Lit. Jealousy - Do You Have It??

[Aquagal]

I've never gotten into the jealousy thing. However, I did have a former lit person who would PM other female litsters to stop them from posting in my thread. This was years ago, but jealousy must exist.

Ridiculous!

Thank you! So sweet! I know not everyone wants to look at them, so I try to keep them to my thread, and try to keep the avis somewhat tasteful now.

I'll hold your boobies up!

One side for Day, one side for Tiamo.

 

[barefootgirl69]

If you are willing to share....

Well, I offered you some *holds the bag out*.
It's pretty good stuff.

 

[ShelbyBubbles]

This is a great thread!
You are such a beautiful person Leigh, mind body and soul. The aura around you is captivating and you are a very genuine and sincere person, a great friend to behold.
I think everyone has a tendency to be jealous, it's just a human trait. But if confronted and communicated with no ill will, it can be tamed and settled without hurt feelings. Communication is the key.
My experience with jealousy has mostly been not so much over a person themself, but more of, Why aren't I being included? Or why the sudden change when I wasn't even aware. My jealousy stems, not so much from their interest in someone else, but more from that fact I feel disrespected from not just having been told or left out when I want to be included. And then, I guess, there is also a thought of...what makes them better, more interesting or more desirable than me? Am I just a number to you or did I mean more? I don't like to be kept in the dark or toyed with, emotionally. But sexually, hey...bring on the toys.
I think communication is just the most important factor in any and every type or relationship. Communication means honesty.
Perhaps you can talk to this person if you feel it's right. She just may have felt the same feelings before and may be very understanding
Either way, I'm sure it will all work out.
P.S.....Redwings lost

 

[SassySheDevil]

I will keep this simple. I could say a million things about only myself. I get jealous because I am insecure. That has nothing to do with the other person. I have a million insecurities and envy those who are secure. The only child in me has always been needy. I don't know how to stop that. That has scared many people away. I get attached easily, and that also scares people. It's not something I like in myself though, so I admit it is embarrassing. It's an ugly trait.

 

[sunshinegirl05]

Are you suggesting we hold each other's boobies up????

Please?

Hahaha yes! Always yes to this!

I'll help you girls too! Lol

 

[Aphro]

Well, my boobies are all over the boards. But I can't say I have had sny animosity from other female Litsters about the pictures. Heh. Maybe my nipples are not as awesome as Tiamo, I dunno.

I come here, post pics, interact on the boards, etc. just to have fun, not to piss anyone off. In fact, I don't post on a particular thread anymore because I was worried people, particularly the women, would think that I was monopolizing the thread with my pics.

If a guy flirts with me in a thread or in a pm, and then I see him flirting with another woman, my goodness, what hypocrisy to be jealous. It's all light hearted fun. I suppose I just automatically assume there's a whole lotta sexy talk going on. And hey, thats cool, because that's why we're all here, right?

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Well, my boobies are all over the boards. But I can't say I have had sny animosity from other female Litsters about the pictures. Heh. Maybe my nipples are not as awesome as Tiamo, I dunno.

I come here, post pics, interact on the boards, etc. just to have fun, not to piss anyone off. In fact, I don't post on a particular thread anymore because I was worried people, particularly the women, would think that I was monopolizing the thread with my pics.

If a guy flirts with me in a thread or in a pm, and then I see him flirting with another woman, my goodness, what hypocrisy to be jealous. It's all light hearted fun. I suppose I just automatically assume there's a whole lotta sexy talk going on. And hey, thats cool, because that's why we're all here, right?

Aphroditiac this pretty well covers our feelings.
We believe most Lit members are here to have fun and write things we've only dreamed.
The rest, ???????????????

 

[tnman03]

Jealous on lit? No. While its easy to become attracted to an entertaining and attractive opposite sex its digitally buffered. Do I see it as being possible? Sure, there's a lot of emotional and mental factors that can facilitate an infatuation into becoming an obsession.
Overall I've been on lit long enough (prior user name) to have come to terms with the make believe escapism here. While I care about some listers I realize they have their own lives and interests and this is a place to play. That helps to clarify perspectives.

 

[guns44]

My GF has no idea about me here & I don't want her to know. It's my escape & I'm not sexual with anyone here so I don't feel guilty.
My behavior with my nephews 19 year old GF is a different story.

L

My wife also doesnt know im on here. It is my sexual excape as she is vanilla and not very sexual at all. I wish she would open up a bit and explore. I wouldnt mind sharing her and having many sexual adventures with her.

 

[Leigh81]

Jealousy is usually born from insecurity, either in oneself or ones relationship. I usually just assume that whatever is being said to me is also being said to anyone and everyone else. Life on Lit is much easier that way.

That's a great motto to have.
Now I'm out of my shell, I have different emotions. Real life is so much easier than this place to me. I'm just trying to find my balance on here.
I'm not into cyber sex at all so I don't have to deal with that. That's where I can see jealousy happening. Especially if 1 person is committed to the other, but the other is a Lit whore, whether it be either sex who is whoring. I just like using that word.
My word of the day.

L

 

[Little_Sister]

I usually just assume that whatever is being said to me is also being said to anyone and everyone else. Life on Lit is much easier that way.

There are a few exceptions but in general, I totally agree.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

There are a few exceptions but in general, I totally agree.

I love you Little Sister. Now please no one else get jealous.

 

[Leigh81]

I love you Little Sister. Now please no one else get jealous.

I was just getting ready to make the moves on her, now I'm a complete wreck. I thought I was the only one

L

 

[DarkSimian]

after reading most of the comments on here....now I feel like an a-hole. I'm sorry to anyone if I came off creepy/ stalkerish, or if I stole your mojo....I think I'll just go to my room for a little while and write some apology notes

 

[cowslinger64]

I've never felt any jealousy here. While I did let myself get caught up in something off the board I never should have, for the most part it's just been a place to flirt, play and fill the void.

While I've met some great people here, I just never let anyone here matter to me enough that I'd be devastated at their actions. There are only a small handful of people on this planet that have earned my respect enough that it would bother me if they funked up or trashed me. I'm very selective with whom I give my full respect. It certainly isn't gonna be strangers on the internet.

I hate what happened to you leigh... and I can't believe that piece of shit pussy ass bitch is still here. What a fuckin loser.

 

[tnman03]

after reading most of the comments on here....now I feel like an a-hole. I'm sorry to anyone if I came off creepy/ stalkerish, or if I stole your mojo....I think I'll just go to my room for a little while and write some apology notes

Less introspective thought today Sim...it'll all be good when they throw out the wash water later on. Besides that you have excellent comedic timing so laugh more, worry less. And come to think of it that's probably a good viewpoint on taking jealousy and hurt feelings to seriously here.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

after reading most of the comments on here....now I feel like an a-hole. I'm sorry to anyone if I came off creepy/ stalkerish, or if I stole your mojo....I think I'll just go to my room for a little while and write some apology notes

http://38.media.tumblr.com/04b3a9786903cc90df5eeabc76e0f003/tumblr_inline_nw3zwppfcc1tuzcai_500.gif

 

[EllaMayme]

I will keep this simple. I could say a million things about only myself. I get jealous because I am insecure. That has nothing to do with the other person. I have a million insecurities and envy those who are secure. The only child in me has always been needy. I don't know how to stop that. That has scared many people away. I get attached easily, and that also scares people. It's not something I like in myself though, so I admit it is embarrassing. It's an ugly trait.

Same here
I don't open up easily but when I do, I get quite attached and scared of losing the connection. Being insecure about myself and seeing lots of really nice people on Lit that are very sure of themselves, makes me jealous and even more doubtful of myself.
An awful habit, but that's how my brain is wired

 

[Scout44]

Jealousy is usually born from insecurity, either in oneself or ones relationship. I usually just assume that whatever is being said to me is also being said to anyone and everyone else. Life on Lit is much easier that way.

Amen sister.

As Little Sister mentioned there are exceptions to this, ones you have built a genuine friendship with but I find it much easier when I level set my own expectations.
I am generally not a jealous person by nature and the older I get, the less fucks I give. I don't really get jealous of other women who get attention, rather I admire them for the various things they bring to the table. The humour, the heart the soulfulness the intelligence and yes the boobs...and there are some spectacular ones here

P.S if I can get in on the booby holding up..I am in.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny

I was just getting ready to make the moves on her, now I'm a complete wreck. I thought I was the only one

L

Denny------Please don't be a wreck. There's enough of Little Sister for both of us.
We probably should consult her first but I'm sure photos will magically appear showing her feelings.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Jealousy is usually born from insecurity, either in oneself or ones relationship. I usually just assume that whatever is being said to me is also being said to anyone and everyone else. Life on Lit is much easier that way.

I agree.

Investing in a Lit relationship is a losing battle. I will say right off the bat that I don't trust easily, therefore it influences my interactions with most folks. I don't expect others to do what I do.

I understand jealousy, I never, well almost never, put myself in that position. We all know when things don't add up. We just rationalize it in our heads that there must be a good reason for it. Listen to your intuition, I've found that it has never ever steered me in the wrong direction.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Honestly, I am super easy to make jealous and I fall hard. My mood for an entire day will just be complete shit even over the slightest of triggers.

It's so bad that I am happier when I'm single. I am terribly jealous and when I am triggered, I hurt so much that I feel like the pain is unbearable. Very very unhealthy. But that's life.

 

[elusive_buttrfly]

No jealousy here... I just try to enjoy myself.

 

[EroticRomanticMan]

I'm totally jealous of Little Sister's ability to find raunchy porn clips!

 

[Kittyscave]

I have to tell you how much I appreciate this thread and your honesty, Leigh81.

I was just sharing with someone here a little while ago about how the comments on my pics boost my confidence. It's amazing the stupid baggage that can hang around in one's mind after so many years despite numerous various accomplishments in multiple domains.

There is an ongoing battle between the angel on my shoulder that say, "Who gives a shit" and the dumb ass devil that says, "She's prettier/younger/thinner/smart/wealthier/funnier... than you" and everyone likes her better.

Thankfully, over the years I've grown more accepting of the angel. But, yeah, sometimes the voices from high school still come back and I need to play whack a mole with them.

So, I appreciate your openness.

xoxo
K