The LIT Swingers Club

[Bigspurt]

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"No. I'm sorry but I'm not going to tell you. You're just going to have to
find out for yourself some other time, Liz. Would you like another mimosa?"

Wow! and Wow!

 

[LizVegas79]

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Basically what I was intending to wear to the party if we had been able to have it,
for those of you who were interested and asked.

Although I was planning on bringing an overnight bag instead of just an (ugly) purse
and to match my dress with a simple pair of black mules instead of those hard to kick
off boring beige shoes she's wearing. (also because I was planning to wear a pair of
skinny jeans and a cute white top home on Tuesday morning so our neighbors
wouldn't have anything to gossip about)

 

[HotBrand]

I was super curious about whether my friend's redheaded friend was going to turn out to be a "real" redhead or not too. I've only met her socially twice before. She's super nice but a little on the quiet side. I was really looking forward to getting to know her better.

Take her out for a drink to catch up and discuss how the night could have gone. With a drink or two to liberate, maybe she'd be interested in sharing some of those details with you. Aurally or just plain orally.

Love the dress picture, by the way! The cut on the leg is SO suggestive!

 

[LizVegas79]

The first time my wife & I swapped with another couple we played in separate rooms (2 BR rented condo). I don't know how long ... his wife and I had sex twice & weren't exactly rushed. Some time after the second round, a knock on the door. Her husband opened the door & stood there, fully nude. My wife, also nude, stood right behind him. Her hair was a mess. She looked ridden hard. Her eyes said to me, "I've been a bad, bad girl." His wife & I kissed & she left with him to their room. My wife meekly crawled in bed with me. She had never been so pliable, so submissive. The sex was just incredible. I'll never forget it.

That's hot!

 

[Kimleigh]

This past weekend:

New Couple, been flirting online for a month or so. Arrived at our home Saturday early afternoon, then we went out bar hopping and dinner. Home around 8:30.

They left Sunday afternoon around 2pm.

I counted 17 condom wrappers.... and, of course, that doesn't include the sex between the married couples themselves which requires none.

Hottest session EVER.

Same room. Separate rooms. DP. Simply Amazing!

We are already setting up our next play date.

 

[LizVegas79]

This past weekend:

New Couple, been flirting online for a month or so. Arrived at our home Saturday early afternoon, then we went out bar hopping and dinner. Home around 8:30.

They left Sunday afternoon around 2pm.

I counted 17 condom wrappers.... and, of course, that doesn't include the sex between the married couples themselves which requires none.

Hottest session EVER.

Same room. Separate rooms. DP. Simply Amazing!

We are already setting up our next play date.

Sounds Ah-may-zing!!!

Jellie AF!!!

(thanks for sharing - so how many couples came to your party? asking for a friend lol )

 

[Shenanigans90]

This past weekend:

New Couple, been flirting online for a month or so. Arrived at our home Saturday early afternoon, then we went out bar hopping and dinner. Home around 8:30.

They left Sunday afternoon around 2pm.

I counted 17 condom wrappers.... and, of course, that doesn't include the sex between the married couples themselves which requires none.

Hottest session EVER.

Same room. Separate rooms. DP. Simply Amazing!

We are already setting up our next play date.

I agree with Liz, this is HOT AF! Thanks for sharing Kim.

 

[BrainTeez]

Sounds Ah-may-zing!!!

Jellie AF!!!

(thanks for sharing - so how many couples came to your party? asking for a friend lol )

This past weekend:

New Couple, been flirting online for a month or so. Arrived at our home Saturday early afternoon, then we went out bar hopping and dinner. Home around 8:30.

They left Sunday afternoon around 2pm.

I counted 17 condom wrappers.... and, of course, that doesn't include the sex between the married couples themselves which requires none.

Hottest session EVER.

Same room. Separate rooms. DP. Simply Amazing!

We are already setting up our next play date.

Kimleigh,

Taking license with a line from Jerry McQuire, you had me at "DP". OMG!

Liz,

I think it was only two! Be sure to tell "your friend". Doing the math, I get just about 1 condom per hour for 17.5 hours. So, again, OMG!

Brain "I'm Wide Awake Now (9 pm EDT)" Teez

 

[Kimleigh]

Sounds Ah-may-zing!!!

Jellie AF!!!

(thanks for sharing - so how many couples came to your party? asking for a friend lol )

Just the one couple came over - not a party!

I agree with Liz, this is HOT AF! Thanks for sharing Kim.

You’re welcome!

Kimleigh,

Taking license with a line from Jerry McQuire, you had me at "DP". OMG!

Liz,

I think it was only two! Be sure to tell "your friend". Doing the math, I get just about 1 condom per hour for 17.5 hours. So, again, OMG!

Brain "I'm Wide Awake Now (9 pm EDT)" Teez

It was quite the time. We are getting together again this weekend… and will have none of those “first-time nerves” to slow us down!

 

[BrainTeez]

Just the one couple came over - not a party!



You’re welcome!



It was quite the time. We are getting together again this weekend… and will have none of those “first-time nerves” to slow us down!

Kim,

You were "slowed" last weekend? A "slow, inhibited" 17-1/2 hour Swing-a-thon? OMG! I guess this weekend will be off the chain! Please share some details next week with those of us (me) who live vicariously through your exploits.

Liz,

See, it was only 2 couples ... so, I can see how you were Jellie AF!

Brain "Living Vicariously is Better than Nothing" Teez

P.S. You ladies are really interfering with my sleep

 

[Mtnmike]

This past weekend:

New Couple, been flirting online for a month or so. Arrived at our home Saturday early afternoon, then we went out bar hopping and dinner. Home around 8:30.

They left Sunday afternoon around 2pm.

I counted 17 condom wrappers.... and, of course, that doesn't include the sex between the married couples themselves which requires none.

Hottest session EVER.

Same room. Separate rooms. DP. Simply Amazing!

We are already setting up our next play date.

Dang it, some people have all the fun

 

[Bigspurt]

I Understand Condoms, but

Just imaging those ladies if the activities were bareback. What a slippery mess that would have been!

 

[Kimleigh]

Kim,

You were "slowed" last weekend? A "slow, inhibited" 17-1/2 hour Swing-a-thon? OMG! I guess this weekend will be off the chain! Please share some details next week with those of us (me) who live vicariously through your exploits.

Liz,

See, it was only 2 couples ... so, I can see how you were Jellie AF!

Brain "Living Vicariously is Better than Nothing" Teez

P.S. You ladies are really interfering with my sleep

I will be sure to pass along some details.
There has been much communication between the four of us, and I am thinking a discussion regarding condoms is coming up. The other couple indicated they would like to cease use. However, I don't think it's wise. Unless, eventually, we decide to become "exclusive" in the sense that they aren't seeing others and we aren't. In the meantime, condoms it is!

Dang it, some people have all the fun

That's what life is all about!

Just imaging those ladies if the activities were bareback. What a slippery mess that would have been!

MMMM hhhhmmmm!

 

[LizVegas79]

It was quite the time. We are getting together again this weekend… and will have none of those “first-time nerves” to slow us down!

Having only ever experienced those "first-time nerves" I can't wait to hear how it goes!

P.S. You ladies are really interfering with my sleep

Sorry, not sorry

Dang it, some people have all the fun

ikr?

 

[BrainTeez]

We had quite the lineup on Monday. Two blondes, one redhead, one Asian and yours truly ...

Sorry for getting your hopes (and whatever else) up LOL.

Make up group sex date night TBD
(MUGS-DN-TBD?)

MUGS-DN-TBD ... Liz, were you in the service? Because I haven't seen an acronym like that since I left the Nav.

Does the Asian look anything like Lucy Liu? I'll fantasize that she does. O-Ren Ishii and Dr. Watson ... both hot AF!

Brain "There Ain't No Slack in Fast Attack" Teez

P.S. Any Litsters spend the Cold War underwater?

 

[Buttterscotch]

Hello Everyone - I'm hoping those of you who have been to swingers clubs or shared a partner at a swinger's party will join in the discussion on this thread because I can tell my husband and I are going to need some advice.

This past Saturday night and Sunday morning my husband and I spent some quality time with two couples friends of ours openly and freely discussing our sexual bucket lists in regards to both this coronavirus pandemic and the fact that we're all starting to get a little older.

We knew that was the agenda for the party in advance because it all started from a conversation my husband and one of his best friends had at work last week.

It turned out to be a wonderful and amazing eye opening (and eye popping! ) experience for all six of us.

It was not the first time my husband and I looked into the swinger's scene here in Las Vegas. But it was the first time we participated in it.

I can tell already that it has not only changed our relationship with our friends I previously felt we already knew, but that it has and will continue to also change our own relationship as husband and wife.

It's all good. We broke down some barriers (especially a few of his) and I expect we will be breaking down a few more in the coming weeks and months.

It turns out that within our circle of friends more of them have been enjoying each other's company quite a bit more that I previously knew. I guess that old saying is true, "You never really know someone until you sleep with them."

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(mmmm, I can still feel that first tentative touch of one of my husband's best friends reaching out and caressing me for the first time )

With all that said, I'm hoping that some of you who have more experience with "the lifestyle" will share your own thoughts and experiences sharing your S.O.'s (significant others) with friends and/or strangers. Because I can tell already that this is going to be a bit of a tricky dance but at the same time I am soooooo looking forward to it!

I guess what I'm most interested in learning about is:

- What are some of the unexpected challenges that can arise within an active group of swingers?

and

- What are some of the things to look out for or discuss with your S.O. in order to keep the lines of communication open?

Thank you all in advance for sharing your wisdom! I can't think of a better way to talk about the joys and challenges of swinging and partner swapping than with a group of other people!

Glad to hear you had an amazing and wonderful time in your experience. People all have different sides to them so once you break down those walls and get to see people openly and clearly it can be amazing.

My husband and I were not originally swingers. My best friends and her husband were pretty soon following their wedding. They asked us to come with them to a private party here and out of curiosity and some peer pressure we went with the intention of not participating.

Went to the party and had an amazing time and met some amazing people. At this party we met another couple that was local to us and made plans to hang out in the future. We started hanging out as friends having dinners and party nights together and even going on a few vacations together. Then it kind of came to the point of do we take things further?

Well one weekend we decided to get together and the conversation turned back to sex and swinging and we decided to participate together and honestly we loved it. It was great to get closer with another couple as a couple and indulge our naughty side.

From there we continued to play with them but also began looking more into the swinging lifestyle and even ended up going to a resort that was hosting a week for swingers and nudist. We've enjoyed getting more into the lifestyle since then and met some amazing people.

To offer my opinion on your questions first when being part of the group my advice would be to make sure you do not let jealousy in and live in the moment. Obviously jealousy can be a huge issue in this lifestyle and depending on how you're playing can be waiting in the background. Be open about your feelings and responsive to what your partner tells you they are feeling. The other one is if you're having fun with someone besides your SO give that person your attention and don't always be looking around to see what your SO is doing.

On the other question discuss everything. Even the smallest things can lead to big issues down the line. Keep communication flowing. Tell each other how you feel and listen as well. Talk about your limits as well. Discover what all you are willing to do and willing to see your SO do as well. Make sure these are clearly stated with other couples as well.

We have only been in the lifestyle a few years so I am sure there are others that know a lot more than I do. Just offering my opinions and wishing you and your husband all the fun in the world.

 

[LizVegas79]

MUGS-DN-TBD ... Liz, were you in the service? Because I haven't seen an acronym like that since I left the Nav.

Does the Asian look anything like Lucy Liu? I'll fantasize that she does. O-Ren Ishii and Dr. Watson ... both hot AF!

Brain "There Ain't No Slack in Fast Attack" Teez

P.S. Any Litsters spend the Cold War underwater?

LOL - never in the military. I was just trying to start an abbreviation trend

Glad to hear you had an amazing and wonderful time in your experience. People all have different sides to them so once you break down those walls and get to see people openly and clearly it can be amazing.

My husband and I were not originally swingers. My best friends and her husband were pretty soon following their wedding. They asked us to come with them to a private party here and out of curiosity and some peer pressure we went with the intention of not participating.

Went to the party and had an amazing time and met some amazing people. At this party we met another couple that was local to us and made plans to hang out in the future. We started hanging out as friends having dinners and party nights together and even going on a few vacations together. Then it kind of came to the point of do we take things further?

Well one weekend we decided to get together and the conversation turned back to sex and swinging and we decided to participate together and honestly we loved it. It was great to get closer with another couple as a couple and indulge our naughty side.

From there we continued to play with them but also began looking more into the swinging lifestyle and even ended up going to a resort that was hosting a week for swingers and nudist. We've enjoyed getting more into the lifestyle since then and met some amazing people.

To offer my opinion on your questions first when being part of the group my advice would be to make sure you do not let jealousy in and live in the moment. Obviously jealousy can be a huge issue in this lifestyle and depending on how you're playing can be waiting in the background. Be open about your feelings and responsive to what your partner tells you they are feeling. The other one is if you're having fun with someone besides your SO give that person your attention and don't always be looking around to see what your SO is doing.

On the other question discuss everything. Even the smallest things can lead to big issues down the line. Keep communication flowing. Tell each other how you feel and listen as well. Talk about your limits as well. Discover what all you are willing to do and willing to see your SO do as well. Make sure these are clearly stated with other couples as well.

We have only been in the lifestyle a few years so I am sure there are others that know a lot more than I do. Just offering my opinions and wishing you and your husband all the fun in the world.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and advice!

Yes, keeping our lines of communication open is our #1 Rule - not only between my husband and me, but also with our friends.

Feeling open and safe enough for us all to talk, or at least some of us that were at our first party last year, made it so much easier to plan the next party. And even though that party ended up getting postponed, being able to talk about our hesitations about how many other couples were going to participate the second time was very, very comforting.

It's always nice to feel like you're being "heard" even in a group dynamic as dynamic as the swing/swap lifestyle, right?

I'm open to the idea of having a party with 5 couples. But I really think I'm much more comfortable when it's just 3 couples.

Unfortunately, one of the couples from last year seem to be having some problems. But I'm not sure it's because of our swingers party. Covid has put a strain on all relationships, good ones and especially not so good ones. Also, the more I get to know them, the more I'm starting to think they way they communicate with each other is just their way. The hostility she expresses towards him is uncomfortable to be around, but it might just be their thing. He keeps taking it, he never argues or says anything mean back and she keeps dishing it out.

I've stopped trying to "fix" their marriage because it's possible there's nothing actually wrong with it. It's funny how when you get to know people behind closed doors so to speak that if what works for them in their psycho-sexual dynamic isn't what we're use to, we leap to the conclusion that it's "unhealthy" or "broken" when in fact, it might just work fine and just be different that's all.

But like you say, communication is key. The fact that my husband and I can talk about what we see in them that doesn't work for us ("let's never be like so-and-so") actually brings us much closer and recommitted to each other.

 

[Buttterscotch]

LOL - never in the military. I was just trying to start an abbreviation trend



Thank you so much for sharing your experience and advice!

Yes, keeping our lines of communication open is our #1 Rule - not only between my husband and me, but also with our friends.

Feeling open and safe enough for us all to talk, or at least some of us that were at our first party last year, made it so much easier to plan the next party. And even though that party ended up getting postponed, being able to talk about our hesitations about how many other couples were going to participate the second time was very, very comforting.

It's always nice to feel like you're being "heard" even in a group dynamic as dynamic as the swing/swap lifestyle, right?

I'm open to the idea of having a party with 5 couples. But I really think I'm much more comfortable when it's just 3 couples.

Unfortunately, one of the couples from last year seem to be having some problems. But I'm not sure it's because of our swingers party. Covid has put a strain on all relationships, good ones and especially not so good ones. Also, the more I get to know them, the more I'm starting to think they way they communicate with each other is just their way. The hostility she expresses towards him is uncomfortable to be around, but it might just be their thing. He keeps taking it, he never argues or says anything mean back and she keeps dishing it out.

I've stopped trying to "fix" their marriage because it's possible there's nothing actually wrong with it. It's funny how when you get to know people behind closed doors so to speak that if what works for them in their psycho-sexual dynamic isn't what we're use to, we leap to the conclusion that it's "unhealthy" or "broken" when in fact, it might just work fine and just be different that's all.

But like you say, communication is key. The fact that my husband and I can talk about what we see in them that doesn't work for us ("let's never be like so-and-so") actually brings us much closer and recommitted to each other.

I totally agree on not understanding what works for some couples but knowing that I have to leave it to them to sort out or live with. We used to be close to one couple where the wife was very much the alpha of the relationship and was very open about letting people know. I asked the husband one time why he put up with it and if it was his thing and he said she brought most of the money in, let him have a good life, let him have a kinky life so he was fine with letting her wear the pants. So what my husband and I saw as being kind of mean worked for them.

COVID fucked everything and in not any good way. The parties stopped, vacations got cancelled, and it all went to heck as everyone was afraid of anyone that sneezed or coughed. It was for good reason though and my husband and I still had each other and enjoyed that. It took about four months before we hooked up with another couple again. They were a couple we had known for several years.

 

[peekingone]

This past weekend:

New Couple, been flirting online for a month or so. Arrived at our home Saturday early afternoon, then we went out bar hopping and dinner. Home around 8:30.

They left Sunday afternoon around 2pm.

I counted 17 condom wrappers.... and, of course, that doesn't include the sex between the married couples themselves which requires none.

Hottest session EVER.

Same room. Separate rooms. DP. Simply Amazing!

We are already setting up our next play date.

Holy Smokes. Damn that is HOT!!!

 

[LizVegas79]

I totally agree on not understanding what works for some couples but knowing that I have to leave it to them to sort out or live with. We used to be close to one couple where the wife was very much the alpha of the relationship and was very open about letting people know. I asked the husband one time why he put up with it and if it was his thing and he said she brought most of the money in, let him have a good life, let him have a kinky life so he was fine with letting her wear the pants. So what my husband and I saw as being kind of mean worked for them.

COVID fucked everything and in not any good way. The parties stopped, vacations got cancelled, and it all went to heck as everyone was afraid of anyone that sneezed or coughed. It was for good reason though and my husband and I still had each other and enjoyed that. It took about four months before we hooked up with another couple again. They were a couple we had known for several years.

That sounds very similar to the dynamic my friend Kim and her husband seem to have. I have to admit, I did enjoy playing with him last year while she was off with my husband and the host of the party. My husband basically has to be coerced into taking a submissive role and although I do generally enjoy being "his" most of the time, I did enjoy exploring my dom-bitch-goddess side a bit with Kim's husband.

I guess it just goes to prove that in a good group dynamic there's room for everyone to explore if they want to

 

[Buttterscotch]

That sounds very similar to the dynamic my friend Kim and her husband seem to have. I have to admit, I did enjoy playing with him last year while she was off with my husband and the host of the party. My husband basically has to be coerced into taking a submissive role and although I do generally enjoy being "his" most of the time, I did enjoy exploring my dom-bitch-goddess side a bit with Kim's husband.

I guess it just goes to prove that in a good group dynamic there's room for everyone to explore if they want to

I never pull off the dom role well. I can have moments but nowhere like some women I have seen.

 

[LizVegas79]

I never pull off the dom role well. I can have moments but nowhere like some women I have seen.

It's sort of expected when you're 5'11+" barefoot and have (well, had) straight, jet black hair down to your ass LOL.

Even since I had it cut and it's not even halfway down my back anymore, I swear I can tell what a lot of guys, and a lot of women too for that matter, what they're thinking.

They not only expect me to be mean to them, they want me to be mean to them.

 

[Buttterscotch]

It's sort of expected when you're 5'11+" barefoot and have (well, had) straight, jet black hair down to your ass LOL.

Even since I had it cut and it's not even halfway down my back anymore, I swear I can tell what a lot of guys, and a lot of women too for that matter, what they're thinking.

They not only expect me to be mean to them, they want me to be mean to them.

Opposite end of the spectrum here at a tall 5'2" and blonde with a high voice.

 

[LizVegas79]

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I don't know about the rest of you, but I think it's important that we stay in touch
with our friends now that the worst of the pandemic is hopefully behind us.

 

[LizVegas79]

Opposite end of the spectrum here at a tall 5'2" and blonde with a high voice.

Oh my. I bet you must be very popular at these parties that you go to.