Men & Blow jobs....

[fhswarrior]

great topic

I agree with several others about the "wanting it" thing. I have never cum in my wife's mouth because she has never verbally expressed that she wants me to cum in her mouth.....if she did, I would have zero problem with it....and would love to cum for her.

 

[zhukov1943]

I've had this problem, too. I love being "blown", but it's never quite stimulating enough for me to come. I suspect that "dry" masturbation has desensitized me, somewhat...

What has felt particularly good has been when my partner used her hands on me as well as her mouth. "Jerking" my shaft while she sucks and licks on the head of my penis is freakin' fantastic, and coupled with a bit of gentle "ball tickling" would most likely set me off!

Don't feel bad if you can't get your partner off orally - a lot of guys have this same problem, I think. I've never been too worried about it, because while it won't lead to an "end", it still feels fantastic to me, and I don't have to worry about coming too soon!

 

[Stiffy Says...]

2 cents worth

I agree with the posters about the hand not really jerking, but milking firmly the cock, acting like a pressure supplement to her wonderful lips as she goes up and down on you, tongue teasing you. What helps me to come? Making eye contact as she does this.

Even if I do not come when this happens (usually because I have recently come from some other wonderful reason) it is still a wonderful feeling I could not get enough of.

As always, when a woman chooses to do this for me, I am most grateful.

 

[incognito989]

Why is it that some men just can't seem to cum from a blow job? This is something that has been a topic of conversation for me and several of my friends lately.

Any ideas of why it is? Or how to get a man past that so that he does?

Ok, here's the viewpoint from a guy who very, very rarely cums from a blow job.

I've cum a few times from it, and while it's good when I do, it's not the be-all end-all of sex. I actually just enjoy the act of it even without cumming - feels super good, of course. Add on the afforementioned 'can continue with other stuff without missing a beat' and I almost prefer it that way.

That said, there have been some ladies who have made it their 'goal' to make me cum that way. While they have been largely successful, they have also been frustrated and lock-jawed by the time I do.

In the end, I guess I just don't see it as something that needs to be *fixed*... (shrugs)

 

[diorama]

I've given this subject quite a lot of thought actually, and here is my conclusion...

I don't know if this is just me or not, but a big part of my sexual pleasure is feeling like my partner is enjoying pleasuring me as an end in itself. What I mean is I don't want her to be thinking 'oh, i hope he likes this, and what if i do this, will he like that?' as much as i want her to be thinking 'mmmm, this feels really good.' (Obviously I want her to think about me a little bit though ).

If I feel like she's just doing something to please me then I feel like I'm making her do something she doesn't *really* want to do, and that just makes me feel awful.

So basically there's no way i can come from oral sex unless I feel like my girlfriend is reeeeeeally into it...

 

[OldestMotive]

I'm like a lot of the others. I've "learned" to not cum in my partner's mouth so I've taught myself to enjoy the sensation without letting myself climax. Fortunately, I've had some help relearning and now I can enjoy it sometimes.

 

[sdcharley2004]

re-learning

Yes, I too had to re-wire my brain to make it "okay" to cum during oral. Had a relationship once where she barely did it, and there was no way in hell she would ever do it to completion. But times have changed now, and I have lovely kinky woman who enjoys the act as much as I do.

Until later
Charley

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

Re: why GA?

I do love Smoltz and the Braves but ummmm I'm not in GA or was I mistaking your post I'm in VA and VA is for Lovers LOL

Then it's VA I'm bound to.

 

[bharman4102]

recently, i had the good fortune to give a guy his first ever cum from a bj.
in 37 years, he had never cum in a womans mouth, nor had he ever come on one.

the secret?
giving a bj, or deep-throating, is not just about the mouth.
it's about using every part of your body and mind, to stimulate every part of his body and mind.

it's about talking to him, licking, sucking, touching and stimulating all of him: penis, balls, anus, skin, nipples, brain, arms, legs, back, front....
and it's about really enjoying doing it.

for a guy, the ultimate is knowing deep down inside, that YOU adore doing every single thing to/for him.

get THAT right ladies, and he's all yours.

suddenly i want a bj so badly.....

 

[sdcharley2004]

suddenly i want a bj so badly.....

yes, all this talk has me pondering one as well.

Charley

 

[Missingmeds]

I just need to find someone to give one too....

 

[MagicFingers]

I'll Volunteer!

I just need to find someone to give one too....

Just want to help out

 

[warrior queen]

I just need to find someone to give one too....

i know exactly who i want to give one to......

...... it's just that the opportunity comes sooooooo rarely.

 

[Spenser41]

recently, i had the good fortune to give a guy his first ever cum from a bj.
in 37 years, he had never cum in a womans mouth, nor had he ever come on one.

the secret?
giving a bj, or deep-throating, is not just about the mouth.
it's about using every part of your body and mind, to stimulate every part of his body and mind.

it's about talking to him, licking, sucking, touching and stimulating all of him: penis, balls, anus, skin, nipples, brain, arms, legs, back, front....
and it's about really enjoying doing it.

for a guy, the ultimate is knowing deep down inside, that YOU adore doing every single thing to/for him.

get THAT right ladies, and he's all yours.

I have to agree with you 100%. I have been with women that well to just be honest, a bj is not something they really liked and it took forever to get me to cum. Also, many get frustrated if you do not cum fast enough for them.
What Warrior said is so true, and when I am being sucked, playing with my balls, my ass, moaning or talking dirty, looking at me. giving me a handjob as well as sucking... all of that is a major turn on. And I have been with a couple of women that LOVED CUM and giving bjs and they have made it an art and most of the time, I can not last very long with them. It all comes down to if you enjoy it and if you love it, and if you do, you will have found out just what it is that you can do to make him go crazy. It is a learned art just like a man going down on a woman. If a man loves to eat pussy, he will be very good at it.

 

[Tigerguy001]

I just need to find someone to give one too....

Where do i sign up ?
and in respose to your question if you want him to cum from the bj let him know and thats its ok and desired for him to do it in your mouth if that is your goal . a fexy sexy words along they way like " oh yes cum for me baby " or something like that would certanly help me but i cant speak for everyone
also if its the first time your doing it for the lucky guy dont be afraid to ask him what he likes best and listen to his breatheing and watch hsi body language . Just like i have learned to do when giveing a lucky lady oral if she seems to respond well to light licks ill do more of them but also ad other things for variety ......

 

[angela146]

In addition to the psychological aspects...

My hubby likes to have stimulation and pressure/squeezing on all of his penis. It is very difficult for me to do that with my mouth.

Even if the whole thing is inside my mouth and throat, and even if I flex my tongue to cup the underside, the top of the mouth isn't a soft cushion and the sides - well there's all those teeth.

A hand job is easy, especially with oil because I can twist my wrist as my hand goes up and down and give him coverage on the whole area.

I think it's a "snug" thing, which I can't generate with my mouth.

 

[dagdag]

recently, i had the good fortune to give a guy his first ever cum from a bj.
in 37 years, he had never cum in a womans mouth, nor had he ever come on one.

the secret?
giving a bj, or deep-throating, is not just about the mouth.
it's about using every part of your body and mind, to stimulate every part of his body and mind.

it's about talking to him, licking, sucking, touching and stimulating all of him: penis, balls, anus, skin, nipples, brain, arms, legs, back, front....
and it's about really enjoying doing it.

for a guy, the ultimate is knowing deep down inside, that YOU adore doing every single thing to/for him.

get THAT right ladies, and he's all yours.

Knowledge is power, and power to you my queen.

you just conquered another soul, now you can rule, rule as you like.

*shivers*

I used to have someone whom knew what you just described, and why I am not married to her is another story...

 

[grrrowl]

not just the mouth...

Others have said these, but some things have been very important in my experience...

Every one of my partners has had a different attitude and approach toward blowjobs.

From a partner who could make me cum every time, to one who insisted she had a termendous gag reflex and could not mentally gear up for a blow job, to one who was very experienced. The last one was eager and committed, but we found it didn't work every time. We were both confused and occasionally frustrated by this. Sometimes she would even say, "what are you thinking about?" or "you must not like what I do." We found that I had to work on communication, and she had to be willing to admit that technique (developed on quickie college guys) was not going to work for me every time.

While not vast in numbers(!) my range of experiences has led me to believe a few things:

Save it up... If a guy hasn't orgasmed in few days, oral stimulation is much more stimulating.

It's not all about the mouth... some guys require a little more friction, so using the hand is not cheating -- not a handjob, but any extension of the coverage of his shaft, held right below your mouth -- it gives the jaw a rest... and there is all of the body language -- her noises of enjoyment and her eyes locked on me and in control will bring me to orgasm faster than the physical contact

There must be communication... both before and during... if you require more friction, or nibbling on the head is too sensitive, say something... if you assume you can't cum in your partner's mouth, but have never asked, there's unneeded apprehension there... conversely, if you fear he's going to come on your face without warning, you won't really have your mind on pleasing him... it can be a problem too if you are have already decided you want to orgasm during sex later, but she is striving to make you cum via oral...

There must be understanding... blowjobs don't have to bring orgasm every single time, of course -- they may be foreplay, or they may be the sole activity she is treating you to... hopefully you two understand each other enough that you know before the pleasure has begun what the intentions are, and the expectations

She must enjoy it... seems like simple advice, just like these others, but she must truly enjoy pleasing you -- and if it's not working for you two, and she truly wants to please you like this, this willingness is as essential as communcation... a sense of duty rapidly turns to frustration...

 

[Nykky]

I've been reading this topic and find it very interesting, i can't answer why guys don't seem to be able to come with just a blow job, everytime i've given one to the guy i'm with, i've been able to make him come.
maybe like so many of you here put it , the fact that i love doing it, and don't mind swallowing at the same time, it is what i'm doing right, don't know but i'm not bragging i'm just stating a fact of my experiences, i can make a guy come every single time i give him a blow job, he has to sence that you enjoy giving it as much as he enjoye getting it, if he sences you don't much like it, he won't be comfortable.

 

[bertrande]

when i am giving my guy a blow job he knows that he willl be able to come in my mouth, that I love it when he does. He knows by now how much I enjoy the taste of him, the first taste of pre-come is enough to have me lick and suck a little more greedily, and I just can't help myself I can't keep quiet at this point. I think that if a guy knows that it not a chore (how could it ever be) and that you really get off on giving head it really helps him to come.

Try giving head in different places that may give him something to fantasise back to if he is having difficulty coming. I have given a few blow jobs in cars, travelling and not travelling, and most of the time have sucessfully had a mouthful of come for my efforts. yum yum, just thinking about it sends a shiver down my spine.

Keep working at it and have loooooots of fun practising.

(this is my first eva post and it's a subject near and dear to my heart

 

[londonaberdeen]

The main thing for me is that I need to know you want to do this.
Being a man, being polite and respectful I am overly fragile (like many others) about this. But if you ensure I know in advance that you love sucking cock and want to take my reward then I can relax and enjoy.

Some good old fashioned groaning, enthusiasm and compliments about my size, feel and taste while your doing this also works wonders for me. But the main thing without question is that I need to know you like doing this. It isn't just for me.

 

[12to8]

Okay guys, I have a question, and it is more of a why than a how to but this is where I wanted to post it since we do more serious discussions here.

Why is it that some men just can't seem to cum from a blow job? This is something that has been a topic of conversation for me and several of my friends lately.

Any ideas of why it is? Or how to get a man past that so that he does?

I guess that last question does make it a how to doesn't it?

I've been waiting to talk to someone about this.

My first wife was my first blow job. I don't know if it was the newness or her style. I'd come home from a nightwork at the Firehouse and boldy ask her to suck me. The minute her mouth engoulfed me I had to hold back from blowing my guts. Maybe it was the newness because Ill never give that bitch credit for anything.

One woman up untill I remarried was always reaching for my dick to put in her mouth. She had great thick lips and beautiful Italian skin but her over bite was
distracting and sometimes painfull. How could I tell her that I couldnt come in the mouth of a more than willing partner.

My wife is a fantabulouse cocksucker. She does it all. When we first met we parked the car and she swallowed the load. I had no problem coming but after we were married she wouldn't take it. If I was near to coming she pleaded for intercourse. Fine with me but I missed our parking days.

Lately though she addressed the issue and said she wanted to get back to the old days. I've told her there are a lot of fun things to do with my come besides swallowing like laying it on her lips for a shared snack, smearing on her nipples or lubbing her asshole (for me next desired travel).

Coming from a blow job can be a real head trip. Oh moi goid, did I say that?

 

[ApplesMcgee]

easy...

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[grrrowl]

'xactly!

...the fact that i love doing it, and don't mind swallowing at the same time, it is what i'm doing right...

Exactly!

Like the old addage goes, the biggest sex organ is the brain. Guys can certainly sense it if you don't love what you're doing -- even if the guys themselves don't know that's why they are subliminally holding back from orgasm -- just mentally letting go. Which is why it's important for communication, and both partners having a willingness to work on it.

This thread makes me think about my past partners... and I have to admit, I've never truly had a confident, willing BJ partner. The first was a very short relationship, and then I was off to college. The second had a gag reflex and an aversion to the activity. And the last was so convinced that her technique was flawless, and it was all my mental block, and she wasn't going to to it if it didn't "work"... bad communication. Cue violins... now.

 

[Iron_Horseman]

I agree with all that everyone has said....

For me there are two things that just send me through the roof. One of them is the physical pressure thing. As others have said, if my partner uses her hands in addition to her mouth most of the time I am struggling to hold back and keep from cumming.

The other thing is her enthusiasm with the act. If she is obviously enjoying the pleasure she is giving me, and maybe even getting off herself on it, then the whole thing is so much better. Most of the time it puts me in the mood to return the favor.

I try to encourage her by being vocal when it feels good, so she knows when she has done somehting I enjoy .. not just words, but moans, sighs.. you get the picture.

Great thread....