I think I have a good balance. Maybe I'd like to figure out my cheat code but then again the unexpectedness of it is always delightful too.
Unicorns indeed. I am sure they exist, but I will say, in my experience, the closest were players on like “best behavior”. An act, a serious of customs they used to further an end goal, getting in chicks pants. I tend to make men comfortable to drop acts, whether it be the mask of who the feel they need to be or who they want to be, and just be who they are. Then the whole Madonna whore theory. Some men are leaning towards looking to you as a possible partner, they treat you a lot less sexually. Some men are looking for more a whore, more sexually driven, more extreme, ideally not using relationships as a gatekeeper for sex. You’d think men who are looking for more the whore side, would be more focused on themselves, which in some cases is true. However, I think many of these men aren’t dumb. If all the pretenses of the gatekeeping relationship are dropped, she is using them as they are her. If she is using you for sex, and you want her to continue using you, you are going to make sure she is having a fucking phenomenal time. They tend to provide a lot more sexual space, a lot more sexual encouragement, and a lot more sexual effort.In my real life, I've been with one man. He's not good at being romantic or sweet (tries sometimes, but sort of ham-handed about it)... AND he doesn't want to fuck me at all (asexual).
Now, I know this place is not a good measure for anything scientific... we can all choose what to show/ share and when... and that has an effect on how we're perceived... but I'll say I have met some Lit men who do this balance pretty well. Sweet and thoughtful and truly beautiful friends. And oh my, can they talk dirty, too.
If they are IRL who they seem to be here, I think they might be the unicorns of our species.
I would say it is more intense, but it is like pushing beyond a typical orgasm. like past where I'd automatically lessen or break contact or pattern as it is almost at the point of discomfort, as a bit sensory overload, extremely sensitive. Why it was easier with a partner with a goal for most my life is I think they were purposely not backing down. like ignoring an attempt to pull their hand away, and even using the other hand to keep from pulling away for a couple extra seconds. Why did I find a specific style toy, well it was so strong and fast, I was too slow in backing it down the first time given its higher strength. After that, it was a conscious effort. Like I always go for series of orgasms, but right after an orgasm, is an immediate need to slow things down, to build up again, as everything is just so damn sensitive. I have to ignore that long enough. it is near impossible to choose.
In what way are they uncomfortable?
TMI warning
, I don’t btw.
what about heavier balls (I assume you wear panties, in case). or a butterfly style wearable vibe. I find them very comfortable and it won't go anywhere. the lovense flexer is very comfortable as well if you want to give him the ability to control it too.
That's common with a plug... You do sort of have gas, because when we push the anus and rectum open to insert the plug, air goes in, too. And it's not TMI. Anyone who enjoys anal sex knows about this part. I've had the slight discomfort when wearing a plug... and my pants fit a little tighter the day after I've fucked my ass with a dildo. The thing about anal play is that you have to get real comfortable with your bodily functions. You're going to fart the next day. You just are.TMI warning
When I wear a plug I get quite a discomfort like I have gas
The ben wa balls, disappear up inside me and push against my vault (no cervix)
TMI warning
When I wear a plug I get quite a discomfort like I have gas
The ben wa balls, disappear up inside me and push against my vault (no cervix)
When does the discomfort with the plug start for you? I'm curious, as I have never experienced this, but I've never had a plug in for more than an hour or two.That's common with a plug... You do sort of have gas, because when we push the anus and rectum open to insert the plug, air goes in, too. And it's not TMI. Anyone who enjoys anal sex knows about this part. I've had the slight discomfort when wearing a plug... and my pants fit a little tighter the day after I've fucked my ass with a dildo. The thing about anal play is that you have to get real comfortable with your bodily functions. You're going to fart the next day. You just are.
Now, what to do about it? I adjust. I have a travel-size bottle of lube that I put in my pocket, and when I use the restroom, I take care of making myself more comfortable. Putting a little lube around the neck of the plug keeps me from getting sore because things have dried out, and I move the plug a little bit to let the air pass out... If necessary, I fully remove and reinsert the plug to add more lube.
For the balls, mine never travel... Is it a factor of my having a cervix, or because of the style? Mine have a silicone "pull" that I use to retrieve them (and a silicone connector between them). That pull is always outside my body. Would something like that help? If you have balls that are disconnected from each other and free-floating, maybe this style would be better for you?
If the issue is simply related to not having a cervix, and not something that could be fixed with a different kind of balls, maybe you need to be stuffed with something that is held in place externally? Panties that have a small dildo attached? Or something with a strap meant to keep it from falling out, but that you use to keep it from travelling in?
Like @Lindi37, I sometimes wear one at work. And I sometimes work very long days. Discomfort that makes it go from needing to shift in my seat to "I need this out of me because it's starting to be bad pain instead of good" can happen at hour five or six with my biggest plug. Hour ten or so with the little one. With my system, I can happily make it through a 14-hr day and be ready to play when I get home.
I suspect it is only lit world common and not real world common. I would guess each of us are probably the only ones in our office.I had no idea how common it was to be plugged at work. Gives me the warm and fuzzies
Sorry - interrupted. Carry on..
Don't ruin it for me. Take that back!!
sorry, um, all the women in my office love the butt stuff.
Damn right they do. Even Phyllis in accounts.
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My silicone ones that I started with back when I was still trying to seduce the husband had a big flare. Intolerably painful after just a little while. A friend here recommended a set from Etsy that had narrow bases-- still with pretty jewels!-- and I've been SO very happy.
Us, too... that's why we do it.Gives me the warm and fuzzies
I hope not. I'd like to think someone else is having fun, too.
Well if the mousy IT geek like me is, you know that wild Phyllis is all in.Damn right they do. Even Phyllis in accounts.
(Especially Phyllis in accounts....
It's always the quiet one..
A lot of us would surprise you if you knew us in the real world...
As if Justa is quiet
What should I be watching for?
