So, I'm reading this book....

[lovemetender]

Thanks for bumping this Toni..I was just about to go look for it..

Ok..so I was looking through some other books I have, trying to come up with an idea for another question to ponder and I came across this....

The question is...”What makes you feel sexy?” Is it something that comes from within, just a way you feel about yourself or do you rely on what others think or say about you. Is your ability to feel sexy dependent on outside factors or is it a part of you that you can readily feel? Or is it a combination of those things?

This isn't really talking about feeling sexual, but just plain old feelin sexy and desirable.

well when I'm on the beach wearing my grape smuggler bathing suit....oops...just kidding...lol

after I run or workout & knowing that I'm working at keeping my body in shape gives me a sense of feeling sexy & healthy...for myself inwardly knowing that I'm healthy helps me outwardly feel sexy....now of course the look or words of someone of the opposite sex certainly reinforces these feelings & helps one believe what they feel...

 

[enjoyingitall]

well when I'm on the beach wearing my grape smuggler bathing suit....oops...just kidding...lol

I am truly LMAO.....

 

[enjoyingitall]

Ok..now that I've stopped laughing over your grape smuggler line......I read the rest of your post..

I agree..if I'm feeling good about myself physically, then I tend to see myself as maybe more sexy than if I'm not. Again, it comes from within though.

Hmmm words from the opposite sex make you believe what you feel??? I'll have to see what words I can come up with for ya..

 

[Ukin]

What makes me feel sexy? Sheesh, I have no real idea..in fact that is a good question ...what does make me feel sexy (or good about myself)?......<still thinking>

Answer? No freaking clue...it's been a long time since I have had the need to feel 'sexy' I guess.

Sorry Ej..lousy response..but honest.

 

[lovemetender]

What makes me feel sexy? Sheesh, I have no real idea..in fact that is a good question ...what does make me feel sexy (or good about myself)?......<still thinking>

Answer? No freaking clue...it's been a long time since I have had the need to feel 'sexy' I guess.

Sorry Ej..lousy response..but honest.

now ukin man...you mean to tell me in that Av of yours you weren't feeling sexy?....lol...think my good man & I'm sure you'll come up with something

EJ...well knowing that you're thinking of some words for me....thats more then enough to make any man feel sexy....what a hoot yours truly in a grape smuggler.....not!....lol

 

[tonitits]

now ukin man...you mean to tell me in that Av of yours you weren't feeling sexy?....lol...think my good man & I'm sure you'll come up with something

EJ...well knowing that you're thinking of some words for me....thats more then enough to make any man feel sexy....what a hoot yours truly in a grape smuggler.....not!....lol

morning sweetie! so have YOU bought the new Springsteen cd yet? They were discussing it last night and he was on Nightline last night talking and singing.

 

[lilrosie lips]

What makes me feel sexy?

Freshly washed skin. The inside of a new sweatshirt or flannel pj's. Sleeping naked. Getting ready to go out on a date.Sexy undies. No undies. Putting body lotion on in the same scent as my perfume. Hands running through my hair. An appreciative or lusty look in a lovers eye. A soft kiss. A searching carress.

 

[Ukin]

now ukin man...you mean to tell me in that Av of yours you weren't feeling sexy?....lol...think my good man & I'm sure you'll come up with something

EJ...well knowing that you're thinking of some words for me....thats more then enough to make any man feel sexy....what a hoot yours truly in a grape smuggler.....not!....lol

LOL LMT...Come to think of it..maybe I was...but that then makes me an exhibitionist ...and I don't think I am one of them..or am I?

 

[Ukin]

What makes me feel sexy?

Freshly washed skin. The inside of a new sweatshirt or flannel pj's. Sleeping naked. Getting ready to go out on a date.Sexy undies. No undies. Putting body lotion on in the same scent as my perfume. Hands running through my hair. An appreciative or lusty look in a lovers eye. A soft kiss. A searching carress.

Oh.....Oh....Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

 

[enjoyingitall]

What makes me feel sexy? Sheesh, I have no real idea..in fact that is a good question ...what does make me feel sexy (or good about myself)?......<still thinking>

Answer? No freaking clue...it's been a long time since I have had the need to feel 'sexy' I guess.

Sorry Ej..lousy response..but honest.

No need to feel sorry about your response, hon. Sometimes it's hard to put things into words..especially if it's something that we don't think about often. ..but ya know....feeling sexy isn't necessarily connected to having sex. Think about it..

 

[enjoyingitall]

now ukin man...you mean to tell me in that Av of yours you weren't feeling sexy?....lol...think my good man & I'm sure you'll come up with something

EJ...well knowing that you're thinking of some words for me....thats more then enough to make any man feel sexy....what a hoot yours truly in a grape smuggler.....not!....lol

Laughing again here...and if you read your post closely, I think you'll know why.. and it has nothing to do with the grape smugglers this time

Back to thinking of words now....

 

[enjoyingitall]

What makes me feel sexy?

Freshly washed skin. The inside of a new sweatshirt or flannel pj's. Sleeping naked. Getting ready to go out on a date.Sexy undies. No undies. Putting body lotion on in the same scent as my perfume. Hands running through my hair. An appreciative or lusty look in a lovers eye. A soft kiss. A searching carress.

You paint a nice picture with words there, Rosie...looks like Ukin was impressed..

Glad you shared your thoughts with us.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Glad to see you all here yesterday..

The essentials of foreplay...

Everyone knows about, though not everyone values, the art of foreplay.
So my ponderings today are about what the essentials of foreplay are for us.

Most women will tell you that foreplay is most often a must for them. But what about men? Do men need foreplay? Do they want it?

Are there those aspects of foreplay that are a must for you? Things that are done that pratically hold the promise of stimulation for you?

When does foreplay begin?
Is it purely physical or can there be mental foreplay as well for
you?

 

[Lance Hardrock]

I'm impressed

What makes me feel sexy?

Freshly washed skin. The inside of a new sweatshirt or flannel pj's. Sleeping naked. Getting ready to go out on a date.Sexy undies. No undies. Putting body lotion on in the same scent as my perfume. Hands running through my hair. An appreciative or lusty look in a lovers eye. A soft kiss. A searching carress.

Wow, Rosie, I'm twitterpated. Are you available for a date this weekend?

 

[Lance Hardrock]

am I first?

Glad to see you all here yesterday..

The essentials of foreplay...

Everyone knows about, though not everyone values, the art of foreplay.
So my ponderings today are about what the essentials of foreplay are for us.

Most women will tell you that foreplay is most often a must for them. But what about men? Do men need foreplay? Do they want it?

Are there those aspects of foreplay that are a must for you? Things that are done that pratically hold the promise of stimulation for you?

When does foreplay begin?
Is it purely physical or can there be mental foreplay as well for
you?

To answer your question: YES

I certainly desire and need foreplay. Nothing is more of a letdown than a wham bam thank you fuck. For me, the best sex starts hours earlier. I like to flirt around and play the dating game. I love going out and having romantic dinner and dancing. Then when we're finally at the point of spending the rest of the night in an embrace of loving, I like the long slow caresses, the kisses, the undressing of each other.

I suppose none of these things are a "MUST" for me to perform, they just make it all the more wonderful and special. And sex should be very special, even if you've done it with her a thousand times already - it should still be like the first time. It's nice to know her moods and responses, but always nice to make it different in some way, to keep that mystery invovled, that sense of wonderous discovery.

Let me say, emphatically, that foreplay for this man is very much desired and required for me to be at my best.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: am I first?

To answer your question: YES

I certainly desire and need foreplay. Nothing is more of a letdown than a wham bam thank you fuck. For me, the best sex starts hours earlier. I like to flirt around and play the dating game. I love going out and having romantic dinner and dancing. Then when we're finally at the point of spending the rest of the night in an embrace of loving, I like the long slow caresses, the kisses, the undressing of each other.

I suppose none of these things are a "MUST" for me to perform, they just make it all the more wonderful and special. And sex should be very special, even if you've done it with her a thousand times already - it should still be like the first time. It's nice to know her moods and responses, but always nice to make it different in some way, to keep that mystery invovled, that sense of wonderous discovery.

Let me say, emphatically, that foreplay for this man is very much desired and required for me to be at my best.

Love your ideas on this one, lance. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Just bumping this up for ukin and rosie tonight.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Well dang.. I forgot to answer the question.. guess it was a busy day.

Foreplay for me begins long before the actual time sex begins. I think it is as much mental, if not more so, than physical. I love having conversations with my lover about our sexual wants and needs. Telling each other of things we enjoy, sharing secret desires...all of that is a part of foreplay for me. Knowing looks, holding hands, a shared laugh.....those are big parts of it for me.


The actual physical part of foreplay must involve my neck. One certain spot there, and I'm his..and I'm ready..I find that usually I don't really want a great deal of physical foreplay, because I am very ready for sex by the time we actually get close to each other. Now, if you include oral sex as foreplay, then it can last for an endless amount of time. But I don't think of oral sex as part of the foreplay like some do. I see it as a part of the love making.

So..foreplay...it is mind over body for me.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Hiya LdyB..we'd love for you to answer some more of the questions here. We have inquiring minds ya know..lol

 

[LdyBGemini]

Hiya LdyB..we'd love for you to answer some more of the questions here. We have inquiring minds ya know..lol

E... posted to the wrong thread...I will come back when I have more time...I like to read where I left off and then post my thoughts

 

[lovemetender]

Glad to see you all here yesterday..

The essentials of foreplay...

Everyone knows about, though not everyone values, the art of foreplay.
So my ponderings today are about what the essentials of foreplay are for us.

Most women will tell you that foreplay is most often a must for them. But what about men? Do men need foreplay? Do they want it?

Are there those aspects of foreplay that are a must for you? Things that are done that pratically hold the promise of stimulation for you?

When does foreplay begin?
Is it purely physical or can there be mental foreplay as well for
you?

foreplay is a must....couldn't imagine sex w/o it..I agree with the others that foreplay starts much earlier then the actual physical part of sex...it's a knowing glance,warm words or a soft gentle touch...or it could be a gesture such as flowers or a love note or even going out of your way to get your lover his/her favorite food...it's the stimulating of each others mind & desires letting your lover know how much you hunger for them & want to please them & take them to that special place that only two connected lovers can visit...

as far as the physical parts of foreplay for me it includes lots of touches,gentle strokes & soft passionate kisses...these are a must for me....sharing this makes our bodies hunger with anticipation of what lies ahead...climbing to the edge again & again can only heighten that final moment of bliss which is the ultimate reward between two committed lovers

 

[enjoyingitall]

foreplay is a must....couldn't imagine sex w/o it..I agree with the others that foreplay starts much earlier then the actual physical part of sex...it's a knowing glance,warm words or a soft gentle touch...or it could be a gesture such as flowers or a love note or even going out of your way to get your lover his/her favorite food...it's the stimulating of each others mind & desires letting your lover know how much you hunger for them & want to please them & take them to that special place that only two connected lovers can visit...

as far as the physical parts of foreplay for me it includes lots of touches,gentle strokes & soft passionate kisses...these are a must for me....sharing this makes our bodies hunger with anticipation of what lies ahead...climbing to the edge again & again can only heighten that final moment of bliss which is the ultimate reward between two committed lovers

I loved reading your thoughts on this. Climbing to the edge again and again...what a delightful way to put it.

I agree that things one does to please their lover, whether they be physical or not always add to the heightened sense of arousal.

Thanks for you thoughts here. I always love reading your replies.

 

[lovemetender]

I loved reading your thoughts on this. Climbing to the edge again and again...what a delightful way to put it.

I agree that things one does to please their lover, whether they be physical or not always add to the heightened sense of arousal.

Thanks for you thoughts here. I always love reading your replies.

why ty sweetie...the feelings are mutual

it's a great thread you've started here

 

[enjoyingitall]

why ty sweetie...the feelings are mutual

it's a great thread you've started here

YW baby..I'm glad you're enjoying it.....


I do wish you all would help with some questions...anyone?

 

[Lance Hardrock]

The question generates another

EJ mentioned that she doesn't consider oral to be foreplay, but sex itself.

So my question is (an easy one I think), is when does foreplay stop and the "real" sex begin?

<I'll answer later after others have posted>