Is Romance Important to You or Is it All About the sex?

[Grant55]

I can't remember the last time I had both.
Genuinely!

Truth is, finding both sex and romance is rare.
Plus, romance hurts more. The minute you trust someone enough to let them romance you, the more likely you are to be hurt.

Very true. I look at it as "the greater the risk the greater the reward". I would rather, in most cases, take that risk for that special connection than not. I've definitely been burned many times in the past.

 

[PinkPassion86]

Very true. I look at it as "the greater the risk the greater the reward". I would rather, in most cases, take that risk for that special connection than not. I've definitely been burned many times in the past.

You're right.

I have also found that the connection is usually in relationships that can never sadly amount to anything, anyone else found that?

 

[Grant55]

You're right.

I have also found that the connection is usually in relationships that can never sadly amount to anything, anyone else found that?

Oh, I definitely concur.

 

[shenglung]

You're right.

I have also found that the connection is usually in relationships that can never sadly amount to anything, anyone else found that?

So I find what a given connection amounts to is purely based on what both individuals bring to it. I've had past connections that while no they didn't lead to rl romance, they gave me a different connection one that became a life long friendship and someone there for me even at times my family wasn't. I believe we find the connections we need at the times we do for a reason, sometimes to teach us a lesson, sometimes just to remind us there's something our heart still yerns for and needs.

 

[PinkPassion86]

So I find what a given connection amounts to is purely based on what both individuals bring to it. I've had past connections that while no they didn't lead to rl romance, they gave me a different connection one that became a life long friendship and someone there for me even at times my family wasn't. I believe we find the connections we need at the times we do for a reason, sometimes to teach us a lesson, sometimes just to remind us there's something our heart still yerns for and needs.

I like your perspective.

This is true also, I do believe we need different connections and different times in our lives.
It would be silly to thing that someone can do everything for you, sex, comfort, laughter, friendship, sadness.

It doesn't happen like that.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I like romance DURING sex. By that I mean instead of simply trying to make me cum (which is easy, by the way... ), the woman tries her best to make the feeling of cumming to be the most sensual, loving, complete experience she can make it...

 

[shenglung]

I like your perspective.

This is true also, I do believe we need different connections and different times in our lives.
It would be silly to thing that someone can do everything for you, sex, comfort, laughter, friendship, sadness.

It doesn't happen like that.

So I disagree on one thing there someone could be all those things for someone, but no one is perfect so they may not be able to be them all everytime.

So call me an eternal optimist or a fool but I say never give up hope, you'll find what you need when it's time.

 

[Tallulah82]

So I disagree on one thing there someone could be all those things for someone, but no one is perfect so they may not be able to be them all everytime.

So call me an eternal optimist or a fool but I say never give up hope, you'll find what you need when it's time.

I like your perspective.

This is true also, I do believe we need different connections and different times in our lives.
It would be silly to thing that someone can do everything for you, sex, comfort, laughter, friendship, sadness.

It doesn't happen like that.

For me, I think that there can be one person that is all those things when you're talking about real life. Someone physically there to be your person.

Online, I agree with PinkPassion, when it comes to connections and relationships. Different connections at different times in our lives.

 

[Grant55]

Thank you everyone for your contributions. It is the heart of what this thread is about.

 

[PinkPassion86]

For me, I think that there can be one person that is all those things when you're talking about real life. Someone physically there to be your person.

Online, I agree with PinkPassion, when it comes to connections and relationships. Different connections at different times in our lives.

I don't know about RL - I think that's the place where connections are elusive.
Especially nowadays, the world is fickle, people want everything and, the reality is never what it's cracked up to be.

Call me a pessimist

 

[Tallulah82]

I don't know about RL - I think that's the place where connections are elusive.
Especially nowadays, the world is fickle, people want everything and, the reality is never what it's cracked up to be.

Call me a pessimist

I prefer to be called a realistic cynic

I agree that reality is never what it's cracked up to be. With being married for so long, maybe I'm too out of the loop to know what it's like out there nowadays for those wanting to find those real life connections. My marriage has been anything but easy, and I used to look at other couples and wonder how it must feel to be them.

But I do feel like online is more fickle, though I wonder if that's more to do with poor communication rather than actual changing of minds etc.

 

[shenglung]

I don't know about RL - I think that's the place where connections are elusive.
Especially nowadays, the world is fickle, people want everything and, the reality is never what it's cracked up to be.

Call me a pessimist

RL has definitely grown less conducive to making connections the last few years.
From my personal experience comparing the relationships had in RL vs those started online and transitioned to reality the online ones worked out the best. I think atleast for me the online ones were deeper connection in the end because of the lack of the physical interaction for so long. We both knew and understood each other better cause of it being a stronger mental connection first.

Nothing wrong with a healthy bit of pessimism it's how we keep ourselves safe and ready for the worst.

 

[PinkPassion86]

I prefer to be called a realistic cynic

I agree that reality is never what it's cracked up to be. With being married for so long, maybe I'm too out of the loop to know what it's like out there nowadays for those wanting to find those real life connections. My marriage has been anything but easy, and I used to look at other couples and wonder how it must feel to be them.

But I do feel like online is more fickle, though I wonder if that's more to do with poor communication rather than actual changing of minds etc.

Haha.

Comparison is the thief of joy, or so they say.
A little jealousy keeps us all on our toes.

I think online connections run deeper but, there's always an issue or 3. It would be nice to find that RL thing, of course.

 

[Hipshot1554]

You're right.

I have also found that the connection is usually in relationships that can never sadly amount to anything, anyone else found that?

Sadly, it's the nature of the beast. Mostly the people you find you could connect with are so far out of reach.

 

[kentuckymtnman]

TL;DR
Romance doesn't work for me online. My poor husband is still trying to figure out how it works in rl, after nearly 25 years of marriage.

Are you my wife??

 

[policywank]

Sex, intimacy and romance come in many different flavours and combinations. Meanwhile my desires and needs vary constantly. I can't imagine the answer to the OPs question being anything but "it depends".

I think we can all relate to the idea of wanting a romantic sexual liaison, but there are times that eatery gender just wants hot steamy sex.

 

[Grant55]

I am a sucker for a bit of good old fashioned romance

 

[Codeman93]

Romance makes better sex

 

[jason28053]

I am a sucker for a bit of good old fashioned rogering

Fixed it for you

 

[curvyjae]

100% the romance has to be there. I think of it as intimacy, more than romance perhaps.

 

[Twistedkink]

There is fucking and there is making love. I want both, I need both.

 

[Rob_Royale]

There is fucking and there is making love. I want both, I need both.

Yeah, exactly that. My stories are all May/December stories leaning heavily on the romance, but the sex is hot.

 

[Filipinawife]

There is fucking and there is making love. I want both, I need both.

I escorted while at university in Manila. To
Me there’s a clear difference between having sex and making love.

 

[Twistedkink]

I escorted while at university in Manila. To
Me there’s a clear difference between having sex and making love.

Could not agree more, and I think you can have both in a relationship. There’s just a time and place for both

 

[Filipinawife]

Could not agree more, and I think you can have both in a relationship. There’s just a time and place for both

I agree.