Something to think about today

[babydoll2u]

Thanks, dcraz... a friend recently emailed this to me and it's the best forward I've gotten in a long, long time. It's a great way to look at adversity and what we can choose to do with it.

I agree with you there jg.....
this is quite thought-provoking

 

[Lia Monde]

Abraham Lincoln once said, "I may not move fast, but I never move backward."

Every day with even small progress forward is a success, every day misspent is permanently lost.

 

[babydoll2u]

Abraham Lincoln once said, "I may not move fast, but I never move backward."

Every day with even small progress forward is a success, every day misspent is permanently lost.

VERY good thought... thank you Lia

 

[Denae]

Excellence vs. Perfection

I have no idea who the author of this piece is. I used to strive for perfection since I was 9 or 10 (reasons are private). I wish I had received this before my mid 30s as it would have helped me so much.


EXCELLENCE VS. PERFECTION

Excellence is the willingness to be wrong;
Perfection is being right.

Excellence is taking a risk;
Perfection is fear.

Excellence is powerful;
Perfection is anger and frustration.

Excellence is spontaneous;
Perfection is control.

Excellence is accepting;
Perfection is judgment.

Excellence is giving;
Perfection is taking.

Excellence is confidence;
Perfection is doubt.

Excellence is natural and flowing;
Perfection is pressure.

Excellence is the journey;
Perfection is the destination.

Excellence is surrender;
Perfection is consuming.

Excellence is trust;
Perfection is selfishness.

Are you striving for excellence, or do you think you have to be perfect?

 

[dcraz]

That is beautidul Denae.

I happen to know you are NOT perfect. And I wouldn't want you any other way. I think you are excellent my dear.

As for myself, I gave up the pursuit of perfection long ago... Let's just say, when I was younger, I did not set the bar very high for myself. Now, I aim allittle higher and am loving life and learning something new about the world around me every day.

Thank you for sharing.

 

[MysteriousRomantic]

I have no idea who the author of this piece is. I used to strive for perfection since I was 9 or 10 (reasons are private). I wish I had received this before my mid 30s as it would have helped me so much.


EXCELLENCE VS. PERFECTION

Excellence is the willingness to be wrong;
Perfection is being right.

Excellence is taking a risk;
Perfection is fear.

Excellence is powerful;
Perfection is anger and frustration.

Excellence is spontaneous;
Perfection is control.

Excellence is accepting;
Perfection is judgment.

Excellence is giving;
Perfection is taking.

Excellence is confidence;
Perfection is doubt.

Excellence is natural and flowing;
Perfection is pressure.

Excellence is the journey;
Perfection is the destination.

Excellence is surrender;
Perfection is consuming.

Excellence is trust;
Perfection is selfishness.

Are you striving for excellence, or do you think you have to be perfect?

I used to strive to be perfect. Now all I strive for is to be the best I can be in all I do and in all of my life. And that means in my career and in all relationships. I must say I surrender to what is going to happen today, womorrow and in the future as I cannot change that as of yet.

 

[Denae]

That is beautidul Denae.

I happen to know you are NOT perfect. And I wouldn't want you any other way. I think you are excellent my dear.

As for myself, I gave up the pursuit of perfection long ago... Let's just say, when I was younger, I did not set the bar very high for myself. Now, I aim allittle higher and am loving life and learning something new about the world around me every day.

Thank you for sharing.

My attempts to be perfect were so that I wouldn't attract negative attention from my step-father. You know, if you do things right you won't get in trouble.

It's been a very hard blanket to toss off of myself.

 

[LustfulOne50]

In the sreach for love you may pass though many doors to find the one that opens to it...and when you find it there are no more doors to venture, for love will be there for the rest of your life at that door.

 

[jacuzzigal]

My attempts to be perfect were so that I wouldn't attract negative attention from my step-father. You know, if you do things right you won't get in trouble.

It's been a very hard blanket to toss off of myself.

Thanks for this, Den - I appreciate it.

My attempts to be perfect were because I thought it meant I was loveable. It's been a hard blanket to toss off myself as well but as I have, I've appreciated life more and my connections to others have been more genuine and meaningful.

 

[dcraz]

My attempts to be perfect were so that I wouldn't attract negative attention from my step-father. You know, if you do things right you won't get in trouble.

It's been a very hard blanket to toss off of myself.

I understand Denae.

May you one day shed that cold balnket of fear and trepedation and replace it with a new one.

A blanket wrapped around you for warmth, comfort, protection and love...

 

[MysteriousRomantic]

In the sreach for love you may pass though many doors to find the one that opens to it...and when you find it there are no more doors to venture, for love will be there for the rest of your life at that door.

*wishing that door would open for me*

 

[babydoll2u]

My attempts to be perfect were so that I wouldn't attract negative attention from my step-father. You know, if you do things right you won't get in trouble.

It's been a very hard blanket to toss off of myself.

that can be a very hard blanket indeed Den... I know from experience myself.
I'm still working at it... I have lived with expecting perfection not only of myself, but of everyone in my life. Of course, that only leads to disappointment on all fronts.

So yes, I'm trying to throw that "blanket" off, myself... damn heavy thing

 

[dcraz]

that can be a very hard blanket indeed Den... I know from experience myself.
I'm still working at it... I have lived with expecting perfection not only of myself, but of everyone in my life. Of course, that only leads to disappointment on all fronts.

So yes, I'm trying to throw that "blanket" off, myself... damn heavy thing

Many of these heavy blankets are put there by ourselves or allowed to placed on us by those that do not love us.

Perhaps we can all learn to trust our friends for a little help in removing them....

 

[babydoll2u]

Perhaps we can all learn to trust our friends for a little help in removing them....

a very tall order, indeed.......

 

[jacuzzigal]

Many of these heavy blankets are put there by ourselves or allowed to placed on us by those that do not love us.

Perhaps we can all learn to trust our friends for a little help in removing them....

Well said, DC. I'd add also that we need to learn to trust ourselves in removing them as well.

 

[dcraz]

Well said, DC. I'd add also that we need to learn to trust ourselves in removing them as well.

Perhaps the greatest gift our friends can give is their faith in us. To trust ourselves. And their encouragement and support for us to battle the demons within us.

 

[babydoll2u]

Perhaps the greatest gift our friends can give is their faith in us. To trust ourselves. And their encouragement and support for us to battle the demons within us.

It's hard to find friends like that tho... whose support and encouragement are
constant and non-wavering. I do know I've failed to be that kind of friend, and have been failed as well. But in the end, I blame noone but myself.

 

[dcraz]

We must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind us to the fact that each moment of our life is a miracle and a mystery. – H.G. Wells

 

[Cathleen]

This is one of my favorite things to read. I've kept it in my wallet so long it is barely held together. I figured it was time to retype it so I thought I'd share it with you all at the same time.



No one will ever get out of this world alive. Resolve therefore to maintain a reasonable sense of values.

Take care of yourself. Good health is everyone’s major source of wealth. Without it, happiness is almost impossible.

Resolve to be cheerful and helpful. People will repay you in kind.

Avoid angry, abrasive persons. They are generally vengeful.

Avoid zealots. They are generally humorless.

Resolve to listen more and talk less. No one ever learns anything by talking.

Be chary of giving advice. Wise men don’t need it and fools won’t heed it.

Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the wrong. Sometime in life you will have been all of these.

Do not equate money with success. There are many successful moneymakers who are miserable failures as human beings. What counts most about success is how a person achieves it.

Lloyd Shearer

 

[dcraz]

This is one of my favorite things to read. I've kept it in my wallet so long it is barely held together. I figured it was time to retype it so I thought I'd share it with you all at the same time.



No one will ever get out of this world alive. Resolve therefore to maintain a reasonable sense of values.

Take care of yourself. Good health is everyone’s major source of wealth. Without it, happiness is almost impossible.

Resolve to be cheerful and helpful. People will repay you in kind.

Avoid angry, abrasive persons. They are generally vengeful.

Avoid zealots. They are generally humorless.

Resolve to listen more and talk less. No one ever learns anything by talking.

Be chary of giving advice. Wise men don’t need it and fools won’t heed it.

Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the wrong. Sometime in life you will have been all of these.

Do not equate money with success. There are many successful moneymakers who are miserable failures as human beings. What counts most about success is how a person achieves it.

Lloyd Shearer

Cate, I can always count on you to help me keep things in perspective.

And I cannot imagine you ever needing to reference such a list as a reminder...

As always, thank you for sharing my dear.

 

[pleasteasme]

This is one of my favorite things to read. I've kept it in my wallet so long it is barely held together. I figured it was time to retype it so I thought I'd share it with you all at the same time.



No one will ever get out of this world alive. Resolve therefore to maintain a reasonable sense of values.

Take care of yourself. Good health is everyone’s major source of wealth. Without it, happiness is almost impossible.

Resolve to be cheerful and helpful. People will repay you in kind.

Avoid angry, abrasive persons. They are generally vengeful.

Avoid zealots. They are generally humorless.

Resolve to listen more and talk less. No one ever learns anything by talking.

Be chary of giving advice. Wise men don’t need it and fools won’t heed it.

Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the wrong. Sometime in life you will have been all of these.

Do not equate money with success. There are many successful moneymakers who are miserable failures as human beings. What counts most about success is how a person achieves it.

Lloyd Shearer

Very profound Cate ~ thanks so much for sharing that....I think I might keep it in my wallet to pull out and read when I need to focus on the IMPORTANT things in life!

Thanks again

 

[MysteriousRomantic]

convinced to stay

 

[Denae]

Help the Fight Against Domestic Violence locally

Hi to all my friends here at Lit.

As some of you know I mentioned last week that I was going to participate in the local Walk to End Domestic Violence in the city where I live.

Some of you asked about donating to/supporting my walk. Thinking of how to make this a safe donation for you to give to me and for me to receive from you, I think I may have a better solution.

Domestic violence is a national issue.

I urge each of you who wanted to help "me" to help those where you live.

Make a donation to your local women's shelter or a support group. Contact your representatives and ask how you can support, what you can do to support them in changing existing legislation to make it stronger. Do what you can on a local level.

There are so many things you can do to help your neighbors!

Thank you everyone for wanting to support a cause of which I am so passionate about.

Den

 

[jacuzzigal]

Hi to all my friends here at Lit.

As some of you know I mentioned last week that I was going to participate in the local Walk to End Domestic Violence in the city where I live.

Some of you asked about donating to/supporting my walk. Thinking of how to make this a safe donation for you to give to me and for me to receive from you, I think I may have a better solution.

Domestic violence is a national issue.

I urge each of you who wanted to help "me" to help those where you live.

Make a donation to your local women's shelter or a support group. Contact your representatives and ask how you can support, what you can do to support them in changing existing legislation to make it stronger. Do what you can on a local level.

There are so many things you can do to help your neighbors!

Thank you everyone for wanting to support a cause of which I am so passionate about.

Den

Thanks, Den. This is a great thought. And National Domestic Violence Awareness Month is October, so often local organizations will hold walks then if not in the spring. It's an important issue. I escaped and survived an abusive marriage, and I appreciate your efforts, Den.

 

[WyldBreeze]

My attempts to be perfect were so that I wouldn't attract negative attention from my step-father. You know, if you do things right you won't get in trouble.

It's been a very hard blanket to toss off of myself.

Denae, I understand where you're coming from. I went through the same thing when I was 12 with a grandmother that I had to live with for a few years....I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Didn't mean to intrude in the middle of a conversation, but I truly understand how it can feel in this situation. Sometimes it helps to know you aren't the only one that feels that way.