Fuck It: Refux

[WriterLust94]

So... To try and get things a bit more focused

I have questions about multiples. What do we think is the magic number. Does that change from a hookup to a poly situation too?

I get crowded easily so probably wouldn't want more than two people. So a gang bang would be too much. Throuples and polycules interest me because that's not necessarily all at the same time so I think that would depend on how much time and energy you could give.

What do you think?

Definitely part of my list, mostly threesomes/foursomes. I think if it was any more than that I'd probably be watching (though that may be the voyeur in me ).

Whether that would change into relationships is a bigger question. If my partner said to me that she'd found a woman that she wanted to be involved with alongside me (and since she is in fact Pan then that isn't entirely impossible) I think I would support her and encourage her. As long as she was a good person and the chemistry and bond was there then fair enough. Beyond that I'm not sure, I think those that have said it comes down to the connection; the bond between the people(s) involved and whether it wouldn't disrupt or break those connections.

It's a bit like that old question of do you take a friendship that is intimate and deep and progress it further, how would that change and affect what comes before... Or perhaps I'm over-thinking things as usual : ]

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

Well as long as I'm not involved in this. It's bad enough cleaning my own house. I ain't doing yours too. And I'm broke
Back rubs are something I would consider

Eh, we can hire out. Get a housekeeper. To be a fifth!

Modern problems require modern solutions.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Definitely part of my list, mostly threesomes/foursomes. I think if it was any more than that I'd probably be watching (though that may be the voyeur in me ).

Whether that would change into relationships is a bigger question. If my partner said to me that she'd found a woman that she wanted to be involved with alongside me (and since she is in fact Pan then that isn't entirely impossible) I think I would support her and encourage her. As long as she was a good person and the chemistry and bond was there then fair enough. Beyond that I'm not sure, I think those that have said it comes down to the connection; the bond between the people(s) involved and whether it wouldn't disrupt or break those connections.

It's a bit like that old question of do you take a friendship that is intimate and deep and progress it further, how would that change and affect what comes before... Or perhaps I'm over-thinking things as usual : ]

Oh the connection would have to be the most important thing. Complete trust and openness too.

I've had a lot of deep friendships over the years where I've wondered if the next step should be taken or not. Is it worth risking everything? I don't often get it right. Taking a chance and being rejected or staying friends and finding out much later that it was too late

 

[WriterLust94]

Oh the connection would have to be the most important thing. Complete trust and openness too.

I've had a lot of deep friendships over the years where I've wondered if the next step should be taken or not. Is it worth risking everything? I don't often get it right. Taking a chance and being rejected or staying friends and finding out much later that it was too late

That old line of 'shoulda/woulda/coulda' etc : ]

 

[SiFi]

That old line of 'shoulda/woulda/coulda' etc : ]

We've all been there !

 

[Saltfountain]

We've all been there !

Genuinely, I haven't

 

[SiFi]

Genuinely, I haven't

Lucky man, one of mine resulted in a divorce and I didn’t do anything wrong, well not much.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Lucky man, one of mine resulted in a divorce and I didn’t do anything wrong, well not much.

Story time...

 

[SiFi]

Story time...

It a bit of a long story, I could do in PM's or on here if it's not too much of a distraction. Might have to wait 'til later when I more time.

 

[Saltfountain]

It a bit of a long story, I could do in PM's or on here if it's not too much of a distraction. Might have to wait 'til later when I more time.

Looks like someone's trying to slide your ass pms @RosewoodTulip...

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Looks like someone's trying to slide your ass pms @RosewoodTulip...

Hush you

No worries @SiFi. I'm nosey but I won't make you share unless you want to. It can wait

 

[WriterLust94]

I have a question, mostly drawn from my own tastes & fuck-it list

I like to think of myself as equal parts Voyeur & Exhibitionist; I could enjoy watching people(s) indulging themselves, or being watched by others as I or me & other people have fun. Both would be thrilling for me personally

My question is does anyone else feel this way? How far would you go? Have you already done stuff?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I have a question, mostly drawn from my own tastes & fuck-it list

I like to think of myself as equal parts Voyeur & Exhibitionist; I could enjoy watching people(s) indulging themselves, or being watched by others as I or me & other people have fun. Both would be thrilling for me personally

My question is does anyone else feel this way? How far would you go? Have you already done stuff?

Well I am both an exhibitionist and voyeur. Probably more exhibitionist than a voyeur. Honestly, what may be unique about me as a voyeur, it isn't the sexual activities that I find exciting, it is their emotion, usually a mix of excitement and discomfort, and how the discomfort turns into a thrill.

How far would I go? if both, not sure how to answer that as how far is the end of the line? what I have already done?

Well, I still think my best voyeur story was hiring a Vegas "stripper" for blow jobs at my wedding reception for volunteers for science.

For exhibitionism, my husband and I used to go to this fetish club way back in the day. Honestly it was mostly BDSM so not quite my thing, but they are very exhibitionist friendly, and I do love the outfits so I look the part. We used to screw there. so guess that is largest crowd winner. However I think the best story was a work trip. It was a industry show, and several members of my department where there. There was this guy Bill, kind of Ken doll good looking, but a little far on the arrogant and egotistical side, however sales guys often are. We ended up hooking up in the hotel hot tub. A security guard comes in. I start preparing to get scolded and kicked out of the area. like finding my suit, while doing the typical "Sorry, my bad, overcome with the excitement of the moment, never happen again, will leave" speech to avoid escalation. But the guard was like, hell, I am not here to bust you, this is like porn to me, I just came for a better view, continue, and pulls up a chair and sits down. Bwaaaaa. That has never happened before or again.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I have a question, mostly drawn from my own tastes & fuck-it list

I like to think of myself as equal parts Voyeur & Exhibitionist; I could enjoy watching people(s) indulging themselves, or being watched by others as I or me & other people have fun. Both would be thrilling for me personally

My question is does anyone else feel this way? How far would you go? Have you already done stuff?

I scored quite high on the BDSM test on both of those things. Which is weird cos I'm really shy. Well in public at least.

In private I enjoy showing off because the trust in the other person has already been established. I also enjoy watching. Again in private. I don't have a lot of interest or desire in people I don't know but someone that I'm attracted to showing themselves to me? Amazing!

 

[Saltfountain]

I scored quite high on the BDSM test on both of those things. Which is weird cos I'm really shy. Well in public at least.

In private I enjoy showing off because the trust in the other person has already been established. I also enjoy watching. Again in private. I don't have a lot of interest or desire in people I don't know but someone that I'm attracted to showing themselves to me? Amazing!

I get the biggest turn on from sharing with people I feel some connection to

I like random people liking my pics, but I get more happiness from people I am turned on by liking them

 

[WriterLust94]

I scored quite high on the BDSM test on both of those things. Which is weird cos I'm really shy. Well in public at least.

In private I enjoy showing off because the trust in the other person has already been established. I also enjoy watching. Again in private. I don't have a lot of interest or desire in people I don't know but someone that I'm attracted to showing themselves to me? Amazing!

Interesting, and I can definitely understand enjoying more showing/watching someone you're already connected to. Much more stimulating I can bet

 

[barefootgirl69]

I scored 1% in the Voyeur category and I'm pretty sure it was for things like what a partner did for me a few years ago.

Setting up our Skype video chat so I could watch him shower, shave, and all kinds of good things after. It was exciting and arousing, probably because we both knew what would be happening next.

Video was good, but real time was so much hotter.

 

[Radiantcurves87]

I will pass on the girl talk, but I admit to loving cleaning, especially if the place is mucky so I can see the results!

Mucky? Okay, I'll see what I can do otherwise.

 

[Lindi37]

I will pass on the girl talk, but I admit to loving cleaning, especially if the place is mucky so I can see the results!

Well, do I have the place for you!

 

[Radiantcurves87]

Well you know, dusty, I don't mean an inch of mud over the floor!!

Dusty, messy, and muddy I can work with Limit is mold. I watch wayy too many carpet cleaning and organizing videos.

 

[Saltfountain]

I recently, talked to someone, mainly @Bbl87 , he won't mind me saying it was him. lol He helped me realize I am not so vanilla as i thought. Between what the list of what Iike, have done and want to do.

Missed this when you posted, @Radiantcurves87

Was there anything in your discussions that surprised you?

 

[Radiantcurves87]

I clearly have a lot to learn!

Back when I was a freshmen, one of my college friends saw the way I clean. She blames and thanks me now for it. My family has tried to ask me to clean their homes, but timing was never right.

 

[Radiantcurves87]

Missed this when you posted, @Radiantcurves87

Was there anything in your discussions that surprised you?

Yes and No, depends on the subject matter in full honesty.

 

[SiFi]

@Saltfountain do you want my story on here or shall I PM to anyone that wants it ?

 

[Saltfountain]

Yes and No, depends on the subject matter in full honesty.

What surprised you about how not vanilla you are?
(if you don't mind me asking)