Is Romance Important to You or Is it All About the sex?

[SkyeGirl32]

I need a connection to someone for me to want anything more with them but that’s just me.

 

[lacandy]

I’ve thought about this…”romance” is open to so much interpretation. It means different things to different people and depends on where you are in the relationship. Husband bringing home my favorite chips from the grocery store without me asking at this point is romance! Not the same for someone else.

Also I don’t understand why the two are so intertwined and meshed together? I’ve had sex just for the sake of having sex and some of it was mind blowing and some of it was regretful. And I’ve had men do romantic things and no sex was had. And I’ve had very romantic based sex…also some mind blowing and some regretful.

I think that establishing a connection with someone (at this point in my life) is what I crave the most - sometimes that leads to amazingly hot down and dirty fucking, sometimes it’s sweet and tender sexual encounters, and sometimes it’s just a friendship…but it’s always a connection that makes the difference

 

[Grant55]

 

[DuvessaNight]

Romance… what’s that?!

 

[Grant55]

Let's hear some conversation.

What are your views on Romance? Intimacy? Connections? How does sex come into play for you within these contexts?

What say you?

Note: As always, please treat one a other with respect.

 

[Strixaluco]

I'm quick in getting interested, if it's about to happen at all. I'm no demisexual - if I'm single, the physical attraction is soon there after getting close enough, or then never.

But I've found sex-only not to be worth it, it leaves me unsatisfied. So, there must be friendship forming as well, at the same time. Meaning a complete romance.

 

[Misshotndeep]

 

[Grant55]

 

[Grant55]

 

[youngman1997]

I definitely prefer to have a proper connection with the person I'm with. I love sex that is intimate and not all about penetration and orgasms. Lots of intimate and passionate foreplay where we feel connected and like one person in two body's is the perfect experience for me!

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

I think there has to be chemistry and connection for there to be authentic romance. At least for me anyway. Romance is something that comes with feeling something deep for someone.

Also romance I think varies depending on the individual. What exactly IS romance? Bringing flowers? Making a mix CD? Doing the kiss-cam at a ball game?

 

[Krigirl1233]

Depends on who it is and what mood I am in. Sometimes raw sex is perfect and other times romance is ecstatic

 

[Radiantcurves87]

I think there has to be chemistry and connection for there to be authentic romance. At least for me anyway. Romance is something that comes with feeling something deep for someone.

Also romance I think varies depending on the individual. What exactly IS romance? Bringing flowers? Making a mix CD? Doing the kiss-cam at a ball game?

Perfectly well said, and completely agree!!

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

Perfectly well said, and completely agree!!

Why thank you. Every now and then I get it right.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Let's hear some conversation.

What are your views on Romance? Intimacy? Connections? How does sex come into play for you within these contexts?

What say you?

Note: As always, please treat one a other with respect.

Romance:

I've got kind of a convuluted view of romance. At heart I am a romantic. I think the thousand small things we do for our lovers are the heart of romance. I'm a fan of the romantic gesture, however it manifests in a persons life. What I am not a fan of is the contrived nature of romance as it sometimes manifests in our current consumer and media culture, where it becomes not about the two people (or more), but rather becomes a parody of itself. Sending your lover a poetry quote, leaving a tender voicemail when you know they're busy, taking the time to write a heartfelt letter - all awesome. Sending 30 memes with bad poetry and impossible pictures a day? Not for me. Tell me what YOU think and feel. I'll tell you want I think and feel.

Intimacy:

Intimacy is the key to any relationship. It's letting your guard down enough to share what you're thinking and feeling with another person. It's gaurding and treasuring what they think and feel. It's hard to find intimacy in this world, given it's pass. True intimacy, to me, is found in the ability to be silent with each other. It's paying attention to your partner to the point where you can get them a cup of coffee - without asking them how they want it.

Connection:

To me, the subject of connections is far to broad to encapsulate. We connect with people a thousand different ways, in ten thousand different circumstances, almost all of them unique combinations. Connection (or the lack of it) is the very fabric of our lives and our universal shared experience.

Sex:

Five stars. Highly recommended. Sex is more versatile than all three of the above and encompassed them all with it. Sex can be romantic, sex can be intimate, sex can be connection. As a fairly normal, healthy, mature individual sex is important to me. I don't play games with it. I don't use it a method of reward or punishment. I just enjoy it, whatever the form it takes in the moment.

 

[lacandy]

 

[Crownvic]

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That would work for me...

 

[Grant55]

Sooooo, romance or...

 

[Dcharger]

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That's me to a DM-"T"

 

[Grant55]

 

[Grant55]

Is romance as dead as this thread?

Do you need a connection with someone?

Or, is it all about the down and dirty?

 

[Photog1rl]

Is romance as dead as this thread?

Do you need a connection with someone?

Or, is it all about the down and dirty?

A connection is a must. Down and dirty is just awkward and doesn't last if there is no connection.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

It's not an "either/or" question. For some people just looking for a hook up, not a lot of romance is needed or required. For some people, like me, romance is the natural state when I want a woman to know and feel I want her.

But it's not either I use romance to try and woo her, or I say screw it and just try to fuck her.

 

[Grant55]