Kim's poly/kink thread reinvented ...

[KimGordon67]

Maybe...I assure you, looking good, the light catching your hair, the colours....

Yes, numbers are looking good, I would rather now slam them down if possible, rather than have a resurgence by coming out early. I know it is difficult for many, but medium to longer term I suspect it would be better.

They may do it region by region, it could be a slow drop down each level.

You can't quite see the accessory in the AV version.

https://i.imgur.com/gEAFOEu.jpg

 

[cookiecat]

You collared kinkster!!!

Love the hair so much.

 

[KimGordon67]

You collared kinkster!!!

Love the hair so much.

I wish it always looked like that ... total fluke. Usually it's a bouffy mess.

 

[Dreamliner]

Ooh, you wild girl! Love it, great thanks Kim.

PS: I have a length of chain that would go well with that.

 

[MrRetro]

I'm really only making this post to see how my new avatar looks ... lockdown is proving fairly quiet. I think I'm making one or two connections online, although it's surprising how many of them lose interest after a day or two of chatting. Like, what do they think is going to happen in this environment ... although I literally had one guy message me this morning suggesting we meet. Today. Sigh.

Your new avatar picture looks great Kim, I like the colour of your hair..!

 

[AngelicaS1780]

I'm really only making this post to see how my new avatar looks ... lockdown is proving fairly quiet. I think I'm making one or two connections online, although it's surprising how many of them lose interest after a day or two of chatting. Like, what do they think is going to happen in this environment ... although I literally had one guy message me this morning suggesting we meet. Today. Sigh.

Love the new AV.
Suggesting a meet up? Automatically off the list. SMH.

 

[KimGordon67]

Well ....

In an unexpected turn of events, I seem to be in 'negotiations' with a couple around something that could turn into something more like an actual poly thing. They have a couples profile on the 'swingers' site I've been using, but unlike 99.8% of the long-term couples on there who are seeking a unicorn to 'spice up their sex lives', M and G have only been together a few months, and have had an open relationship from the get-go, and are also around my age, AND (and this is the unexpected bit) seem like 'my kind of people'. He approached me first, although because it's a shared account, she was able to see all of the exchange we initially had, and after a few days, it was her messaging me. I'm now chatting with both of them on kik ... just innocuous 'how's the weather, seen any good bands lately' sorts of conversations (although he did send a dick pic - that thing is HUGE. I'm a bit daunted). We're all pretty keen to meet up though, when this current mess is a little more resolved. I'm trying to not be overly optimistic, but there's a lot of things already that I like about this.

 

[cookiecat]

In an unexpected turn of events, I seem to be in 'negotiations' with a couple around something that could turn into something more like an actual poly thing. They have a couples profile on the 'swingers' site I've been using, but unlike 99.8% of the long-term couples on there who are seeking a unicorn to 'spice up their sex lives', M and G have only been together a few months, and have had an open relationship from the get-go, and are also around my age, AND (and this is the unexpected bit) seem like 'my kind of people'. He approached me first, although because it's a shared account, she was able to see all of the exchange we initially had, and after a few days, it was her messaging me. I'm now chatting with both of them on kik ... just innocuous 'how's the weather, seen any good bands lately' sorts of conversations (although he did send a dick pic - that thing is HUGE. I'm a bit daunted). We're all pretty keen to meet up though, when this current mess is a little more resolved. I'm trying to not be overly optimistic, but there's a lot of things already that I like about this.

I love the innocuous conversation first! That way seems to be best, right?? Taking it slow, getting to know each other - see if you actually like each other. All the good, kinky, sex stuff can come any time.

Sounds positive.

 

[KimGordon67]

I love the innocuous conversation first! That way seems to be best, right?? Taking it slow, getting to know each other - see if you actually like each other. All the good, kinky, sex stuff can come any time.

Sounds positive.

Exactly! (Also, if it does all work out, I've set myself the challenge of seeing how much of that HUGE thing of his I can fit in my mouth ... because it's good to challenge yourself every now and then. )

 

[LizVegas79]

In an unexpected turn of events, I seem to be in 'negotiations' with a couple around something that could turn into something more like an actual poly thing. They have a couples profile on the 'swingers' site I've been using, but unlike 99.8% of the long-term couples on there who are seeking a unicorn to 'spice up their sex lives', M and G have only been together a few months, and have had an open relationship from the get-go, and are also around my age, AND (and this is the unexpected bit) seem like 'my kind of people'. He approached me first, although because it's a shared account, she was able to see all of the exchange we initially had, and after a few days, it was her messaging me. I'm now chatting with both of them on kik ... just innocuous 'how's the weather, seen any good bands lately' sorts of conversations (although he did send a dick pic - that thing is HUGE. I'm a bit daunted). We're all pretty keen to meet up though, when this current mess is a little more resolved. I'm trying to not be overly optimistic, but there's a lot of things already that I like about this.

Exciting!

My husband and I finally started exploring a bit down this road too. Him and one of his best friends were talking about the end of the world a couple of weeks ago when everyone was flying off into panic mode and since most of us in the casino biz here in Las Vegas are on hiatus and finally all had a free Saturday night, well they figured it was " bucket list time" so some friends who I always suspected might be swingers had a little party. It was incredible. So I would definitely recommend exploring your options if you're both interested. But do proceed with caution.

Communication. Communication. Communication is so, so important.

 

[KimGordon67]

Exciting!

My husband and I finally started exploring a bit down this road too. Him and one of his best friends were talking about the end of the world a couple of weeks ago when everyone was flying off into panic mode and since most of us in the casino biz here in Las Vegas are on hiatus and finally all had a free Saturday night, well they figured it was " bucket list time" so some friends who I always suspected might be swingers had a little party. It was incredible. So I would definitely recommend exploring your options if you're both interested. But do proceed with caution.

Communication. Communication. Communication is so, so important.

I do think this has potential to evolve into an actual poly situation, where we hang out in varying configurations - everyone seems quite adult about it all. But yes, I'm all about the communication and being up front about things. It's really important in these situations, I think, to ensure everyone has a relatively shared understanding of what's going on, given that the potential for misunderstandings is obviously increased from a 'normal couple'.

 

[LizVegas79]

I do think this has potential to evolve into an actual poly situation, where we hang out in varying configurations - everyone seems quite adult about it all. But yes, I'm all about the communication and being up front about things. It's really important in these situations, I think, to ensure everyone has a relatively shared understanding of what's going on, given that the potential for misunderstandings is obviously increased from a 'normal couple'.

The risk of a misunderstanding or someone getting their feelings hurt is definitely, definitely there so yeah, discuss your hard limits, pick safe words, and definitely plan time to reconnect with your spouse during or certainly afterwards to talk and share everything, good or bad.

Our party hosts laid out some great ground rules in the beginning that we all had to follow. It really helps to have at least one person, or preferably one couple, in the group with a little more experience.

Are you super excited?

 

[KimGordon67]

The risk of a misunderstanding or someone getting their feelings hurt is definitely, definitely there so yeah, discuss your hard limits, pick safe words, and definitely plan time to reconnect with your spouse during or certainly afterwards to talk and share everything, good or bad.

Our party hosts laid out some great ground rules in the beginning that we all had to follow. It really helps to have at least one person, or preferably one couple, in the group with a little more experience.

Are you super excited?

I don't actually have a spouse ... although I've met this couple on a website primarily developed for swingers, I don't know that we're really considering this 'swinging' per se ... more an opportunity to connect with like minded people that are harder to find on conventional dating sites, which tend to be people looking either for their soul mates (and monogamy), or a ONS. My hopes don't really fall into either of those categories.

I'm trying to not be TOO excited - I've had quite a few knock-backs in the last few months, and am trying to not over-invest in anything new until I feel confident the feelings are mutual ... it's a difficult line to tread, because there's also a risk with seeming disinterested.

 

[LizVegas79]

I don't actually have a spouse ... although I've met this couple on a website primarily developed for swingers, I don't know that we're really considering this 'swinging' per se ... more an opportunity to connect with like minded people that are harder to find on conventional dating sites, which tend to be people looking either for their soul mates (and monogamy), or a ONS. My hopes don't really fall into either of those categories.

I'm trying to not be TOO excited - I've had quite a few knock-backs in the last few months, and am trying to not over-invest in anything new until I feel confident the feelings are mutual ... it's a difficult line to tread, because there's also a risk with seeming disinterested.

But you're going into it with an S.O., right?

I don't know much about them (yet lol) but a swingers website seems like a great place to meet other people you connect with on multiple levels - not just a sexual one.

For me, getting my guy to talk was the hardest part. It took over 4yrs and then POOF! it was suddenly his idea lol

 

[KimGordon67]

But you're going into it with an S.O., right?

I don't know much about them (yet lol) but a swingers website seems like a great place to meet other people you connect with on multiple levels - not just a sexual one.

For me, getting my guy to talk was the hardest part. It took over 4yrs and then POOF! it was suddenly his idea lol

No, there is no SO ... so luckily I only have to negotiate things with myself on the home front, as my cat doesn't seem overly fussed.

Being on the site is such an interesting experience - I had no idea swinging was such a big thing! And the long term couples are really lovely - talking about how they had to leave such and such a party early because they had to get up for the milking of the cows early the next morning.

 

[LizVegas79]

No, there is no SO ... so luckily I only have to negotiate things with myself on the home front, as my cat doesn't seem overly fussed.

Being on the site is such an interesting experience - I had no idea swinging was such a big thing! And the long term couples are really lovely - talking about how they had to leave such and such a party early because they had to get up for the milking of the cows early the next morning.

Ohhh now I get it! I must have missed something.

So you're a female unicorn? (is that what they're called?)

Well in that case I'm sure you're going to have absolutely no problem finding and picking couples that you want to play with. Going into the situation with only your own emotional roller coaster to deal with will be FAR easier than being on that roller coaster AND having to guess what someone else might be feeling or thinking on theirs!

L-O-fucking-L about your cat's acceptance btw!

 

[biwifecurious]

Ohhh now I get it! I must have missed something.

So you're a female unicorn? (is that what they're called?)

Well in that case I'm sure you're going to have absolutely no problem finding and picking couples that you want to play with. Going into the situation with only your own emotional roller coaster to deal with will be FAR easier than being on that roller coaster AND having to guess what someone else might be feeling or thinking on theirs!

L-O-fucking-L about your cat's acceptance btw!

Yes a single female is the Swinging Lifestyle is called a Unicorn!

 

[phil1955]

Yes a single female is the Swinging Lifestyle is called a Unicorn!

Could a married women that is free to play however she wants be considered a unicorn?

 

[KimGordon67]

Could a married women that is free to play however she wants be considered a unicorn?

Hmmm ... I've always understood the unicorn to be someone who connects with just the existent couple, but when I think about it, I guess she might also be in another relationship. But I don't know that I've ever seen the term applied in that way.

(Just as another point - married women are 'free' to do whatever they want - marriage =/= ownership. I understand what you're saying, but I'm a little precious about using terms like that in this particular thread.)

 

[KimGordon67]

... and in other news, the prospect of meeting this couple draws closer. It seems like it'll probably be the guy in the first instance, although I do need to have chat about whether she's ok with that. However, it seems that this is how their relationship works - they do whatever they feel like separately, and if they feel like seeing someone as a couple, they do that as well.

I somehow ended up having a super-brief hook up with the young guy from a while back ... he messaged me completely out of the blue, as I was literally about to leave town for a couple of days. I swear it was 20 minutes, max, including the shower he had afterwards. Do people actually have sex like that? It's completely new territory for me ... I guess sometimes I've had quickies with people I'm in relationships with (you know, that sort of 'Oh - I like that underwear you're putting on while you're getting ready for us to go out - we have ten minutes to spare before we need leave, what d'you reackon?'), but not when that's the sum total of the interaction.
Strange.

 

[AnnieLit]

... and in other news, the prospect of meeting this couple draws closer. It seems like it'll probably be the guy in the first instance, although I do need to have chat about whether she's ok with that. However, it seems that this is how their relationship works - they do whatever they feel like separately, and if they feel like seeing someone as a couple, they do that as well.

I somehow ended up having a super-brief hook up with the young guy from a while back ... he messaged me completely out of the blue, as I was literally about to leave town for a couple of days. I swear it was 20 minutes, max, including the shower he had afterwards. Do people actually have sex like that? It's completely new territory for me ... I guess sometimes I've had quickies with people I'm in relationships with (you know, that sort of 'Oh - I like that underwear you're putting on while you're getting ready for us to go out - we have ten minutes to spare before we need leave, what d'you reackon?'), but not when that's the sum total of the interaction.
Strange.

Strange good or strange bad? Did YOU get anything out of those not quite 20 min?

And I am a bit envious about your plans -- we are srill under stay-at-home order till at least end of May.

 

[KimGordon67]

Strange good or strange bad? Did YOU get anything out of those not quite 20 min?

And I am a bit envious about your plans -- we are srill under stay-at-home order till at least end of May.

Strange meh.

He's stupidly cute, so it's kind of nice to see him naked. And it was the first physical contact I've had with another human in something like six weeks. But the sex was ... meh.

 

[cookiecat]

I'm just running through quick but wanted to high five you on the couple!

Nice to hear things are moving forward.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

... and in other news, the prospect of meeting this couple draws closer. It seems like it'll probably be the guy in the first instance, although I do need to have chat about whether she's ok with that. However, it seems that this is how their relationship works - they do whatever they feel like separately, and if they feel like seeing someone as a couple, they do that as well.

I somehow ended up having a super-brief hook up with the young guy from a while back ... he messaged me completely out of the blue, as I was literally about to leave town for a couple of days. I swear it was 20 minutes, max, including the shower he had afterwards. Do people actually have sex like that? It's completely new territory for me ... I guess sometimes I've had quickies with people I'm in relationships with (you know, that sort of 'Oh - I like that underwear you're putting on while you're getting ready for us to go out - we have ten minutes to spare before we need leave, what d'you reackon?'), but not when that's the sum total of the interaction.
Strange.

Strange meh.
He's stupidly cute, so it's kind of nice to see him naked. And it was the first physical contact I've had with another human in something like six weeks. But the sex was ... meh.

In terms of the text that I bolded, I just don't understand that approach to sex. It makes me want to ask him, "Really, that's it? That's a full experience for you? Do you even realize how much better that could have been?" A quickie definitely has its place and can be super hot, but this is just strange to me. Brief and meh. Definitely not a good review. Here's to having better luck with the couple.

 

[KimGordon67]

In terms of the text that I bolded, I just don't understand that approach to sex. It makes me want to ask him, "Really, that's it? That's a full experience for you? Do you even realize how much better that could have been?" A quickie definitely has its place and can be super hot, but this is just strange to me. Brief and meh. Definitely not a good review. Here's to having better luck with the couple.

I know right? It's like, how can that even be satisfying. Obviously he came ... but he could have achieved that at home on his own without using any petrol.
Strange.
He may end up being into being a 'third' though ... I have a long-standing and unfulfilled mmf fantasy. Maybe if there was something else happening to temper his haste ... maybe.

I'm optimistic about the couple. Although I'm always optimistic ...