General Board folks you'd like to see here

[Kajira Callista]

Hi, sweetie. You've become a chameleon, when it comes to AVs. I was just here, and you had another AV up. Now, slightly an hour later, yet another. Have a plethora of AVs, at the ready?

i have 100s of em...there was no other av up before

 

[DVS]

i have 100s of em...there was no other av up before

Yes there was. The discussion was about penis AVs. Someone said not enough pussy AVs. You offered yours. Now, yet ANOTHER! Finger taste good? Where's it been?

 

[Kajira Callista]

Yes there was. The discussion was about penis AVs. Someone said not enough pussy AVs. You offered yours. Now, yet ANOTHER! Finger taste good? Where's it been?

i dunno

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Let's examine the opposite side of Cheyenne's question. How does it work that a dom/me feels the need to hold and protect the sub but also wants to flog them? Being there myself, I can tell you it's certainly not out of cruelty and it's more than just a sexual thing.

 

[DVS]

i dunno

Ah, that picture is worth so much more than a thousand words.

Gotta go, again. Back, soon!

 

[Kajira Callista]

Ah, that picture is worth so much more than a thousand words.

Gotta go, again. Back, soon!

bye

 

[DVS]

bye

Hi, I'm back.
OK, should I post this as two posts or mix together as one? I don't need or want either, so the decision is not easy for me. Well, I'll start and see how it goes and decide later.

As for the GB folks posting to this forum...I'm torn on the subject. I'm sure the GB is a microcosm of the human culture, with its own diverse nature. If left to cure (or fester) anything can grow into something unlike anything else, be it good or bad. The BDSM forums are the same, but we do have an agenda, so we mostly have that common denominator. I see the GB as more the vanilla world, the outside looking in.

I have never posted on the GB. I don't think I ever will. I've ventured over there, from time to time, but there are a few (several?) over there that are so callus, shallow and insensitive to other's feelings that I don't really care to see them venture into our back yard.

True, the worst lowers the general mentality to their level, and there were many posts that were very caring would be fine posting here. But, how would we let some in and keep others out? Not possible.

Where am I going with this? In a forum format such as this, we are all equal. That is sometimes very troubling to me. We are forced to give the worse of the worst the same amount of time, essentially the same voice as the rest of us. I do believe in this as freedom of speech, and it should be so. But, it should be so out in the world, where I can turn it off, or look the other way.

But, do I want to have this sort of post in my playground, where I come to relax and play and talk and enhance my sexual understanding? No. This should be a controlled forum, not completely, but still not the GB. I have no problem with the bulk of GB posters coming here to post, as long as "those" stay away. There are just some people out there in cyberspace who have nothing better to do than mess up a good thing. Do I like that I feel this way? No.


Now, for the BDSM need and want thing...yes, I have something to offer in this area, too. For me, the BDSM thing is not a want OR a need. It's a craving. I crave dominating a pretty female submissive. And, in my case, this craving is a sexual craving. I don't really care to dominate anyone outside of my sexual self. Any partner I might share my craving with is always an equal outside of the scene.

In fact, she is actually in charge during the scene. Her limits are key, and if I overstep any or if she has another reason to stop what is going on, I stop. It's as simple as that. The sub is ultimately in charge in every BDSM relationship. When it comes to some long-term relationships, some have given that away, because the trust has become a strong bond with their partners. But, this ultimate in charge thing is always there, no matter what, in my book.

As for hitting, I don't hit. I don't like face slapping, or any form of hitting above the neck, or hitting/punching with the closed fist. I do like spanking, whipping, flogging, caning, birching, paddling, etc. And, I don't think it's just me, but I don't consider any of these to be "hitting" my partner. She likes what I do to her, or I wouldn't be doing it. Be it a want, a need or a craving, if she didn't like it, I wouldn't like it, either. I'm not just doing it for my craving, but also for hers. It's a mutual thing.

I like electroplay. Let me rephrase that. I LOVE electroplay. But, it has a stigma that's difficult for some to get past. This is because electricity is involved. I understand the fear some have, but I do think they would feel less fearful about it, if they would only try it once. There are several phrases relating to such things. "Don't knock it until you've tried it", "once you go black, you never go back", "don't judge me until you've walked a mile in my shoes" are a few of the most known.

What I'm saying is it's difficult to understand another person's "thing" unless you experience it for yourself. You don't have to, but if you really want to understand someone's quirk, fetish, want, need or whatever, it's the best way I know. Electroplay is no different.

We all have seen the stereotypical scenes of the bound beauty jerking in pain from her captor's electric shocks. That is one cause for the surrounding stigma. Yes, there are some who like that sort of thing, trust me. There are extremes in everything. But, electroplay can also be quite enjoyable. But, to know this, you must trust someone to allow you to experience it, for yourself. Trust is a difficult thing for a lot of people.

I crave several sexual deviancies, and, there are many I don't. I am not into edge play or breath play, etc. But, I see nothing wrong with these going on between consenting adults. But, if I truly needed to understand these fetishes, to experience the enjoyment derived by the participants, I think I'd have to try them out for myself.

Truly testing some of the lesser involved BDSM "things" is the best way to understand them. But, the test can't be half hearted. For instance, fair test of spanking would be easy to do, but it could also be less than fair, if not done in the BDSM mindset. Pain is involved, but it is not the only byproduct of the spanking. It is a ritual of domination, submission, humiliation, pain, and sexual foreplay all rolled into one. If done correctly, it can be very exciting for both partners. If done correctly, you might cum more than once before the sexual act, itself.

Now, who's going to be the first to let me show them the pleasures of my violet wand? Hmmm?

 

[Cheyenne]

As for hitting, I don't hit. I don't like face slapping, or any form of hitting above the neck, or hitting/punching with the closed fist. I do like spanking, whipping, flogging, caning, birching, paddling, etc. And, I don't think it's just me, but I don't consider any of these to be "hitting" my partner. She likes what I do to her, or I wouldn't be doing it. Be it a want, a need or a craving, if she didn't like it, I wouldn't like it, either. I'm not just doing it for my craving, but also for hers. It's a mutual thing.

Just for the record, I'd consider ALL of those things "hitting" and not a one of them would interest me. I understand that there are those of you who enjoy such things, but in my world I'd consider it abuse and act accordingly.

 

[MissTaken]

I worked with a family in which the mother felt that tickling was abusive. You know, just tickling the child so he giggles.

I guess it is all in our own perspective.

BTW, sorry about teh confusing posts earlier in this thread. I wasn't quite with it when I was typing.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[P. B. Walker]

Oh, and Miss T, I think PB's sphincter is loosening up a bit. I can hold him down while you lube him up.

I at least want a blowjob during the sodomizing. lol

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[P. B. Walker]

Works for me.

Will you two make out with my cum after it's over?

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

I really don't mean to offend anyone here, but to me, it seems strange that so many people don't understand BDSMers. Practically everyone has had a sexual fantasy that falls under that category at some time or another, even if it's just rough sex (scratching, biting, etc). Why is it so strange that some of us really get into that?

And it's not always just pain happening there. Many of us mix the pain of, say, a whipping, with sexual pleasure. I like to be kept on the edge, not knowing what's coming next, pain or pleasure or both. And I love to take a sub to that edge as well.

And then there's dominance and submission. Who hasn't had a fantasy involving one of those subjects? Everyone has. Some fantasies are about losing control of your body to another, some about having that control. So why should it be strange that some live these fantasies out to a certain extent? Let alone get so into it.

I really don't understand those who don't understand. I mean, I understand that they don't get into it like I do, but some people make it sound like an alien concept. It's not. It's always been with us humans and it almost certainly always will be.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Enough of the topping from the bottom. Keep it up, and *you* will get the snowball.

Opppss...

I think I'm outta my league here. I'm scared.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[P. B. Walker]

Is that your new euphemism for "I have a woody?"

For you, always.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[P. B. Walker]

I like it when you suck up.

You have so many parts I'd like to suck.

 

[MissTaken]

Oh, and Miss T, I think PB's sphincter is loosening up a bit. I can hold him down while you lube him up.

That would mean he hasn't been following through with his daily dose of butt plug!

Naughty boy!



Hello Pink Orchid!

It is nice to see you posting.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Cheyenne]

I really don't understand those who don't understand. I mean, I understand that they don't get into it like I do, but some people make it sound like an alien concept. It's not. It's always been with us humans and it almost certainly always will be.

It isn't even close to the norm for our society so it IS an alien concept to most of us.

The only reason I think I have some small understanding of it, at least enough to know there are people out there who really enjoy it, is because of Lit. Most of society doesn't have source of information. Yet.

 

[A Desert Rose]

It isn't even close to the norm for our society so it IS an alien concept to most of us.

The only reason I think I have some small understanding of it, at least enough to know there are people out there who really enjoy it, is because of Lit. Most of society doesn't have source of information. Yet.

(There are some people who coax me out. You always do, Cheyenne.)

It's all around you, Cheyenne. You're just not seeing it. Yet. ;-)