What’s your most controversial opinion?

Ahhh! Vancouver Pizza!
Here in Ca. We call it Hawaiian
Please tell me Canadians don’t call it Californian
Hawaiian pizza is pineapple, ham and cheese.

A Californian I’d expect to have avocado, arugula, maybe some sun-dried tomato on a thin crust. Mmmm.
 
*to clarify* I’m not in favour of ground sausage. Thick, salty, meaty German, Polish, Spanish, African, sometimes American sausage, is delicious! Just not on pizza.
But I love a good bratwurst, kielbasa, chorizo, boerewors or breakfast sausage.
Excellent reply! I understand you better now...
 
My son and his fiancée are 5 minutes into their engagement, both well under 25 and she is especially being inundated by friends, family, coworkers and strangers alike suggesting she hurry up and start a family. She is 21 tomorrow!

Women are routinely pressured, early, often and even relentlessly, to have children. It’s gross. It’s the first thing my others sons (now ex) girlfriend’s Mother told me when they started dating. ‘You know she doesn’t want kids, right?’ And? Sounds like a conversation between our adult kids, without input from either of us! As it is, she wants kids and he does not, hence why they’re no longer dating, but at 23 she was already tired of her parents talking about grandchildren.
January 1984, we were 19
October 1985, our wedding, me 21, she 20

NOT a single family member DEMANDED or even SUGGEST that we have children! Not from her small family, not from my immigrant great-grandmother, not from my country folk aunts, uncles, and cousins!

Society can go FUCK THEMSELVES!! If a couple doesn't want to have children immediately, that's their choice, and YOU have to live with it!!
 
Society can go FUCK THEMSELVES!! If a couple doesn't want to have children immediately, that's their choice, and YOU have to live with it!!
I absolutely agree. I’ll take it one further and say if an individual doesn’t want children, ever, that’s their choice and should be respected, even if it means a relationship is no longer compatible. I have never and will never put pressure on my sons to have children. One has a puppy, and I am quite content to spoil her and my niblings, in lieu of grandkids!

I don’t ask, or make comment on people who don’t have children, only have one, have eight, or on how people raise the children they have, unless they’re putting them in harms way. No car seat, I’ll say something. A pacifier, not my business.
 
I absolutely agree. I’ll take it one further and say if an individual doesn’t want children, ever, that’s their choice and should be respected, even if it means a relationship is no longer compatible. I have never and will never put pressure on my sons to have children. One has a puppy, and I am quite content to spoil her and my niblings, in lieu of grandkids!

I don’t ask, or make comment on people who don’t have children, only have one, have eight, or on how people raise the children they have, unless they’re putting them in harms way. No car seat, I’ll say something. A pacifier, not my business.
My mother had two grandchildren before my wife gave birth.
My in-laws had three before my wife gave birth.
NOT a single one put pressure on us.

And all three counted the pets we and my sister-in-law had as "grandfurries!"
 
What society are you a part of where the societal pressure is on women to not have kids? Have you ever heard parents talking to a 20 something daughter in a serious relationship in our society?

I live and work in California and the general opinion of the group I see every day is that pregnancy is a disease and that men are oppressors of women. Which is why few of my stories are set in this nonsensical place.
 
I don’t think it’s society selling women “bullshit” about waiting to have kids… I think everyone is broke and also wanting to be more established in life before jumping into the kid zone … plus the dating world is a horrible toxic cesspool so women aren’t necessarily meeting the men they want to procreate with as early.

It is bullshit when the net effect is saying that women should put off having kids until their forties and then telling them that it's too dangerous to have kids in their forties.
 
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