Noticing the little things

[Lorelei_11]

Yesterday, I was at the corner store. On my way home, there was this couple in front of me. He was carrying the bags, two of them, one hand in his pocket. They walked side by side, her arms swinging back and forth.

If I was with him, I would have kissed him. Oh, the little things. Things I didn't appreciate so much before.

The plastic of the bag I was carrying was digging into my fingers.

What little things do you notice, havent' noticed? would like someone to do?

You know, men are cool. I love them. One day, I'd like to have one of my own.

Anyway, add what little things you like about woman, or would like.

 

[MrFantasyMan]

little thing?...


would like someone to do?... ...I would like to see a honey "do" list that has just her name on it... ...(ok maybe all the places she wants to be done works too...)...

 

[Lorelei_11]

little thing?...


would like someone to do?... ...I would like to see a honey "do" list that has just her name on it... ...(ok maybe all the places she wants to be done works too...)...

I had to read that over a couple of times.

Uhhh huh, like... Do me! Do me!

Then Do me some more! lol

Yep, if a guy has all the things I need outside of the bedroom, then... mmm hmm, there will be a lot of sex going on. Kinky and passionate, soft and romantic, primal and everything inbetween.

 

[elizabeth22673]

calling me when he knows i'm feeling down

 

[Lorelei_11]

calling me when he knows i'm feeling down

Thats a good one. Just being there for me when I need him. I just recently had a guy tell me to take a day off on my own, right after I told him I really needed to talk that night. I ended the friendship.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Right now, there's a spider on my curtain. On the inside, and I'm watching it cross the curtain, hoping it gets to the part of the window thats open.

And then.... leaves, and never comes back.

I could use a guy to kill it!

I'm terrified of spiders.

 

[NorthernPA4U]

Right now, there's a spider on my curtain. On the inside, and I'm watching it cross the curtain, hoping it gets to the part of the window thats open.

And then.... leaves, and never comes back.

I could use a guy to kill it!

I'm terrified of spiders.

Which is why you and I could never be.

One of my favorite books that my daughter and I used to read together when she was little talked about how valuable spiders were.

 

[Brightdawn]

Just the simple things...

Hold open the door for me
pull out my chair
wait for me to be seated first
buy me flowers for no reason at all

 

[Lorelei_11]

Which is why you and I could never be.

One of my favorite books that my daughter and I used to read together when she was little talked about how valuable spiders were.

Hey, I'm used to it, the you and I could never be part. Especially online, most guys aren't my type online.

They may be valueable, but so is my peice of mind. Catch it and take it far away outside for me?

 

[cliteatingman]

Appreciate me...

... when I remember to do those things. Don't yell at me when I forget...

I'll do them more often and I'll do them for you...

 

[Lorelei_11]

... when I remember to do those things. Don't yell at me when I forget...

I'll do them more often and I'll do them for you...

That would depend on how often you remember and how often you forget.

I see guys do the little things consistantly, and big things, and are most often not appreciated.


If you're one of those above, then yeah... I don't focus on the negative and discard the positive.

Some people do so many negative things they're pretty hard to dismiss, and appreciate when once in the blue moon they do something right.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Just for the sake of clarity. I need the big things, and the little things done consistantly, you know a good guy, stable reliable, typically dominant male.

Just noticing that we often don't notice the little things.

 

[TwilightEmbrace]

Letting me know what is going on in life so I don't worry.

Flowers just cuz.

Unexpected phone calls or txt messages.

Holding my hand.

Soft kisses on top of my head.

*That* look.

 

[TheLadyOfShalott]

Just noticing that we often don't notice the little things.

What you say is very true. At least we don't often notice them until they aren't there anymore... which is my situation now. That and trying to figure out how to get them back

 

[Lorelei_11]

What you say is very true. At least we don't often notice them until they aren't there anymore... which is my situation now. That and trying to figure out how to get them back

I miss the things men do. Like carry groceries, kill spiders, hook up electronics, take the garbage out. Men are great, and I'm glad they do those things. The things I don't want to do.

I think, they're glad we do the things they don't want to do. Which often is, shop, cook, decorate for holidays, buy gifts.

I wish you luck. I find it difficult to find the right person.

 

[TheLadyOfShalott]

I wish you luck. I find it difficult to find the right person.

It can be - I thought I was one of the lucky ones. Desperately trying to piece things back together but they just seem to fall further apart. I'm beginning to think there is no such thing as forever.

 

[Lorelei_11]

It can be - I thought I was one of the lucky ones. Desperately trying to piece things back together but they just seem to fall further apart. I'm beginning to think there is no such thing as forever.

I have this idea of forever in my mind too. Realistically, most people are with several people in thier life time. Things change, we change, our needs change.

Later in life, there's a better chance of it.

 

[TheLadyOfShalott]

Later in life, there's a better chance of it.

It seems you're right. I'm beginning to think we rushed into it, though it felt like the most natural thing in the world. I realize now that I've never really been on my own and think I need a little independence, for a little while anyway. At least then the pressure would be off (to have kids and a career that supports us - that's what he seems to want anyway).

 

[Lorelei_11]

It seems you're right. I'm beginning to think we rushed into it, though it felt like the most natural thing in the world. I realize now that I've never really been on my own and think I need a little independence, for a little while anyway. At least then the pressure would be off (to have kids and a career that supports us - that's what he seems to want anyway).

I did that too, it seemed so natural, and right... yet in the end, it was completely wrong.

He expects a lot from you. Take some time on your own. I think its a good idea.

 

[TheLadyOfShalott]

I did that too, it seemed so natural, and right... yet in the end, it was completely wrong.

He expects a lot from you. Take some time on your own. I think its a good idea.

Thanks - I didn't mean to just unload on you. But thank you. Our families are too conservative and even mentioning thinking about separating has his mother calling their priest to set up counseling (another problem, cuz I'm not Roman Catholic).

Thanks again for uh listening (?) if I get too depressing just tell me to shut up. I'm running on 2 hours of sleep in the last 3 1/2 days. 4am and I should be in bed asleep... oh well

 

[Lorelei_11]

Thanks - I didn't mean to just unload on you. But thank you. Our families are too conservative and even mentioning thinking about separating has his mother calling their priest to set up counseling (another problem, cuz I'm not Roman Catholic).

Thanks again for uh listening (?) if I get too depressing just tell me to shut up. I'm running on 2 hours of sleep in the last 3 1/2 days. 4am and I should be in bed asleep... oh well

You're welcome. I'm going through a lot myself, and thats life. Sometimes we get depressed and need to say something. It sounds like you need to get some sleep,you must be dead tired. I haven't had enough sleep, but 2 hours? At least try to get some rest soon.

 

[TheLadyOfShalott]

It sounds like you need to get some sleep,you must be dead tired. I haven't had enough sleep, but 2 hours? At least try to get some rest soon.

Yup I do and as soon as my eyes start to droop it's nighty night for me, but that doesn't seem like it's going to happen anytime soon. I'm getting a little silly, almost like an alcohol buzz, but right now I'm wide awake... even listening to elevator music isn't helping.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Yup I do and as soon as my eyes start to droop it's nighty night for me, but that doesn't seem like it's going to happen anytime soon. I'm getting a little silly, almost like an alcohol buzz, but right now I'm wide awake... even listening to elevator music isn't helping.

Thats how my insomnia started, I was up for days, like you. It was caused from nightmares. I was to scared to go to sleep. So I stayed awake.

After a long time, the nightmares slowed right down, and then almost stopped. Now, when Im under a lot of stress, for a long time, the insomnia comes back.

I get that way too, its like being drunk. I've been at lit like that several times.

 

[TheLadyOfShalott]

Thats how my insomnia started, I was up for days, like you. It was caused from nightmares. I was to scared to go to sleep. So I stayed awake.

After a long time, the nightmares slowed right down, and then almost stopped. Now, when Im under a lot of stress, for a long time, the insomnia comes back.

I get that way too, its like being drunk. I've been at lit like that several times.

Mine is not from nightmares, but from a physical ailment that has my doctors baffled. I would wake up choking (you don't want to know on what) and it got to be so regular - not to mention terrifying, that I'm scared to go to sleep - what if next time it happens I don't wake up?

And it is a catch 22 because the less sleep I get the worse my headaches get (chronic migraine sufferer on top of it) which makes the insomnia worse. I don't know anyone that could fall asleep feeling like there is an axe stuck in their head.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Mine is not from nightmares, but from a physical ailment that has my doctors baffled. I would wake up choking (you don't want to know on what) and it got to be so regular - not to mention terrifying, that I'm scared to go to sleep - what if next time it happens I don't wake up?

And it is a catch 22 because the less sleep I get the worse my headaches get (chronic migraine sufferer on top of it) which makes the insomnia worse. I don't know anyone that could fall asleep feeling like there is an axe stuck in their head.

I dealt with something similar when I was a kid, that was what the nightmares were caused from later in life. I'm still working on getting a decent nights sleep, now its just the stress that causes it. Sleeping pills haven't worked so far.