So, I'm reading this book....

[LdyBGemini]

So I couldn't sleep tonight...

Just found this thread and hope I can remember all the questions...lol

In this stage of my life it doesn't take a lot. But if I need to get going I suppose thinking of the next thing I would like to sexually that I haven't experienced before or think back to a session when I had some exceptionally good sex and that'll do it for me.

I enjoy reading erotic stories and looking at pics...I also enjoy a soft porn flick...Does anyone remember the series "Red Shoes Diaries"? It was done very tastefully and erotically at the same time.

Self esteem...well that's a tough one because for years my self esteem was very low but I think it's now just right. My self esteem really gets a boost when I know my partner has been satisfied...in bed as well as out.

I like a nice smile...love the eyes...but I like a nice butt...lol
Loves a man that can make me laugh and he stand my sometimes off the wall humor.
I love the taste of a man...love to lick...love to be cuddled and and held.

I could go on but I won't...I also have a book I picked up at the library and I've been glancing at it. "ESO" Extended Sexual Orgasm..How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of ESO

 

[lovemetender]

Re: So I couldn't sleep tonight...

Just found this thread and hope I can remember all the questions...lol

In this stage of my life it doesn't take a lot. But if I need to get going I suppose thinking of the next thing I would like to sexually that I haven't experienced before or think back to a session when I had some exceptionally good sex and that'll do it for me.

I enjoy reading erotic stories and looking at pics...I also enjoy a soft porn flick...Does anyone remember the series "Red Shoes Diaries"? It was done very tastefully and erotically at the same time.

Self esteem...well that's a tough one because for years my self esteem was very low but I think it's now just right. My self esteem really gets a boost when I know my partner has been satisfied...in bed as well as out.

I like a nice smile...love the eyes...but I like a nice butt...lol
Loves a man that can make me laugh and he stand my sometimes off the wall humor.
I love the taste of a man...love to lick...love to be cuddled and and held.

I could go on but I won't...I also have a book I picked up at the library and I've been glancing at it. "ESO" Extended Sexual Orgasm..How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of ESO

LdyB...glad to see you've found this thread...it's been very thought provoking & interesting to read all our different take on things....btw care to share any secrets on how to ESO from your reading...I believe everyone would love an ESO

Lance....chins huh?....& here from all the lovely Avs I thought it was cleavage...hmmmmm?....guess they'll have to fire up the digis for some chin shots huh?....lol...just joshing ya

 

[TantaLiza]

What do you think are both the physical and emotional aphrodisiacs that attract you to someone?

Let's see...physically speaking, it varies. I'm going to have to agree with the majority tho...eyes have always been my downfall. I have a tendency to look directly into them while speaking...although some can lie, the eyes tell the innermost thoughts... you just have to be able to watch close.

Emotionally speaking, it's the way I'm treated that takes me over the edge...respect and honesty are the best way to my heart. I find it just as easy to be alone than to be hurt with lies and deceit... so saying that, treating others the way I want to be treated ranks up high....hopefully that will show...

What is it about another person that really gets to you?

I like a confident man...not arrogant. I like him to be comfortable enough with himself to show his feelings, whether it be sorrow or love... Nothing turns me on more than to have a man turn to me, look deep into my eyes and kiss me soundly...just because he wanted to...lets me know he really does care...

Thanks for making me think...will have to check into getting that book myself....will be checking back in later!!

Have a great day!!!

Liza

 

[enjoyingitall]

LOL@Ukin and Rosie..you two!!

I imagine most of us can either overlook things about another, or we find that things we thought were important may not be so much so after all. Just depends on how we respond to each pperson.

Lady B...so glad you found our thread here. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. I do hope you'll continue to come back. I'm LMT on that ESO information..Do Tell us what you discover as you're reading.

Liza...I'm glad you're enjoying the thread. I love reading the thoughts you share with us..See ya soon.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Next idea...

Once we recognize our attraction for someone, there are a number of things we may do to get their attention and let them know we are attracted to them... We all have certain ways that we let others know we are attracted to them , some subtle and some not so subtle.

This is asking that we think about those things that we do, without even giving thought to them to ensure that attraction is noted. Things that are so much a part of our nature that they make themselves evident without prompting from our conscious thoughts.

So, how does the object of your desire know he/she has become that?

I just love it when you all play here with these questions.

Edited to add..this is in regards to our RL and our Lit Life..Could be interesting to see if we have differences.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

chins and things

I recognize that my view on chins is a prejudice. Some people are prejudiced about color of skin, or race, or gender or whatever. For me it is a weak chin. I'm not proud of that and I do my best to ignore my reaction, but I find it very hard to really relate with someone who has a weak chin. I once had a boss who had no chin and I just couldn't work with him. It was so hard to get past my gut feeling about the fact, he had no chin and his face seemed incomplete. Fortunately, he left the company shortly after I came to work for him.

So this reaction is something I need to work on in my life.

As far as cleavage and legs and butts are concerned, I'm totally turned on by them. I love the whole female body. I think it is the greatest wonder of the universe. The old saying: God made man. Saw what He had done and tried again. He made woman and was satisfied.

Please ladyB, I'd love to hear how your experiments with ESO work. I read that book over ten years ago and have used the male technigues ever since, but I've never heard from any women who've used the female technigues. I'd be very interested in how well they work.

 

[lilrosie lips]

Re: chins and things

I recognize that my view on chins is a prejudice. Some people are prejudiced about color of skin, or race, or gender or whatever. For me it is a weak chin. I'm not proud of that and I do my best to ignore my reaction, but I find it very hard to really relate with someone who has a weak chin. I once had a boss who had no chin and I just couldn't work with him. It was so hard to get past my gut feeling about the fact, he had no chin and his face seemed incomplete. Fortunately, he left the company shortly after I came to work for him.

So this reaction is something I need to work on in my life.

As far as cleavage and legs and butts are concerned, I'm totally turned on by them. I love the whole female body. I think it is the greatest wonder of the universe. The old saying: God made man. Saw what He had done and tried again. He made woman and was satisfied.

Please ladyB, I'd love to hear how your experiments with ESO
work. I read that book over ten years ago and have used the male technigues ever since, but I've never heard from any women who've used the female technigues. I'd be very interested in how well they work.

Remind me never to send Lance a picture of my face... I never liked my chin either...

 

[Lance Hardrock]

Re: Re: chins and things

Remind me never to send Lance a picture of my face... I never liked my chin either...

Oh darn it. I bet you are lovely. I sure love your AV which I take is a self-portrait (unlike mine). I'd love your face, I'm sure.

 

[lovemetender]

Next idea...

Once we recognize our attraction for someone, there are a number of things we may do to get their attention and let them know we are attracted to them... We all have certain ways that we let others know we are attracted to them , some subtle and some not so subtle.

This is asking that we think about those things that we do, without even giving thought to them to ensure that attraction is noted. Things that are so much a part of our nature that they make themselves evident without prompting from our conscious thoughts.

So, how does the object of your desire know he/she has become that?

I just love it when you all play here with these questions.

Edited to add..this is in regards to our RL and our Lit Life..Could be interesting to see if we have differences.

hey these questions are getting tougher...lol

well in real life I guess I kinda naturally make more contact with them & try to get to know them as more then an hello acquaintance....by this I mean engage them in conversation....sometimes leading it & sometimes following it & try to get a feel for their likes,dislikes & things that we may share in common whether thoughts or activities just something to possibly build on & bond with them on...of course humor & laughter is usually a good way to break the ice & get one to be comfortable with you & let them know it's ok to let their guard down & open up...

on Lit...hmmmmm?....much the same applies I'd assume & a pm to initiate a one on one exchange is always a good step to start this process...

hmmmmmm...hope I passed?....lol

 

[enjoyingitall]

hey these questions are getting tougher...lol

well in real life I guess I kinda naturally make more contact with them & try to get to know them as more then an hello acquaintance....by this I mean engage them in conversation....sometimes leading it & sometimes following it & try to get a feel for their likes,dislikes & things that we may share in common whether thoughts or activities just something to possibly build on & bond with them on...of course humor & laughter is usually a good way to break the ice & get one to be comfortable with you & let them know it's ok to let their guard down & open up...

on Lit...hmmmmm?....much the same applies I'd assume & a pm to initiate a one on one exchange is always a good step to start this process...

hmmmmmm...hope I passed?....lol

You passed with flying colors in my book, hon..but then you always do.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

I'll give this a whirl

Next idea...

Once we recognize our attraction for someone, there are a number of things we may do to get their attention and let them know we are attracted to them... We all have certain ways that we let others know we are attracted to them , some subtle and some not so subtle.

This is asking that we think about those things that we do, without even giving thought to them to ensure that attraction is noted. Things that are so much a part of our nature that they make themselves evident without prompting from our conscious thoughts.

So, how does the object of your desire know he/she has become that?

I just love it when you all play here with these questions.

Edited to add..this is in regards to our RL and our Lit Life..Could be interesting to see if we have differences.

I will divide this into RL and LIT and bring it together at the end.

In RL, I try to use my humor and my wit to gain attention. I try to let her see that I'm a funny person and also intelligent (but not bookish. That sometimes backfires). I always make eye contact and I almost always smile. I think my eyes are one of my best features. (I've been told I have bedroom eyes. Even my mother told me that, though she was not the only one.) So I use my eye contact. I let her know, I'm paying attention to her.

I hate it to be talking to someone and their eyes are wandering all over the place.

Secondly, my smile is very engaging and my self-deprecating humor (I'm guite happy to the brunt of my own joke) seems to put ladies at ease.

And I always answer her questions with truthfulness and sincerity and some completeness. If we're really talking and getting into things other than saying, "great weather today, isn't it?" then a lady wants a significant response in return.

And mostly, I show her the utmost respect and I mind my manners with her.


Now in LIT.

We don't have eye to eye contact. We don't have smiles or the sound of voices. All we have here is our written words. Humor works well in writing. That comes through. Sincerity may come through. Manners and respect should always be evident in the written word.

The one thing we have here on lit and not necessarily in RL, is that we're all pretty much aware of the sexiness of this place. So with the sexy attitudes, a lot of things not normally talked about in RL (at least in first meetings) are quite commonly discussed here.

Perhaps this is too common, and one can sometimes forget the good manners and push too far, too fast. Perhaps, a hot story which would have been received in the manner it was intended, might be rejected or cause uneasy feelings if sent too soon.

In LIT as in RL, timing is everything. One must be aware of the cues coming back to you and know when to crank things up a notch or when to back off a bit.

Timing is common to both LIT relationships and RL relationships.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Thanks lance for the reply.

I agree timing is important.

 

[tonitits]

Next idea...

Once we recognize our attraction for someone, there are a number of things we may do to get their attention and let them know we are attracted to them... We all have certain ways that we let others know we are attracted to them , some subtle and some not so subtle.

This is asking that we think about those things that we do, without even giving thought to them to ensure that attraction is noted. Things that are so much a part of our nature that they make themselves evident without prompting from our conscious thoughts.

So, how does the object of your desire know he/she has become that?

I just love it when you all play here with these questions.

Edited to add..this is in regards to our RL and our Lit Life..Could be interesting to see if we have differences.

I agree with LMT, these are getting harder, but will give it a shot.

R/L I am very shy and not one to easily strike up a conversation.
So I mostly observe people and try to listen to what they have to say, maybe learn what their interests are etc.., then I will ask them questions or talk about something of interest to both.. would not venture into a conversation on football, don't really care for it and don't know much about it, unless it was to ask why they do something, etc...to get them to explain it. good humor and honesty go very far...it helps if you are in a group of people and get drawn into the conversation that way...but then once involved in talking to the person...eye contact is very important and then a smile as looking at them adoringly, lol.

LIT...again you don't have that face to face connection so in a way it is easier, for me anyway, and some ways it is harder. you have to depend on your gut as to whether they are being honest or just yanking your chain. But even though we don't have to one on one contact in person....our personalities do shine through...I guess the easiest way is to just to pm the person and let them know that you are interested in learning more about them and hopefully become friends.

I think the most important thing in both R/L and LIT...is honesty, good humor and by all means don't be nasty and judgmental...hope this is ok.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Hiya toni..ofcourse that was ok..these questions don't have right or wrong answers..anything we think is the right answer for us.

 

[lilrosie lips]

Re: Re: Re: chins and things

Oh darn it. I bet you are lovely. I sure love your AV which I take is a self-portrait (unlike mine). I'd love your face, I'm sure.

LOL... Lance go back to the first days of the over 40 thread.... somewhere in the first 10 pages or so is a picture of my face.... and you can tell me you love the face, even if you have to wink when doing it... and yes the av is a self portrait...

 

[lilrosie lips]

Next idea...

Once we recognize our attraction for someone, there are a number of things we may do to get their attention and let them know we are attracted to them... We all have certain ways that we let others know we are attracted to them , some subtle and some not so subtle.

This is asking that we think about those things that we do, without even giving thought to them to ensure that attraction is noted. Things that are so much a part of our nature that they make themselves evident without prompting from our conscious thoughts.

So, how does the object of your desire know he/she has become that?

I just love it when you all play here with these questions.




Edited to add..this is in regards to our RL and our Lit Life..Could be interesting to see if we have differences.

I have to agree this is much harder..

I am somewhat shy in real life situations. But I am getting better at it as I get older. Mostly because I find I don't worry so intensely about how other people view me. But, I am not comfortable in large groups of strangers or making contact in places like bars etc. One on one interactions is much more my style. If I find myself interested in someone. I generally am friendly, interested in what they have to say. I smile and laugh, I assume while all this is going on that I have a cute/sexy/sparkle in my eyes. (But I half suspect that I might just look more like a rabid chimpmuck than a sex-pot.) I am not one to generally make the first overt physical move, but I am not shy about touching hands, or arms or knees. I figure if they are interested they will take the hint, and if not, then we both saved ourselves an embarrassing moment.

And really on the net I am not much different. I don't generally approach any man directly. If someone seems interesting to me, I
tend to respond with some kind of an answer or inquiry. I like to play and flirt both here and in R/L situations with words and humor. A sense of humor and playfulness is very important to me. I cannot imagine a relationship where there is no laughter at lifes absurdites and my personal foilbles. So the verbal play is a good way to test the waters,s o to speak and see if we are compatible in that way. Humor also serves for me at least, to make an easier transition into more serious conversations as well.

 

[Ukin]

Yes, these are getting harder..the questions that is

But I am willing to have a go and outlining a response.

R/T - Well, I have never been the shrinking violet type, ONCE i get talking. It's the getting to the talking bit that is my downfall. Sure, I have recognized signs, seen the looks, and my mind has said "Steve, she is interested" but it's making that step. I tend to carry on glancing looking and IF I get the right response, I offer a drink or start chatting. Like Lance, I also tend to use my humour and wit to make things move along. I am also a "toucher" which also works, at times.

Lit: - hell, I have no idea..I just reply to posts and take it from there. I do flirt, but then don't we all? It's all part of getting there I guess. Some show no interest, others do. That said, there isn't a real devious reason or intent. I am certainly NOT shy on Lit, unlike my R/T life.

 

[lovemetender]

again....great question & great replies...wow this sure is fun seeing the similarities & differences we share in our erotic behaviors

 

[Ukin]

again....great question & great replies...wow this sure is fun seeing the similarities & differences we share in our erotic behaviors

I agree LMT...Ej is doing so well in managing this Thread, keeping it alive. It is nice to find out about each other..and possible to learn from it too.

 

[enjoyingitall]

I'm glad you all are enjoying this thread. I am too.

It is interesting to learn these things about each other.

 

[enjoyingitall]

I've realized, I didn't even answer today's question..I've been remiss.

In RL...I just unbutton a few buttons of my blouse...bend over him and seductively say, "You are sooo sexy, baby."

LMAO..yeah right..that is so not me.

Really, I think the thing that I do is to just give him my attention. I focus on the things he says and show interest in them. I try and find some mutual topic that we can both discuss.

I've never been inhibited in initiating the conversation. I've always figured, nothing ventured, nothing gained. I don't think I have any overt signs that would let him know.

But when a woman gives a guy her undivided attention I think that says something to him. It works for me anyway.

On lit....I suppose I do a bit of the same, only I am much more hesitant to initiate a coversation here than in my RL.

 

[TantaLiza]

Next idea...

Once we recognize our attraction for someone, there are a number of things we may do to get their attention and let them know we are attracted to them... We all have certain ways that we let others know we are attracted to them , some subtle and some not so subtle.

This is asking that we think about those things that we do, without even giving thought to them to ensure that attraction is noted. Things that are so much a part of our nature that they make themselves evident without prompting from our conscious thoughts.

So, how does the object of your desire know he/she has become that?

I just love it when you all play here with these questions.

Edited to add..this is in regards to our RL and our Lit Life..Could be interesting to see if we have differences.

Let's see here....I'm a very shy person in RL...contrary to here on Lit...if I'm attracted to someone I don't have the nerve to be more than subtle about it...UNLESS I'm drunk/tipsy...then I have no qualms as to throwing caution to the wind...I can just blame it on the juice...lol

If I'm not drunk, the quickest way to tell I'm attracted to someone is that I have a tendency to not look at them unless they're looking the other way...weird, I know...I just can't seem to deal with rejection...it's hard for anybody but very high on my scary list. I have to say that if my attraction IS returned then I get very naughty ...I look into their eyes constantly so I can read what I can in them....I use double entendre' very heavily...conversations heat up quickly...then we see where things lead....that's been the way of my past...

As I've aged a bit and don't get around much, I tend to flirt a bit more...I still wait for them to make the first move but that'll never change, I'm afraid...it's the way I was brought up....

Now for Lit...I'm always ready for fun...the more encouragement I get, the more I get into it...it boosts my ego and I go away feeling pretty good....in turn, I hope I make them feel good too... I don't have to impress anyone here with my looks (I'm not unattractive, just paranoid)....we just click and have some fun... until I do the RL thing with anyone, I just give my support and empathy to them...I'm a giving person and I do my best to make others feel better.....that makes me happy....

Thanks again for making me think...will check in again in the evenings as I'm headed back to work this week....Take care all!!

Liza

 

[Ukin]

As I've aged a bit and don't get around much, I tend to flirt a bit more...I still wait for them to make the first move but that'll never change, I'm afraid...it's the way I was brought up....

Liza

I hope you and I never meet and find ourselves attracted to each other..if we did, we'd never get together lol...like you, I have this 'rejection' paranoia..I think most of us have..but I tend to wait for a definate sign before I even dare chat..and make the first move-even then, I am backward at coming forward.

Have a nice week at work lass...keep smiling and have fun.

No doubt Ej will be thinking of another question for us all

 

[lovemetender]

I agree LMT...Ej is doing so well in managing this Thread, keeping it alive. It is nice to find out about each other..and possible to learn from it too.

Ukin....she indeed is keeping our minds flowing...I'm learning new things constantly especially when it comes to the erotic side of live

 

[enjoyingitall]

Hiya Liza..glad you came back by. LOL@your if I'm not drunk line..
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this with us. I'm glad you're enjoying the thread.

LMT..good thing to keep our minds flowing erotically, yes?
Glad you're enjoying it, too.