Fuck It: Refux

[Lindi37]

That's common with a plug... You do sort of have gas, because when we push the anus and rectum open to insert the plug, air goes in, too. And it's not TMI. Anyone who enjoys anal sex knows about this part. I've had the slight discomfort when wearing a plug... and my pants fit a little tighter the day after I've fucked my ass with a dildo. The thing about anal play is that you have to get real comfortable with your bodily functions. You're going to fart the next day. You just are.

Thank you. I was um unaware of this wee nugget.

Now, what to do about it? I adjust. I have a travel-size bottle of lube that I put in my pocket, and when I use the restroom, I take care of making myself more comfortable. Putting a little lube around the neck of the plug keeps me from getting sore because things have dried out, and I move the plug a little bit to let the air pass out... If necessary, I fully remove and reinsert the plug to add more lube.

Genius!

For the balls, mine never travel... Is it a factor of my having a cervix, or because of the style? Mine have a silicone "pull" that I use to retrieve them (and a silicone connector between them). That pull is always outside my body. Would something like that help? If you have balls that are disconnected from each other and free-floating, maybe this style would be better for you?

I don’t know much about the mechanics except everything is gone and it’s been sewn shut (vault). I believe the discomfort is from the extensive scar tissue. I didn’t realise that you can get something to keep them in place. And thought gravity would cause them to drop out but it would seem that lack of use has caused things to be rather umm snug.

If the issue is simply related to not having a cervix, and not something that could be fixed with a different kind of balls, maybe you need to be stuffed with something that is held in place externally? Panties that have a small dildo attached? Or something with a strap meant to keep it from falling out, but that you use to keep it from travelling in?

Thank you so much for all of this fabulous advice . I’m going to have a very happy man

 

[AngelicaS1780]

Good morning to you all (if you're awake yet ).

I've mentioned this before on other threads but I thought it might be interesting and fun to throw it around here

Sex Outside

I've some experience with this, both with being in a car and being in a forest. It's definitely exciting. The thrill of doing something naughty in public, the danger of being caught etc. However, I will say, if you're gonna indulge, make sure you have something comfortable to lie on. Getting tree bark off your arse isn't so sexy there's also the nature of consent, because any person who catches you is unlikely to give it. Different if you've set up the situation where you are 'caught' and watched/joined but that's a different scenario.

So anyway: On your list, not? Done it, never would? Thoughts?

It is on my list. I've had sex in a tent when camping, but never truly en plein air.
Thank you for mentioning the issue of consent as it applies to anyone who might stumble across you. For that reason, I would only be comfortable doing this in a setting where the chances of an innocent bystander are extremely low.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Good morning to you all (if you're awake yet ).

I've mentioned this before on other threads but I thought it might be interesting and fun to throw it around here

Sex Outside

I've some experience with this, both with being in a car and being in a forest. It's definitely exciting. The thrill of doing something naughty in public, the danger of being caught etc. However, I will say, if you're gonna indulge, make sure you have something comfortable to lie on. Getting tree bark off your arse isn't so sexy there's also the nature of consent, because any person who catches you is unlikely to give it. Different if you've set up the situation where you are 'caught' and watched/joined but that's a different scenario.

So anyway: On your list, not? Done it, never would? Thoughts?

This was a big thing for me. Both outside and public places. Sometimes just because the mood stuck, other times for a purpose, like to knock woods and beach off the list. Oh and sometimes because the place basically asked for it. Like fully mirroring an elevator, having a ladder to the roof of a police station, naming a museum "Cummer". Like giant neon signs saying hey, you should totally bang here.

Mostly still on my list is an assortment of public transportation and amusement park rides and features. I knock off like everything else I could come up with already. Definitely learned a few, mostly no useful, things along the way.

 

[Saltfountain]

This was a big thing for me. Both outside and public places. Sometimes just because the mood stuck, other times for a purpose, like to knock woods and beach off the list. Oh and sometimes because the place basically asked for it. Like fully mirroring an elevator, having a ladder to the roof of a police station, naming a museum "Cummer". Like giant neon signs saying hey, you should totally bang here.

Mostly still on my list is an assortment of public transportation and amusement park rides and features. I knock off like everything else I could come up with already. Definitely learned a few, mostly no useful, things along the way.

Imagining Justa doing the topless roller-coaster pic and killing an entire car of people in the process...

 

[Saltfountain]

Curious as to why you needed an alt account to post this?
Your main account is still active?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Imagining Justa doing the topless roller-coaster pic and killing an entire car of people in the process...

aw come on, I've never even really injured anyone yet. I am sure they will live.

I just need to put this message out here, thia is an Alt acc for SiFi. I have been accused of trying to steal someone's sub. This could not be further from the truth as, I was trying to learn about the Dom sub relationship the more I learn, the more I realise this is not for me, I'm just not wired that way, the whole idea actually repulses me, I don't want to control anyone. It just appears to be the same as a controlling relationship with one person controlling who the other person speaks to.

I was sent PM's in an unusual writing form basically telling to fuck off and don't respond. They I get snide comments over the threads when I did try to respond to the accusations.

I will admit I have made mistakes, like coming on here when suffering a covid induced attack of Bi polar. However I was not warned that some of my jokey posts were too strong, they may have been one, just prior to the PM's. One person was even forced to share PM's, this just put up a red flag to me. Simple communication was all what was needed to sort all of this quickly and easily for all to remain friends. But no this person decided they wanted to destroy my whole Lit experience, well you got your wish, I shall return to lurking maybe post the odd reaction. Miscommunication on all parts has given rise to this, but could have been sorted.

The snide comments on the threads was really a low blow you should be more of a man than that.

See ya laters Si .

so um flat out, you kind of lost me at sentence one. I don't believe people can be stolen, I have very little knowledge or deep interest in dom/sub etc etc.

What I can say is I have no idea at all what you are talking about, so that makes me think whatever drama you got yourself embroiled in, is likely not holding as much weight as you are putting on it. Like if it was a big thing, I'd probably have noticed or heard. I'd advise you just let it roll off your back and continue as you want. There is nothing to sort. Maybe you won't be friends with like one person on lit, but that is always going to happen.

 

[Saltfountain]

aw come on, I've never even really injured anyone yet. I am sure they will live.

Your boobs travelling at speed? They need registering as lethal weapons

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I was accused of trying to replace someone's Dom, apparently I was coming on too strong, which was purely unintentional from my point of view, most of which, things were said in jest, but obviously taken in the wrong way.

but basically all you are saying is you annoyed two people. Isn't that like just another day on lit for most of us? To me, looking from the outside, you are putting too much weight on it if it is leading to thoughts like "destroy my whole Lit experience" and causing you to adjust what you want to do.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Your boobs travelling at speed? They need registering as lethal weapons

but if I do, does that mean that I am supposed to be concerned that those "liberals" want my boobs? I have questions.

 

[Saltfountain]

but if I do, does that mean that I am supposed to be concerned that those "liberals" want my boobs? I have questions.

If you whipped your girls out on a roller coaster, I don't think it would matter whether libs, rednecks, MAGA or anyone else wanted them. They're getting them. At speed....

 

[barefootgirl69]

Just incase people had me on ignore.
I offer my sincerest apologies for ever I have done, and would extend forgiveness. If only if people has talked. Oh well c'est la vie.

As someone who has put people (not you) on ignore where they continued to make accounts to get into my inbox, this creeps me out.

 

[Saltfountain]

I haven't gone into their inboxes on the alt acc.

I guess the big thing is however you've done it, you've made more than one person feel uncomfortable enough that they spoke to you about it
Some of the stuff you've said publicly has seen me raise my eyebrows I'm honest...

 

[MrsPassion]

Might not be the best time to add as some serious conversation looks to be being had…but I’ll toss it out there:

Self tying Shibari has been on my mind a lot, I’ve worked with riggers in the past and always enjoyed the sensation of being bound and found it calming, but I’ve never learned to tie the knots myself and I’m curious if anyone here has tried it?

What was the biggest learning curve? If you’ve worked with a rigger before how did self tie feel different?

I’ve recently purchased a series of classes online and I’m excited to try it out but admittedly I’m all thumbs so a little worried about getting stuck

 

[barefootgirl69]

Might not be the best time to add as some serious conversation looks to be being had…but I’ll toss it out there:

Self tying Shibari has been on my mind a lot, I’ve worked with riggers in the past and always enjoyed the sensation of being bound and found it calming, but I’ve never learned to tie the knots myself and I’m curious if anyone here has tried it?

What was the biggest learning curve? If you’ve worked with a rigger before how did self tie feel different?

I’ve recently purchased a series of classes online and I’m excited to try it out but admittedly I’m all thumbs so a little worried about getting stuck

@Moochienanu is a great person to ask. She has some beautiful self-tying going on!!

 

[MrsPassion]

@Moochienanu is a great person to ask. She has some beautiful self-tying going on!!

Thank you!

 

[barefootgirl69]

Thank you!

*Whispers*

She has a thread on ampics!

 

[Saltfountain]

I can see that now, but most of the stuff on the threads was said in jest and I honestly thought that others would see it that way. I meant no harm , far from it. There was very little talk of me making peeps uncomfortable before it all kicked off, if there were I would have adjusted my behaviour, I just didn't know I was a problem until it was too late.

OK, I don't know what you said in private, but I know there are girls on here who've been sexually assaulted, and worse.
Boasting about getting a restraining order wouldn't have made them feel comfortable. Those fuckers are hard to get, and are the typical sanction for stalkers...

 

[MrsPassion]

*Whispers*

She has a thread on ampics!

*whispers back*

Already searching

 

[Saltfountain]

I didn't realise that story was part of the problem, the order was easy for him to get because he produced a 35 page pack of lies which the judge believed without even giving me the chance to respond. I wasn’t bragging about it just adding it for context. The story has gone now, too much info on there if someone involved ever read it. If I knew that was going to be a problem I wouldn't have posted it.

Idk

I just said it raised my eyebrows. Trying to explain why you may have made some people feel uncomfortable

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Hi everyone.
So I'd just like to talk about what's been happening tonight. I'm going to try and remain calm about it although I'm really pissed off.
I am the person who has caused this outburst.
I have always treated Si kindly and with friendship. I know he's had his struggles with covid and bipolar and I've tried to be supportive.
I found out over the weekend that he made a very inappropriate comment about me in a message to another friend. She was uncomfortable enough with it to tell me.
I sent him a, fairly long, message telling him how angry this was as I had never shown him anything other than kindness. I did not see this comment as a joke at all, despite his claims to the contrary.
I asked him to not speak to me again.
I also told him that I was becoming very concerned with his apparent infatuation of this friend, even though he knows she is unavailable in that way. I asked him, in anger I admit, to educate himself on consent and boundaries.

Which he clearly ignored as he made an alt in case I blocked him and turned up in a thread I spend a lot of time in to post a Facebook worthy vague rant but with enough info that I'd know it was directed at me. I have not had any contact with him since my message and I've only told my closest friends here what was going on because I was so upset so I don't know who has been messaging, but it has not come from me.

This whole situation is making me very uncomfortable. I never asked for him to leave. I just wanted to be left alone. I don't have anything else to say.

Please accept my apologies for derailing the conversation.

 

[Saltfountain]

I made no rant in another thread aimed at you. This shocked me for you to say this.

I think she meant this thread

 

[barefootgirl69]

As I tried to explain in private, it was not meant to be an inappropriate message at all. It wasn't meant to be disrespectful or hurtful in any way I was just trying to put a point across, but obviously I did this very badly or I was misquoted, I don't know. I would never purposely do this and I apologise profusely for any upset. I really don't know what was sent to you (obviously) but I definitely meant no disrespect at all.

This isn't my business, but this seriously pisses me off. You're going to blame someone else? Why would they do this? For what purpose?

What kind of apology is this? How about taking responsibility for your actions, admitting you were wrong, and saying you're sorry. Then, realize the damage to whatever sort of friendship you had is beyond repair and avoid them while enjoying Lit.

 

[MrsPassion]

Hi everyone.
So I'd just like to talk about what's been happening tonight. I'm going to try and remain calm about it although I'm really pissed off.
I am the person who has caused this outburst.
I have always treated Si kindly and with friendship. I know he's had his struggles with covid and bipolar and I've tried to be supportive.
I found out over the weekend that he made a very inappropriate comment about me in a message to another friend. She was uncomfortable enough with it to tell me.
I sent him a, fairly long, message telling him how angry this was as I had never shown him anything other than kindness. I did not see this comment as a joke at all, despite his claims to the contrary.
I asked him to not speak to me again.
I also told him that I was becoming very concerned with his apparent infatuation of this friend, even though he knows she is unavailable in that way. I asked him, in anger I admit, to educate himself on consent and boundaries.

Which he clearly ignored as he made an alt in case I blocked him and turned up in a thread I spend a lot of time in to post a Facebook worthy vague rant but with enough info that I'd know it was directed at me. I have not had any contact with him since my message and I've only told my closest friends here what was going on because I was so upset so I don't know who has been messaging, but it has not come from me.

This whole situation is making me very uncomfortable. I never asked for him to leave. I just wanted to be left alone. I don't have anything else to say.

Please accept my apologies for derailing the conversation.

I’m sorry this space has become so uncomfortable for you Rosie, you definitely deserve to feel safe and supported here. There’s no need to apologize for derailing conversation, you have a right to speak up when you’re being spoken about. Especially when it’s known you both occupy this thread and it’s one of the places you contribute the most too.

All too often inappropriate behavior is written off as “joking” or “locker room talk” but clearly you and another person were disturbed and concerned. It’s upsetting to see this thread actively being used as a one sided confessional to excuse bad behavior.

As I tried to explain in private, it was not meant to be an inappropriate message at all. It wasn't meant to be disrespectful or hurtful in any way I was just trying to put a point across, but obviously I did this very badly or I was misquoted, I don't know. I would never purposely do this and I apologise profusely for any upset. I really don't know what was sent to you (obviously) but I definitely meant no disrespect at all.

@SiFi — you clearly should and do know better than to keep posting about your actions in a way that discredits the harm you caused. Going so far as to make alts to be heard and seen by people who have asked you to stop clearly shows your disregard for their consent to engage with you further. I’m not saying going away; but I am telling you to stop making Rosie and others uncomfortable. It’s clear she wants to move on from this and you bringing it up continuously is not showing you’ve learned or intend to behave any differently. She doesn’t enjoy your company, she’s asked you to stop talking to her, you’re making her uncomfortable. Just knock it off already.

And I typically don’t insert myself but this really just chaps my ass and Rosie and others don’t deserve this.

Maybe hearing it from someone else will help you gauge more appropriate behavior. Leave her alone. Stop posting about her (and the other woman you made uncomfortable). It’s not that hard. Especially if you’re going to render them powerless by circumventing them ignoring you with alts. Stop it.

 

[SiFi]

Ok so I tried to make peace, for what I have done, and failed. I am truly sorry for any upset I have caused.

I'm still genuinely confused as to how I caused upset on several things. I shall post no further.

 

[Lindi37]

@SiFi @SlickIdiot
My final message to you was…
I am out of bounds. Partially because I have a Dom and mainly because I am not interested in you sexually.
My Dom is concerned about your behaviour towards me in the threads and asks that you no longer contact me via PM. He has asked me to share any messages that you do send if you do.
He had noticed (as others had) that it appeared you were following me around lit.
I’m sorry that you feel like I’m being controlled. If you understood the D/s dynamic you’d understand that that is far from the truth.
I’m curious how you were misquoted? And I’m happy to provide screen shots if you’d prefer.