too long a virgin....now what

[Sarah Bethany]

Wow I was having one of those nights when I thought I was alone. My 24th birthday is 2 months away and I have yet to be even kissed.

I'm not necessarily waiting for marraige but I don't want a one night stand either. I would prefer to be with someone who at least cared about me which I hope is not too much to ask for. So far it seems to have been but I am not giving up hope.

 

[SnoopDog]

Wow I was having one of those nights when I thought I was alone. My 24th birthday is 2 months away and I have yet to be even kissed.

I'm not necessarily waiting for marraige but I don't want a one night stand either. I would prefer to be with someone who at least cared about me which I hope is not too much to ask for. So far it seems to have been but I am not giving up hope.

Amen to that.

Snoopy

 

[liza146]

is virginity a turn off? or turn on?

So to the more experienced members - men or women - is making love/having sex with a virgin after the teen age years a turn on or a turn off?

 

[Wolf31IL]

turn on

sometimes the longer a person has waited the better the experience

 

[avalon_sunset]

Neither turn on or turn off!

Hi Liza
Speaking for myself, after 57 summers on this Earth, and having a preference for mature woman, a virgin is rare, Huong, my lovely woman from Vietnam being an exception as she was still virgin at 40, when we met.

I must admit that I love all mature female bodies; I am not put off by stretch marks or other damage caused by age and childbirth. I utterly adore breasts that are softer than they were when the woman was a girl. I have spent hours with many gfs concentrating on their breasts, feeling the soft flesh, lifting them in my hands, (best from behind and looking down at them over her shoulder), tracing the various shapes and curves as I move her body and best of all, having them hang down over my face as we make love. Heaven! When my friends are happy with me adoring their boobs, they do not mind my continued attention. I love to describe my feelings and sensations to them as I greedily gaze at there naked flesh.

Anyway, I guess from what I have just said that I find experienced, mature females the best turn ons, but really I cannot generalise, as Huong gave me the most intense pleasure when we finally became intimate. (see my brief description in this thread.)

Luv
avalon.

 

[avalon_sunset]

You are right Sarah

Wow I was having one of those nights when I thought I was alone. My 24th birthday is 2 months away and I have yet to be even kissed.

I'm not necessarily waiting for marraige but I don't want a one night stand either. I would prefer to be with someone who at least cared about me which I hope is not too much to ask for. So far it seems to have been but I am not giving up hope.

Oh yes Sarah, I have gone off promiscuity; I would rather spend a whole night in bed with a female friend cuddling each other and developing a close, mentally-intimate relationship before making genital love. I am so fond of the frustration I feel during the early stage of a love affair before making love. Then, with a virgin, we can both make love deliberately, testing each other as we progress slowly. Ready to stop at any time, I will engage my new lover in the process gently and loveingly entering her willing, relaxed body; kissing her continuously.

Anyway, I have to leave this nice place, off to work again. (yawn!)
Love
avalon

 

[wicked woman]

Re: is virginity a turn off? or turn on?

Originally posted by liza146
So to the more experienced members - men or women - is making love/having sex with a virgin after the teen age years a turn on or a turn off?

neither...it just comes with the person you want to be with...it's who they are.

 

[Wolf31IL]

I agree wicked

but I still think virginity can still be a turn on...

 

[SnoopDog]

Re: I agree wicked

but I still think virginity can still be a turn on...

 

[wicked woman]

Re: I agree wicked

Originally posted by Wolf31IL
but I still think virginity can still be a turn on...

To each his own...I can't say it's been a turn on...wasn't a turn off either...but I will say I was always incredibly honoured when someone let me be their first.

 

[liza146]

So, let's say I meet someone and things go well - do I tell him first or just let nature take its course?

 

[Wolf31IL]

let nature take its course

if he's the right guy at the right time... you'll know it

 

[SweetErika]

So, let's say I meet someone and things go well - do I tell him first or just let nature take its course?

If you're scared or nervous, he might want to know why, and it'd be good to tell him so he can be gentle. Just be sure to know if it hurts or doesn't feel right at any time, stop. It's really up to you and how you feel. I don't know if I'd just tell him for the heck of it, but that might be a good thing (hopefully he'll work extra hard to give you a good first time). My husband says he might want to know so he could be more careful and check in with you, but he might be a little overwhelmed at the responsibility of showing you a good time. He's one of those really caring guys though.

 

[Bystander]

So, let's say I meet someone and things go well - do I tell him first or just let nature take its course?

From a guy's perspective its something I think that most of us would like to know first. But if you don't want to tell that's probably fine too. I think at that point we know we're getting what we want

 

[vargas111]

I think that for two virgins to have sex is very risky. One or the other should be experienced. I didn't know anything, but wanted to learn; my wife didn't either, but did not want to learn. I would have preferred a really experienced woman who knew what she wanted.

 

[purplepassion]

Hey Liza,Ceevee & virgin_so_Far,
It sooo good to see my fellow virgin over 30 women out there.Yes it hard & suck some times to be a virgin but ladies we survive this far with masturbation.(wink).I'm 34 yr old virgin .I'm in no rush to have vaginal sex.I want to be in a LTR or married.Ok thats out the way for now that still doesn't mean .I'm not going to explore my sexuality.I don't have a man in my life but i am talking to a man who wants sex with a commitment.I'm not on birth control.
Right now in my life i want to explore & i am going to explore with the right trusted man.I'm not going to let any man touch this body.You have to earn that right.Ladies least give a man or woman a chase to your body.Make them earn the right.So to make up for not having vaginal sex.I want to practice outercourse(sex without vaginal,anal or oral sex).I want to do mutral masturbation,body massage,cybersex,phone sex,hand job,breast play,putting a penis between my breast/breast intercourse,light S&M role play OTK spanking,sex toys.I'm a seriuos voyeur.
It's funny how nonvirgin alway say to us virgin just pick a guy & have sex.It's not that easy for some virgin.It's easy to cave in but to some sex with commitment is important.I hope you nonvirgin understand because i support all the women & men who like to fuck with or without commitment.You guys help me to masturbate & help me educate ,myself about sex.So keep on fucking.Liza i'm like you i wish their was a couch to help us out.I just read book & watch porn.I've learn alot.Yes it suck but Proud virgin
herotica

 

[txshygal04]

I'm not alone!!!!!

For the longest time, I thought that I was the only female virigin over 30 on the planet. It is so nice to know that I am not the only one.

 

[ozbloke1980]

And I thought my senareo was bad cuz I didn't lose it 'til I was 22. I gave up hope of losing to someone close to me, cut my losses and saw a pro to get the weight off my shoulders.

I have never regretted it. NOT ONE IOTA

 

[BXGemini20]

Sadly I'm virgin too. I never was really into relationship in younger days. I was more focused on my education. I wish I could lose it already. I had a chance last year, but no rubbers. Argh!

 

[SweetErika]

Sadly I'm virgin too. I never was really into relationship in younger days. I was more focused on my education. I wish I could lose it already. I had a chance last year, but no rubbers. Argh!

You weren't a Boy Scout, huh?

 

[Bandit58]

I don't know if I should be posting on this thread but a lot of what is being said applied to me after I left my husband. You see, he was very conservative and we had never done much else besides straight missionary sex. I was practically a virgin at most things until just over 2 years ago.

I met someone online who I met face to face 2 months later. I had told him that I was relatively inexperienced......I'd never given oral or received it properly, or had anal sex.....but I was curious and willing to try and I trusted him. I was 43 years old. Our first time together was wonderful, I'll never forget it. It was like I'd come alive at last.

The right person who is caring and considerate can open doors to some wonderful experiences. I'm still having first times!

 

[liza146]

And I thought my senareo was bad cuz I didn't lose it 'til I was 22. I gave up hope of losing to someone close to me, cut my losses and saw a pro to get the weight off my shoulders.

I have never regretted it. NOT ONE IOTA

LOL - I'm not sure girls have as much choice or opportunity for a 'professional' as guys do!

 

[Jake5829]

Wow I was having one of those nights when I thought I was alone. My 24th birthday is 2 months away and I have yet to be even kissed.

I'm not necessarily waiting for marraige but I don't want a one night stand either. I would prefer to be with someone who at least cared about me which I hope is not too much to ask for. So far it seems to have been but I am not giving up hope.

There are so many of us, I'm sure the time will come. I'm personally waiting for my 'Princess' . I'm sure I will meet her eventually. I really hope its not passed 26. While thats a couple years a way, I'm eager, but I also want it to be right. You just get lonely sometimes and realize there is something missing in life. I'm sure that this is it.

 

[BXGemini20]

You weren't a Boy Scout, huh?

No. I wasn't. I had a OK social life, but I'm glad being in college and having a few female friends. Who knows what will happen with that?

 

[ozbloke1980]

I thought there ARE male pros out there.