Let's Talk About... Grief

[Wild_Honey_66]

You're a good egg, Noonan.

I don't know who Noonan is, but thank you.

And I misspoke earlier; it's not a job, it's a calling and a passion.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Is acceptance a stage? That is where i would be noe. Only taken a year and a half, but who is counting.

Yes, it's a stage. Look on page one.

Nobody's counting. It takes as long as it takes.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

It's interesting that most of us beat ourselves up over our bad choices. But they were usually the best available choices when we made them, they just turned out poorly. Yet we beat ourselves up over them rather than forgiving ourselves and moving on. We're a funny lot, aren't we?

Yes, yes we are.

 

[weekender43]

Yes, it's a stage. Look on page one.

Nobody's counting. It takes as long as it takes.

But with acceptance i have found guilt.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

But with acceptance i have found guilt.

Then maybe it's time to work on forgiveness... ?

 

[Azuldrgon]

The Five Stages of Grief according to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross are:

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance

Based on the post above, I am on #4 for the recent one and #5 for the other one.
I'm not "depressed" per se, but I have already did the first two and haven't bargained anything.
I haven't fully accepted it either.

 

[Azuldrgon]

So today marks five years since I lost my dad.
Luckily, I kept busy and haven't thought about it too much.
But he's still on my mind.

 

[SassySheDevil]

So today marks five years since I lost my dad.
Luckily, I kept busy and haven't thought about it too much.
But he's still on my mind.

*hugs* My Dad is on my mind often. I sure hope "depression" is over when it's been 5 years for me.

 

[Azuldrgon]

*hugs* My Dad is on my mind often. I sure hope "depression" is over when it's been 5 years for me.

It ebbs and flows with me.
I think one reason i do hug more often now is because it helps a bunch.
*hugs*

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I was asked to speak at my 19 year old nephew's funeral a few weeks ago. It was hard.
I chose to write on the stages of grief and direct my message to the kids who attended the funeral and who'd gone to school and church with him.
The stages I wrote about were the following:
Shock/ denial
intense concern
despair/ depression
and finally recovery

I focused mainly on explaining that you never truly get over an unexpected death such a his, but you do learn to cope with it. I explained that the despair/ depression stage is unfortunately the one where lots of people get "stuck". I gave them "permission" if you will to be despondent at the loss of their friend but while they mourned their loss, to try and remember what a blessing it was to have known him in life. I explained that the dead are gone, but to think about how happy they would be to know that their memories brought joy to us instead of pain. Turning the pain into joy is the path to the last stage of grief, Recovery.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I was asked to speak at my 19 year old nephew's funeral a few weeks ago. It was hard.
I chose to write on the stages of grief and direct my message to the kids who attended the funeral and who'd gone to school and church with him.
The stages I wrote about were the following:
Shock/ denial
intense concern
despair/ depression
and finally recovery

I focused mainly on explaining that you never truly get over an unexpected death such a his, but you do learn to cope with it. I explained that the despair/ depression stage is unfortunately the one where lots of people get "stuck". I gave them "permission" if you will to be despondent at the loss of their friend but while they mourned their loss, to try and remember what a blessing it was to have known him in life. I explained that the dead are gone, but to think about how happy they would be to know that their memories brought joy to us instead of pain. Turning the pain into joy is the path to the last stage of grief, Recovery.