Is it reasonable to assume ...

[English Lady]

*taking notes on how to seduce Belegon*

 

[LadyJeanne]

Once the consent is established, I will grab ya and pull you into a corner in public, play almost any sex "game" at any opportunity. Not shy at all then.

Consider it granted.

 

[AppleBiter]

If I respond at all, it's:

experienced/as often as possible/here

I like that one. I'll have to use it.

 

[impressive]

Consider it granted.

Damn! She beat me to it.

 

[rgraham666]

I sometimes wonder if I have too much tact on occassion. I often "missed" chances for encounters when I was single due to it.

With me it's a combination of social dyslexia and inexperience.

There's something about my brain that has a great deal of trouble recognising and interpreting social 'cues'. Women send me 'messages' and I have to puzzle them out letter by letter. By the time I do, it's too late.

And that has lead to inexperience. So my 'reading' skill is quite rudimentary.

 

[Belegon]

No guts, no glory?

I often wonder how much of my life is passing me by for that reason. *sigh*

Okay, I'll stop hijacking my own thread now.

Oh, it's not about fear. It is about my belief in not invading personal space, not changing wills. I want permission because it frees me to be wild and because my greatest turn on is being wanted. I have never (or at least very rarely) pushed to "take" something that was not freely given. I don't want to take from someone, I want them to give it. And I will turn away if I feel they are not certain about it.

Example:
A girl in college who I wanted greatly. One night she got drunk in my presence and when I drove her home she "threw herself at me". I put her to bed, tucked her in and left. I got in a lot of trouble with her roommate for declining that "invitation". Turns out the whole reason she got drunk that night was to have the courage to throw herself at me. It was all arranged. But I would not follow thru in case she regretted it the next day. We never did hook up.

 

[impressive]

... because my greatest turn on is being wanted.

You are.

 

[Belegon]

Consider it granted.

Milady, I have noted that. Be certain thou art taking a step into a place thy truly wish to enter....

 

[Guest]

I sometimes wonder if I have too much tact on occassion. I often "missed" chances for encounters when I was single due to it.

No guts, no glory?

I often wonder how much of my life is passing me by for that reason. *sigh*

Looking back, I know I missed a lot of opportunities. Guys are oblivious. I see girls giving my son looks he totally misses.

I'm tempted to write a series of stories, called "Lost Opportunites" where I write the truth up to the moment I missed a cue, then from there on, my fantasy of what might have been. It would be a long, long series!

And it doesn't help, that a woman here said here in passing, that a lot of women would freely give a blow job to a not-yet-a-lover, if only we'd ask.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Milady, I have noted that. Be certain thou art taking a step into a place thy truly wish to enter....

'Tis a place I fervently wish to enter, m'lord. No doubts mar this pretty forehead.

 

[Belegon]

With me it's a combination of social dyslexia and inexperience.

There's something about my brain that has a great deal of trouble recognising and interpreting social 'cues'. Women send me 'messages' and I have to puzzle them out letter by letter. By the time I do, it's too late.

And that has lead to inexperience. So my 'reading' skill is quite rudimentary.

I think I am lucky here. I can read rather well when there is no emotional committment.

I think it highly possible that you and I could go out for drinks and I could tell you what women in the room were interested in you. Better then I could tell which ones were interested in me.

It is usually only after I have my own feelings in the way that I come to doubt my "reads".

 

[impressive]

And it doesn't help, that a woman here said here in passing, that a lot of women would freely give a blow job to a not-yet-a-lover, if only we'd ask.

Don't know who said that ... but I, for one, would not be interested in just blowing someone I wasn't also interested in screwing.

Okay, that didn't sound right. What I meant was ... in for a penny ...

 

[impressive]

It is usually only after I have my own feelings in the way that I come to doubt my "reads".

YES! I call that "emotional cataracts."

 

[LadyJeanne]

I think I am lucky here. I can read rather well when there is no emotional committment.

I think it highly possible that you and I could go out for drinks and I could tell you what women in the room were interested in you. Better then I could tell which ones were interested in me.

It is usually only after I have my own feelings in the way that I come to doubt my "reads".

That's exactly how it works with me, as well. I see all and know all up to the point where my own feelings are engaged...then, all bets are off...I have no fucking clue after that point.

 

[rgraham666]

I think I am lucky here. I can read rather well when there is no emotional committment.

I think it highly possible that you and I could go out for drinks and I could tell you what women in the room were interested in you. Better then I could tell which ones were interested in me.

It is usually only after I have my own feelings in the way that I come to doubt my "reads".

Then we would end up running against my other problems; that I don't trust myself in social situations, and that I don't believe I have what it takes to make a woman happy.

Too many unhappy experiences to believe otherwise. Working on it, but not there yet.

 

[Belegon]

Then we would end up running against my other problems; that I don't trust myself in social situations, and that I don't believe I have what it takes to make a woman happy.

Too many unhappy experiences to believe otherwise. Working on it, but not there yet.

...but working on it is important. and you have the chops my friend, none of us who have read your writing doubt that. pleasing a woman is not about the physical tools as much as the imagination and will to use them. got a tongue, right?

confidence is a slippery slope....always has been, always will be. the effort is important. keep trying. don't ever give up.

 

[Op_Cit]

Do y'all get this? Lots?

You can get dates doin' this stuff!!??

Actually...So far the only come ons have been from lesbians. Sad, but encouraging at the same time.

 

[matriarch]

Surprisingly enough, I do get them. Not lately, but when I first started posting, there were quite a few, male and female (I begin to wonder if they can actually read).

I'm naive enough to actually miss the blatent invitation. I simply write back thanking them for taking the trouble to write. If they are interested in me as me, then they write back, if not, no skin off my nose.

 

[mlady_france]

That's exactly how it works with me, as well. I see all and know all up to the point where my own feelings are engaged...then, all bets are off...I have no fucking clue after that point.

Ditto.

Drives me crazy. The other thing that bothers me is when I'm attached all of a sudden I'm being hit on left and right. But the second I become single, not a single cry for my attention. Though maybe that has to do with the whole not reading the right signs.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Ditto.

Drives me crazy. The other thing that bothers me is when I'm attached all of a sudden I'm being hit on left and right. But the second I become single, not a single cry for my attention. Though maybe that has to do with the whole not reading the right signs.

My theory on that is people want what they can't have, so when you're attached, you automatically enter the 'forbidden' zone and become highly attractive. Sucks, but it seems to be the way of the world.

 

[Belegon]

My theory on that is people want what they can't have, so when you're attached, you automatically enter the 'forbidden' zone and become highly attractive. Sucks, but it seems to be the way of the world.

I think there is some truth to that. But also, being happy is attractive to others and they want that happiness too. Plus your confidence is sky high. Jack Palance had it right. Confidence is very sexy.

 

[Dar~]

I get lots of comeones from men. Usually quite a bit older than me. ( I like em all ages) But I also have friends on lmy profile. I also have that I Am Happily married. If I want to do anything sexually related, I will usually make the first move. I am just very much like that. (PS: I like giving blow jobs . . so it may have been me that insinuated that whole random blow jobs thing)

 

[ElizabethWest]

Never been propositioned in that way. Had a couple of things grow into playtime on the boards here, but I honestly look at those more as flirtation and fun with fellow authors. Although I do not deny that the women involved certainly got my attention.

I would be uncomfortable replying to anyone who first contacted me in such a manner. I think I would take the initial contact as a compliment though. But again, there is the male/female thing. In my experience, most women are much more subtle.

 

[ElizabethWest]

... that because one writes erotica, one is looking for sexual liaisons?

I have been getting a slew of propositions via IM lately. Not sure why, all of a sudden, this is happening. My profile says, and has always just said, "Friends."

Do y'all get this? Lots?

I get them via PM. Still about one every couple of weeks from guys who have read the story I submitted back in January. They want to educate me for some reason...

 

[Lisa Denton]

... that because one writes erotica, one is looking for sexual liaisons?

I have been getting a slew of propositions via IM lately. Not sure why, all of a sudden, this is happening. My profile says, and has always just said, "Friends."

Do y'all get this? Lots?

I used to get lots, in PM's, and still get one every day or two. Some are not even A/S/L, but instead "I'm horny, here's my IM" and I don't even reply. There are some that are disgusting, and one was really perverted ........ wait .... I think that was one you sent me.

When I was posting more I got more, and the best ones were like "I saw your post yadayada and it was freakin hilarious" and nothing sexual, some of those peoples have turned into my favorite flirters and pic traders and stuff, when the initial PM was just talkin about other stuff.

There was a beautiful one I got from a guy who said he wished he could write a poem for me, and he said if he could he would write how he feels looking at the mountains. He wanted to buy and send me lingerie, when usually peoples are askin for my panties. I replied that he made me feel really good and thanks, but no thanks, but that I really enjoyed his PM.

I like those ones, and any one that say they read my stories and liked them is good also, even when they go a little further. Some of the best have been from straight girls who say I put naughty thoughts in their heads, he, he.

Without realizing it, I have traded a few PM's with peoples who have become good friends, now e-mailin and stuff, that I might never have known. So the A/S/L and stuff don't really bother me, but yes, I know what you mean.