The LIT Swingers Club

[fifty5]

I think bf and I have personalities and inclinations well suited to this, but I dont wanna catch something or get pregant.

Choose carefully, find a blood ,or better, platelet donor who's had a vasectomy. Those donors are tested before every donation. Vasectomy blokes can't make you preggers cos their tubes are cut, so their spunk carries no sperm cells.

Take me for example!

 

[chame1eon]

Choose carefully, find a blood ,or better, platelet donor who's had a vasectomy. Those donors are tested before every donation. Vasectomy blokes can't make you preggers cos their tubes are cut, so their spunk carries no sperm cells.

Take me for example!

Heh. Idk maybe. Nothing is happening till this self isolation is over anyway.

 

[LizVegas79]

Thanks for the kind and welcoming words Liz.

I’ll be happy to add some of our awesome as well as a few not so good experiences. Right now, we don’t actively swing because we found it so difficult for all 4 to connect. It became like dating but 4x as difficult. Over time, we morphed into the hotwife scene then to more of an open relationship which is where we are now

Take care
Jack

Yikes! That was kind of one of the things I was worried about. Dating all over again but even MORE complicated!

I hope that our experience doesn't evolve (devolve?) into simply an open relationship. One of the things that attracts me the most is the sharing and togetherness that has already brought us closer. Even if we never do anything like this again, we will always have and remember and share over and over and over again our one special Saturday night.

So what happened? You had a regular couple that you and your wife swung with but it got messy? Messy how if you don't mind me asking?

Not opposed, but the opportunity has never arisen. My wife, like JerseyJade, is not comfortable with the idea due to insecurities. I might have them as well if actually presented with the situation, but hard to say.

One of her best friends is a swinger and said that if my wife ever allowed it, let her know. She'd be happy to introduce me to it. Not something I'll find out.

Of course, I'd be content to just have sex. But as the time goes on, that seems unlikely too, so this is even more a remote fantasy

I'm sorry to hear that. It seems from everything those with more experience have shared that all parties definitely have to be in agreement for anything like this to work. If you're still interested in sex but your wife isn't, that's the first conversation I would suggest you try having. You'll never know where it might go from there unless you talk with her about having and not having sex first.

My problem is that while I'd like to join in swinging, my wife went off sex 2 decades ago, so not even I get my leg over with her.

Any suggestions for a solution?

Hmm, the only thing I suggest is what I suggested for 13F - try to have a conversation about sex with your wife and see where it goes from there. Listen carefully to what she says, particularly why it no longer interests her and then don't be afraid to share that it still is something that you want and need.

Good luck.

 

[LizVegas79]

We have been in the lifestyle several years and enjoy the scene!!

Jellie!

Best part?

Worst part?

Have you had any experiences like what Cobra mentioned (a complicated group dating dynamic) or what anyone else has shared?

I think bf and I have personalities and inclinations well suited to this, but I dont wanna catch something or get pregant.

Those are two big issues to think about and plan for when you come up with Your List of Rules.

One of the big bene's of going with friends as opposed to strangers is you know in advance their basic lifestyle choices and hygiene. Also, you can have a more honest up front discussion about recent medical checkups, birth control and stuff like that with friends that you already have established great, open and honest lines of communication with. (you should also have a pretty good sense of where the other couple's relationship is at - are they close and super loving towards each other (good) or do they quarrel a lot and seem to have a rocky relationship (bad).

Fifty5 had some great suggestions too.

Choose carefully, find a blood ,or better, platelet donor who's had a vasectomy. Those donors are tested before every donation. Vasectomy blokes can't make you preggers cos their tubes are cut, so their spunk carries no sperm cells.

Take me for example!

GREAT ADVICE!!!

Heh. Idk maybe. Nothing is happening till this self isolation is over anyway.

Actually that's exactly when it DID happen for us so never say never LOL

 

[LizVegas79]

Someone (she shall remain anonymous unless she chooses otherwise) recently asked me if I consider myself a "hot wife" now.

idk - I'm sort of liking not officially being in the club yet since hub's hasn't been in the room watching me with someone else yet. I mean, if technically that's what it takes to be considered "a hot wife" then technically I kind of have something to work towards and look forward to, right?

I've actually had this conversation with him too. I asked him, "Do you know what a hot wife is?" and he said "Yes, you." (after 10+ yrs of marriage he can still make me blush and roll my eyes at the same time ). I told him no, not quite and went on to explain the definition as it as been explained here and elsewhere on Lit. (I left out where I was getting my information from lol)

He then asked me if I wanted to be a hot wife and I told him only if he wanted one. He said he does, so I guess my official membership in the club is TBD - which is good enough for me!

What do the rest of you think? Is the voyeuristic watching or physically sharing the main requirement for being considered a hot wife?

 

[Deacon_Voss]

Someone (she shall remain anonymous unless she chooses otherwise) recently asked me if I consider myself a "hot wife" now.

idk - I'm sort of liking not officially being in the club yet since hub's hasn't been in the room watching me with someone else yet. I mean, if technically that's what it takes to be considered "a hot wife" then technically I kind of have something to work towards and look forward to, right?

I've actually had this conversation with him too. I asked him, "Do you know what a hot wife is?" and he said "Yes, you." (after 10+ yrs of marriage he can still make me blush and roll my eyes at the same time ). I told him no, not quite and went on to explain the definition as it as been explained here and elsewhere on Lit. (I left out where I was getting my information from lol)

He then asked me if I wanted to be a hot wife and I told him only if he wanted one. He said he does, so I guess my official membership in the club is TBD - which is good enough for me!

What do the rest of you think? Is the voyeuristic watching or physically sharing the main requirement for being considered a hot wife?

Sorry, I totally disagree.

A hot wife is any wife someone finds hot. Let's not complicate the simple things, lol. What makes a wife hot? Everything she does can make her one. Is she fun in the kitchen Does she slip into your shower when you least expect it? Does she take a little extra time to make you feel loved or wanted?

Shit, and a zillion other reasons can make a hot wife. Liz, you've been a hot wife for as long as I've known you, lol. Your husband is right

 

[dz2681]

For someone like me who has a lot of insecurities, yeah, that would be one of the reasons. I do admit that I get a little jealous, a little angry and feel a little threatened when I see a woman checking out my man, so I can't imagine how I would feel if I knew my man was having sex with another woman, even if I was having sex with another man at the same time. I know it wouldn't be good.

So for someone like me, sharing our partners would probably cause more harm than good. I think couples who feel secure enough with themselves and have a strong relationship with each other, well then I can see it work for them. It just comes down to trust and faith in that having sex with other people would not damage your relationship with your partner. In my case, I think it would.

Maybe what I said is a double standard, but I was just keeping it real. Even if my man suggested that I have sex with one of his friends, I would get very suspicious, because then I would think that would give him a reason to have sex with another woman if he wanted to.

Okay, enough said. What do I know anyway.

My wife falls into this same category as you Jade. In the beginning when I brought up her and someone else she was very hesitant and wouldn’t open up to the idea but over time it became a very hot role play for us where she started to be more acceptant and open to the idea, even sharing many names of people she’s thought about or lusted for. Although she has said she would want to see me with another woman she does have that jealous side and I know it would become an issue after the fact. I think in the moment things would be ok but there would be a lot to worry about after. I’m fine with her being with someone else as long as I know about it and she’s open with me. We’ve started down the hotwife path a few years back and she’s played around with a few guys in that time, only oral and touching not full sex yet but hoping to see that happen. It’s a turn on to see her let loose and be able to take in her full arousal seeing her in action with another person. Do you think you or your partner would be more in lines with the hotwife lifestyle as well?

 

[dz2681]

I still tingle whenever I relive those first hesitant, tender touches from this past Saturday ....

https://66.media.tumblr.com/a116b98d0fc90950088079234959478f/tumblr_onl8j4qgQZ1rvt47eo1_540.gifv

First one hand gently running down my back as I heard my name whispered ...

... then another brushing the side of my face and threading my hair between his fingers ....

... then a third hand caressing my ass as my ankles were kicked wider apart ....

... then a fourth hand brushing the other side of my face and gripping my hair ....

... and then the flower of my womanhood being penetrated by a long, fat, pulsing spear ....

... as the warm mushroom tip of another bulbous, marble cock pushed between my lips and down my throat until I could barely breathe ....

(my first orgasm was almost instantaneous since I had been jilling myself before all this while we were all talking and agreeing on the rules of our little party for almost an hour out on the couches in the living room)

Sounds like a very hot time Liz, congrats on the experience... although this tease of events has me wishing for more explicit details lol

 

[Leigh81]

I would consider a hot wife as a woman who has sex with other men while the hubby stays loyal. I guess the entire swing community is on pause for the foreseeable future.
We have actually talked about all this the last few days.
We'll never go back to the hot wife thing. Personally I was majorly turned off by how easy it was for my husband to want to share me. How could he just give me up so easily.....does he even really love me...... those were my thoughts.
I was in a bi sexual relationship with our 3rd for about 6 months before my husband got involved. I was literally sick to my stomach at first sharing him with the most trusted person. Coming up 5 years later it has worked out almost perfectly.

We may or may not go to a swing club in the future. It is on the bucket list
If my GF leaves our arrangement we'd probably be just a "normal couple" with no extra play for awhile. We both agree that we'd go the swap route again with one other couple. We had that but they got out when they were planning on having a family which they now do.
Never say never plus opportunities present themselves all the time. Hope what I wrote makes some kind of sense as I'm multitasking at the moment.

 

[hairball18]

I would consider a hot wife as a woman who has sex with other men while the hubby stays loyal. I guess the entire swing community is on pause for the foreseeable future.
We have actually talked about all this the last few days.
We'll never go back to the hot wife thing. Personally I was majorly turned off by how easy it was for my husband to want to share me. How could he just give me up so easily.....does he even really love me...... those were my thoughts.
I was in a bi sexual relationship with our 3rd for about 6 months before my husband got involved. I was literally sick to my stomach at first sharing him with the most trusted person. Coming up 5 years later it has worked out almost perfectly.

We may or may not go to a swing club in the future. It is on the bucket list
If my GF leaves our arrangement we'd probably be just a "normal couple" with no extra play for awhile. We both agree that we'd go the swap route again with one other couple. We had that but they got out when they were planning on having a family which they now do.
Never say never plus opportunities present themselves all the time. Hope what I wrote makes some kind of sense as I'm multitasking at the moment.

Sweetie, you could never be just normal.

 

[blade_rocknut]

Someone (she shall remain anonymous unless she chooses otherwise) recently asked me if I consider myself a "hot wife" now.

idk - I'm sort of liking not officially being in the club yet since hub's hasn't been in the room watching me with someone else yet. I mean, if technically that's what it takes to be considered "a hot wife" then technically I kind of have something to work towards and look forward to, right?

I've actually had this conversation with him too. I asked him, "Do you know what a hot wife is?" and he said "Yes, you." (after 10+ yrs of marriage he can still make me blush and roll my eyes at the same time ). I told him no, not quite and went on to explain the definition as it as been explained here and elsewhere on Lit. (I left out where I was getting my information from lol)

He then asked me if I wanted to be a hot wife and I told him only if he wanted one. He said he does, so I guess my official membership in the club is TBD - which is good enough for me!

What do the rest of you think? Is the voyeuristic watching or physically sharing the main requirement for being considered a hot wife?

Sorry, I totally disagree.

A hot wife is any wife someone finds hot. Let's not complicate the simple things, lol. What makes a wife hot? Everything she does can make her one. Is she fun in the kitchen Does she slip into your shower when you least expect it? Does she take a little extra time to make you feel loved or wanted?

Shit, and a zillion other reasons can make a hot wife. Liz, you've been a hot wife for as long as I've known you, lol. Your husband is right

Being a bit of a semantic stickler, I'm compelled to confirm that "hot wife" in this context has a definition wholly different than that of the two words being used together as adjective and noun elsewhere. Besides referring to a woman herself, the term likewise denotes the relationship she has with her male partner.
Hotwives get all the extra curricular sex. The mate is either not involved at all, or only in a facilitating capacity. He gets no direct pleasure, only the indirect pleasure of knowing she's satisfied.
Her counterpart is often a cuckold, getting off on the demeaning nature of the arrangement.

This is a little different from Stag and Vixen arrangements, where the male may indeed be involved and isn't regarded as a beta, submissive, cuck, or similar. The stag partner still has sex with the vixen, maybe or maybe not in conjunction with the extra curriculars.

So much specificity..and fringing on fetish territory.

Liz, I suggest reading up on this a bit more; confirm for yourself that I didn't drunkenly misinterpret my own study of the topic.
When we first joined SDC, I read articles and watched videos like a fiend, because I didn't know what so much of this stuff meant, and I hate looking foolish. (Said the guy in mascara and panties)

Using the wrong label in the lifestyle will definitely get you attention you don't want, and may also preclude that which you desire.

 

[blade_rocknut]

I would consider a hot wife as a woman who has sex with other men while the hubby stays loyal. I guess the entire swing community is on pause for the foreseeable future.
We have actually talked about all this the last few days.
We'll never go back to the hot wife thing. Personally I was majorly turned off by how easy it was for my husband to want to share me. How could he just give me up so easily.....does he even really love me...... those were my thoughts.
I was in a bi sexual relationship with our 3rd for about 6 months before my husband got involved. I was literally sick to my stomach at first sharing him with the most trusted person. Coming up 5 years later it has worked out almost perfectly.

We may or may not go to a swing club in the future. It is on the bucket list
If my GF leaves our arrangement we'd probably be just a "normal couple" with no extra play for awhile. We both agree that we'd go the swap route again with one other couple. We had that but they got out when they were planning on having a family which they now do.
Never say never plus opportunities present themselves all the time. Hope what I wrote makes some kind of sense as I'm multitasking at the moment.

I know it's a fool's errand to hop in someone else's headspace, but I don't think a man giving up his wife is in any way indicative of his lack of love or concern. I let my ex have her sapphic fling without my attendance, because it's what she felt she needed, and I couldn't provide it. I wanted her fulfilled, and I was thrilled and turned on to see her glowing with anticipation and later, contentment.

I realize you're completely entitled to feel the way you do; just wanted to reiterate that many, if not most guys share their wives as a gesture of trust and generosity; not indifference.

 

[LizVegas79]

Sorry, I totally disagree.

A hot wife is any wife someone finds hot. Let's not complicate the simple things, lol. What makes a wife hot? Everything she does can make her one. Is she fun in the kitchen Does she slip into your shower when you least expect it? Does she take a little extra time to make you feel loved or wanted?

Shit, and a zillion other reasons can make a hot wife. Liz, you've been a hot wife for as long as I've known you, lol. Your husband is right

Thanks, Deacon.

My wife falls into this same category as you Jade. In the beginning when I brought up her and someone else she was very hesitant and wouldn’t open up to the idea but over time it became a very hot role play for us where she started to be more acceptant and open to the idea, even sharing many names of people she’s thought about or lusted for. Although she has said she would want to see me with another woman she does have that jealous side and I know it would become an issue after the fact. I think in the moment things would be ok but there would be a lot to worry about after. I’m fine with her being with someone else as long as I know about it and she’s open with me. We’ve started down the hotwife path a few years back and she’s played around with a few guys in that time, only oral and touching not full sex yet but hoping to see that happen. It’s a turn on to see her let loose and be able to take in her full arousal seeing her in action with another person. Do you think you or your partner would be more in lines with the hotwife lifestyle as well?

As just a side note, attitudes can change over time. Especially when discussed in an open, honest, loving, caring relationship. It took my husband over 4 yrs to come around to being okay with me being with another guy. And then poof! It wasn't even my idea anymore! lol

There's no right or wrong about this stuff. Only what is okay and not okay with BOTH and ALL parties in the relationship.

Sounds like a very hot time Liz, congrats on the experience... although this tease of events has me wishing for more explicit details lol

More explicit? What is this? Some sort of porn thread?

(I thought I was pretty explicit lol. No?)

I would consider a hot wife as a woman who has sex with other men while the hubby stays loyal. I guess the entire swing community is on pause for the foreseeable future.
We have actually talked about all this the last few days.
We'll never go back to the hot wife thing. Personally I was majorly turned off by how easy it was for my husband to want to share me. How could he just give me up so easily.....does he even really love me...... those were my thoughts.
I was in a bi sexual relationship with our 3rd for about 6 months before my husband got involved. I was literally sick to my stomach at first sharing him with the most trusted person. Coming up 5 years later it has worked out almost perfectly.

We may or may not go to a swing club in the future. It is on the bucket list
If my GF leaves our arrangement we'd probably be just a "normal couple" with no extra play for awhile. We both agree that we'd go the swap route again with one other couple. We had that but they got out when they were planning on having a family which they now do.
Never say never plus opportunities present themselves all the time. Hope what I wrote makes some kind of sense as I'm multitasking at the moment.

That's a really interesting point, Leigh. I haven't admitted it on here before but actually my husband's reluctance to share me over the past 4yrs was a major turn on and did in a lot of ways make me love him even more because I knew how much he cared (note: there is a BIG difference between love and frustration and they can BOTH co-exist at the same time too!)

I kind of have the feeling we will eventually settle into something close to what you and your husband share. A third who is bi-female who either lives with us or is an important part of our lives outside of the bedroom too.

I do love the idea of spontaneous vacation sex with strangers though. Like you say, never say never, right?

Being a bit of a semantic stickler, I'm compelled to confirm that "hot wife" in this context has a definition wholly different than that of the two words being used together as adjective and noun elsewhere. Besides referring to a woman herself, the term likewise denotes the relationship she has with her male partner.
Hotwives get all the extra curricular sex. The mate is either not involved at all, or only in a facilitating capacity. He gets no direct pleasure, only the indirect pleasure of knowing she's satisfied.
Her counterpart is often a cuckold, getting off on the demeaning nature of the arrangement.

This is a little different from Stag and Vixen arrangements, where the male may indeed be involved and isn't regarded as a beta, submissive, cuck, or similar. The stag partner still has sex with the vixen, maybe or maybe not in conjunction with the extra curriculars.

So much specificity..and fringing on fetish territory.

Liz, I suggest reading up on this a bit more; confirm for yourself that I didn't drunkenly misinterpret my own study of the topic.
When we first joined SDC, I read articles and watched videos like a fiend, because I didn't know what so much of this stuff meant, and I hate looking foolish. (Said the guy in mascara and panties)

Using the wrong label in the lifestyle will definitely get you attention you don't want, and may also preclude that which you desire.

I agree. Using the right words within a larger pre-existing community that has its own agreed upon terminologies and definitions is important. Right now we (my husband and I) are just newbies to the swing "lifestyle". I am far more comfortable with the term "swingers" than I am with the label "hot wife" so I plan to avoid using the latter at least for now.

But equally important, for the time being at least, we have no plans to explore beyond our immediate circle of friends and close acquaintances so what we call ourselves and each other is pretty much up to us. So far "his slut" and "her stud" have been working great.

 

[blade_rocknut]

I find this thread refreshing, honestly. So many of us have done a little here and there, whether or not we're officially "in the lifestyle". It's not an easy subject to broach with your friends. Unless of course, you're boning your friends.

 

[Leigh81]

I know it's a fool's errand to hop in someone else's headspace, but I don't think a man giving up his wife is in any way indicative of his lack of love or concern. I let my ex have her sapphic fling without my attendance, because it's what she felt she needed, and I couldn't provide it. I wanted her fulfilled, and I was thrilled and turned on to see her glowing with anticipation and later, contentment.

I realize you're completely entitled to feel the way you do; just wanted to reiterate that many, if not most guys share their wives as a gesture of trust and generosity; not indifference.

Our hot wife experience was our first time exploring outside of our marriage. I had never been with anyone else but my husband up until then. My thinking was a man fights for his woman, not give her away. This is what went through my head afterwards. Back then I was a big hell no he's ever getting another woman as well.
Nowadays I'm gone for 4 months straight. He's down there a total of 7-8 weeks of that time (3 trips). My GF is down for 4-5 weeks (2 trips). They're together without me for a period of time & now I don't have the trust issues anymore.
In hindsight I believe we should of kept the hotwife thing at the fantasy stage for awhile longer.
I have a completely different outlook now than back in those days.

 

[LizVegas79]

I find this thread refreshing, honestly. So many of us have done a little here and there, whether or not we're officially "in the lifestyle". It's not an easy subject to broach with your friends. Unless of course, you're boning your friends.

I'm glad it has evolved like it has. At first I was a little concerned because I got some hate PM's calling me a bragging, self-centered bitch among other things.

But this experience is so different for everybody any kind of judgement on it is what seems self-centered and stupid to me. It's obvious just from what people have shared on here already that we all arrived "in the lifestyle" differently and from different places.

Even within our small group (the 3 couples that participated) there have been vastly different reactions and after feelings. All good fortunately. But all good in different ways.

So interesting. Thank you again everyone for sharing

Our hot wife experience was our first time exploring outside of our marriage. I had never been with anyone else but my husband up until then. My thinking was a man fights for his woman, not give her away. This is what went through my head afterwards. Back then I was a big hell no he's ever getting another woman as well.
Nowadays I'm gone for 4 months straight. He's down there a total of 7-8 weeks of that time (3 trips). My GF is down for 4-5 weeks (2 trips). They're together without me for a period of time & now I don't have the trust issues anymore.
In hindsight I believe we should of kept the hotwife thing at the fantasy stage for awhile longer.
I have a completely different outlook now than back in those days.

Isn't it interesting how our feelings and attitudes can change over time?

One thing I'm probably foolishly trying to do with this thread and by reading others like it, is to anticipate some of those feelings and attitudes that may arise or change for me, my husband and our friends. Both those we're currently playing with and those who have found out (or will eventually find out) and want to.

Our guest list for our next get together is already getting a little complicated! To be honest, I'm not even sure my husband and I will even be on it. So there's that to deal with too!

 

[fifty5]

In my humble opinion the arrangement can be anything you and your partner like. Just make sure that both of you have equal opportunities. My wife and I talked it out about three years after we married. The rule we came up with was that we had to ask each other before we screwed another lover and if we wanted we could veto the new lover. That put us both in control of the other's extra marital sex, but since we might also want equal freedom to take someone new to bed, it felt fair to let the other have the opportunity we may want ourselves, not to veto anyone just cos they weren't part of our marriage (only cos they were personally undesirable in some other way). I was the one who first wanted sex with another woman - which prompted the discussion - my wife gave me her permission, but the other woman wouldn't accept me. Alltogether, my wife had my OK 6 times - and scored with the other bloke every time. One is still our friend, though my wife no longer has sex with him, but he bought our canal boat & is still paying for that. I've had my wife's OK many more times than that, but only managed to have sex with three - in fact with one of them I broke the rule, it was just a hand & mouth job both ways, but my wife & I had already established the fact that we could trust one another, so my wife gave her OK after the event (the sex occurred when the department we both worked for closed down and it was at the end of the closing down party, so I only had the choice between saying yes tor no to the lass and I liked the lass & didn't want to seem ungrateful for the offer she made - I made her cum & she tried but failed with me.)

I can't even remember the other lovers (except one, she still lives with us), which demonstrates that our arrangement worked. It proves to me that if you love and trust your spouse - and talk about any variation from the monogamous rule that Christian churches make then MOST IMPORTANT follow the rules that your spouse makes, any arrangement can work: swinging, extramarital sex, or orgies (yes we had one of those, at the end of a joint birthday party).

If such interests you, talk to your spouse about it, point out that the benefits float both ways, it is not just a treat for you, then I hope that you will be as lucky as I have been!

Just for interest, we are coming up to our Golden Wedding anniversary next year. The fact that you really love and trust your spouse, to have extramarital sex, if they want, should make them love you more and give you the same opportunities!

Being broad minded pays off, it is likely to get you what you want too!!

One advantage we had was that neither of us were virgins when we got together, so we both knew that having fucked another in the past didn't diminish our love for each other. Given that, it seemed reasonable to extend the past to the future - and we have found that that worked for us.

 

[dz2681]

Has your husband asked for any details on what happened or is he more the don’t ask don’t tell type? Have you two discussed being in the same room and swapping or kind of taking things as they cum? I think part of the turn on for some would be being able to witness their partner as they experienced another person.

 

[LizVegas79]

Has your husband asked for any details on what happened or is he more the don’t ask don’t tell type? Have you two discussed being in the same room and swapping or kind of taking things as they cum? I think part of the turn on for some would be being able to witness their partner as they experienced another person.

Who are you asking?

Me or someone else?

 

[LizVegas79]

If "hot husband" is not a thing

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it should be

 

[dz2681]

Who are you asking?

Me or someone else?

Sorry, didn’t clarify. Yes was actually intended for you Liz.

 

[LizVegas79]

Has your husband asked for any details on what happened or is he more the don’t ask don’t tell type? Have you two discussed being in the same room and swapping or kind of taking things as they cum? I think part of the turn on for some would be being able to witness their partner as they experienced another person.

Oh that's what the "second round" was all about - reconnecting while reclaiming. I told him all about being with his two friends and he told me about being with my friend and her husband. After we got home I told him most, but not all, of what went on between me and my other friend and her husband. But yeah, he loves hearing all the deets! (just like me!)

We've discussed being in the same room together the next time maybe. He's still not super comfortable with it though so yeah we'll just take things as they come and decide as we go I guess for now.

I agree. Whenever we've been with another woman together I've thoroughly enjoyed watching them together. Watching his reactions and her reactions and getting right in there to help them along. I love watching him with another woman and I imagine I would love watching him and another guy or group of guys with another woman too. So far though, he likes thinking of me with another guy (or guys) but it hasn't become a reality just quite yet.

 

[LizVegas79]

Wish I had something new to add to this but I don't.

Well, I do actually but it's not about me, it's about someone else so I'm not going to share it anymore than I already have.

* bumping though! *

Anyone have any thoughts or experiences chatting/working with your swap partners in the weeks and months AFTER a "party"?

 

[Gamine67]

Okay Lizzie it looks like it’s just you and me again.

First of all with all the hims, hers, thems, those, these and maybe a thou or two; I need a Ven chart for reference.

Who’s on first? Yes.
Yes what?
No! What’s on second....

While speaking purely hypothetically, it’s important to recognize if you’re predominantly a “scene” collector; as in a “one and done” couple or “Social” lifestyle participant.

In that classic movie “Bob, Carol, Ted & Alice” they we’re definitely the “social” type lifestyle players while Alan Alda & Helen Burstyn in “Same Time Next Year” were a one night stand that was rinsed and repeated annually.

(That actually has nothing to do with swinging but I thought I’d plug the movie)

For “scene” collectors “Burning Man” is a good example (hypothetically) but if you need a movie reference I direct your attention to those crazy hippie kids in Woodstock. (Who are probably 70+ today ).

So, my fella has to wait outside when the gynecologist is doing a tuneup but if anyone else were to be fiddling under the hood I want my guy within arms reach, or at least close enough to kick.

Whew, nothing like a bad metaphor to dive straight in to TL/DR country.

So, are there better mainstream movies depicting “The Lifestyle”? If so, let me know I seem to have a smattering of spare time on my hands.

BTW: My favorite ice cream flavor is vanilla and that is not hypothetical.

 

[LizVegas79]

Okay Lizzie it looks like it’s just you and me again.

First of all with all the hims, hers, thems, those, these and maybe a thou or two; I need a Ven chart for reference.

Who’s on first? Yes.
Yes what?
No! What’s on second....

While speaking purely hypothetically, it’s important to recognize if you’re predominantly a “scene” collector; as in a “one and done” couple or “Social” lifestyle participant.

In that classic movie “Bob, Carol, Ted & Alice” they we’re definitely the “social” type lifestyle players while Alan Alda & Helen Burstyn in “Same Time Next Year” were a one night stand that was rinsed and repeated annually.

(That actually has nothing to do with swinging but I thought I’d plug the movie)

For “scene” collectors “Burning Man” is a good example (hypothetically) but if you need a movie reference I direct your attention to those crazy hippie kids in Woodstock. (Who are probably 70+ today ).

So, my fella has to wait outside when the gynecologist is doing a tuneup but if anyone else were to be fiddling under the hood I want my guy within arms reach, or at least close enough to kick.

Whew, nothing like a bad metaphor to dive straight in to TL/DR country.

So, are there better mainstream movies depicting “The Lifestyle”? If so, let me know I seem to have a smattering of spare time on my hands.

BTW: My favorite ice cream flavor is vanilla and that is not hypothetical.

Oh that's a great point!

Is swapping/swinging a Bucket List item or lifestyle choice?

So far for me I guess it's just been a Bucket List item - although I'm hoping it's not just a "one and done"

And movies/TV shows, yes! What are some good movies about "the lifestyle"?

One that comes to my mind is "We Are The Millers" - very funny take on it, although the movies was more about drug smuggling than it was swinging.

Any others that anyone can think of?