Long Distance Relationships
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JennyOmanHill
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Sorry I "losted" count of your countdown, Hat!! "This week" has a great sound to it!
Congrats Ebony on your passport!! That is indeed a big step, and it's actually something you can hold onto that helps you keep the reality of it all!!
I'm a bit envious of those who have a "date" to look forward to! Oh, well....
Some of the "downs" of LDR love:
http://www.rats2u.com/card/computergraphics/zcrash.gif
http://www.salon.com/tech/feature/2000/05/26/free_love/story.jpg
Congrats Ebony on your passport!! That is indeed a big step, and it's actually something you can hold onto that helps you keep the reality of it all!!
I'm a bit envious of those who have a "date" to look forward to! Oh, well....
Some of the "downs" of LDR love:
http://www.rats2u.com/card/computergraphics/zcrash.gif
http://www.salon.com/tech/feature/2000/05/26/free_love/story.jpg
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congratulatios ebony
glad it wasnt me,though. Any pic of me is scaryhttp://www.google.com/plex/halloween/mask.jpg
glad it wasnt me,though. Any pic of me is scaryhttp://www.google.com/plex/halloween/mask.jpg
JennyOmanHill
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Re: congratulatios ebony
Geez........
You really DID have a rough day!!
Here's a BIG kiss...
http://www.abcdating.com/kiss.gif
omahaman2 said:
Geez........
You really DID have a rough day!!
Here's a BIG kiss...
http://www.abcdating.com/kiss.gif
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hatara said:After tomorrow don't expect to hear from me for a week or so!
Hat good luck with Marty. I"m so jealous. *sighs* August is so far away but Daeth it worth it. Started new job today, still a bit nervous, didn't get to see Daeth very much, he's sick
My poor love.TC Give her space, let her know your there to listen to her should she want to help. Most of all have patience.
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Oh the meds for my heart have been making me very sick so I didn't get to clean he says it doesn't matter but it bothers me. He says he can help when he gets here but I just want him to relax. LOL Oh well things will be what they will be.
There comes a time when you just have to let it all go and go with it. I am there LOL 
There comes a time when you just have to let it all go and go with it. I am there LOL
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well, here is a topic i have some thoughts on as anyone who frequents the tub knows..~smile~
anyway, as i write this my dear unbearable is behind me sitting in my bed reading. On April 7 we celebrated our 7 month anniverssary. We met in the Tub in Aug and started talking on the phone on Sept 7 (the arbitrary start date becuase from that moment on it was "real" and we both "knew" this was it)
LDR are hard for alot of people, strangely they have always appealed to and worked for me. This one is different though, the others were about having the (what I saw at least) pluses of a relationship, the emotional connection, the support, the emotional intamacy...without the (again my view) minuses.. the sepreation from my friends and "my life"
This time around its different, Unbear is as much a part of my daily life as anyone. I can't portion him off like I did the others. I find myself not going out to stay home and talk to him.
I am not a very patient person in some respects, I felt such a connection from the start that I could not put off meeting him. I didn't want to invest the emotional capital that I knew I was about to invest and find out that when we met there was nothing. So, I flew out to see him in Nov. and confirmed what i knew all along he was the one and I would wait forever if I had to.
There have been rough spots for both of us to be sure, but the one thing that kept it going was the committment we had to being together. We were both willing to give up all we knew to be with one another. We tlked logically about who would hve the easier time getting to the others country. What cities offered us both opportunities in our careers....etc... it was understod from the start that it was about balancing... yes I wanted to stay near my famly but the cities that kept me as close to them as I am now didn't have what he needed for his dreams...
We settled (if you can call it that cause its a great place) on Chicago. It has the film and theater scenes for him. It has the PR opportunities for me. Its the smae price for a SW airlines ticket home from Chicago as it is from Baltimore where i am now... my best friend from college is there for school, my best friend from HS and his partner have friedns and family there they visit already... its cheaper than DC..(ok anything other than NY or SF is cheaper than DC)
anyway.. what this rambleing is supposed to do.. yes it has a point.. is to show that you can do it and make it real.. sure we are damn lucky.. i know that.. my parents are totally supportive and love him to death (ok so we totaly lied about where and how we met but... come on) its easier to bridge Can. and Us than OZ and US..i know.. both of us have very portable careers and skills.. making things easier... my current job makes navigating the whole visa thing a breeze.. so another big bonus.. but it can be done.. don't forget it and be patient.. whats meant to be will be... we can't always see how we are gonna get there but have faith and you will get there...
ok i'm gonna cuddle with him while he's still here... 10 days left.. sigh.. but then its scouting trip to CHicago in June and moving in Aug... eekkk and wedding next may.. ~big smile~...
anyway, as i write this my dear unbearable is behind me sitting in my bed reading. On April 7 we celebrated our 7 month anniverssary. We met in the Tub in Aug and started talking on the phone on Sept 7 (the arbitrary start date becuase from that moment on it was "real" and we both "knew" this was it)
LDR are hard for alot of people, strangely they have always appealed to and worked for me. This one is different though, the others were about having the (what I saw at least) pluses of a relationship, the emotional connection, the support, the emotional intamacy...without the (again my view) minuses.. the sepreation from my friends and "my life"
This time around its different, Unbear is as much a part of my daily life as anyone. I can't portion him off like I did the others. I find myself not going out to stay home and talk to him.
I am not a very patient person in some respects, I felt such a connection from the start that I could not put off meeting him. I didn't want to invest the emotional capital that I knew I was about to invest and find out that when we met there was nothing. So, I flew out to see him in Nov. and confirmed what i knew all along he was the one and I would wait forever if I had to.
There have been rough spots for both of us to be sure, but the one thing that kept it going was the committment we had to being together. We were both willing to give up all we knew to be with one another. We tlked logically about who would hve the easier time getting to the others country. What cities offered us both opportunities in our careers....etc... it was understod from the start that it was about balancing... yes I wanted to stay near my famly but the cities that kept me as close to them as I am now didn't have what he needed for his dreams...
We settled (if you can call it that cause its a great place) on Chicago. It has the film and theater scenes for him. It has the PR opportunities for me. Its the smae price for a SW airlines ticket home from Chicago as it is from Baltimore where i am now... my best friend from college is there for school, my best friend from HS and his partner have friedns and family there they visit already... its cheaper than DC..(ok anything other than NY or SF is cheaper than DC)
anyway.. what this rambleing is supposed to do.. yes it has a point.. is to show that you can do it and make it real.. sure we are damn lucky.. i know that.. my parents are totally supportive and love him to death (ok so we totaly lied about where and how we met but... come on) its easier to bridge Can. and Us than OZ and US..i know.. both of us have very portable careers and skills.. making things easier... my current job makes navigating the whole visa thing a breeze.. so another big bonus.. but it can be done.. don't forget it and be patient.. whats meant to be will be... we can't always see how we are gonna get there but have faith and you will get there...
ok i'm gonna cuddle with him while he's still here... 10 days left.. sigh.. but then its scouting trip to CHicago in June and moving in Aug... eekkk and wedding next may.. ~big smile~...
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Hat... My thoughts are with you... both for your time with Marty, and for the side affects of the med you take. Marty understands and loves you... not your clean or otherwise home...
Relax and enjoy.
Lady_Sam, thanks for your encouragement... it's little things that really help, a supportive word here and there, that is getting me through this tough time.
Da_Cats_pjs, I envey you the fact you are with your love. Last week, I suggested I move to the US... well.... I got told very quickly NO WAY!!! She wants to get out of there, so the story goes... another excuse came this morning... I don't know... I just wish i knew...
did i say... 31 sleeps to go???? It is...
Relax and enjoy.
Lady_Sam, thanks for your encouragement... it's little things that really help, a supportive word here and there, that is getting me through this tough time.
Da_Cats_pjs, I envey you the fact you are with your love. Last week, I suggested I move to the US... well.... I got told very quickly NO WAY!!! She wants to get out of there, so the story goes... another excuse came this morning... I don't know... I just wish i knew...
did i say... 31 sleeps to go???? It is...
JennyOmanHill
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First of all, congrats PJs! Secondly, thank you for sharing your story! It really is incredible, isn't it, how love can develop in a virtual hot tub!
As you know from chatting with Oman, we have hit a point where we are trying to decide where's the best place for us! I've been a lifetime NYer, so never did expect to ever think about leaving! All these decisions and choices seem overwhelming at times.
It's good to read from so many that love conquers any of these obstacles! You two seem to have your plans lined up. Wishing you much happiness with your future together.
As you know from chatting with Oman, we have hit a point where we are trying to decide where's the best place for us! I've been a lifetime NYer, so never did expect to ever think about leaving! All these decisions and choices seem overwhelming at times.
It's good to read from so many that love conquers any of these obstacles! You two seem to have your plans lined up. Wishing you much happiness with your future together.
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Hi Jenny,
I just wish I could get to Heather... she is so far away... the technology of today is wonderful in bridging the miles... but there is nothing better than a real life cuddle... I miss that more than anything... to touch or be touched by someone you love...
I just wish I could get to Heather... she is so far away... the technology of today is wonderful in bridging the miles... but there is nothing better than a real life cuddle... I miss that more than anything... to touch or be touched by someone you love...
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Top Cat said:
I know, T.C.!
I ache to be able to touch Oman, even when we are so much in touch with each other online. Anyway.... that's what teddy bears are for!
Here, take one of these (and pass the rest around!):
http://www.sheepahoy.com/Teddy%20bears%20traced%20low%20res.gif
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Top Cat... 31 sleeps to go ...lol.. thought bear and I were the only ones to use that... it will go fast.. and i understand the need to get out of this country.. trust me everyday Toronto (our back up) looks mre and more promising
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They're all yours, T.C.!
Cover yourself up with them, and keep cozy!
Here's a nice BIG cuddly one for you, Oman!!! Wish I were there to snuggle up with you in person!
http://www.creativewoodsandmeadows.onestroke.com/teddy%20bear.jpg
JennyOmanHill said:
Cover yourself up with them, and keep cozy!
Here's a nice BIG cuddly one for you, Oman!!! Wish I were there to snuggle up with you in person!
http://www.creativewoodsandmeadows.onestroke.com/teddy%20bear.jpg
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JennyOmanHill
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Re: dear jenny,from you
Here it is, Babe! Just for you....
http://tcastle.com/images/n200/n200bearani.gif
omahaman2 said:
Here it is, Babe! Just for you....
http://tcastle.com/images/n200/n200bearani.gif
JennyOmanHill
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lawaris said:
Welcome, Lawaris
Not every LDR works, that's true! Please feel free to share your insights with us further.
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da_cats_pjs thank you so much for sharing that with all of us hun. Everyone thinks that you have to move where one or the other lives. This shows that sometimes a compromise and change is in order. It's a new way to look at things and may lend us another perspective.
On a highly personal note. WOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOO for you and the Bear! LOL
Have a blast babe!
On a highly personal note. WOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOO for you and the Bear! LOL
Have a blast babe!
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Well here I am in the land Down Under...
This is the first time I've felt this way...
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My world seems upside down... My phone call to my LDR went from bad to worse last night...
I am not sure what is happening now... I think the trip is off!!! I just hope when we talk again in half an hour...(maybe) that we can work this out...
It is not quite 12 months since my marriage ended, I certainly did not expect to meet anyone I could love ever again... I found her on the internet, something very foreign to me... meeting on it not the net itself... I was bowled over by a woman that seemed to be inside my head, and inside my heart when I first met her... as if we knew each other. that was four months ago.. well nearly.... now I think this relationship has ended too... It does not feel like only 4 months... and it has a bigger impact on me than the ending of my marriage.
Please god, let this just be a pot hole in our path to happiness.
This is the first time I've felt this way...
<==========
My world seems upside down... My phone call to my LDR went from bad to worse last night...
I am not sure what is happening now... I think the trip is off!!! I just hope when we talk again in half an hour...(maybe) that we can work this out...
It is not quite 12 months since my marriage ended, I certainly did not expect to meet anyone I could love ever again... I found her on the internet, something very foreign to me... meeting on it not the net itself... I was bowled over by a woman that seemed to be inside my head, and inside my heart when I first met her... as if we knew each other. that was four months ago.. well nearly.... now I think this relationship has ended too... It does not feel like only 4 months... and it has a bigger impact on me than the ending of my marriage.
Please god, let this just be a pot hole in our path to happiness.
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