Let's talk about sex baby...

[IhateClowns]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

 

[cowslinger64]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

Enthusiasm, a desire to please and a burning desire to learn and be the best lover you can possibly be for your partner.

 

[Minalick]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

Many things....a couple that spring to mind are, being thoughtful and uninhibited.

 

[AKentuckyLady]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

Communication. Watching the fleeting emotions on someone's face, exploring slowly and seeing the response. Being vocal - does this feel good? Do you want more? Oh, you want me to do "that" again? Seeing the subtle responses in a moan, fingers clenching the sheets, a small quiver.

We have a term in my business called "other-centered selling.". It's when you focus on selling a customer what they want, not what you necessarily need to sell them. I think this can apply to sex - give your partner what they want, not only what you want to do to them. If it works both ways, sex can and will be incredible.

 

[awired50]

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

Taking care of the female first. Making sure she cums once or many times.
Take care of her and she will certainly take care of you !

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Hey. I'm gonna come in here as I was the fellow who prompted the poster you rubbished. He had merely mentioned a brief liaison with an older woman in a sexless marriage. I had intimated how he might have met a crying need for her. He replies briefly and then you demolish him as arrogant. No thank you, Lady. No thank you at all.

That's the beginning and the ending of what I have to say about it.

Before I respond, let me say I respect you as a poster and contributor to this forum, but you missed the point.

I pointed out that that type of attitude is a complete turn off to me.

And I don't give a good God damn if anyone agrees with me or not, but to even imply that the "good old boy" mentality of a woman just needing a good "dick down" is acceptable, and that any man who will give it to her is doing her a favor, is at best misogynistic even if in jest.

I don't abide sexless marriage, either, and I'm sorry for anyone who goes through it. In those cases it is more likely that sex is absent because intimacy is gone. If a couple doesn't want to split up for other reasons, they would still be a better partnership to work out their separate arrangements together as opposed to taking the "don't ask don't tell" policy. If you're gonna get sex outside of your union, fine, more power to you, it's the disrespect of doing it behind your partner's back that bothers me.

So, I'm sorry you're offended that I take offense at the glorification of the conquest of another's significant other. I see it written on these boards with pride, as though this act of deception should get them an award. I shake my head, move on, but I refuse to like or accept it.

I will reiterate, I respect you as a poster and enjoy what you contribute, but if you wish to discuss this further, my inbox is always open.

 

[makemewet69]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

Having a connection with them beyond the physical. When you connect with someone of another level, the sex is 1,000,000 times better. Also being with someone you trust and are comfortable with makes it great.

 

[xxFidoxx]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

For me it's the sexual chemistry... the rhythm and being on the same wavelength when it comes to sex. It's being able to see the desire in my lover to want me and that desire fuels her rise to orgasm.

...if that makes any sense.

 

[suckonsimon]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

Readiness to learn how to be good in bed.
Good progress with one's own self-esteem as regards your body as well as your mind and spirit.
An unstoppable flow of valuing the other person, body and soul.

And I can't resist another: being good not only in bed but on the bed and around the bed and in a whole lot of other places too.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

Great answers for this one. Chemistry, communication, generosity, and being uninhibited are are all things that come into play for me. I want my partner to get off hard and enjoy herself, so I explore and listen to what she responds to. I admit, there's a part of me that wants to be the best she's ever had. And I feel like I deliver, if I may say so. . But yeah, enthusiasm and dirty talk tend to be what I respond to.

Also being called "Daddy". Hey, I'm only human. Lol

 

[cowslinger64]

I'm curious about the additions of chemistry here.. IMO, chemistry makes the sex good with that person, doesn't make them good in bed.

What if you both suck at it but have great chemistry?


I got married young and we had great sexual chemistry.... but we were so young neither of us knew much.. So we were adequate for each other I reckon, but I would not call myself a great lover.. I do now, but not then.

 

[DarkSimian]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

hand puppets; I always find the addition of hand puppets just boosts the sex to the next level.....

and if they are good at ventriloquism, I will marry that woman!

 

[suckonsimon]

^^^
crazy man!

 

[DarkSimian]

^^^
crazy man!

I blame Little_Sister; she's corrupted me

 

[EroticRomanticMan]

Anyone willing to get in bed with me is "good"!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

hand puppets; I always find the addition of hand puppets just boosts the sex to the next level.....

and if they are good at ventriloquism, I will marry that woman!

I second this sentiment. Nothing gets me going quite like a puppeteer. They're almost as creepy as clowns.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Anyone willing to get in bed with me is "good"!

Hahaha.
I love it.

 

[Little_Sister]

hand puppets; I always find the addition of hand puppets just boosts the sex to the next level.....

and if they are good at ventriloquism, I will marry that woman!

You are so turning me on right now.

I blame Little_Sister; she's corrupted me

Nope. Never!


I agree with Slinger. I like enthusiasm. I'll take that over skill, over endowment, over experience any day of the week.

 

[DarkSimian]

You are so turning me on right now.



Nope. Never!


I agree with Slinger. I like enthusiasm. I'll take that over skill, over endowment, over experience any day of the week.

well, then you would love me, because I have no skill, endowment, or experience

just sarcasm, wit and puppets

 

[EroticRomanticMan]

Are you Jeff Dunham in real life?? I keeeeeeel you! Just like I keeeeeel this thread!!

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

I'm curious about the additions of chemistry here.. IMO, chemistry makes the sex good with that person, doesn't make them good in bed.

What if you both suck at it but have great chemistry?


I got married young and we had great sexual chemistry.... but we were so young neither of us knew much.. So we were adequate for each other I reckon, but I would not call myself a great lover.. I do now, but not then.

Chemistry to me means we have good rapport and get along well. That usually lends itself well to sexual chemistry too. Like the personal chemistry becomes powerful SEXUAL chemistry. This is just my experience, anyway.

 

[cowslinger64]

Chemistry to me means we have good rapport and get along well. That usually lends itself well to sexual chemistry too. Like the personal chemistry becomes powerful SEXUAL chemistry. This is just my experience, anyway.

I conceded that point in my post... my question is how does that make someone good in bed? Or make them a good lover?

Not necessarily good for you, but good.

Does that make better sense of what I'm asking?

 

[Shaytoplay]

Chemistry to me means we have good rapport and get along well. That usually lends itself well to sexual chemistry too. Like the personal chemistry becomes powerful SEXUAL chemistry. This is just my experience, anyway.

i love my husband but we have no chemisrtry. I dont want to hurt him . But I have bit of wile slighty fetish side. Whars agirl to do?

 

[Trekka]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

I can only speak for myself. To me? Someone who's good in bed is someone who's attentive, creative, comfortable, fun, observant, reciprocal, and responsive.

...Being really effing big and strong never hurts.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Most of us have asked our friends at some point,"Is he/she good in bed?" Or some variation of that question. On that assumption:

#15. What makes someone "good in bed"?

confidence
attention to detail