HOW TO TELL...if you're a bi-curious man!

[MrGc]

I know i'm bi curious but i just haven't found anyone to experiment with ! I like the main post started watching trans porn before i even thought i was bi curious. I guess i'll need to get a move on and find someone to experiment on me :$

 

[o0hfeelsgo0d]

think i agree..... idk i just started becoming intresting and started turnin me on then found myself lookin more and more into bisexual things starting to enjoy playing with my ass and wearing my gfs panties, sis, friends any i can find. but while maintaining a gf and loving the sex!!still id love to try something just havent found anyone

 

[CPTMOR]

So how then do I find someone to play with in my area? Durban South Africa

 

[Hornysailor61]

You might be.

If after having hot sex with your wife or girl friend, you roll over and go to sleep and dream about sucking a big fat cock and when you wake up you have the taste of cum on your tongue.... Then you might be a bi-curious man.

 

[ibyguy469]

If this sounds like you.....



Welcome <insert name> and congratulations on taking your first wobbly step into the wonderful world of bisexuality/bi curiousness. And here you thought only women could be bisexuals! But no, thanks to modern advances in sexuality you can go around and suck as much dick as you can get your greedy little mouth on and still enjoy a nice hot cup of pussy afterward!

Despite any misconceptions/false ideas/stereotypes you might have encountered you are finally discovering that you too can experience the many benefits a fluid sexuality can offer. "What are these benefits you speak of" you say? Well I'm glad you ask, among the many pluses of bisexuality you might experience more regular bowl movements, increased flexibility, wider range of jaw motion, new gym buddies, a improved fashion sense, new appreciation of other lifestyles, a new found mastery of mixed drinks, and new kissing techniques just to name a few! What's great is you can have all these without turning into a homosexual! Too good to be true you wonder? Well in fact it's entirely true! What now you ask? Well from here you explore the depth of your sexuality (among other things). Go buy a dildo, check out some porn, maybe hang out at a club or two. Throw your dick to the wind(preferably put a raincoat on it first) and reap the rewards of your new sexuality! Enjoy! You can now hold your head up with pride and say "I'm a bisexual!" and don't let anyone take that away from you.

I hope this thread goes a long way to confirming your fears/desires/hopes and you can gather solace from it.


Seriously, this ought to be a sticky or something.

your virginity

 

[sugarcookie68]

Easy, it was when I realized that I was more aroused by the thought of giving a BJ than I was over getting one. MY wife and I would be watching porn videos and I'd get more and more horny watching men getting oral sex. I knew that I was imagining myself sucking the cock and swallowing the cum; what I didn't realize, was that my wife caught on pretty soon. My first indication was when she started saying things like "you would like to do that wouldn't you?". The real give away was when one night she followed up a comment like that with "would you like to suck that, wouldn't you like for it to cum in your mouth?". Since then, thanks to her, I am no longer bi-curious, I am bi. I love to suck a cock and swallow it's load and my wife loves to watch, direct and sometime participate.

Thank you.. I will never forget my first Bi experience i had.. i could only imagine how you felt when u first sucked a cock! i think bi guys are fabulous ! wish i had one..sniff sniff ... lol anyway, Be Safe, Be Sweet.. Sugarcookie

 

[biflaboy]

hi all

known i was bi since about 12 just nervous to meet guys

 

[Reshbod]

As I've gotten older, the curiosity has grown. I feel now I am ready for it, unfortunately I have no idea how to go about finding someone. I don't do hookups or anonymous stuff. I need to know someone and develop a relationship with them, then I'm ready for some mattress mambo.

 

[willbethere]

Reshod - if you find out let me know as I totally agree with you about hookups or anonymous stuff. There most be a good way to meet with simular thinking people.

 

[ibyguy469]

i guees so

i really don`t find guys that attractive. but i do like sucking cocks and fucking sometimes. so i guess i`m bi or maybe just a slut...

 

[lustatopia]

Harlotminx, I understand your frustration with having to deal with endless digression from guys on the wonderful paradox of bisexuality. But please bear with us. The implications of bisexuality are perhaps the most psychologically and socially challenging of any variety of sexuality--the problem of self-identity being fundamental to the existential meaning of being human.

Moreover, the emergence of the bisexual paradigm is a radical phase shift in contemporary western culture that will ultimately become a much more mainstream phenomena than today. Bisexuality represents a profound evolution away from the traditional model of gender relationships and it will ultimately prove to be the society wide transformation that the gay liberation movement has been unconsciously preparing for our civilization. There is simply no aspect of our culture that bisexuality will not touch in the next generation or two.

Our culture has moved from one where to be gay was a crime, to one where GLBT is a celebrated lifestyle choice that no one can persecute you for adopting. Yet, myths and stereotypes still abound. The most pervasive of these stereotypes is that one is either Gay or Het and nary shall the twain ever meet. This is the true crux of the matter for contemporary bi-curious "straight" guys who live in a culture where a single homosexual act makes you gay-for-life in the eyes of friends and family.

So not only are the issues really big and heavy, it's also a really hot topic that gives me a hard-on just to think about.

For instance, Bisexuality the way it is often practiced is paradoxical. Take for example Phun4u2 comments. What he really seems to want to do is engage in homosexuality, but he calls it bisexuality because he has a healthy heterosexual relationship with his wife. Many bi guys are bi only in the sense that they engage in both gay and het sex, but not at the same time.

There are truly bisexual sex acts and they all require at least 3 bodies to engage in. Coitalingus, the act of having oral sex with a couple engaged in coitus is, quite obviously, a truly bisexual act. So is the so-called "double penetration" of a woman by two men, although pornographers market this type of MFM activity as straight sex. However, as anyone will tell you who has fucked a woman while another guy is pumping her ass, one is clearly being erotically stimulated by your buddy's cock through the thin membrane which separates the vagina from the anal canal. Likewise to receive double head from two women is a purely bisexual act. The list goes on.

Eventually, I think, that we will become sophisticated enough to differentiate from guys who sneak off from their wives to suck dick with male lovers and true bisexuality which is the love shared between a man and a man and a woman or a woman and a woman and a man.

 

[okapirox]

Crikey - are we going to be tested on this?

 

[lustatopia]

Crikey - are we going to be tested on this?

Yes, we are Okapirox. And if you fail you'll never be matriculated. (Gosh, I love to talk dirty.)

 

[Reshbod]

Reshod - if you find out let me know as I totally agree with you about hookups or anonymous stuff. There most be a good way to meet with simular thinking people.

It is discouraging that it is so difficult to meet folks on our terms. I was hoping more people would offer up experiences or ideas.

 

[HarlotMinx]

Harlotminx, I understand your frustration with having to deal with endless digression from guys on the wonderful paradox of bisexuality. But please bear with us. The implications of bisexuality are perhaps the most psychologically and socially challenging of any variety of sexuality--the problem of self-identity being fundamental to the existential meaning of being human.

Moreover, the emergence of the bisexual paradigm is a radical phase shift in contemporary western culture that will ultimately become a much more mainstream phenomena than today. Bisexuality represents a profound evolution away from the traditional model of gender relationships and it will ultimately prove to be the society wide transformation that the gay liberation movement has been unconsciously preparing for our civilization. There is simply no aspect of our culture that bisexuality will not touch in the next generation or two.

Our culture has moved from one where to be gay was a crime, to one where GLBT is a celebrated lifestyle choice that no one can persecute you for adopting. Yet, myths and stereotypes still abound. The most pervasive of these stereotypes is that one is either Gay or Het and nary shall the twain ever meet. This is the true crux of the matter for contemporary bi-curious "straight" guys who live in a culture where a single homosexual act makes you gay-for-life in the eyes of friends and family.

So not only are the issues really big and heavy, it's also a really hot topic that gives me a hard-on just to think about.

For instance, Bisexuality the way it is often practiced is paradoxical. Take for example Phun4u2 comments. What he really seems to want to do is engage in homosexuality, but he calls it bisexuality because he has a healthy heterosexual relationship with his wife. Many bi guys are bi only in the sense that they engage in both gay and het sex, but not at the same time.

There are truly bisexual sex acts and they all require at least 3 bodies to engage in. Coitalingus, the act of having oral sex with a couple engaged in coitus is, quite obviously, a truly bisexual act. So is the so-called "double penetration" of a woman by two men, although pornographers market this type of MFM activity as straight sex. However, as anyone will tell you who has fucked a woman while another guy is pumping her ass, one is clearly being erotically stimulated by your buddy's cock through the thin membrane which separates the vagina from the anal canal. Likewise to receive double head from two women is a purely bisexual act. The list goes on.

Eventually, I think, that we will become sophisticated enough to differentiate from guys who sneak off from their wives to suck dick with male lovers and true bisexuality which is the love shared between a man and a man and a woman or a woman and a woman and a man.

I think you couldn't be further from my point. I wasn't expressing frustration (okay... maybe I was poking a little fun) so much as being a little annoyed that 50 or so threads would pop up and get maybe 1-2 posts and develop into nothing. They are such a waste to the lit community as the OP of the thread because often they come to nothing and answer none of there questions. I felt that having a single sticky thread that bi men could refer to and see what previous people posted would allow them to post in a place that might have a lot of talk built up from past conversations. Basically, I wanted to give a area where the minority who do respond to those threads can post and actually be seen by the people who come later while also providing a means of cutting down on the storm of threads and saving bisexuals from having t sift through a intimidating wave of treads to find tidbits of advice. I'm fully aware of the far reaching impact of the bi community, being a bisexual myself. But that said, I think the majority of posters who show up here aren't the socially morphing group you've talked about but rather they tend toward the closeted bisexual male who tends to keep their sexuality in a very deep corner. Not that their is anything wrong about that or that they should be forced to "come into the light" but rather they are more looking for comfort and/or acknowledgment with which to justify their sexual identity with themselves.

If you want to create a thread about the eminent change in our social construct by sexual fluidity I'd welcome it fully, and it'd make a wonderful conversation.... but realistically the threads that pop up "am I gay?" or "I think I like cock but I'm not gay" are not going to be that thread.

 

[lustatopia]

I think you couldn't be further from my point. I wasn't expressing frustration (okay... maybe I was poking a little fun) so much as being a little annoyed that 50 or so threads would pop up and get maybe 1-2 posts and develop into nothing. They are such a waste to the lit community as the OP of the thread because often they come to nothing and answer none of there questions. I felt that having a single sticky thread that bi men could refer to and see what previous people posted would allow them to post in a place that might have a lot of talk built up from past conversations. Basically, I wanted to give a area where the minority who do respond to those threads can post and actually be seen by the people who come later while also providing a means of cutting down on the storm of threads and saving bisexuals from having t sift through a intimidating wave of treads to find tidbits of advice. I'm fully aware of the far reaching impact of the bi community, being a bisexual myself. But that said, I think the majority of posters who show up here aren't the socially morphing group you've talked about but rather they tend toward the closeted bisexual male who tends to keep their sexuality in a very deep corner. Not that their is anything wrong about that or that they should be forced to "come into the light" but rather they are more looking for comfort and/or acknowledgment with which to justify their sexual identity with themselves.

If you want to create a thread about the eminent change in our social construct by sexual fluidity I'd welcome it fully, and it'd make a wonderful conversation.... but realistically the threads that pop up "am I gay?" or "I think I like cock but I'm not gay" are not going to be that thread.

I agree that a bi sticky thread is a great idea, Harlotminx.

I wonder why you think that emergent threads that go no where past a few posts are a waste? I'm a student of the evolution of complex nonlinear systems. Did you know that 99.999% of the species that ever inhabited our planet are extinct? Most of them were genetic "threads" that never made it past the fifth comment. Yet many of the innovations they spawned we carry with us today. Another way to look at threads are as bubbles rising in a wort, the sweet malt infusion from which beer is made. It takes a billion bubbles to make a single keg of beer!

The creative process of ideation cannot be managed. Witness Barack Obama who would very much like to "command" BP to plug the oil leak tomorrow. But creativity doesn't march to a goosestep. You want to change the world.? Create a truly free market place of ideas where the thoughts that merit amplification will rise like bubbles to spawn whole kingdoms of paradigms. This, I think, is what the founders of Literotica had in mind.

But, I am digressing. All those bi threads that only last 2 or 3 comments are individuals struggling to come to grips with who they are. If only one in a hundred discovers their true self here, then that's an astounding success rate.

 

[txboyalone]

I was in my 30"s before I tried sex with another man. I had always been curious but never had the opportunity or never made it happen. I think more guys would try it if it wasn't so awkward to ask a guy if you can suck his dick or would he suck yours. The reality is that most guys can get off with a good fantasy (about a lad or lass) and our hand so why get involved with another guy. Once I had the experience I wanted more. I still like women and enjoy sex with them, but it is totally different with a guy. It doesn't seem to make any difference if it is short and fast in a bathroom stall or a long sensuous love session all afternoon it is just more fun and rewarding.

 

[lustatopia]

"It doesn't seem to make any difference if it is short and fast in a bathroom stall or a long sensuous love session all afternoon it is just more fun and rewarding."

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You see, I just don't get that. I found having homosexual fantasies was actually more rewarding than doing the real thing. Not that getting down on my knees and sucking cock doesn't turn me on, just that the thrill wears off real quick after we cum. It's like having sex with a guy is a bit like masturbating, because our bodies are so, well, the same. Homogeneity is definitely not the homoerotic part for me. It's just another dick on a body just like mine.

At least in a straight heterosexual sex there is always the mystique of the woman, "the other" that a man can never quite understand. The anima to your animus. Yin to Yang. There is this amazingly psychedelic fitting together of halves divided that can only really happen at every level simultaneously in great het sex.

Women also have beautiful and interesting bodies. Males? I'm into cock, sure, but the male physique, boooring. I suppose that's why I'm not purely gay.

The real thrill for me in gay sex is the holistic approach guys bring to fellatio. Women naturally tend to approach giving head as foreplay, not so with guys. It's a rare babe who really wants to play with my asshole while she sucking me off, with guys that part of the ritual. And, of course, guys want to to fuck me in the ass, chicks not so much.

So for me the real ultimate fantasy isn't gay sex. I can get that tonight in about ten minutes at the right club. Or Het sex, that's almost as easy to arrange since I am married.

No, the real dream turn on is to get it on with a guy and gal together.

 

[fenyxdelsol]

needs to overcome

I know I am bi. the trouble is that I was sexually abused by an older brother from ages 4 to 12. He mixed this with mental abuse that got worse after I hit puberty. I only trust three men, and they are either not gay or bi, or are in long term relationships. I find myself turned on by some TGs, ones who are close matches to what turns me on in a woman.
I fantasize constantly about what it would be like to make love with someone who is TG; many times it is a threesome with a woman. In these fantasies it never matters who is doing what, with what, or with whom. It is simply three *people* sharing love and lust.
Neither Gay men nor gay porn turn me on, though some gay erotica does.
This has been and is very frustrating...

 

[Tmmldr]

....Women also have beautiful and interesting bodies. Males? I'm into cock, sure, but the male physique, boooring. I suppose that's why I'm not purely gay.

The real thrill for me in gay sex is the holistic approach guys bring to fellatio. Women naturally tend to approach giving head as foreplay, not so with guys. It's a rare babe who really wants to play with my asshole while she sucking me off, with guys that part of the ritual. ....

....wondering if women can be trained to give such blowjobs....

it would not occur to them what was great, just like they wouldn't know not to scrape the cock with their teeth unless you told them that it hurt

why would it be any different for the other aspects of a great experience?

 

[SinfulCharms]

....wondering if women can be trained to give such blowjobs....

it would not occur to them what was great, just like they wouldn't know not to scrape the cock with their teeth unless you told them that it hurt

why would it be any different for the other aspects of a great experience?

Now that's not really fair... I am VERY female and I can't say I have ever involved my teeth unless it was definitely intentional. (And there are definitely men out there that love to be bitten!)

Besides, just like women, if you don't TELL YOUR PARTNER what you like, how are they supposed to know???? Touch the wrong guys ass and he's liable to bolt out the door faster than he did his jeans. Softer, faster, harder, slower...those are all nice easy directions, but "touch me here" or "touch me there" is sometimes harder for people to swallow than hot lava.

 

[OpenMouth]

i really don`t find guys that attractive. but i do like sucking cocks and fucking sometimes. so i guess i`m bi or maybe just a slut...

I'd go along with this... I don't fancy men at all but I definitely fantasize about being a slut!

Does having a secret bag in my loft, containing a 9" black dildo, a tube of KY and a pair of frilly black knickers make me bi-curious?

I would say it probably does...

 

[bi golly]

At work yesterday, a friend told me that he was going to the Fremont Solstice parade and was going to ride his bike. I asked him if he was going to be naked. (Google Fremont solstice naked bicycle for more info) He wouldn't say. I'm not attracted to him but when I left work, I fantasized about being at the parade and winding up in bed with a guy after the parade. I found pictures of naked people from years past and posted something here about my fantasy.

Then all I dreamed about last night were naked women and pussy.

I'm probably bi.

 

[Chedder99]

I meet guys online and webcam with them and love when they jerk off to my virgin asshole, and i imagine them cumming in my ass and mouth, i guess that makes me bi

 

[lustatopia]

How to tell if your a bi-curious man? If you're a straight guy reading this thread, then by definition you're bi-curious.

Thinking about this thread again reminds me that I always knew that I was bisexual even before I was aware of the concept of bisexuality as such. I simply knew that I was sexually aroused by beautiful human forms, the curve of buttocks or the tightness of a gorgeous thigh. Gender was a secondary consideration for me, largely proscribed by peer pressure and shame. The idea of getting naked and touching a guy sexually I found secretly arousing, perhaps all the more so since it was utterly forbidden to enter conscious awareness outside of dreamy masturbating in bed late at night.

I suspect that many, many more guys have homosexual fantasies, at least at some point in their lives, than we will ever know, which, of course, makes the true number of bi-curious guys much larger than is reported. The real question for any guy who has ever masturbated imagining some variety of homosexuality is whether the sexual desire is so great that it cannot be satiated and contained within personal masturbatory fantasy alone. Or, posed as a question of self-actualization - why should bisexual desires be suppressed at all in our modern, liberated world?

I understand that for many guys the option of coming out with your bisexual desires seems an insurmountably difficult task, especially given that your life, your friends and family are based upon the assumption of straightness and social conformity. Looking back, I realize that the most shocking thing about my own coming out as a bisexual male, back in my college days, was twofold. First, everyone simply accepted it.

Secondly, it opened up all sorts of sexual relationships with both guys and girls who shared my sense of sexual nonconformity and adventure, but wouldn't have noticed me as a straight guy... Girlfriends that I had imagined were too "nice" were suddenly interested in steamy MMF threeways, something they were too shy to bring up to their conventional straight boyfriends, but they felt comfortable discussing with a bi male... A few straight friends admitted their own bi-curious desires and timidly, at first, wanted to experiment. A whole world of sexual variety exists just under the radar, but you can't really be part of it until you open up.

The only people who ever gave me shit were the openly gay militant types who view bisexuality as a transitional state to total queerdom, which it is definitely not.

Ultimately, you're the only one who can choose your sexuality.