No, i know, and apologies if you thought that was directed at you
That's still totally consensual
Very well saidReally really good discussion there. I really appreciate people sharing things that have caused pain
I was in an abusive relationship for a while and I'm still healing. Being on Lit has helped a lot actually, it's let me reconnect with my sexuality in a safe way.
I like some aspects of CNC
I get that it can be a dangerous game without absolute trust and communication from everyone involved and that for a lot of people it's something that will only ever be a fantasy which is completely fine. That could be a hands off way to heal from trauma too.
The important word in CNC is, of course, consent. Enthusiastic consent too. All parties knowing and understanding everyones limits and levels of comfort. Nothing happening unless it's been agreed upon by everyone. No one made to feel guilted or cajoled and with everyone willing and happy.
It's a situation that needs a great deal of care and attention before, during and especially afterwards when people come down from the rush
On my list to use on someone. Not really interested in using it myself, but I do like restricting and manipulating a partner's sensory abilitiesSo one of the things on my list is Blindfolds. Using them, having them used on me. It's one of those exciting mental pictures because it means giving up something, your sight. But it can make that unknowing more exciting and naughty too.
Obviously as with most things it's important that you do something like this with the right person(s), trust is key.
What about everyone else? On your list? No? Why/why not? Your thoughts
I really like the thought of sensory play. Blocking one so the others are heightened.So one of the things on my list is Blindfolds. Using them, having them used on me. It's one of those exciting mental pictures because it means giving up something, your sight. But it can make that unknowing more exciting and naughty too.
Obviously as with most things it's important that you do something like this with the right person(s), trust is key.
What about everyone else? On your list? No? Why/why not? Your thoughts
Love playing with ice cubes.Or like playing with food or ice cubes
I've done ice cubes, even snow when it was winter with being tied up and blindfolded.
I'm a fan of blindfolds... mainly when used on me. It heightens all my other senses and, with the right partner, diminishes my sense of control. Technically, it's not a FuckIt list item for me, since it's something I have done before. That said, I would *love* to experience their use with a partner who is more skilled in the use of sensation play in bdsm and more confident in taking control.So one of the things on my list is Blindfolds. Using them, having them used on me. It's one of those exciting mental pictures because it means giving up something, your sight. But it can make that unknowing more exciting and naughty too.
Obviously as with most things it's important that you do something like this with the right person(s), trust is key.
What about everyone else? On your list? No? Why/why not? Your thoughts
I’ve dabbled with being blindfolded. And I enjoyed those experiences so much but like @AngelicaS1780 said I think they would’ve been more enjoyable with a more confident partner.So one of the things on my list is Blindfolds. Using them, having them used on me. It's one of those exciting mental pictures because it means giving up something, your sight. But it can make that unknowing more exciting and naughty too.
Obviously as with most things it's important that you do something like this with the right person(s), trust is key.
What about everyone else? On your list? No? Why/why not? Your thoughts
just kidding but it’s definitely on my list to experience more
I think that's the big appeal for me, the sensory stimulation and exploring various different types of stimulation. Feathers, fabrics, foods, ice. All to see the reactions the can evoke
probably would also do bites and spanks but that's more for fun 
This is a general basic of consent, whether CNC or not.
I was wondering if it's crossing the line from thinking they're about to pee into 'fuck it, I'm having too much fun to stop now'
I think the secret is to get them comfortable enough to go with whatever feels good and not get hung up on consequences.
Well, it is not something that is overly common for me. 5 years ago I would have said very very rare. For most of my life, it had only happened during longer finger fucking sessions, with an aggressive, rather specific technique while orgasming. Dude basically trying to accomplish specifically that, so yeah, really rare. I could count the number of times on my hands. Thus I was very surprised and confused the first time I used a clit sucking vibrator. That is not lowering or breaking contact with it during orgasm as you have noted, but I will not stop when I orgasm with other vibrators as well, because, ya know, might as well go again and again. It is like pringles and all. If I get 2 hours alone, might has well cum 30 times. It is only this style of vibrator that triggers it though, one specific one is the most likely and I have a lot of different style vibrators used with a similar methodology.
When it happens to me it's not a huge jet like you see in porn. It's more like a sudden flood. Sometimes it's so intense it can push a toy right out of me
and I don't really know what triggers as I've tried the same thing another time and just had a regular old orgasm
Thank you! I've seen that a few have similar experiences with clit suckersWell, it is not something that is overly common for me. 5 years ago I would have said very very rare. For most of my life, it had only happened during longer finger fucking sessions, with an aggressive, rather specific technique while orgasming. Dude basically trying to accomplish specifically that, so yeah, really rare. I could count the number of times on my hands. Thus I was very surprised and confused the first time I used a clit sucking vibrator. That is not lowering or breaking contact with it during orgasm as you have noted, but I will not stop when I orgasm with other vibrators as well, because, ya know, might as well go again and again. It is like pringles and all. If I get 2 hours alone, might has well cum 30 times. It is only this style of vibrator that triggers it though, one specific one is the most likely and I have a lot of different style vibrators used with a similar methodology.
