So, Lesbians, what's the deal?

[Marquis]

Here's a question, how has AIDS affected the lesbian community.

 

[subbielez]

Just my opinion, but that's kind of a stupid question. I mean, how has it affected people that are dating and fucking when one of them has aids? It's the same principle. Only difference (again, IMO) is that we're lesbians, not straight. I think lesbians (as with any gay/bi person of either gender) need to be every bit as careful as straight people, but I don't really think it's an issue. It might have been twenty years ago, but we're not some mysterious other culture now the way we were years ago, just like AIDS isn't some deadly new virus we don't know anything about anymore. Do some research on the internet if you really wanna know the answer to that question. Me personally? It hasn't affected either me or my domme that much except that we had each other screened before we did anything - just as any responsible lover would.

 

[Etoile]

Well, it is a known fact that woman-to-woman sex has a lower chance of transmission than heterosexual or man-to-man sex. That's just simple truth, and can be easily googled if you don't believe me. That doesn't mean it's impossible for a woman to transmit HIV to another woman, but it hasn't affected lesbian sexual interactions as dramatically as it has for other segments of the population.

However, AIDS has still affected us. Over the years, we have seen many friends get sick and die. Losing your friends scares you. It's better today thanks to improvements in medicine, but there's still something about having people shun your friends because they are ewww, contaminated.

*shrugs*

 

[kbate]

Just my opinion, but that's kind of a stupid question. I mean, how has it affected people that are dating and fucking when one of them has aids?

I do not see the need for the attack tone of your post. Marquis has been quite reasonable and shows actual interest in the answers rather than making veiled accusations as so many visitors to this forum do.

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The simple answer is that HIV does not affect us as it does gay men or even heterosexual partners. We are a 'low risk' demographic.

Is HIV a concern? Yes. As it should be for everyone who is dating and sexually active.

Plus, as Etoile stated - nearly every homosexual knows of at least one or two people who have HIV or actual AIDS, and that takes a toll.

 

[Tymeless]

I'm glad to have not had to deal with the aids issue at all. I can see where it would take a toll on the community though as i've known quite a few gay men and I fear for them alot.

 

[Marquis]

Thanks to those who have and continue to answer my questions in an open and honest manner.

Here's a few more:

How would you compare the sexual habits of lesbians compared to heterosexual women?

Do lesbians tend to be more/less promiscuous?

Are lesbians more/less likely to engage in polyamory?

 

[Etoile]

Thanks to those who have and continue to answer my questions in an open and honest manner.

Here's a few more:

How would you compare the sexual habits of lesbians compared to heterosexual women?

Do lesbians tend to be more/less promiscuous?

Are lesbians more/less likely to engage in polyamory?

This is one of those cases where it depends on the individual, not the group. Some lesbians are promiscuous, some aren't. Some lesbians are polyamorous, some aren't.

However, it's possible to make some generalizations. On The L Word, a character named Alice keeps a chart of everyone who's slept with everyone else. (It's kind of like the sexchart, but that one is real and The L Word is a TV show.) It also depends in part on the meaning of promiscuous...I would say that lesbians are more likely to practice serial monogamy than other types of couples. Heterosexuals may be more likely to stay married, because they may have children and don't want to break up the marriage. Gay men may be more likely to sleep around on a regular basis without committing to anyone. Lesbians, though, may be more likely to be with someone for a while, then break up, then meet someone new, etc. Again, this is a HUGE generalization. I might very well be talking out of my ass, but it's what came to mind.

I think open relationships are more common among heterosexuals than gay people (swingers), and more common among gay men than lesbians. However, I think actual polyamory - true committed long-term relationships involving more than two people - is pretty fucking rare for any group...I wouldn't say lesbians are more into it than anybody else.

How would I compare the sexual habits? Well, I would guess that lesbians are more sexually satisfied than straight women, for two reasons. First, a woman might know better what a woman likes. Second, a man might be more likely to care less about his female partner's satisfaction.

 

[subbielez]

I apologize if my post was inflammatory. I didn't mean it to be. To me, it's just common sense. I do realize that AIDS has affected the gay community (for both women and men), but I don't think it's been any bigger a deal than it has been for straight couples. AIDS is a big deal in and of itself; it's hard to watch friends die slowly. But I think that's the same for us as it is for the average heterosexual couple.

As for promiscuity, I don't think there's anything wrong with it if you're careful but I also don't think it's a general thing. Unfortunately, people don't know a lot about lesbians and that tends to cause gross generalizations like this one (again, no offense). Like Etoile said, it's all about the individual. I'm not promiscuous, but I've known girls that are. My domme isn't now, but she has been in the past. *Shrug.*

 

[kbate]

Heterosexuals may be more likely to stay married, because they may have children and don't want to break up the marriage. Gay men may be more likely to sleep around on a regular basis without committing to anyone. Lesbians, though, may be more likely to be with someone for a while, then break up, then meet someone new, etc. Again, this is a HUGE[/size] generalization. I might very well be talking out of my ass, but it's what came to mind.

"Time" magazine either this week or last, had an interesting article on the success of homosexual relationships and perceived reasons for their success or failure.

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I have not found lesbians more promiscuous than heterosexual women. As Etoile stated, SOME lesbians seek new partners and others seek relationships. Some tire of being in a relationship and seek a new partner, some relationships last.

There is speculation that lesbian relationships are more successful than gay relationships - largely because of women's ability to bear children. Men cannot have their own children and the strain of being unable to rear a family means their relationship depends wholly on remaining exciting to each other. Lesbians have the option of children - and thus can add new factors to relationships.

I have had few sexual partners and never a 'one night stand' (with a woman), each of my female sexual partners has been around not only the next morning, but the next month. I have never been polyamorous - always monogamous - except when my sexual toy was a male and I 'cheated' with my girlfriend.

As with all stereotypes and generalisations, there is some truth. I do know lesbians who have literally broken up and simply traded bedrooms in shared houses to be with their new partners.

 

[Etoile]

As with all stereotypes and generalisations, there is some truth. I do know lesbians who have literally broken up and simply traded bedrooms in shared houses to be with their new partners.

Oooh yes, I've seen that too.