too long a virgin....now what
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Re: Re: Zergplex Says
'Things will work out' for me? You make it sound like it's a bad thing ^_^ I am perfectly fine with waiting, both CG and I have our needs satisfied by each other in ways other then penetration. When we do have sex someday it will be an amazing thing, but waiting isn't a punishment for us. There are so many other ways to experiment that waiting isn't really a problem.
-Zergplex
Cazper said:You can still provide support Zerg... in fact I can think of something you could support
Sorry for the bad inuendo... I'm sure once you are ready things will work out for you... sex is best when it's with the one you love
Good Luck!!!
'Things will work out' for me? You make it sound like it's a bad thing ^_^ I am perfectly fine with waiting, both CG and I have our needs satisfied by each other in ways other then penetration. When we do have sex someday it will be an amazing thing, but waiting isn't a punishment for us. There are so many other ways to experiment that waiting isn't really a problem.
-Zergplex
I do wish we could banish the term (and even more the concept) of "loosing" ones virginity. It makes as much sense as "loosing" teenage acne. This does not mean that men and women should not be choosy about whom they fuck -- first time or bazillionth time.
Ideally the first time should be with a very experienced partner, something that is harder for men than women becasue of the prejudice against older women/younger men relations. For these older virgins, an experienced younger man should not be that hard to find.
Good luck
Ideally the first time should be with a very experienced partner, something that is harder for men than women becasue of the prejudice against older women/younger men relations. For these older virgins, an experienced younger man should not be that hard to find.
Good luck
i'm 29 yr old virgin...not wanting to be one anymore
hey there, i'm marc, i'm looking to no longer be a virgin as well. i thought i had it bad at 29, i masturbate a lot and surf for porn, i'd really love the real deal...no such luck yet...if you think this sounds like an interesting offer, let me know....flylo95@yahoo.com
hey there, i'm marc, i'm looking to no longer be a virgin as well. i thought i had it bad at 29, i masturbate a lot and surf for porn, i'd really love the real deal...no such luck yet...if you think this sounds like an interesting offer, let me know....flylo95@yahoo.com
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I've been watching this thread. And biting my tongue. Honestly - I want to shout out 'Just Do IT'! Go out - find a suitable guy - and get it out of the way already. It might prevent you from falling in love with (or worse) marrying the wrong man just because you want to loose your virginity. Just keep in mind: for (MANY) men sex does not equal love. For (many) women it does. Keep your eyes wide open. Only you can decide what is right for you.
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Re: Zergplex Says
I am trying to be a bit more p/c in my old old age.
Zergplex said:
I am trying to be a bit more p/c in my old old age.
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Yea, just sign me up as well.
Though, I'm not much older than 20. (I'm 21.) A school might not be a bad idea! Is there an application?
I was a virgin until I married, but ashamed of it. Still am, that I could not get anyone to fuck me sooner. That's not the REASON I got marrried, but it may have made me rush a bit before I understood that she was not that interested in sex.
Bottom line better to get rid of one's virginity ASAP so you can make a more informed decision about a long term relationship.
Bottom line better to get rid of one's virginity ASAP so you can make a more informed decision about a long term relationship.
Zergplex Says
Sex does not mean you will make a more informed decision. Experiance and knowledge does, many people who I know have had sex for years and still don't know what their partner's wants and desires are, and what they need from each other sexually (as well as in other ways). Meanwhile I practice abstinence (from penetration, to specify before confusion sets in) and my darling and I have a pretty good grasp on what each other need and want sexually as well as in other ways.
Simply stated being a virgin until marriage does not mean you are making an ignorant choice, it does mean that if you do not try and learn what your partner wants before the marriage bed. If your longest conversation about sex is 'missionary or doggy style for our wedding night?' then you probubly should do ALOT more talkig before that marriage night.
-Zergplex
vargas111 said:
Sex does not mean you will make a more informed decision. Experiance and knowledge does, many people who I know have had sex for years and still don't know what their partner's wants and desires are, and what they need from each other sexually (as well as in other ways). Meanwhile I practice abstinence (from penetration, to specify before confusion sets in) and my darling and I have a pretty good grasp on what each other need and want sexually as well as in other ways.
Simply stated being a virgin until marriage does not mean you are making an ignorant choice, it does mean that if you do not try and learn what your partner wants before the marriage bed. If your longest conversation about sex is 'missionary or doggy style for our wedding night?' then you probubly should do ALOT more talkig before that marriage night.
-Zergplex
Zergplex, I think your situation is a bit different since you already have that special someone. The fact that your two are still waiting is admirable.
I can't speak for everyone here but personally the problem is not that I'm 25 and still a virgin. Its more the fact that I have yet to really meet anyone who I feel I'd like to have sex with.
Obviously there's girls I've seen and thought...man I'd love to do her, (even dated a couple like that) but I wouldn't because I could not feel anything special for them.
I just wonder sometimes if the whole wait for the special person is a defense mechanism. Perhaps the ideal woman I am waiting for does not really exist. Its a bit of a head trip at times and time will tell what happens. I'm still hopeful as it doesn't bother me much just yet.
I can't speak for everyone here but personally the problem is not that I'm 25 and still a virgin. Its more the fact that I have yet to really meet anyone who I feel I'd like to have sex with.
Obviously there's girls I've seen and thought...man I'd love to do her, (even dated a couple like that) but I wouldn't because I could not feel anything special for them.
I just wonder sometimes if the whole wait for the special person is a defense mechanism. Perhaps the ideal woman I am waiting for does not really exist. Its a bit of a head trip at times and time will tell what happens. I'm still hopeful as it doesn't bother me much just yet.
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Yes, this is exactly my problem as well. Except I'm 21, not 25. I've certainly dated men to whom I've felt an attraction ... the feelings just never extended beyond the physical. I'm not even talking about waiting for love, just a deeper connection than merely skimming the surface of a person.
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TamedTiger said:
You two seem to have the right idea, waiting for someone you have feelings for (not that there's anything wrong with not waiting either). Bystander, if you're worried about not finding your "ideal" woman, you may want to think about how there are many ideal people who come into our lives at different times, and the true ideal might just be a woman you love at the moment.
All the varying thoughts are very interesting.
Crazybbwgirl - that's what i want to do - just don't know very many guys. Plus, I don't exactly look like a model.
I think the women posting who are in their early 20s are doing the right thing - when you meet someone who catches more than just your eye, then go for it! Otherwise, there is nothing wrong with waiting.
At my age, I'm not worried about confusing love with lust - I just want to enjoy the latter more I'm not looking for marriage - just fun and experimenting.
Crazybbwgirl - that's what i want to do - just don't know very many guys. Plus, I don't exactly look like a model.
I think the women posting who are in their early 20s are doing the right thing - when you meet someone who catches more than just your eye, then go for it! Otherwise, there is nothing wrong with waiting.
At my age, I'm not worried about confusing love with lust - I just want to enjoy the latter more
I'm not looking for marriage - just fun and experimenting.
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Making the decision to have sex can be a difficult one - virgin or not.
I believe the following:
Sex without love, with a mere acquaintance or stranger is possible, and can be a great deal of fun. Because sex is an emotionally vulnerable act, one must be tremendously sure and aware of oneself if one is to participate in what might be described as recreational sex. Or a total, complete, unfeeling idiot. Nobody here seems to meet the latter definition.
Sex among friends is possible. Again, this requires emotional maturity and a clear understanding of what is and is not to be expected. Because there is an emotional bond, although one short of marriage/partnership/civil union, this kind of sex can be a great deal of fun.
Sex with a lover is best. When there is a deep emotional commitment sex is the best. It can become a spiritual sharing as well as a physical sharing.
For the first time, one of the latter two kinds of sex is best in my mind. The first time is frequently awkard and frustrating and can even be painful - physically and emotionally.
Be realistic when searching for a partner. Look at yourself and the people you typically associate with. Set your sights on someone who's like that - emotionally if not physically. (Yes, Barbie and Ken do fall in love with people who are not physically perfect, and if you are Barbie or Ken more power to you, but people with similar values and beliefs are probably going to be petter friends and partners.)
Remember that sex in real life is not like it is in the movies - the romances or the porns. Protect yourself against disease, and if you do not want to be known as Mom or Dad do something to make sure you don't get pregnant. If you're not ready to be Mom or Dad, and you don't choose sterilization as your birth control option, then you might not be ready for sex. All methods of birth control can fail. There's a responsibility that comes with that failure - however you choose to deal with it.
Most of all, love yourself, relax, and have fun. Sex is wonderful and you deserve to have that wonderfulness however you choose it - complete abstinence, masturbation, non-penetrative activities, full penetration or something else.
I believe the following:
Sex without love, with a mere acquaintance or stranger is possible, and can be a great deal of fun. Because sex is an emotionally vulnerable act, one must be tremendously sure and aware of oneself if one is to participate in what might be described as recreational sex. Or a total, complete, unfeeling idiot. Nobody here seems to meet the latter definition.
Sex among friends is possible. Again, this requires emotional maturity and a clear understanding of what is and is not to be expected. Because there is an emotional bond, although one short of marriage/partnership/civil union, this kind of sex can be a great deal of fun.
Sex with a lover is best. When there is a deep emotional commitment sex is the best. It can become a spiritual sharing as well as a physical sharing.
For the first time, one of the latter two kinds of sex is best in my mind. The first time is frequently awkard and frustrating and can even be painful - physically and emotionally.
Be realistic when searching for a partner. Look at yourself and the people you typically associate with. Set your sights on someone who's like that - emotionally if not physically. (Yes, Barbie and Ken do fall in love with people who are not physically perfect, and if you are Barbie or Ken more power to you, but people with similar values and beliefs are probably going to be petter friends and partners.)
Remember that sex in real life is not like it is in the movies - the romances or the porns. Protect yourself against disease, and if you do not want to be known as Mom or Dad do something to make sure you don't get pregnant. If you're not ready to be Mom or Dad, and you don't choose sterilization as your birth control option, then you might not be ready for sex. All methods of birth control can fail. There's a responsibility that comes with that failure - however you choose to deal with it.
Most of all, love yourself, relax, and have fun. Sex is wonderful and you deserve to have that wonderfulness however you choose it - complete abstinence, masturbation, non-penetrative activities, full penetration or something else.
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My 40 yr old virgin lover...
Hi ceevee, liza all other virgins.
I thought I'd add to this thread because I recently (actually, it was 2001) met a beautiful woman from Vietnam, aged 40 and virgin. We became good friends and in time she encouraged me to get closer to her, overcoming certain professional barriers that I have always respected.
We became closer and in time we became lovers, not love-making lovers yet. She told me that she is a virgin and this is mainly due to the moral climate in Hue where she lived. Later, we went to bed and although we did not make love, I was so thrilled to share such an affectionate night of touching, kissing, nakedness. I let her define the pace and she was happy that I did not make demands on her. For myself, I was amazed that such frustration is so pleasant!
Later, she permitted me to penetrate her with a finger, which was so difficult, despite her wetness as she was so small and I think, her vagina clamped tightly at my touch. Many weeks later, I managed to enter her body by helping her to relax. As my finger filled her, she became softer and gave her body to me. On many occassions after this, I thrilled myself by rubbing my long tool along her sex, giving both of us such pleasant sensations. One day, her short slim body laid beside me, I lifted her legs over my hips and rubbed her with my tingling cock-head. Watching her lovely face, I whispered that I wanted to enter her body. She simply nodded to me and pulled the duvet over her eyes in a childlike way.
I rested my tool on her tiny opening and applied a gentle pressure. My tip slipped against her entranced and kept the pressure there, constant and insisitent not to mention desperate! Slowly, the large tip moved into her. The sensation on my rod was so intense that I felt at times painful. I watched her closely, pulling the duvet away from her. Her tiny breasts, firm and pointed, rose in the air as she breathed calmly. I moved slowly, my heart full of love for her, looking for signs of pleasure or pain. After a few minutes, my aching tool was half way into her little hole and I could go no further. I moved in and out for a minute, slowly, trying to fill her body but also being so gentle.
After a minute she thrilled me by placing her hand on the shaft trying to fill her. Her finger tips slipped over my skin, tracing my rod until it disappeared inside her. I could not hold this back; almost painfully, my cock deliverd my love for her in violent bursts that belied my affection for her. I kept still as this happened desperate to make it last longer. As I gasped my passion, she gripped my thigh, reaching between her legs and held me in her.
Quickly, my tool softened and I felt that more of it was slipping into her, but I am sure that she was not really stretched any more. Later we talked about it and she said that she was ready for me to do this with her and so it was such a pleasant experience. Later we made love many times and explored her tiny body. We are still lovers and her beautiful body always excites us as we both try new experiences. You may have seen Huong's pictures in the "Small breasts" thread in the picture feedback forum. She is shy but may permit me to show more to the same forum later.
I hope that this adds to this thread.
Regards to all virgins.
avalon.
ps. My tip to you is not to rush it. If you have a close lover or friend who is caring and patient, it may happen sponteniously and will not be unpleasant and "dirty".
Hi ceevee, liza all other virgins.
I thought I'd add to this thread because I recently (actually, it was 2001) met a beautiful woman from Vietnam, aged 40 and virgin. We became good friends and in time she encouraged me to get closer to her, overcoming certain professional barriers that I have always respected.
We became closer and in time we became lovers, not love-making lovers yet. She told me that she is a virgin and this is mainly due to the moral climate in Hue where she lived. Later, we went to bed and although we did not make love, I was so thrilled to share such an affectionate night of touching, kissing, nakedness. I let her define the pace and she was happy that I did not make demands on her. For myself, I was amazed that such frustration is so pleasant!
Later, she permitted me to penetrate her with a finger, which was so difficult, despite her wetness as she was so small and I think, her vagina clamped tightly at my touch. Many weeks later, I managed to enter her body by helping her to relax. As my finger filled her, she became softer and gave her body to me. On many occassions after this, I thrilled myself by rubbing my long tool along her sex, giving both of us such pleasant sensations. One day, her short slim body laid beside me, I lifted her legs over my hips and rubbed her with my tingling cock-head. Watching her lovely face, I whispered that I wanted to enter her body. She simply nodded to me and pulled the duvet over her eyes in a childlike way.
I rested my tool on her tiny opening and applied a gentle pressure. My tip slipped against her entranced and kept the pressure there, constant and insisitent not to mention desperate! Slowly, the large tip moved into her. The sensation on my rod was so intense that I felt at times painful. I watched her closely, pulling the duvet away from her. Her tiny breasts, firm and pointed, rose in the air as she breathed calmly. I moved slowly, my heart full of love for her, looking for signs of pleasure or pain. After a few minutes, my aching tool was half way into her little hole and I could go no further. I moved in and out for a minute, slowly, trying to fill her body but also being so gentle.
After a minute she thrilled me by placing her hand on the shaft trying to fill her. Her finger tips slipped over my skin, tracing my rod until it disappeared inside her. I could not hold this back; almost painfully, my cock deliverd my love for her in violent bursts that belied my affection for her. I kept still as this happened desperate to make it last longer. As I gasped my passion, she gripped my thigh, reaching between her legs and held me in her.
Quickly, my tool softened and I felt that more of it was slipping into her, but I am sure that she was not really stretched any more. Later we talked about it and she said that she was ready for me to do this with her and so it was such a pleasant experience. Later we made love many times and explored her tiny body. We are still lovers and her beautiful body always excites us as we both try new experiences. You may have seen Huong's pictures in the "Small breasts" thread in the picture feedback forum. She is shy but may permit me to show more to the same forum later.
I hope that this adds to this thread.
Regards to all virgins.
avalon.
ps. My tip to you is not to rush it. If you have a close lover or friend who is caring and patient, it may happen sponteniously and will not be unpleasant and "dirty".
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avalon sunset:
You most certainly HAVE added to this thread. And now I must go off to the little girls room........ whew......
You most certainly HAVE added to this thread. And now I must go off to the little girls room........ whew......
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Thanks hon
Hi crazy!
Thanks for the encouraging rersponse. I wanted to share more about Huong and I, some of the most powerful sensual experiences I have ever known. I had to be careful as I have a feeling that there is a word-count limit. I do not know my way around here yet and I'm bothered by the 1000 word limit that stopped me from sharing some of my very erotic stories here, last year, when I first joined lit.
Anyway, thnx again.
Respect to all members.
avalon.
ps. is your avatar a pic of you? You look great!
XXX
Hi crazy!
Thanks for the encouraging rersponse. I wanted to share more about Huong and I, some of the most powerful sensual experiences I have ever known. I had to be careful as I have a feeling that there is a word-count limit. I do not know my way around here yet and I'm bothered by the 1000 word limit that stopped me from sharing some of my very erotic stories here, last year, when I first joined lit.
Anyway, thnx again.
Respect to all members.
avalon.
ps. is your avatar a pic of you? You look great!
XXX
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Re: Thanks hon
Yup - that's me! thank you. Write these stories down and submit them to the story board! They're great.
avalon_sunset said:
Yup - that's me! thank you. Write these stories down and submit them to the story board! They're great.
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I just want to tell Liza that she is not alone. I'm 'only' 23 but never had a g/f, no sex, no kissing, no holding hands.
This was one major point that resulted in a serious depression. But I can just tell that it IS in fact possible to make it and keep hope.
But the other thing that I found that just searching desperately for sex won't change a thing. I haven't found the answer myself yet.
Snoopy
This was one major point that resulted in a serious depression. But I can just tell that it IS in fact possible to make it and keep hope.
But the other thing that I found that just searching desperately for sex won't change a thing. I haven't found the answer myself yet.
Snoopy
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to all you "virgins"
I am not the most experienced guy for my age, but let me give you a little advice... you are better off waiting for the right moment than living by the nike motto of "just do it". the right person will come along sooner or later... it may be a friend, or just someone you are currently dating... whoever it is should experience the same kind of feelings about you as you do about them... then & only then will "losing" it feel right. until then masturbation may be the course for you.
I am not the most experienced guy for my age, but let me give you a little advice... you are better off waiting for the right moment than living by the nike motto of "just do it". the right person will come along sooner or later... it may be a friend, or just someone you are currently dating... whoever it is should experience the same kind of feelings about you as you do about them... then & only then will "losing" it feel right. until then masturbation may be the course for you.
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Re: still a virgin
Ha! That's my problem too! Sometimes I think it would be better to be emotionless, but emotion would make it so much better, wouldnt it? Of course, I cant really say that from experience, now can I?
liza146 said:
Ha! That's my problem too! Sometimes I think it would be better to be emotionless, but emotion would make it so much better, wouldnt it? Of course, I cant really say that from experience, now can I?
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