HOW TO TELL...if you're a bi-curious man!

[SilkyDave]

As for me I have no doubt about my being curious - The problem is how to tell if someone else is curious and then finding out just how far and where the the curiosity will take us.

good point, one never knows, i appear as straight as the next guy, aside from a hemp anklet i wear but even that is not an indicator really, but there is no way of telling where my mind is drifting at any given time...

 

[Scooter_Rob]

I just love sex it dosen't matter if male, female, or trans I have tried them all. I have done CD and been taken by a strapon. I just love sex.

 

[bi golly]

I got this dildo from Toys in Babeland http://store.babeland.com/dildos-silicone/mistress and I used it a bunch of times right away. I had some mind blowing orgasms. Then I didn't use it for a couple of weeks.

I decided to see what it was about the dildo that gave me such intense pleasure. I was in the shower and washed my anus. I pushed some lube into my anus and lubed the dildo. I pressed it against my anus. One of the things I like about this dildo is that there is a little bit of a point on it and it opens my anus. Some dildos have a more blunt tip and I think they are too abrupt.

By pressing the tip against my anus, I could feel it slide in and across the sphincter muscles. There was no real pleasure with that. I added more lube and continued pushing the dildo into me. I can't say that there was a lot of pleasure there also. It felt taboo and exciting, but I can't really say there was a lot of pleasure. I wasn't really hard either, although I was engorged.

After getting the dildo in all the way, I started to stroke it in and out, like a man would if he were fucking me. I can't say that this had all that much pleasure associated with it also. I started to play with my penis and move the dildo just a little bit, in and out.

After about two minutes of this, it started to feel really good. I continued to stroke in and out, small motions, and it got to the point where I was whimpering. I wanted to kiss someone, or something. I wanted a cock down my throat. I wanted an ass to tongue. I was in so much pleasure filled delirium that I wanted to cum right there.

I held off for a few minutes, but gave in because I thought that I was going to have a heart attack if I didn't cum. I have had woman lovers who hit that whimper stage for a little bit, but I could get there and stay there for a while.

I am going to try this some more, just taking it easy and seeing what it takes to get to that whimper stage. I can imagine being fucked by some guy and being at that whimper stage and just staying there until he decided to cum and then get me off at the same time. I can't think that sex would get better than that.

So, if you play with a dildo like this one and you like what you can do with it, you learn to hit that place where you just whimper with pleasure, you may be bi-curious.

 

[SomecallmeTim]

thanks for the great desciption bi golly. I've experienced that but I couldn't begin to do it justice the way you have.

 

[artemisnymph]

For the women I meet these days, I don't perceive in them any wiggle room for me to experience male sex. I would like to be in a relationship with a woman who is like me: I am emotionally drawn to women (when I am out of the house, I will look at 99 women before I will look at a man). I like the 'otherness' of women; women see things differently and I like that. But I would like to be with a man sometimes, to feel his body, to feel pleasure with him that I can't feel with a woman.

It is hard to put a strong relationship together, and layering bisexuality on top of it makes it harder.

I am sure you will meet a woman one day that can support you in your sexuality, we are out there. I play with my man's ass, talk to him about my fantasies of seeing him with another man, encourage him to talk about his fantasies. I am fairly certain he is bi-curious but I also think there is a huge block there. Concern about being ridiculed? Worry that he will be judged? Issues from his childhood? I don't know. What I do know if when/if he ever comes to me and wants to bring in another man to suck his dick (or any other variation thereof) I will support him 110%.

 

[ChefSong88]

Ok, so I've been lurking for a few months not knowing what to say. And I finally found a reason to break the silence. I am a 23 year old married male and I love my wife with all my heart. Here is the issue...I have had the feeling for a long time that I may be bi but I wasn't sure. Then recently I had my first encounter with a cock. Just jerking off and sucking each other. And the feeling didn't go away. It grew wings! I love pussy though and I don't find other men attractive but the thought of taking a cock in my mouth excites me. I have finally realized that I am bi-curious. Once I did, I felt much better. I am now ready to declare it first here. I AM A BI CURIOUS MALE!!! I just don't know what to do next.

 

[SomecallmeTim]

Chef I think you should revel in your sexual discovery. The question for you is do you share it? would your wife be supportive? Would she "share"? Many would not and you have some serious thinking to do. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.

 

[readyforfun]

That is a very open relatinship, no?

 

[artemisnymph]

Ok, so I've been lurking for a few months not knowing what to say. And I finally found a reason to break the silence. I am a 23 year old married male and I love my wife with all my heart. Here is the issue...I have had the feeling for a long time that I may be bi but I wasn't sure. Then recently I had my first encounter with a cock. Just jerking off and sucking each other. And the feeling didn't go away. It grew wings! I love pussy though and I don't find other men attractive but the thought of taking a cock in my mouth excites me. I have finally realized that I am bi-curious. Once I did, I felt much better. I am now ready to declare it first here. I AM A BI CURIOUS MALE!!! I just don't know what to do next.

I wonder if, in the heat of things with your wife, if you could just whisper into her ear the things that turn you on. Tell her you'd love her to watch you suck a cock, to watch a man suck yours. Maybe she has similar feelings?

I wish you well in your endeavor!

 

[ChefSong88]

I wonder if, in the heat of things with your wife, if you could just whisper into her ear the things that turn you on. Tell her you'd love her to watch you suck a cock, to watch a man suck yours. Maybe she has similar feelings?

I wish you well in your endeavor!

Hmmm.....interesting suggestion Artemisnymph sounds a little more than risky ( read: suicide) but then again, with great risk comes the possibility of a great reward so it wouldn't hurt to try. Ill think about giving that a try.

 

[smexygirl]

I'm definitely pancurious. I prefer pan over bi because gender identity isn't very important to me. Most of what I find attractive isn't exclusive to either sex, so to be honest I'd be willing to experiment with just about anyone attractive to me.

I have little interest in being on either the receiving or giving end of anal sex, though. Not putting down anyone who's into that, of course. It's just that out of all the times I've fantasized about being with a guy, anal never even crossed my mind.

you explain this very well. thank you.

 

[betty321]

I would just like to say a huge thank you for this thread. I am 43 and my partner is 50, I have known my man for 7 years and we have shared many fantasies together and have a great sex life, but I have wondered for years if he is bi-curious. He says he isn't, yet he enjoys anal play and once had me use my vibrator on him. He gets very turned on at the thought of MMF sex where he would hold the other man's cock as it entered me and he told me recently that the thing that really turned him on was double vaginal penetration with another man and me - he saw it once in a porno apparently and it was a huge turn on for him. He has asked me if I would consider doing MMF for real - on the one hand I don't want to, but I do love him very much and I believe that all of us should live as we really are, so a part of me feels that if he is bi-curious or maybe even bi-sexual that perhaps we should explore it - to allow him to set him free to be himself. I have a few gay and bi-sexual male friends who I have talked to privately about this and they suspect from things he has said that he may very well be at least bi-curious if not bi-sexual. It's a bit of a steep learning curve for me at the moment, but this thread has proved really interesting, useful and helpful to me.

 

[bblobby]

bum fun

i love bum fun its very sexy and a big turn on it makes my cock wet, i also love cock and cum love the taste .I am bi male 55

 

[uboat1]

I would just like to say a huge thank you for this thread. I am 43 and my partner is 50, I have known my man for 7 years and we have shared many fantasies together and have a great sex life, but I have wondered for years if he is bi-curious. He says he isn't, yet he enjoys anal play and once had me use my vibrator on him. He gets very turned on at the thought of MMF sex where he would hold the other man's cock as it entered me and he told me recently that the thing that really turned him on was double vaginal penetration with another man and me - he saw it once in a porno apparently and it was a huge turn on for him. He has asked me if I would consider doing MMF for real - on the one hand I don't want to, but I do love him very much and I believe that all of us should live as we really are, so a part of me feels that if he is bi-curious or maybe even bi-sexual that perhaps we should explore it - to allow him to set him free to be himself. I have a few gay and bi-sexual male friends who I have talked to privately about this and they suspect from things he has said that he may very well be at least bi-curious if not bi-sexual. It's a bit of a steep learning curve for me at the moment, but this thread has proved really interesting, useful and helpful to me.

Betty, What you are thinking about is great! I commend you for your thoughts and efforts. Even if nothing happens right away you will be 'ready' if the situation ever rises. My wife would not be so tollerant. If I wanted to investigate my curiousity I would have to do it behind her back. Some thing that I am not comfortable with.

 

[ChefSong88]

I wonder if, in the heat of things with your wife, if you could just whisper into her ear the things that turn you on. Tell her you'd love her to watch you suck a cock, to watch a man suck yours. Maybe she has similar feelings?

I wish you well in your endeavor!

So I decided to tell my wife how I felt. And she fuckin left me and said our whole relationship was a lie and she never wanted to see me again. I knew there was a possibility of that happening. So now, I am a single bi male. FML

 

[SomecallmeTim]

Chef I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. How do you feel? we're all here to support you, whatever happens.

 

[ChefSong88]

Chef I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. How do you feel? we're all here to support you, whatever happens.

I'm not sure how I feel Tim. mainly betrayed I guess. I mean, she is my wife and I wanted to let her in on a big part of me. If anyone should be accepting, its her but she is anything but. Thanks guys, I know I will need support from those who are like me.

 

[txboyalone]

I'm not sure how I feel Tim. mainly betrayed I guess. I mean, she is my wife and I wanted to let her in on a big part of me. If anyone should be accepting, its her but she is anything but. Thanks guys, I know I will need support from those who are like me.

I am so impressed that you told her how you felt even though you knew what the outcome might be. Sorry for your pain. Hope it works out for the best. Pax

 

[bblobby]

bum fun

Omigod! That got me running to the bathroom for my dildo, which is now five inches up my ass as I rock back and forth on it, and ride it up and down. I know, yes, indeed, I know the whimper! Sliding on the artificial Meat Pole is addictive!

i think its amazing and i want to be fucked by a hot sticky lubed cock .

 

[betty321]

So I decided to tell my wife how I felt. And she fuckin left me and said our whole relationship was a lie and she never wanted to see me again. I knew there was a possibility of that happening. So now, I am a single bi male. FML

Chef, sorry to hear that...sending you hugs. There are some very open-minded and understanding women out there...I hope in time you find just what you need <3

 

[artemisnymph]

I am so impressed that you told her how you felt even though you knew what the outcome might be. Sorry for your pain. Hope it works out for the best. Pax

I second this. I am proud of you for being true to yourself.

 

[betty321]

Betty, What you are thinking about is great! I commend you for your thoughts and efforts. Even if nothing happens right away you will be 'ready' if the situation ever rises. My wife would not be so tollerant. If I wanted to investigate my curiousity I would have to do it behind her back. Some thing that I am not comfortable with.

Hey Uboat, thanks for your support. I'm still not totally comfortable - yet! Lol, but I've been reading, watching and learning lots and I have to admit it was a turn on!!! My partner knew I was on here so he joined up and has seen my post - I thought he was gonna go mad )
He said he was slighlty disgruntled...but is happy as I'd stated how much I love him and he says he is sexually very curious (I think we both are, though him moreso than me definately!)...so who knows if we take it real slow for both our sakes then maybe anything could happen in the heat of the moment....maybe great freedom awaits us both, so long as we can break down any emotional barriers and remain honest with one another!

 

[worcesterguy]

curiousity

trhink of the feel the taste of a raging cock all the time, nervous but want the exciytement of another guys hardness soon

 

[Chedder99]

I'm so confused, i'm still a virgin with men, i've been with many girls. But for awhile now i've been fantasizing of guys and cock all the time to the point that everytime i masterbate i think of guys, sucking there cocks, fucking me, massaging a muscular body. It's getting crazy. Also i;ve been meeting guys online and wecamming and it gets me so hot having a guy cum to my body and ass, they seem to like it cause im in really good shape but i go nuts. I'm so confused, any advice would be appreciated

 

[rm1969]

Advice

My best advice is to just give it a shot. What is the worst thing that could happen? You dont like it. Or, you love it and now you've opened up a whole new world of happiness for yourself.

I was scared and worried and freaking out. Here I am, on my knees in front of my best friend with his hard cock inches from my face. It's was now or never so I just leaned forward, held my breath, closed my eyes and went for it. Within 5 minutes he was cumming in my mouth and I couldn't get enough. That night I sucked him off twice more and each time was better than the last. To top it off he even sucked my dick and jacked me off to a wonderful finish.

Now my wife and my girlfriend both know that it is part of who I am and they are with me 100%. Have fun, be safe and explore all those thoughts running around in your head...they could lead to some wonderful days and nights of lust and fun!!!!