J. & LoPiccolo, L. (Eds.) Handbook of
Sex Therapy. New York: Plenum Press, 1978, pg. 179.
(V) Tanagho, E. A., M.D. and McAninch, J. W., M.D. Smith's
General Urology. Norwalk, Connecticut: Appleton & Lange, 1995,
Table 30-5, pg. 539.
(VI) Bullough, B., David, M., Whipple, B., Dixon, J., Algeier,
E. R., and Drury, K.C. "Subjective reports of female orgasmic
expulsion of fluid," Nurse Practitioner, March, 1984, pg. 59.
(VII) Ladas, Alice K., Whipple, Beverly and Perry, John D.
The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality.
New York: Dell Publishing, 1982, pg. 152
(VIII) Sevely, J. Lowndes, and Bennett, J. W. "Concerning
female ejaculation and the female prostate," Journal of Sex
Research, 14: 424-427, 1978, pg. 5
(IX) De Graaf, Regnier. (1672) "New treatise concerning the
generative organs of women." In Journal of Reproduction and
Fertility, Supplement No. 17, 77-222. H. B. Jocelyn and
B. P. Setchell, eds. Oxford, England: Blackwell Scientific
Publications, 1972, pgs. 103-104.
(X) Berkow, Samuel G. "The corpus spongeosum of the urethra:
its possible role in urinary control and stress incontinence in
women," American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, 65: 1953,
pg. 350.
(XI) Gräfenberg, Ernst. "The role of urethra in female orgasm,"
International Journal of Sexology, 3:, 1950, pg. 147.
(XII) Zaviacic, M., Whipple, B. "Update on the female prostate
and the phenomenon of female ejaculation," The Journal of Sex
Research, 1993, pg. 149.
(XIII) Gräfenberg, pg. 146
(XIV) Zaviacic, M., Zaviacicova,A., Holoman,I. K. and Molcan,J..
"Female urethral expulsions evoked by local digital stimulation
of the G-spot: Differences in the response patterns," The Journal
of Sex Research, 24: 311-318, 1988, pg. 311
(XV) Normal Renal Function, pg. 88, in Smith's General Urology.
Norwalk, Connecticut: Appleton & Lange, 1995
(XVI) Tanagho, E. A., M.D. and McAninch, J. W., M.D. Smith's
General Urology. Norwalk, Connecticut: Appleton & Lange, 1995,
Table 30-5, pg. 539.
(XVII) Heath, D. "Female ejaculation: its relationship to
disturbances of erotic function," Medical Hypotheses,
24 (1):103-106.
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THE G-"CREST" AND FEMALE EJACULATION (c)1997
by
Gary Schubach, Ed.D.
The question of the sexual phenomenon known as female
ejaculation and whether there exists a female erogenous zone
popularly known as the "G spot" have been major areas of
continued controversy and debate among sex researchers,
gynecologists and sex therapists. Perhaps no two sexual issues,
including the question of clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms, have
created so much public interest.
These subjects are continuing to attract the attention
of the public, particularly of women, as well as the so-called
experts in human sexuality, because they are biological issues
that have significant social ramifications. What would be the
potential impact on our collective sexual belief systems (and
actual behaviors/activities) if female ejaculation and the
existence of the G spot achieved widespread legitimacy?
Since the 1920's the conventional medical establishment
has dismissed "female ejaculation" as actually being a condition
known as urinary stress incontinence. This condition is
considered to be an undesirable bodily dysfunction in which urine
is involuntarily expelled from the urethras of women due to
physical straining such as might also occur with coughing or
sneezing as well as sexual arousal or orgasm. Women have
generally considered such expulsions to be a source of personal
shame or embarrassment that also frequently elicited disapproval
from their sexual partners. Physicians usually attempt to
correct the condition, either by the use of Kegel exercises or
by surgery.
Furthermore, noted experts in the field of human
sexuality such as Alfred Kinsey and Masters and Johnson dismissed
female ejaculation as being an "erroneous but widespread
concept." (I) Masters and Johnson also argued against the
existence of the erogenous zone known as the "G-spot" and stood
steadfastly for the premise that the clitoris alone was
responsible for triggering female orgasm.
However, if it should turn out that these experts had
underestimated the sexual capabilities of women's bodies by
portraying pleasurable sexual activities like female ejaculation
as abnormal and/or imagined, it could have a significant effect
on women's views of their sexuality. If the new evidence about
these expulsions demonstrated that they are natural sexual bodily
functions then many women could be free of guilt and shame about
expelling fluid during sex.
Other benefits of a public recognition of female
ejaculation as a natural event (and the so-called G spot as an
erogenous zone, capable of producing orgasm in a woman) could be
the creation of additional sexual activities that might not just
be a prelude to intercourse but an end unto themselves. It could
lead to a broadening of peoples' sensual experiences and their
sexual repertoire. New pleasurable behaviors, with no goal other
than pleasure from those activities, could be learned with the
added benefits that they have very low risk in terms of AIDS,
STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
All of these social issues become a backdrop for new
evidence I discovered during my doctoral research project that,
as a result of advanced and heightened states of sensual/sexual
arousal, some women do expel fluid. In the past, the assumption
has been that the expulsions originated either in the bladder or
from the urethral glands and ducts. My study indicated that both
may be the case in that a small amount of fluid may be released
from the urethral glands and ducts in some instances and mixed
in the urethra with a clear fluid that originates in the bladder.
The Nature of Female Orgasm
For the last 50 years, modern science has generally
accepted first Kinsey's and then Masters and Johnson's premise
that the clitoris alone was responsible for triggering female
orgasm. They saw the creation of an "orgasmic platform" that
underwent a build-up of muscle tension and sexual energy that
was then released during orgasm. (II)
However, in 1981, Perry and Whipple, two of the
co-authors of the book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries
About Human Sexuality, presented a theory of a second form of
orgasm. This "uterine" orgasm "included the Gräfenberg Spot
(presumed to be the female prostate) as its major source of
stimulation . . ." (III)
Singer and Singer then went on, in 1978, to describe a
blended orgasm which "combines elements of the previous two kinds
. . . characterized by contractions of the orgasmic platform,
but the orgasm is subjectively regarded as deeper than a vulval
orgasm." (IV)
Now there is new evidence from urology textbooks that
heightened stimulation during sensual arousal can indeed create
an involuntary opening of the bladder sphincter. This
involuntary opening can occur from stimulation of either the
clitoris, or from stimulation of the pelvic nerve through the
upper wall of the vagina, or from both simultaneously. (V)
Stimulation of the urethral glands can be accomplished either by
manual stimulation or intercourse, utilizing a correct angle of
penetration. Stimulation of the G Crest of some women can also
be produced by pressing downward from the outside of the body,
slightly above the pubic bone. Other studies indicated that
"stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall is clearly not a
prerequisite to ejaculation, although the data suggest it may be
facilitated by this type of stimulation." (VI)
All of this highlights how subjective and personal a
woman's experience of orgasm can be. There is much yet to learn
about the intricacies of female orgasm, including the emotional
and intellectual components. The experience of orgasm for many
women is a continuum of experience, not one way or another,
correct or incorrect. There can be a blending of different types
of orgasmic experiences that are unique to the individual. (VII)
This point was made over and over in the comments of the female
subjects in my study. One woman participant indicated that she
had categorized and kept notes on 126 different types of orgasm
to date and she is constantly finding new and more subtle
variations.
Historical References To Female Ejaculation
Throughout time there have been reports of the expulsion
of fluid from the vagina by women during sexual arousal and/or
orgasm. There were references to this by historic scientific
figures such as Aristotle and Galen, discussing and identifying
vaginal expulsions which did not seem to have the appearance or
smell of urine and did not stain bed sheets.
There were also many references to vaginal expulsions in
classical literature. However, it is impossible to determine
whether these passages are simple reporting of what the writer
actually saw or a dramatization of popular male sexual fantasies
of the times. (VIII)
The first modern description both of female genitalia and
the question of vaginal expulsions came from the 17th century
Dutch physician, Regnier De Graaf. He stated: "The urethra is
lined internally by a thin membrane. In the lower part, near the
outlet of the urinary passage, this membrane is pierced by large
ducts, or lacunae, through which pituito-serous matter
occasionally discharges in considerable quantities. Between this
very thin membrane and the fleshy fibres we have just described
there is, along the whole duct of the urethra, a whitish,
membranous substance about one finger-breadth thick which
completely surrounds the urethral canal . . . the substance could
be called quite aptly the female prostatae or corpus glandulosum,
'glandulous body.'" (IX)
De Graaf's description of the "prostate" in women in
reference to the glands surrounding the female urethra
represented conventional medical thought for almost 200 years.
In 1880, Dr. Alexander Skene, professor of gynecology in the
Long Island College Hospital in Brooklyn, New York, wrote a paper
describing and diagramming various glands and ducts surrounding
the female urethra. Modern science then began to refer to them
as Skene's glands, a term that is still in use today.
In 1953, Dr. Samuel Berkow, a urologist, came to the
conclusion that the tissue of Skene's glands was erectile when
stimulated. However, Berkow's primary interest was in urination
and he believed that the function of the "erectile tissue" was to
pinch off the urethra in order to control urination. He never
explored the question of whether it could become erect during
sexual activity. (X)
In 1950, the German obstetrician, Ernst Gräfenberg, wrote
of observing the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during
sexual arousal. "If there is the opportunity to observe the
orgasm of such women, one can see that large quantities of a
clear, transparent fluid (that) are expelled not from the vulva,
but out of the urethra in gushes. At first, I thought that the
bladder sphincter has become defective by the intensity of the
orgasm. Involuntary expulsion of urine is reported in sex
literature. In the cases observed by us, the fluid was examined
and it had no urinary character. I am inclined to believe that
'urine' reported to be expelled during female orgasm is not
urine, but only secretions of the intraurethral glands correlated
with the erotogenic zone along the urethra in the anterior
vaginal wall. Moreover, the profuse secretions coming out with
the orgasm have no lubricating significance, otherwise they would
be produced at the beginning of intercourse and not at the peak
of orgasm." (XI)
At the same time, the medical and scientific
establishment was highly resistant to considering evidence of a
cause for female ejaculation other than urinary stress
incontinence. Again, they (and presumably their female patients)
tended to consider ejaculation as an undesirable bodily
dysfunction, generally resulting in the women experiencing guilt
and shame. There have also been frequent reports of disapproval
and recriminations from sexual partners of women who "ejaculate"
that have often led to painful relationship issues and even
dissolution of marriages.
At this point, it should be noted that doctors, who may
be very knowledgeable in the areas of urology and reproductive
biology, have had little training or experience in human
sexuality. If a woman patient were to have evidence of an
expulsion of fluid during sensual/sexual activity, a doctor would
be unlikely to check for sensitivity through the anterior wall of
the vagina. Even if the physician were to suspect a possible
expulsion from Skene's glands, ethics would prevent most doctors
from engaging in an Ob/Gyn exam in which the patients was
sexually aroused so as to duplicate the conditions of the
expulsions.
In the early 1980's, there were several studies that
concluded that what had been called Skene's glands and/or
paraurethral ducts and glands were, in fact, not a vestigial
homologue of the male prostate but, instead, a "small, functional
organ that produces female prostatic secretion and possesses
cells with neuroendocrine function, comparable to the male
prostate." (XII)
The G "Crest"
The so called G "Spot" is perhaps the most misunderstood
area of three seemingly interconnected subjects: female
ejaculation, the urethral glands and ducts, and the G "spot."
This term was first introduced to the public at large in the
book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human
Sexuality. It referred to the previously mentioned 1950 article
in the International Journal of Sexology in which Gräfenberg also
wrote about erotic sensitivity along the anterior vaginal wall.
Gräfenberg clearly stated that it was his opinion that what he
felt through the anterior vaginal wall was erectile tissue.
He stated that during sexual arousal "the female urethra
begins to enlarge and can be felt easily. It swells out greatly
at the end of orgasm. The most stimulating part is located at
the posterior urethra where it arises from the neck of the
bladder." (XIII) Others have noted that the size and development
of these tissues will vary greatly from woman to woman and may
change during arousal.
The area on the upper wall of the vagina has been
popularly but erroneously called the G spot and would be better
labeled as the G Crest. It is the popular media that has
promulgated the notion of a "spot" on the anterior wall of the
vagina itself. The search for a "spot" on the anterior wall of
the vagina, as opposed to searching for the urethral glands
through the anterior wall may be contributing to the difficulty
of finding the G "spot" and the controversy as to whether it
exists at all.
There is great potential value in renaming the G "spot"
as the G "Crest." In that terminology, the "G" would be
retained, as reference to and as credit to the important work of
Gräfenberg. The word 'Crest' is also more useful as a
description than "spot" because the swollen female urethral
glands feel more like a protruding ridge than a spot (thus
enabling her partner to locate the area more readily with less
confusion) thus lessening some of the confusion there seems to be
in finding it. Furthermore, the word 'Crest' also invokes an
image of rising sensual/sexual pleasure.
There have been studies that have indicated that the
stimulation of the 'G Crest' by itself may induce an orgasm that
feels very pleasurable, although different than a clitoral
orgasm. As Gräfenberg previously observed, this may induce an
expulsion of fluid through the urethra at orgasm. In 1988, Milan
Zaviacic, M. D., Ph.D., head of the Institute of Pathology of the
Comenius University in Bratislava, Slovakia, examined and
stimulated the 'G Crests' of 27 women patients who volunteered
for his study. Ten of the 27 women (37%) were induced to have
urethral expulsions, with a wide variation in the amount of
stimulation required before the expulsion. (XIV)
The Experiment
I became interested in the controversy about the source
and cause of female ejaculation during the course of my doctoral
studies. My doctoral research project was an exploratory
experiment designed to provide information about some of the key
issues in this controversy by collecting precise data during a
medical procedure. The procedure I chose involved placing a
Foley catheter through the urethra and into the bladder of seven
women who reported that they regularly expelled fluid during
sensual and/or sexual arousal. The purpose of the catheter was
to effectively segregate the bladder from the urethra and collect
vaginal expulsions in a controlled, medically supervised
environment.
It was an interesting experiment that had been conceived
previously by researchers but never actually performed. I was
moved to do this research mainly because I was intrigued by the
fact that it had never been done before and fortunately I was
acquainted with women ejaculators who were potential and willing
subjects. Following a considerable amount of time screening and
preparing the applicants, I assembled and managed the necessary
research team, including medical personnel, and we created a
relaxed and comfortable environment that was conducive to the
experiment.
After urine specimens were collected from each of the
female subjects, they were aroused for a period of at least an
hour in whatever manner was preferable to them before the actual
insertion of the catheter. The stimulation choices that were
utilized were manual self-stimulation, manual stimulation by a
partner and/or use of a non-mechanical acrylic device known as a
Crystal or G spot wand.
After the subjects indicated that they felt properly
stimulated and ready for the ejaculatory demonstration part of
the experiment, the catheter was inserted. Their bladders were
drained and the collection bag was changed. The bag with the
drained fluid was saved for later analysis (of levels of urea
and creatinine, the two main ingredients of urine).
Then, with the catheter in place, the subjects were
asked to resume their stimulation of choice and achieved what
they (and the medical team) considered to be an ejaculatory
orgasm. Any method that the woman preferred was acceptable,
although intercourse was not possible, due to the presence of
the catheter tube. The primary conclusion from the experiment
was that, at least for these seven women, all knowledgeable and
experienced ejaculators, the vast majority of the fluid expelled
unquestionably came from their bladders. Even though their
bladders were drained by the catheter, they still expelled from
50 ml to 900 ml of fluid post-drained through the tube and into
the catheter bag, the only reasonable conclusion for which seemed
to be that the liquid came from a combination of fluid from the
walls of the bladder and from new kidney output.
We also noted a consistency of results between our study
and the earlier studies that also showed a greatly reduced
concentration of urea and creatinine (the primary components of
urine). The clear inference was that the expelled fluid is an
altered form of urine, meaning that there appears to be a process
that goes on during sensual or sexual stimulation and excitement
that effects the chemical composition of urine.
Conclusions
The evidence of this experiment is clear and
groundbreaking that the vast majority of the fluid expelled by
women during sexual arousal originates in the bladder.
Furthermore, that fluid, which passes through the urethra, may
be "deurinized" liquid from the bladder. Additionally, in some
women and at some times, a small discharge may be added from the
female equivalent of the prostate gland, medically known as
Skene's glands and long thought to be dormant and no longer
functional, and which may be neither.
It has not yet been proven whether women can expel at least a
small amount of fluid from their urethral (prostate) glands,
during a very deep and intense orgasm, but I sense that it is
very close to being proven. Past research has indicated that
most women have urethral glands and ducts about a third the size
of the prostate gland of the average man, so the amount of fluid
that might be emitted would naturally be likely to be less.
In my study, having segregated the urethra from the bladder, we
observed, at least for our seven subjects, that more than 95% of
the fluid expelled during sexual arousal originated in the
bladder. However, that fluid contained an average of only 25%
of the amounts of urea and creatinine found in the subjects'
baseline urine samples. We theorized that it may lose the
appearance and smell of urine due to the secretion of the hormone
aldosterone during sensual/sexual arousal, causing the
re-absorption of sodium and the excretion of potassium by the
kidneys. (XV) Furthermore, I found research material indicating
that an involuntary opening of the bladder sphincter can be
triggered with stimulation of either the G Crest or the clitoris
or both simultaneously. (XVI)
Moreover, on five occasions we observed a small milky
discharge from the urethra which may mix in the urethra with the
fluid from the bladder. So, it is possible that the ejaculatory
fluid originates not from either the bladder or the urethral
glands, but from both.
For the scientific community to keep saying that the
fluid originating in the bladder is solely the result of urinary
stress incontinence is a vast oversimplification. The same
muscles, nerves, sphincters and reflexes may be involved in
female ejaculation as in urinary stress incontinence but this
is not urination and we do not want to leave women nor their
partners with the impression that they are inappropriately
urinating during sexual arousal. It should also be noted that,
at least in American culture, there are strong negative
associations with urination and defecation even though urine,
of course, is sterile and not all cultures have the same biases
regarding it.
However, if female ejaculation is viewed as natural and
pleasurable, then a woman can feel good about her body as well
as all fluids that come out of it. She can then experience these
expulsions during sexual arousal more positively than in a
situation in which these expulsions are considered "dirty", or a
malfunction of the bladder, urogenital system or any of its
components.
Desmond Heath, a New York psychiatrist, offered an
interesting hypothesis on the question of whether all women can
ejaculate and, if so, why don't they? Basically, it is his
premise that little girls often become excited in their lives
and this may result in their dribbling a few drops of urine.
He theorizes that this is probably followed by some form of
displeasure by their parents or other adults, along with an
admonition that this is bad and wrong, possibly accompanied by
feelings of shame on the part of the child. Often punishment
follows. Subsequently, women learn to keep their pubococcygeal
muscles contracted and don't allow the pelvic floor to relax.
Later on, when they become sexually active, it is natural that
most women find it difficult to feel emotionally safe enough to
allow themselves to become aroused sufficiently to
ejaculate.(XVII)
For women, relaxation and emotional safety are crucial
in order to become aroused and stimulated enough so that at
orgasm they can ejaculate. At such moments a woman might expel
voluminous amounts of fluid from a nearly empty bladder, the
fluid having only a tinge of the odor, smell or appearance of
normal urine. However, for this to happen to women naturally
and normally, our society will have to abandon its puritanical
ancestry and celebrate this event as a symbol of a woman fully
enjoying bodily pleasure.
A New Possiblity for Mutual Pleasure
Despite the fact that scientists and sexologists have
underestimated the capabilities of women's bodies to experience
pleasure, female ejaculation is now beginning to be accepted as
a natural and very pleasurable activity. With stimulation of the
G Crest, there is another source of pleasure and orgasm available
for women. In light of this potentiality, what current sexual
activities may need to be reconsidered? Sensual activities such
as oral or manual stimulation of the genitals and/or simple
caressing (which are now regarded as pleasurable but are
relegated to being just "foreplay" or a prelude to intercourse
or "real" sex) may provide an orgasm that is easier to
facilitate, more intense and more gratifying than is possible
with intercourse itself.
In many modern relationships both partners work at full
time jobs. By the time they get home from work and take care of
family needs, it is often unrealistic to expect that they will
have the time or energy for mutually satisfying intercourse.
However, their emotional and physical needs might be served by
sensual and/or sexual contact that is not simply a precursor to
intercourse but is rather a pleasurable end unto itself.
It's a cliché in our society that men are primarily
focused on sexual intimacy, while women principally seek
emotional intimacy. My experience is that both men and women
find sex and sensuality to be pleasurable physical, emotional
and even spiritual expressions of their love and caring for each
other. Because of male conditioning in our society and the
hypersensitivity of the adolescent penis, it has been easier for
men to give themselves permission to be sexually aroused.
However, for a woman to feel safe enough to become fully aroused,
she must feel that she is emotionally as well as physically safe.
Once she feels that safety -- along with emotional closeness --
she is more willing to explore sexual expressions of intimacy.
So where is the common ground? How can men and women be
together in ways where men can enjoy physical contact and women
can feel safe and comfortable? One new sexual activity that
couples could experience might be referred to as a focalized
pleasure ceremony. This ritual could be pleasurable and, at the
same time, an expression of love and caring between loving
partners. It would not necessarily have to be enormously time
consuming, nor terribly strenuous, so it can be done even when
one or both parties are somewhat tired. The activity would not
necessarily be a prelude to intercourse, but it is possible that
intercourse might follow if that were a mutual decision. This is
how the ceremony might proceed . . .
The male partner could learn to gently explore different
areas of the vagina to see where the woman has a strong response.
He could then make short excursions away from that area to give
it a chance to rest, then return to it for further stimulation.
The woman could give him positive feedback on what makes her feel
the best as they proceed slowly from one degree of pressure to
the next, from one area to another. In this way, the man would
know where the woman is most sensitive and discover how best to
pleasure her.
Each time the partners engage in a pleasure ceremony,
it's important to discover what is really appealing to the woman
at that moment. Women are all different in wondrously unique and
varied ways. The same woman may even have different sensitivities
within the same lovemaking session. It is important to know how
her sensitivities are changing and shifting in small and subtle
ways during a period of time.
Men, being achievement and results-oriented, tend to want
to find a formula that works and then stay with it. They feel
good when they achieve results. Thus, equipped with the
knowledge about the G Crest, men will achieve far better results
in lovemaking and sex play if they realize that there are times
when women want direct hands-on stimulation more than they want
intercourse, just as men themselves sometimes prefer to be
orally or manually stimulated to orgasm.
If the man is familiar with several methods of
stimulation and several areas in the woman's body where she
often feels pleasure then he can go to one of those areas,
manually stimulate it and see if it's sensitive at the moment.
If it is not, he can go to each of the other areas that were
really pleasurable or orgasmic for her in the past until he
finds the one that is pleasurable today, right now. Or he can
ask her to let him know what area she wants touched and in what
way. That way a man can always feel that he has several
alternatives to stimulate a woman and to make her feel wonderful.
The woman feels appreciated because the man is not focused on
only one spot or method while ignoring the others, thinking that
exactly the same thing is going to work all the time, based on
the erroneous assumption that she always "feels" in the same way.
A full understanding of the potential of female
ejaculation and the nature of the G Crest can create a wide range
of sensual opportunities, as long as there is no pressure on the
woman to perform in any particular way. Not all women ejaculate
and even women who are capable of it will not ejaculate every
time. The best perspective for a man to hold is "it's all right
if you do or don't . . . I just want to give you whatever
pleasure you desire." Most of all, it is valuable for the male,
as her lover, to look for the different approaches to pleasuring
her and the different ways to excite her, so as to express love
and caring.
(c)1997 by Dr. Gary Schubach
REFERENCES
(I) Masters, W. and Johnson, V Human Sexual Response.
Boston: Little, Brown, 1966. pg. 135.
(II) Whipple, Beverly, Komisaruk, Barry. "The G spot, orgasm
and female ejaculation: Are they related?" The First
International Conference on Orgasm presentation, February 1991,
pg. 230..
(III) Perry, John D., and Whipple, Beverly. "Pelvic muscle
strength of female ejaculation", Journal of Sex Research, 17",
1981, pg. 32.
(IV) Singer, Josephine and Singer, Irving. "Types of female
orgasm," in LoPiccolo, J. & LoPiccolo, L. (Eds.) Handbook of
Sex Therapy. New York: Plenum Press, 1978, pg. 179.
(V) Tanagho, E. A., M.D. and McAninch, J. W., M.D. Smith's
General Urology. Norwalk, Connecticut: Appleton & Lange, 1995,
Table 30-5, pg. 539.
(VI) Bullough, B., David, M., Whipple, B., Dixon, J., Algeier,
E. R., and Drury, K.C. "Subjective reports of female orgasmic
expulsion of fluid," Nurse Practitioner, March, 1984, pg. 59.
(VII) Ladas, Alice K., Whipple, Beverly and Perry, John D.
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Female Ejaculation? Yummm! 
Having been single for nearly 20 years now, I have had a few girlfriends and some of them squirted upon orgasm. Yippee!!!
One in particular had the habit of drinking Diet Coke throughout the day, everyday. Hmmmm, must have been the Nutrisweet....
Her cum was so sweet and sexy! OMG! I couldn't get enough of it. And too, her pee was also quite tasty, although a bit different tasting.
Having been single for nearly 20 years now, I have had a few girlfriends and some of them squirted upon orgasm. Yippee!!!
One in particular had the habit of drinking Diet Coke throughout the day, everyday. Hmmmm, must have been the Nutrisweet....
Her cum was so sweet and sexy! OMG! I couldn't get enough of it. And too, her pee was also quite tasty, although a bit different tasting.
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Great article, I read the entire post. What is stated in the article matches exactly what I have experienced. And come to think of it, I previously had thought that I had seen only instance of female ejaculation and that was with a woman that I was having an affair with at the time. The wet spot on the bed was huge. But many times over the years there has been a wet spot on the bed after intercouse. Sometimes this wet spot was only one foot to two feet across. And I certainly remember particularly exciting bouts of intercourse where the female's vagina feel very wet around her climax. I'm beginning to think that I've seen many cases of female ejaculation and I just didn't realize it. I think its wonderful. Women seem to often receive the "short end of the stick" in matters involving sexual activity. And its about damn time that all women are treated as equals to men in all aspects of life including sexual matters. I love women.
Of course I am not an expert by any means. However, I have heard it said that all women are quite capable of squirting when they cum. You simply just LET GO! Don't hold back! Let your inhibitions fly into the wind and C U M for all you're worth!
I would be most interested in feedback from any ladies and your efforts and/or lack of control. Just CUM and don't hold back. LET it fly for all you're worth.
Daddy Tom
I would be most interested in feedback from any ladies and your efforts and/or lack of control. Just CUM and don't hold back. LET it fly for all you're worth.
Daddy Tom
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Its a fact
I will add my confirmation to the fact that a woman can come. I had the pleasure of loving one for several years. It was a clear to milky substance and occured during particulary intense orgasms for her. Those milkey orgasms are missed.
I will add my confirmation to the fact that a woman can come. I had the pleasure of loving one for several years. It was a clear to milky substance and occured during particulary intense orgasms for her. Those milkey orgasms are missed.
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c.fey said:
I know, isn't it a great article! I was so happy when I found it. I just wish I had been in the research team... anyone wanna start a new one???
Ta ~ fey
Fey,
I'm not a doctor, but I play one on TV. I will be more than glad to "head" a team of researchers in this very important subject. It'll be "hard" work, but we must put our heads together and make sure no woman will suffer like that again. Our goal should be that every woman of legal age should have a G-spot orgasm by 2006. If we have to do it ourselves, then we have to just do that. Who volunteers? It's in the name of science.
