Fuck It: Refux

[Lindi37]

Thank you. I probably won’t contribute much as I have lived a very sheltered life and I am so very vanilla. I do however enjoy reading all you sexy fucker’s kinky antics

All the kinky things I’ve done are mainly in my head

 

[Saltfountain]

Kinda not sure where to go from there...

So I'll chuck a curveball instead...

What was the last thing people ticked off their fuck it list?

 

[RosewoodTulip]

All the kinky things I’ve done are mainly in my head

Same

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Kinda not sure where to go from there...

So I'll chuck a curveball instead...

What was the last thing people ticked off their fuck it list?

Oh good question

Well I've found a Daddy and I'm enjoying exploring everything that comes with it

I have shared pics of my body with complete strangers and liked it

I have sent more than pics to very special friends and loved it

Most of the rest of the things on my list requires another person to be physically with me.

There are a one or two items as well that I'm keeping to myself

 

[Saltfountain]

Oh good question

Well I've found a Daddy and I'm enjoying exploring everything that comes with it

I have shared pics of my body with complete strangers and liked it

I have sent more than pics to very special friends and loved it

Most of the rest of the things on my list requires another person to be physically with me.

There are a one or two items as well that I'm keeping to myself

Wow! Sounds like someone has been a busy girl!
How is it making you feel on your journey into kink?

 

[Saltfountain]

Thank you. I probably won’t contribute much as I have lived a very sheltered life and I am so very vanilla. I do however enjoy reading all you sexy fucker’s kinky antics

No one needs experience to have a fuck it list

I've fucked one person in my 50 years, and she's vanilla as fuck ..

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Wow! Sounds like someone has been a busy girl!
How is it making you feel on your journey into kink?

It feels great
I just wish I'd started to figure this stuff out years ago.

Everything I've done so far feels right if that makes sense. Like I'm uncovering the real me

 

[Saltfountain]

It feels great
I just wish I'd started to figure this stuff out years ago.

Everything I've done so far feels right if that makes sense. Like I'm uncovering the real me

Makes total sense. It's like unlocking a secret doorway that you didn't even know existed

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Makes total sense. It's like unlocking a secret doorway that you didn't even know existed

Exactly!

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Sorry for making everybody speechless.

My fuck it list, is still full as most items require another person.

I'm trying to find rope classes near to me but the only ones I can find are in London and that is just no I don't want to go there. I want to learn self tying but safely and I can't do it at home.

Are you on FetLife Si?
There are regional groups there that may have info on things closer to you. Or to just make connections with people in your area that could maybe "show you the ropes"

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Kinda not sure where to go from there...

So I'll chuck a curveball instead...

What was the last thing people ticked off their fuck it list?

last thing, well that was alone, see once the ginger was on the fuck it list and crossed off, and the ice dildo was on the fuck it list and crossed off, I added a fire and ice dildo to the list so made an ice dildo out of ginger water. Yes, I add weird things to my list. With a partner, I guess fucking my husband on the new dining room table. New furniture and vehicles automatically get added to the fuck it list, for a sort of christening of sorts.

Things don't get crossed off my list very fast anymore.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

last thing, well that was alone, see once the ginger was on the fuck it list and crossed off, and the ice dildo was on the fuck it list and crossed off, I added a fire and ice dildo to the list so made an ice dildo out of ginger water. Yes, I add weird things to my list. With a partner, I guess fucking my husband on the new dining room table. New furniture and vehicles automatically get added to the fuck it list, for a sort of christening of sorts.

Things don't get crossed off my list very fast anymore.

How was the fire and ice? Such a clever idea

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

How was the fire and ice? Such a clever idea

The ice overtook the ginger too much. Think I need to both boil the water longer and add more ginger when making the ginger water.

 

[Saltfountain]

The ice overtook the ginger too much. Think I need to both boil the water longer and add more ginger when making the ginger water.

Could try adding chopped chillies

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

All the kinky things I’ve done are mainly in my head

Same same, darling.

The last thing I knocked off my list was probably rough sex. And...I want more.

 

[Saltfountain]

Same same, darling.

The last thing I knocked off my list was probably rough sex. And...I want more.

How rough was it?

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

How rough was it?

The whole time I was bordering on telling him to stop and begging him for more. I opted for more. For a couple weeks afterwards, I would smile and touch the bruises on my body. It was my first time being manhandled and he didn't leave an inch of my body untouched. I fucking loved it.

 

[Saltfountain]

Was the actual sex rough too, or just the manhandling?

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Was the actual sex rough too, or just the manhandling?

Well, in this case, the sex was oral so I wouldn't consider it rough. It was also the first time I sat on anyone's face

 

[RosewoodTulip]

What holds you back from doing and experiencing the things on your lists? Is it somebody elses standard? Is it something like a fear or a morale code you were brought up on? Why not just embrace life and dive head first into the things you want and desire?

Well for me I just don't have anyone to do these things with. If I meet someone then I'd to see if our kink-o-meters match too.
So it's really just the practicalities before anything else

 

[Saltfountain]

What holds you back from doing and experiencing the things on your lists? Is it somebody elses standard? Is it something like a fear or a morale code you were brought up on? Why not just embrace life and dive head first into the things you want and desire?

I think that's what a lot of us are doing here...
I'd say @barefootgirl69's response to your last foray here would be an explanation of why we don't just dive in and take what we want...

What's on your list?

 

[MrsPassion]

The ice overtook the ginger too much. Think I need to both boil the water longer and add more ginger when making the ginger water.

Do you use a mold? How did you make the dildo?! This sounds so cool

 

[SiFi]

What holds you back from doing and experiencing the things on your lists? Is it somebody elses standard? Is it something like a fear or a morale code you were brought up on? Why not just embrace life and dive head first into the things you want and desire?

The reason most of my list stays as hypothetical is personal circumstances. Such as rope work, I can not do this at home due to an issue with my wife, it would completely flip her out. Other things require other people and a serious discussion with my wife, which more than likey won't happen.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

What holds you back from doing and experiencing the things on your lists? Is it somebody elses standard? Is it something like a fear or a morale code you were brought up on? Why not just embrace life and dive head first into the things you want and desire?

Well, I think for me there is a multitude of factors. First, young, this a moral code. More of a societal code though. Like the reality of life as female, is people do constantly judge and tell you their opinions every damn thing you do. That was not so difficult to get past once I started finding joy in tell people to Fuck off, so I did rather good on my fuck it list when young, but still not as efficient as I could, because of not actually doing or saying things to bring checking the list as a tactical pursuit, but more letting opportunities fall into my lap. Again, sometimes it is hard to tell men a lot of things. Then I settled in a relationship with my husband so things slowed, as opportunities lessened. This is magnified especially since I was more of the wild child. However, it wasn’t too counterproductive to the fuck it list, as with new relationships, partners are much more willing to compromise. However, those compromises become less and less over time as relationships run longer.

Then move forward into mom life, and there is a lot of time restrictions, but also those societal standards, moral codes, as you try to provide the children with the best upbringing possible. Then I found my husband adapted better to that boring decade, and was no longer willing to compromise anything, at all, anymore. So it took me a bit to get him to accept he needs to either meet me half way or get out of my way, otherwise in a couple of years, he will be out of my way. He has made a choice to not stand in my way but looking at my list there are some physical realities to face. I am not as brave with my physical safety in my 40s as I was in my 20s. Some of my items may kill me at my age. Also, would law enforcement be as lenient with a woman in her 40s as they were in my 20s? Like doing crazy things when young and dumb is one thing, but when you are no longer young, all that is left is dumb. Then the biggie, I found that mom life also comes with a significant amount of isolation, so you fall out of practice of engaging with adults. I also found society works a lot differently now than back in 2008/2010. So not only am I out of practice in meeting people, society doesn’t even meet and interact with people how we did when I did know how to meet and interact with people. Basically, I can’t figure out how to move forward.

So TLDR, society’s moral standards, partners, dwindling opportunities with age, kids are giant beaver dams, advancing aging reduces physical durability, advancing age reduces legal free passes, out of touch with society today.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Do you use a mold? How did you make the dildo?! This sounds so cool

so far, a condom slipped inside a paper towel tube with the edge wrapped around the tube and frozen vertically seems the best mold. I did use a silicone popsicle mold as well, but the condom had a larger circumference . I don't have a great handle solution as the ice does get hard on the fingers.