Is Romance Important to You or Is it All About the sex?

[Ingenue844]

My best friendships, online and in person are ones where there is a wonderful balance of both. I've seen similar things in real life, where very immature people are unable to do anything but screw once they get to that phase.

I think being able to flirt a bit while going about "normal" activities actually makes things exciting, but then I'm one for subtlty and love the ebbs and flows.

It just surprises me…the abruptness of the change. No longer asking about one’s day. Just sex, sex, sex.

It’s more fun to have both emotional intimacy and sexual, simultaneously.

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

It just surprises me…the abruptness of the change. No longer asking about one’s day. Just sex, sex, sex.

It’s more fun to have both emotional intimacy and sexual, simultaneously.

I completely agree. I need to crave that mind as much as that body, if not more.

 

[Ingenue844]

Now to really stir the pot. What constitutes having sex? There's a thread in the Playground on just that.

I didn’t hit her, it was just verbal abuse.
I didn’t sexually penetrate her, I just sexually harassed her.

While I do understand that Sex is a more physical act, I feel like you’re bringing this subject up here to discredit how someone might feel in a role play situation.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

So, I require a connection before being willing to have sex or in the case of Lit, rp.

But what I have noticed is if I let the relationship change to a rp one, there is never again real conversation and I’m expected to put out constantly.

So…romance is dead. Sex is all men want.

I disagree. Romance isn’t dead.
Some of us love romance. The random text sent. Letting her know I’m thinking about her. The good morning text. The random flirty texts throughout the day

 

[SoCalAshley]

So, I require a connection before being willing to have sex or in the case of Lit, rp.

But what I have noticed is if I let the relationship change to a rp one, there is never again real conversation and I’m expected to put out constantly.

So…romance is dead. Sex is all men want.

I do not think that romance is dead, but I do agree with you that once you go down the rp road it is very difficult to have a "real" conversation. That is why I changed my profile to say that I will not rp. There are so many other ways to connect with someone on chat without creating a fictional fantasy situation.

 

[Ingenue844]

I do not think that romance is dead, but I do agree with you that once you go down the rp road it is very difficult to have a "real" conversation. That is why I changed my profile to say that I will not rp. There are so many other ways to connect with someone on chat without creating a fictional fantasy situation.

Yes, it’s probably time to do that.

 

[YoWhatsGood]

It is all about the sex

 

[SoCalAshley]

It is all about the sex

I would be curious to know if your partner or partners shared your view.

 

[YoWhatsGood]

I would be curious to know if your partner or partners shared your view.

I mean, I’m sure some of them did, I can’t say this topic ever came up

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

You and me both then...lol
I'm demisexual too ( think I posted about that earlier in this thread)
The brain/ mind ( as well as skin) is the largest sexual organ.

seriously, nothing is as amazing as sex with someone where it feels like sometimes you can't tell where your brain stops and theirs begins, intention feels like instinct, you know each other, how each other thinks, what each little smirk, twitch, noise means without question.

 

[falkor207]

I didn’t hit her, it was just verbal abuse.
I didn’t sexually penetrate her, I just sexually harassed her.

While I do understand that Sex is a more physical act, I feel like you’re bringing this subject up here to discredit how someone might feel in a role play situation.

Not at all what was intended. Is cyber sex really sex, is masturbation, phone, or sexting. Some consider some or all of these forms of sex. Sorry if it wasn't perceived that way. I am AGAINST all forms of violence and believe consent is an imperative and can be withdrawn at any time by any participant.

 

[NastyNyx]

I love romantic little gestures....big ones too In a relationship it matters to me.

 

[Azuldrgon]

If there's no substance behind it, then there's no relationship.
I have a difficult time wanting to have sex with someone if there's not more there.
Every relationship I have had in my real life, it as friendship first and everything else after.
The majority of my Lit relationships are friendships. Anything after that is extra. Because I actually care for the ladies behind the screennames.
That's the way I am.
Not every person on here is like that and that's their thing.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Connection matters. Romance isn't necessary for sex, but I'd much rather have a "whole" relationship than a partial one, so romance matters (if it's a romantic relationship - some aren't).

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I thrive in the relationships where I have a balance of both I understand that this is a site where the first topic is sex and I'm fine with engaging on the boards with that approach.

I do dislike the majority of cold PMs that start with sex though, as a one on one conversation is far more intimate and I've never spoken to them.

 

[fitguy930]

Balance is everything...

 

[Photog1rl]

So, I require a connection before being willing to have sex or in the case of Lit, rp.

But what I have noticed is if I let the relationship change to a rp one, there is never again real conversation and I’m expected to put out constantly.

So…romance is dead. Sex is all men want.

Omg this is so spot on and it’s sad. And it’s not just in RP.

 

[Photog1rl]

For me a connection is vital for good sex and that can not happen without time learning and exploring together. Is that romance? Not necessarily. The flirting, teasing, building of the connection, I love that part.

 

[Mtnmike]

Omg this is so spot on and it’s sad. And it’s not just in RP.

Omg, please ladies, don't put all us men in that category, I can & do have regular conversations with women all the time, it doesn't have to be about sex. 99.9% of the time, let the woman bring it up first, has this cost me some chances of getting laid, idk but i'm sure it has but i've made some great friends along the way. Sorry didn't mean to ramble.

 

[munch2much]

Sex is relatively unimportant to me.
That said, it is a natural evolution in certain types of relationships.
Romance, is a truly amazing thing. It’s the herbs and spices of the relationship

 

[Photog1rl]

Omg, please ladies, don't put all us men in that category, I can & do have regular conversations with women all the time, it doesn't have to be about sex. 99.9% of the time, let the woman bring it up first, has this cost me some chances of getting laid, idk but i'm sure it has but i've made some great friends along the way. Sorry didn't mean to ramble.

I agree that it is not all men. What I was OMGing about was that often once sex/RP has entered the room the ability to communicate goes away. This is a huge loss!

 

[Waxedk1tty]

Like a lot of people I don’t so much need the romance as I need the connection and build up.

 

[fma20fma]

limited romance and unlimited sex.

 

[English_guy_bkk]

Not romance no, Im not going to post a rose through a letterbox from 15 thousand kilometers. Nor am l going to be the best sex you have ever had in your life
I have forgotten the topic actually.

 

[Jada59]

I'm not really the romantic type, but there needs to be so,e sort of connection besides sex.