Is Romance Important to You or Is it All About the sex?

[Azuldrgon]

Whether for romance or just sex, what kind of music do you prefer? Or, do you prefer no music at all?

It depends on the mood really.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

Tomi Metsäketo (comparable to Il Divo in style).
Tommi Soidinmäki, Tomi Markkola and a few other artists in the domin of pop or "Finnish country" (which is very different from American country music)

Could also add Laura Pausini and Eros Ramazzotti. Marie Fredriksson (the solo album I bought is very different from Roxette).

The list is far from exhaustive.

I will explore when I get the chance. Thank you for your input.

 

[Booboobear84]

I’m not great with romance honestly, intimacy and connection is important to me but romance I can sometimes struggle with.

I tend to think of intimacy and connection as being very similar to romance particularly when speaking casually (i.e. not thinking about precise meaning). If you said one of those without mentioning the other (so I am forced to mentally contrast) I would have a fuzzy sense of what you meant. This might be a me thing, but more likely is it's a some people thing, which is how we end up disagreeing about things we probably agree on.

 

[cbo1234]

Tomi Metsäketo (comparable to Il Divo in style).
Tommi Soidinmäki, Tomi Markkola and a few other artists in the domin of pop or "Finnish country" (which is very different from American country music)

Could also add Laura Pausini and Eros Ramazzotti. Marie Fredriksson (the solo album I bought is very different from Roxette).

The list is far from exhaustive.

Laura Pausini and Eros Ramazzotti are just amazing, grew up listening to them! And very romantic!
I will definitely check out the others

Whether for romance or just sex, what kind of music do you prefer? Or, do you prefer no music at all?

Jazz is my go to for romantic evenings. Anything on vinyl just feels better too
For sex I prefer no music unless we are trying to drown out the noises

 

[Lily13]

Gotta have a little romance in order to get from a to b. A little note, a phone call, a morning text, a song, it’s all a little romance to me

 

[Azuldrgon]

I know sometimes the cuddles and holding are essential. You have to hold them prior and definitely hold them after, even if it was a rough scene or something. Aftercare is important.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

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[Orchidea73]

Whether for romance or just sex, what kind of music do you prefer? Or, do you prefer no music at all?

It depends from the mood and the kind of sex. Sometimes I'm in Led Zep whola lotta love mood and sometimes Miles Davis.

 

[FranklyFrank]

It depends from the mood and the kind of sex. Sometimes I'm in Led Zep whola lotta love mood and sometimes Miles Davis.

I'd still do ya Miles Davis style

 

[OneVision]

Honestly, it’s about the sex. Saying that also just signed the paperwork to start the ending of my second marriage. The romance will return again, just not at this stage in life. Normally very romantic and want to make sure she is swept off her feet into waiting arms.

Think if did any sweeping, would be the leg.
No I don’t have a problem with that!

 

[Orchidea73]

I'd still do ya Miles Davis style

How romantic of you. lol

 

[NastyNyx]

I love it

 

[85Ironman]

I love it

Same.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

For her...

Where ever you are...

 

[Sexy_Singer]

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[BongoGal]

It has been a long time since I've had any thought of romance in the normal sense of the word. And even back then, I feel as if other people conceived of romance differently than I ever did. Any boyfriend I ever had was someone I liked or loved, but I never felt as if it was a forever love of the ages. I remember feeling confused when well-meaning friends might ask, "Is he 'the one'?" I'd be thinking, "He's the one for right now, but the idea that we'll still be a couple in ten years seems very unlikely."

 

[Strixaluco]

It has been a long time since I've had any thought of romance in the normal sense of the word. And even back then, I feel as if other people conceived of romance differently than I ever did. Any boyfriend I ever had was someone I liked or loved, but I never felt as if it was a forever love of the ages. I remember feeling confused when well-meaning friends might ask, "Is he 'the one'?" I'd be thinking, "He's the one for right now, but the idea that we'll still be a couple in ten years seems very unlikely."

But it is possible to have romance without dreaming of together forever.

 

[LavenderIncense]

Depends on the day the mood and the place

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Romance for me is part and parcel to the entire activity. Just as you cannot think a fire into existance, I cannot simply have sex. I need the kindling, the spark, the heat, the build up. There needs to be air available, the wood needs to be dry, and you have to gently coax everything into the right "mood."

Disclosure, I am demisexual, so it is definitely as much about the mental as it is the physical.

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

I want the whole freakin' enchilada! Plus rice and beans and margaritas! And fried ice cream for dessert!

Both sex and romance are non-negotiables. But I want more than that. I want friendship and companionship. I want compatibility on all of the big levels.

And like jelly said, I want intimacy.

Wait... fried ice cream?

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Wait... fried ice cream?

You take a ball of ice cream, roll it in a breading (usually contsining cinnamon and sugar), then you deep fry it.

 

[Ingenue844]

So, I require a connection before being willing to have sex or in the case of Lit, rp.

But what I have noticed is if I let the relationship change to a rp one, there is never again real conversation and I’m expected to put out constantly.

So…romance is dead. Sex is all men want.

 

[falkor207]

Joining the conversate a bit late. For me i believe there's a time for sex, just the raw I need you now and the romantic making love at the other end of things. So many variables in play determine which or something in between in the moment.

Now to really stir the pot. What constitutes having sex? There's a thread in the Playground on just that.

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

So, I require a connection before being willing to have sex or in the case of Lit, rp.

But what I have noticed is if I let the relationship change to a rp one, there is never again real conversation and I’m expected to put out constantly.

So…romance is dead. Sex is all men want.

My best friendships, online and in person are ones where there is a wonderful balance of both. I've seen similar things in real life, where very immature people are unable to do anything but screw once they get to that phase.

I think being able to flirt a bit while going about "normal" activities actually makes things exciting, but then I'm one for subtlty and love the ebbs and flows.

 

[Chillygirl]

I want it all.