CrossOfStAndrew
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Sometimes one has to take a back seat to the other, but, in the final analysis the have to work together more often than not.
Is Romance Important to You or Is it All About the sex?
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Looking back I have always loved having romance I guess. Also looking back most women I have had sex with wanted sex not the romance. Also most of them came to me, not me to them. Same with my wife. Now there’s no sex and I believe that she never loved me. Maybe she appreciates me doing stuff time to time like a useful roommate but love? No.
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I'm terribly sorry to hear that. It must be a terrible thing to live with and you have my sympathies. Is there a way out?
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Without romance, relationships die.
Romance is the attention that men and women crave: to be seen and noticed and understood.
It isn’t just flowers and jewellery, it’s care and thought brought to life; it’s small things that demonstrate you are thinking of the other person and what makes them happy.
Its still sending sexts and dressing up after quarter of a century together. It’s waking up with his mouth on you. It’s being dragged on a snowy dog walk and the piping hot coffee and cake afterwards.
It’s also huge dramatic overblown gestures of course
Well that’s what I think anyway.
Romance is the attention that men and women crave: to be seen and noticed and understood.
It isn’t just flowers and jewellery, it’s care and thought brought to life; it’s small things that demonstrate you are thinking of the other person and what makes them happy.
Its still sending sexts and dressing up after quarter of a century together. It’s waking up with his mouth on you. It’s being dragged on a snowy dog walk and the piping hot coffee and cake afterwards.
It’s also huge dramatic overblown gestures of course
Well that’s what I think anyway.
Actually not on our situation. It’s further killing any hope of repair. I cannot just up and leave, and she know it. Also if there is a divorce, it would destroy me financially, and she knows it. She wants the function of a divorce with none of the bad optics to her family and work, so she has crafted this special hell. I have called it to her face and she just grinned. She thinks she is cute. At this point I’ve let go and exist somewhere between hope and complete giving up on life. Careful who and how much you let someone influence your life. Too late for me.
Ours was doa. 20 years. It’s a long story. Short version she got knocked up, I married her, haven’t had an ounce of real romance since. I am utilitarian only. A resource. Nothing of love, desire, hell not even respect. Soul killing I think someone called it here.
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Men who are romantic. Do you expect and / or receive romantic gestures well?
Counselling? Yes. She rolled her eyes the entire time. Church? She mocked the pastor. This was 10 years ago. When she found out she was pregnant 6 years ago she freaked out. Never spoke to me about it. But here we are. Still same roof, not together in the real sense. Developing resentment and shades of hatred.
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Happily yes. I got lucky.
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What makes you feel romanced?
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I'm so very sorry Lee. But at some point, you're gonna have to take the financial hit or be miserable always. I'd rather be homeless than in that situation. Good luck.
Bad optics for her family and work and we have kids. When youngest is a bit older, then more likely.
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I get the special smiles that make me feel good. It's the daily kissing, the cuddle time, the sexiness that we've always kept in our relationship for 31 years, next month. My wife is very thoughtful. I actually have to watch how much attention I pay to something or else she just buys it for me. Sometimes whether we can afford it or not.
When she tells me she loves me, she looks me in the eye and I know she means it. Heck, sometimes she screams it. As I say, I got lucky, and I know it. And I tell her so. I've never touched another woman and I never will. I'd never risk losing something that is irreplaceable.
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Kids, I get. Optics for her family and work, I don't. Why would that concern you?
It’s important to her. Not really me
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An individual willing to give of themselves in a creative way to express their love and accompanying desire...
...yes, romance is important, especially if it is received in the spirit with which it is given. If I am fortunate, then it is returned in equal measure.
....if unaccepted and unreturned, may my spirit never darken so badly as to no longer want or desire it's inclusion in my skills, whether given or received.
....a woman in love, expressing her love and desires upon me in the form of romance, is an awesome thing to behold. Not to be taken lightly.
...yes, romance is important, especially if it is received in the spirit with which it is given. If I am fortunate, then it is returned in equal measure.
....if unaccepted and unreturned, may my spirit never darken so badly as to no longer want or desire it's inclusion in my skills, whether given or received.
....a woman in love, expressing her love and desires upon me in the form of romance, is an awesome thing to behold. Not to be taken lightly.
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Grant55
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Hello everyone! I have asked that this thread be reopened. I believe that there is more discussion that can be had.
Do you desire traditional romance? Intimacy? A connection? Or, is it just Wham, Bam, thank you ma'am?
I consider myself a romantic but have a very naughty side that I only desire to show to someone that I'm connected to.
So tell me Lit. Is romance important to you or is it all about the sex?
Do you desire traditional romance? Intimacy? A connection? Or, is it just Wham, Bam, thank you ma'am?
I consider myself a romantic but have a very naughty side that I only desire to show to someone that I'm connected to.
So tell me Lit. Is romance important to you or is it all about the sex?
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I am feeling a little out of sync with most of the kinky sexy antics on most posts of Literotica. I am an old romantic that found the love of his life late in life and lost her to cancer way to early. I feel now that I want the romance like before that led up to an amazing sexual partnership. I don’t want to be a savior or a daddy or grandpa to a lady. I am curious what some older widows think.
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I'd agree - romance always ups the game.
B2fromA2looking4U
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It really does young ladyRomance makes it better
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Romance, intimacy, connection. All of them.
With a Daddy Dom. Which usually indeed includes 2-3 of those above. Not sure if all babygirls get the romance.
With a Daddy Dom. Which usually indeed includes 2-3 of those above. Not sure if all babygirls get the romance.
