Looking for company, all welcome

[Native Alien]

John Roberts, I like the sound of naked Mambo, and the velco clothes, yummy.

Now please post pics of your yard, I am way north of the line and would enjoy seeing the plants. Not to mention the butterflies.

 

[John Roberts]

John Roberts, I like the sound of naked Mambo, and the velco clothes, yummy.

Now please post pics of your yard, I am way north of the line and would enjoy seeing the plants. Not to mention the butterflies.

Hello NA,
If I ever get my dang camera fixed.....I do need to take it to the shop.....
Many of the nectar plants can be grown as annuals in containers, so by all means don't deprive yourself. Unless you are one of those "brown thumb" folks...he..he I used to be one myself it took a few casualties before I started seeing results...
I had to bridge that mindset of brown plants to green thriving ones.

JR

 

[Image]

Image so glad to see you
You lucky Girl......are you in the Miami area or the keys?
If you are in the Miami area there used to be this wonderful little club called "The Starfish" in Miami Beach on West Avenue...Friday nights they used to have a live latin band and some of the best mambo dancers around.......Even if you do not dance it is fun to watch the magic of experienced mambo dancers.......and the music...Wow!
I do love to give pleasure to my lover, it is my fondest motivation,
and when the chemistry is there......<he smuggly says> I am a good lover, .......passion, fire , and mutual lust.....Golly.. Who can resist?
If you are ever up my way by all means look me up, I love to dance and teach mambo because when the magic hits you....you are doing it for life.... I love to watch my dance partner's face when they start getting the feel of the mambo.

Yeah I think it is time to bring back the philosophy thread, keeps me thinking and that is a good thing considering my torpid mindset.

Mornin' darling,

Actually I'm not living there anymore. I was born in Miami Beach and raised in South Miami/Coconut Grove/Key Biscayne. So The Keys were my playground all my life. I lived on a sailboat for awhile and cruised up and down... It just got so hectic and crowded we had to get out... Now I'm tucked away in the Blue Ridge mountains and enjoying the solitude... But I do miss the ocean AND FRESH SEAFOOD!!! Oh, what I wouldn't do for a juicy, succulent stone crab claw right now!!!

Although I never really got into the Latin scene down there, I love to dance...

 

[WhisperHaven]

John, you sound so sweet. I hope you find someone who will make you feel as fulfilled as I am sure you will make her feel.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Can I just come lay in your yard, under mosquito netting, and watch them?

Watch them, breath, and find my center again

 

[John Roberts]

Can I just come lay in your yard, under mosquito netting, and watch them?

Watch them, breath, and find my center again

He..he....you are right about mosquitoes, for a long time I did not react to their bites but alas this is not so anymore.

But you are welcome anytime......I have numerous birds coming into feed as well......once and a while a hawk comes in to prey on the fat Eurasian collared Doves that have become so prevalent.
The local hawks know that the birds come here to feed. But they have been leaving the native species of bird alone. I always know when they are around because the Blue Jays mob them and make a racket. So because of the mobbing the hawks do not come here too often it is too irritating.

 

[John Roberts]

John, you sound so sweet. I hope you find someone who will make you feel as fulfilled as I am sure you will make her feel.

Thank you Whisperhaven.....I am in the process of self fulfillment....I figure that if I can get there.....I can give a lot more to the others around me.......some of the things I am working on...

Generosity - trying to get rid of the "me....mine!" Daffy duck syndrome....I want to give with out feeling pain I can do it sometimes and it feels good.

Listening - I am trying to be a better listener...I have a little attention deficit disorder and I have word associations popping up when people talk to me........I go off on a tangent thought progression and soon I am in my head instead of listening to the person talking to me......for light topics this is not a problem but when a serious conversation is going on......Yikes!

Gentleness - I am trying learn discretion so that I am not accidentally cruel(Those that know me know of my families foot in mouth syndrome), fortunately I am gentle by nature so it is learning mental acuity that is the task more than trying to change a major flaw.

Ego - This is the big one we all fight, this the compilation of our selves that we will fight to the death for.......the source of all evil in my view. The ego is the thing that feels anger, hurt, pain, depression, greed

When I speak of the ego I speak in the Castenada meaning of the word. It is an artificial construct the we build of the world, to interpret the world by....we learn by experience(which are not wholly grounded in reality), by what we are taught( society, family, friends, social surroundings)
And so we chain ourselves to our belief systems anything falling outside of it is dicarded even if based in reality, we reject anything that may cause discomfort instead of investigating it.
We draw the chains ever tighter as our fear grows.........the only freedom from this vicious thing is to challenge it........
I challenge it by pushing at the boundaries of how I define myself,
acting outside of area of how I define myself. A great excercise in growth.

Fear is a big one, I do things to challenge my fear......and it is usually not the nightmare I project.......my mambo dancing comes from this........I was terrified of social sitiations so I thought ballroom dancing was one way of challenging it.....ahem.....I got caught up in mambo as a result.......I am so glad that this happened.

JR

 

[John Roberts]

Just a bump and a comment, I am not always high brow in my meanderings...... I can be pretty stupid at times....
I have what I would call an erratic intellect so all you ladies wanting to take advantage of me, bide your time, you will find me stammering looking bewildered as I try to do damage control(i.e. the regaining of face, composure) if your timing is good.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Trust is my thing ....... learning to trust again, to let the walls down enough to let someone in. That is so scarey because it means I can be hurt.

 

[John Roberts]

Trust is my thing ....... learning to trust again, to let the walls down enough to let someone in. That is so scarey because it means I can be hurt.

Hi Georgia!
I agree with you there, I have become way too cynical from my past experience........also when you get close there is more at stake.......your heart strings are pulling.....and your head says...no...noo...! Don't do it.....
Yep...I can say that I am amongst the walking wounded.....I have a whole slough of poetry to testify to that fact.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Hi Georgia!
I agree with you there, I have become way too cynical from my past experience........also when you get close there is more at stake.......your heart strings are pulling.....and your head says...no...noo...! Don't do it.....
Yep...I can say that I am amongst the walking wounded.....I have a whole slough of poetry to testify to that fact.

I'm not really cynical, but I do have a tendency to shut down emotionally if someone is getting too close, maybe pick a fight or two....something so they back up and don't get close enough to hurt me.

 

[John Roberts]

I'm not really cynical, but I do have a tendency to shut down emotionally if someone is getting too close, maybe pick a fight or two....something so they back up and don't get close enough to hurt me.

I have in the past been attracted to inaccesible women
That would be....married women, women invovled in relationships already.......or women that I knew were not attracted to me....Women on this site are usually far away.....that can be pretty safe.
If a woman showed interest in me I would run!..........
I still get a little uneasy sometimes but now I am more inclined to stick around to see what will happen these days. I do love women, they sort of make my heart swell and make me happy when they are around, but now I know I can be happy with out them too.........all my interests of which few I indulge in.....Gardening(orchids, butterfly gardening, palm trees, herbs,tropical plants),
cooking, mambo dancing, poetry, reading, playing music(guitar and singing), listening to music, philosophy, walks in the woods, birding(that is birdwatching not hunting the poor things), Kayaking(have not done that in a while), sailing(have not done that one for a while either), penpals, and lets us not forget flirting

 

[John Roberts]

Hey, where is everybody?

 

[John Roberts]

Just a bump....

 

[Georgia Girl]

How about a simple proposition?

Friends? See where things go from there.

I want to learn more about your garden and meditation, how to calm my spirit, how to trust and much much more. To unlearn some old things, learn some new, and relearn some I've gotten a bit rusty on.

 

[John Roberts]

How about a simple proposition?

Friends? See where things go from there.

I want to learn more about your garden and meditation, how to calm my spirit, how to trust and much much more. To unlearn some old things, learn some new, and relearn some I've gotten a bit rusty on.

Hello Georgia,
Friends sounds good to me(certainly warms me), My garden is young and being formed but the butterflies do seem to sense my intent......

I will certainly help you in anyway I can.....what do you want to know about meditation?.....Calming the spirit is different for different people.......for me it is avoiding sitiations and people that are disruptive to my spirit. For that I have to improve my judgement skills of people and learn to hang around with the ones that are nurturing. <grinning> of course I want to be liked and loved by everyone...how ridiculous is that?

I am trying to unlearn old patterns of behavior too....distorting to the negative.....Projecting negative things on the future when I really do not know what the future will bring......desensitize all those old hair triggers that life has installed.

The Toltecs broke people down into dreamers or stalkers.......
I am a dreamer I believe......I visualize and make it real. But to be a dreamer also requires flexibility to move around others and to re-dream when the pattern is not right.

Stalkers are more aggressive.......that pattern is plan...study oneself...study the sitiation...study others make a plan and act.......if it does not work...draw back regain energy re-study and act again when the moment is right. Much like a hunter...hence the name stalker......this involves stalking of oneself too......to address personality issues.

Both types require unbending intent to bring things to fruition

My current dream is to have a place of a nuturing quality for man,woman and beast, a garden where hate and bad things are foreign, a place to celebrate life and beauty in all it's faces....
To bring that into being I have to make a garden in myself.......so that I can nurture my vision. Seems like a long road sometimes.

 

[John Roberts]

Come one come all.....

Just my daily bump....I shall spare you my pontification.....but if you want to talk about something......I will be around late tonight.
Love you all!
JR

 

[Georgia Girl]

Can a dreamer and a stalker mix?

 

[John Roberts]

Can a dreamer and a stalker mix?

If they are respectful of each other...........they would be synergistic I suspect.

 

[dragonhearted]

John...you never did answer my pm...what's goin' on?

 

[John Roberts]

John...you never did answer my pm...what's goin' on?

I will write you eventually as I do respond to my PM.

 

[Georgia Girl]

If they are respectful of each other...........they would be synergistic I suspect.

opposite halves of a whole

 

[John Roberts]

opposite halves of a whole

 

[John Roberts]

Slow day, but since I am moving slow today just as well.....if anyone wants to try now is a good time to take advantage of my slow wit.......<blankly staring at the screen>......nope....nothing happening here.....a thunderstorm, blew some of my orchids down knocked over some plants....threw some bolts around made me unplug my computer.......<whistling>

 

[John Roberts]

It is off to the beach this morning with my little boy, all I have to do is corral him......he..he...this one has as much energy as cowboys,indians and a herd of horses put together.....hmmmm...I may have use bait as he is getting more adept at agility....lets see...a peach....raisins....ah!....frozen raspberries.
Just a bump.