Is Romance Important to You or Is it All About the sex?

[Strixaluco]

and those are things I look for. Trying to look outside the box stuff. Don't bring flowers on V-day but buy flowers on 3/3/23 just because it's Fri-YAY!!! My luck has it that I find those money hungry women (Just my luck). 2 women I've come across wouldn't date me cause I was 18, or 24 months younger then their were.

So you have the same kind of luck as my Dom has had - all superficial women before me. I am, for example, just glad he's ok with public transport and decent living. I may like comfortable living, but I hate showing off.

 

[Grant55]

I think that having intellect and being wise are not always necessarily the same things. And I have some interesting ideas about romance, but if I were forced to choose between the two, I'd take the intellectual connection every time. Though I'd love to have a gentleman read me poetry. There's the dream.

It seems to me that poetry can meet both the intellectual as well as the romance criteria.

 

[Anastasia1999]

Seems to me that your the one with the money, my dear. I think I saw a post about someone getting a bonus.

I was kidding dear Grant. I have a warped sense of humour and yes, I stand on my own feet in regards to being financially independent

 

[Grant55]

I was kidding dear Grant. I have a warped sense of humour and yes, I stand on my own feet in regards to being financially independent

Yes. I know you were kidding. You do not strike me as someone who would be in romance for money. Just giving you a hard time, Beautiful.

 

[Grant55]

 

[Strixaluco]

and those are things I look for. Trying to look outside the box stuff. Don't bring flowers on V-day but buy flowers on 3/3/23 just because it's Fri-YAY!!! My luck has it that I find those money hungry women (Just my luck). 2 women I've come across wouldn't date me cause I was 18, or 24 months younger then their were.

Still getting back to this.

Often if you only seem to come across the same kind of problematic behaviour in the people you are interested in, you yourself are subconsciously repeating a pattern. One possible pattern is trying to find acceptance from the kind of people who have turned you down before. Sometimes it's about you having a behaviour model, that was once a way of surviving, though now redundant, and that model attracts another behaviour model - like (a very classic example) those taking responsibility even for those who should do it themselves, find those people who easily give the responsibility away (which enables them to e.g. become alcoholic). And it usually never works out well.

Working with your own mind may solve it. Of course sometimes there are cultural things, even locally, and changing your circles can be the solution.

 

[Lily13]

Heavily important. There’s first attraction (of course) and then doing something romantic to gain future interest. Listen, anyone can get it on and get it on they do. But...romance is something that touches your heart and makes you eventually tingle.

 

[Grant55]

Heavily important. There’s first attraction (of course) and then doing something romantic to gain future interest. Listen, anyone can get it on and get it on they do. But...romance is something that touches your heart and makes you eventually tingle.

Very well put. Thank you.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Heavily important. There’s first attraction (of course) and then doing something romantic to gain future interest. Listen, anyone can get it on and get it on they do. But...romance is something that touches your heart and makes you eventually tingle.

Yes, I'd agree - the tingle is the key.

 

[Misshotndeep]

Ok, in all seriousness this time.
As a Demi sexual romance is the bread and butter of my sex life. I literally have no sex drive unless I am emotionally connected. Romance helps to build that connection. Romance helps to sustain that connection. Without romance my partner is getting no form of sex. I have zero interest. Now romance doesn’t have to be flowers and candies all the time for me. Most times it is more about the emotions. The connection of two souls in harmony. A guys has to seduce my brain and heart and keep it up. None of that honeymoon waxing or my sex drive will fade to zero.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Romance, my style, is when I focus on making the woman feel special to me - that I feel lucky and honored that she gives her time to be with me. It shows appreciation for her willingness to be with me. It is important that I demonstrate the impactful meaning our being together has on me. It means listening to her - not just hearing her. It means showing the connection I feel when I am with her by touching. Something of me needs to be touching something of her. My hand caressing her back. My arm touching her arm. it doesn't have to be sexual or teasing. Women sense the meaning of my touches.

I simply carry that way of thinking through when things get sensual and sexual. Touching is key.

 

[Grant55]

 

[Grant55]

 

[WantonOneWanted]

It depends on timing, who it is, the desire/need level. I don’t think this a straight forward question. Sometimes romance is the focus, sometimes animalistic need, and both can be well received.

 

[hopeful_wife]

Sometimes romance is the focus, sometimes animalistic need,

Which is it this morning?

 

[Grant55]

Romance, intimacy, a connection...all important things....

...or is it just wham, bam thank you ma'am?.

 

[Crownvic]

Romance, intimacy, a connection...all important things....

...or is it just wham, bam thank you ma'am?.

Definitely all important.....

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

I want a wet orifice and absolutely nothing else!
Kidding. There definitely have to be good vibes if nothing else. Can we hang and laugh? That's a good start.

 

[JessGabriel]

I think there's a place for both. My favorite stories are romantic with a strong connection, UST, and character growth. That just makes the smut even more arousing when I get to it.

At the same time, sometimes just pure smutty wank material is all I'm looking for to scratch an itch.

 

[Rob_Royale]

My most successful stories have had a decent measure of both romance and sex. People just being good to one another and then making them cum seems to agree with most folks. Certainly me. A happy ending, in either usage of the phrase.

 

[Ezeerider]

I've had a whole lot of sex without romance, but never the other way around.

 

[Nightbird]

My story is in the Romance section and although it has a horrific ending it has done pretty well. I think romance is still alive and well.

 

[Misshotndeep]

There is something magical about the feeling you get when your S.O. puts forth the effort to show you they love you with their clothes on.

 

[Tayloroc]

So well put! Ty

 

[Grant55]